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14 April 2010: I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
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How big or not big do ladies like him to be?
Q. Yes this is a freaky question but I'm in the mood so here it goes, ladies, when it comes to the cut of a penis for you, what's your preference. Yea we got all these topics about "I'm too small" or "I'm too big", but not too much on " what she ...
A. 16 August 2009: It really depends on what she likes to do in bed. There are loads of factors involved e.g. if her g-spot is really high she probably prefers a guy with a long cock, but if she's really tight it might heart if he's well endowed girth-wise. It also ... (read in full...)
Is my semen safe enough for my wife to consume?
Q. Am married man. My wife has fetish for oral sex.. she loves all time to sawllow my semen atleast 3-4 times in a week. as she like the taste and smell.. she often applies to her face and she believes its gives wonderful results on skind. what i...
A. 16 August 2009: As long as neither of you have any STDs or are on drugs then it should be harmless =]... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity recently... why does it still hurt when having sex? And why did I bleed the last time?
Q. My boyfriend and i have recently began having sex, i lost my virginity to him. It hurt the first time which i expected and i bled a bit that time as well as the second time however it continues to hurt each time we have sex. I am prepared before we ...
A. 10 August 2009: First question: Yup, loadsa girls geddit, including myself. If you're sure you're physically prepared then there ain't too much more you can do (unless you wanna try lubing up.) You just tight girl (guys prefer it providing it doesn't cut off the ... (read in full...)
Deeply troubled with sexual past, please help!
Q. I am almost 20 and have slept with 7 different people. I find myself thinking about it each day more and more and its depressing me to the point that I cry about it for hours. I am so troubled with it and have so many different issues I just dont ...
A. 10 August 2009: You would be over-reacting if you left him and moved elsewhere. Does it really bother him that much?
My boyfriend's the same age as you and before we were together he slept with 12 other girls. This doesn't actually bother me =]... (read in full...)
A young, healthy female and I have a chin hair! Where is this coming from?
Q. I am twenty-two years old, and a female, and I just got my first? blonde curly chin hair today. I have not been diagnosed as a diabetic, and I exercise everyday. I jog on some days, and walk on others. I know that there are many methods for removal, ...
A. 10 August 2009: You should get checked again because female facial hair can be a symptom of polycystic ovaries. You can get it removed with lazer treatment, but be careful you get it done properly and not a botch job - it won't be cheap but it should work really ... (read in full...)
My b/f wants to see me having sex with another, but I fear it could ruin our relationship?
Q. hello i am just wondering if its normal that my boyfriend wants me to f__k another man i love him even though i am into kinky shit...and i love sex and 3 somes which i have done lots before but only once with my boyfriend who i have been with for ...
A. 10 August 2009: Threesomes like this can totally backfire: I've heard stories where the girl has left her boyfriend for the guy they hired!!! And you should never hesitate to say no. Whether it turns him on or not, if he loves you he should respect your decision ... (read in full...)
I keep having dreams of being pregnant! What does this mean?
Q. Okay so I don't know if anyone can help but for the past two weeks every night I dream I'm pregnant, one dream I'm happy about the next I'm trying to hide it from my mom. And I've had the baby once and all that happened was I walked around and fed ...
A. 8 August 2009: The more you dwell on it, the more likely you are to dream about it again. Dreams are generally comprised of memories and/or worries and concerns. Do you have any other reason to think that you might be pregnant?... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity to a guy who's not a virgin, how can I please him?
Q. Okay,im kinda in a jam.i have been in love with this guy for almost two years, and i was talking to him about us having sex.he seemed to like the idea.hes not a virgin, and i am.i know im ready to do this, and i am positive i want to do this. im not ...
A. 8 August 2009: Nobody's perfect on the first time, so if your not his best, you have an excuse! Just ask him what he likes, that's the most you can do until you have some more experience.... (read in full...)
What are the reasons a guy wouldn't want a girlfriend?
Q. Dear anyone, what goes through a guys head or why would they not want to have a gf? besides dat they might be gay...
A. 8 August 2009: The potential reasons are endless... 1. He could be gay 2. He's very shy 3. He's been hurt and is scared it will happen again 4. He doesn't think he has the time 5. His parents are dissaproving And that's just a few, I'm sure ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Could she possibly want more?
Q. I got some great answers from some guys on this but was hoping for a female point of view :) Hi, please help im getting sad :) I have worked with a girl for a year now. up until 2 and a half months ago i had a girlfriend. i always liked th...
A. 30 July 2009: Hmm, it sounds quite likely to be a test! I wouldn't invite a guy into those situations just on a friendly basis, especially if I knew they were interested in me (although I do know of others who might.) You do need to prove not to be like her ex. ... (read in full...)
