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9 May 2007: In all communication there is translation. Even if the communication is in your mother tongue. We interpret our partners' sentences, trying to get to the emotional core of the message, under all the words. This is of course the source of the endl...
Pep-talk for the would-be dater
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7 May 2007: There must surely be a lot of people in this world who like each other and shyly glance at one another and never become a couple because both are too shy to ask each other out. As a girl, it's very easy to hide behind the idea that the man should ...
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He asks me to spend the night, but I usually say no. Then he gets angry! What should I say or do?
Q. here it goes....my boyfriend and i have been together for five months....he lives at home right now and he always asks me to spend the night...i have a couple times but for the most part i usually say maybe not tonight.....i guess im just scared for ...
A. 10 January 2007: I think you should try to find out why you're scared of spending the night.
You say he lives at home, does that mean with his parents? I can understand you're uncomfortable with spending the night there then.
Does "spending the night" mean having s... (read in full...)
I couldn't get it up when we were going to make love. Is it nerves? What can I do?
Q. HI, im 22, met a really nice girl just before christmas, probaly to nice for me, but she does really like me. anyway, went to hers the other nite and was going to make love but i couldnt get or sustain a full erection, this was my first time so im ...
A. 10 January 2007: Most likely your soldier won't stand at attention because of nerves, and well, I've never had a penis, so these are just my suggestions based on logic:
Don't drink any alcohol (or smoke any weed).
Try to get to "it" slowly, as in "a lot of foreplay... (read in full...)
I'm more lonely in this, my second marriage than I was in my first!
Q. Im fealing really lonely in my marriage. We have been together for 6yrs and married for 3 yet he never wonts to do anything with me or my 2 children all hes intrested in is computors and says this his is job. i dont see it that way as he will work ...
A. 10 January 2007: If all that the two of you do when you're together is argue, then I can in some ways understand his reluctance to spend time together with you and your children. I'm not saying that this situation is your fault, but maybe you can be sensitive to how ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know if he wants to marry me now. Am I wrong in pushing him for an answer?
Q. Hi there, I have written before about nagging so much to my boyfriend that i pushed him away, we are trying to get things back to the way they were before but i still feel really down. I cant help thinking about the future! A few months ago my ...
A. 10 January 2007: I think that at 18 most guys are too young to contemplate marriage, and neither should you. Give it a few years, be sure that you picked the right partner (this is gonna be for life, right?).
People change so much at your age, because you matu