Are you thinking what I'm thinking?
Q. OK... Well for the past week now I've suffered (on and off) from feeling nautious and not being hungry, headaches and fatigue. Two people have said something about me being pregnant on my facebook. I've been thinking about babies a lot and took a...
A. 28 July 2009: We first had sex on 16th July...... (read in full...)
I've been married 15 years and am having an affair
Q. I thought maybe it could have been just a one time incident, but now we have had sex three times sneaking away about once ever three weeks. I have been married for 15 years and never thought I would do this. I have always had men find me ...
A. 27 July 2009: Thank you anon I completely agree with you.
Of course this is a difficult situation for you. And believe it or not a lot of people find themselves in the same boat.
What is the financial problem? It was shallow and naive of JSBach to just a... (read in full...)
Sibling sex
Q. Hi, i read a post about a brother and sister having sex, at first i thought it was wrong but a lot of the replys where people that have had sex with there siblings and enjoyed it, and didn't have any long turm negative effects from it. Now i can't ...
A. 27 July 2009: Three things: Incest is illegal in nearly all countries. If you were to get pregnant the baby could suffer from serious defects because the pairs of chromosomes are too similar. Family isn't there for sex. A lot of people don't believe in ... (read in full...)
So why did my period come early?
Q. I have a boyfriend. We have sex right after my menstrual cycle finishes everytime. The last time we had sex was on 07-11. Two weeks later, I felt horny that I decided to finger myself until I came. The next day, I started to bleed for no ...
A. 27 July 2009: If you fingered yourself then a. you could have scratched yourself b. you could have loosened some old period that didn't come out. I've bled after being fingered two or three times before.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom I want to go on birth control?
Q. Okay so im 16 and thinking about having sex for the frsit time. i wanna get on birth control. i just dont know how to tell my mom becuase i dont want her to think its for sex when im going to be safe. condoms and everything. how do i t...
A. 27 July 2009: I think you've done pretty well as you've been with him for almost a year! And if your Mum knows this I'm sure she won't have a problem with it. I was only with my ex for two months when we lost it to each other and even though he's my ex I don't ... (read in full...)
Have I lost my 'physical' virginity?
Q. I am 15 years old, and though sex is not intended between my boyfriend and I we are... sexually active. If that is the right way to describe it. Well recently, ever since he returned from his trip to Orlando he has been more and more attracted to me ...
A. 27 July 2009: Have you heard of TSS (Toxic Shock Syndrome)? Not many people have. But when you read warnings on tampon packets, it always says not to leave the same tampon in for over 8 hours as it can cause this condition which is very rare but can be fatal. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom I want to go on birth control?
Q. Okay so im 16 and thinking about having sex for the frsit time. i wanna get on birth control. i just dont know how to tell my mom becuase i dont want her to think its for sex when im going to be safe. condoms and everything. how do i t...
A. 27 July 2009: You haven't mentioned a boyfriend... are you thinking of having sex with someone in particular? Don't just do it for the sake of doing it, because you may end up regretting it and it won't be as meaningful. Save it for someone special. When yo... (read in full...)
He won't see his daughter when shes menstruates!
Q. Hi there, I have been divorced for some years now and since my daughter started her period, her Dad has refused to see her the weekends she menstruates. I was wondering if any Father's or other Mother's have had the same experience so so...
A. 27 July 2009: A bit weirdish? It's messed up!
Do you have any idea why he would want this? Is he deeply religious? Or maybe he doesn't want her to grow up and it's gone way too far in his mind. Either way it's sick. Does your daughter know about this?... (read in full...)
We use condoms but she's missed her period
Q. My Girlfriend and I are both 15 and have been having sex for the past few months, we have always used a condom. The last time was approximately 2 weeks ago. Her period was due about a week ago and has still not come, i am concerned she may be ...
A. 26 July 2009: Well the condom didn't split to your knowledge so it's highly unlikely unless somehow there was a tiny hole in the condom but even then it would probably split. Stress can delay a period, sometimes they don't come for no reason at all!!! I su... (read in full...)
Sexual terminology help needed!
Q. Sorry for may be a little odd question. But it is really important to me right now. English is not my first language and I have never dated English-speaking man until now. Everything is going just great and we had sex for the first time yesterday. I ...
A. 26 July 2009: Be creative and give his penis a name (if he does't already have one for it!!!)... (read in full...)
Whenever we arrange to do something, b/f cancels!
Q. i have a problem with my guy, whenever we arrange to do something he always cancels. hes used many excuses till i got the truth out of him that he doesn't think i will love him when i do. ive tried to be supportive but im worried that what happens ...
A. 26 July 2009: I was living that exact same story. I'm not with that guy anymore - I wanted security, he wanted freedom, it was never gonna work? Does that sound like you? Security V Freedom? Because if so then you would be better off with someone who wants the ... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex for a long time, but my girlfriend won't sleep with me. Please help!
Q. I've started dating a girl. We both know that our relationship can't last because we're both going back to university at the end of summer. Because we don't have time to get to know each other, she says she won't have sex with me... But it's been a ...
A. 26 July 2009: Woah, a whole eight months! That's like, less than a year! C'mon buddy that ain't long at all.
And she has every right to say no. It sounds to me all you're really looking for is a summer fling. There are plenty of girls out there willing to do th... (read in full...)
What is it that causes pain for a woman when she loses her virginity?
Q. Hiya all, I have a question about first time sex for a woman. What is it that causes pain for a woman when she loses her virginity? Is it when the hymen breaks, or when the vagina stretches? Ive never really been sure? Any help would be great...
A. 25 July 2009: One: Her hymen (the skin over the entrance to her vagina) will break (if it hasn't already.) Two: The entrance to her vagina will be tight. It gets less painful over time as this is stretched. Three: If she is not aroused enough she won't be ... (read in full...)
She was my first time, but I'm wondering if I was hers?
Q. i recently got married and on our first night we didnt go all the way as she said it was hurting her but even on the next day she didnt bleed but she says she was a virgin. can that happen as she doesnt play any sport and i always thought there ...
A. 25 July 2009: Not all girls are born with a hymen, I never had one.... (read in full...)
I'm religious and have told him I'm not taking it any further, but he still wants to try his luck. What can I do?
Q. Ok, here's what's going on. I'm mormon, age 20, a virgin. I have a bf, 21, not a virgin. I tell him my restrictions for our relationship of going to 3 months, I tell him I want to wait until marriage before I have sex, including oral, he's agreed to ...
A. 25 July 2009: First point: Having a good fondle doesn't have to lead to sex if you don't let it. How do you think most young people start out? My first fondle was when I was 15, I didn't lose my virginity for two years after that. You're right that it's one step ... (read in full...)
He bumped my cervix and now I'm having bad cramps!
Q. Ok yesterday me and my boyfriend spontaneously made love to each other. I felt him bump my cervix a few times (not sure if this has anything to do with it). But now ever since like an hour after wards I've been having really bad cramps behind my ...
A. 25 July 2009: Yeah he bumped your cervix. But it's because you went to fast. When a girl is aroused her cervix goes up in order to have sex. You weren't aroused enough so next time you need more foreplay to get you physically prepared. And I agree with Soda,... (read in full...)
He spends more time with his friends than with me! Should I tell him how I feel?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over 3 weeks and it was love at first site for the both of us. well things started off well he lives about 20 or 30 minutes away from me so we try to see each other as much as we can. i love spending ...
A. 25 July 2009: I had this problem with my ex. But it is hard to tell as your relationship is only in the baby stages. Also as your boyfriend lives about half an hour away that can also make things hard to get to see you (my ex lived about 5 minutes away in the ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to ask questions more nicely?
Q. I recently had a problem with my boyfriend. i like talking about our problems to solve them. communication is the key, correct? there's another problem that arises in this, he at times takes forever to answer. i asked him about this as well, he says ...
A. 25 July 2009: It's hard to know what to tell you without knowing how exactly you are asking him.
Don't make accusations, bombard him with questions or yell them at him. Ask him calmly, and give him time to answer before you ask the next one.
If something ... (read in full...)
My mom wants me to spend less time with my boyfriend!
Q. Ok Here's my problem. I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 and a half years. I love him to death and he loves me just the same, our relationship has had some really rough times and he broke up with me for one whole day. and we patchd things up...
A. 25 July 2009: Explain to your Mum why you don't like coming home. She might be a little less resentful when she knows there's another reason other than just putting him first all the time.
Why don't you bring your boyfriend back to your place more often an... (read in full...)
Would there be a chance of my being pregnant from this experience?
Q. I'm wondering if I could be pregnant? We had sex with a condom, he pulled out with the condom on, took the condom off outside of me, and came on my inner thigh. I wiped it off immediately, but i'm not sure if some sperm could have traveled inside.....
A. 24 July 2009: Highly unlikely. Plus you weren't at the most fertile point of your cycle when you had sex (you probably hadn't ovulated yet.)
It's probably late because you're stressing over it. If it gets to a fortnight late then I would get a test to be on th... (read in full...)
I really like this girl on tv, could someone help me draft a letter to her, without offending or scaring her?
Q. ok there is a girl who i like who is on tv and she is the same age as me. she is a presenter on a sport news channel. i have heard that she hasn't got a boyfriend. i want to write a romantic letter to her but i don't know what to write could anyone ...
A. 24 July 2009: No offence buddy, but be realistic. She's a tv presenter, she probably gets several letters like this, she's never met you. It would go in the shredder with all the rest. Go and find somebody closer to home, someone you can actually meet and talk to ... (read in full...)
How do I get her number without insinuating anything?
Q. Hi people, i need some advice desperately... So pls pls reply! Im 22 yrs old, and a very shy guy. I started a job (2 months) and there is this girl at work i really like. Now i got to know her slightly over the time, we talk on breaks or lunche...
A. 24 July 2009: "What's your mobile number?"
That sound suggestive to you?
Nah, I didn't think so either =]... (read in full...)
14 years old and seeking girl advice
Q. What do girls like in a guy? And what do they like to be told? How do you just go talk to them? What are you supposed to dress like? I gotta over one hundred dollar bottle of diesel and they go crazy over it and are attracted to me like a pack of ...
A. 24 July 2009: Question 1: Varies girl to girl.
Question 2: Same again. Relationships are about discovering each other and what you both like.
Question 3: You take a deep breath and jump. And when you feel stupid, just laugh.
Question 4: See Q. 1 ... (read in full...)
Want to have sex with my boyfriend but worried about how my 'stubble' down there looks!
Q. right, me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a month now and we both have decided we want to have sex. But i'm a virgin and i'm really nervous but i've also told my boyfriend this. The problem is, he keeps asking me if i shave, and i do, ...
A. 24 July 2009: a. Get rid of it the day you see him. S'what I do.
b. You're underage. Are you really sure you wanna do this?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants a boob job!
Q. My Question, Problem call it what you will Been dating this girl for around a year now and we are by this time very close (close enough by now that i really should be talking to her about this and not an internet). Anyway, She's decided ...
A. 24 July 2009: Nah I know where you're coming from. I wouldn't wanna date a stripper. But you're right, it's her that you really need to talk to.
I would suggest that she goes on the pill (it does make 'em bigger, personal experience here, trust me!) but I kn... (read in full...)
Freakish foreskin?
Q. Ok, I'm 19, and I've never really been concerned about the fact that I'm uncircumcised, but today I tried on my first condom, it got all bunched up due to foreskin problems, and one thing lead to another and I got online checking all sorts of things ...
A. 24 July 2009: At least it's not too big like one of my exes... =s... (read in full...)
What can I do to show them that I love him and that our relationship is real?
Q. I met my current husband 8 months ago. We started dating and with in 4 months he asked me to move in with him. With in 6 weeks of living together he asked me to marry him and I said Yes. Both of our families were shocked but his family seemed very ...
A. 24 July 2009: You sound pretty rational. Good luck =]... (read in full...)
19 and looking to get my tubes tied
Q. I am currently 19 and looking into getting my tubes tied. I know that this is a risky operation and I can blow my chances of ever having children but I am strongly curious about this option. Does anyone know what the chances are of pregnancy after a ...
A. 23 July 2009: What are you complications with the pill and shot? They are far more risk free. And you won't need to pay. They are 99% reliable and if that isn't enough then why not use condoms as well? You should definitely be fertile when you stop taking them. I ... (read in full...)
What can I do to show them that I love him and that our relationship is real?
Q. I met my current husband 8 months ago. We started dating and with in 4 months he asked me to move in with him. With in 6 weeks of living together he asked me to marry him and I said Yes. Both of our families were shocked but his family seemed very ...
A. 23 July 2009: If you leave him because of his family you will only be reinforcing their opinions of you. And who he sticks up for is his choice and he's chosen you so be happy! The only thing that will prove you to them is time. Be faithful and stick around, and ... (read in full...)
Sexual frustration!
Q. I am having problems with my bf sexually and its really getting us down. At the beginning of our relationship he managed to make me come on a couple of occasions which was really good and he seemed really proud of himself. Then had exams and stuff ...
A. 21 June 2009: Believe it or not, emotion makes a large contribution to sexual pleasure. Do you feel as strongly about him as you used to?
Plus, the more you worry about the situation, the less your gonna enjoy it.... (read in full...)
Can symptoms of pregnancy start before you miss a period?
Q. Last month i had a pregnancy scare, i honestly told myself i was and got used to the idea that i was. Id taken three tests, all of which were negative and a urine sample at the hospital confirmed i wasnt, the day after the hospital my period ...
A. 21 June 2009: Depends how long before your next period that you get pregnant. Although rare, some women show symptoms of pregnancy after a fortnight.... (read in full...)
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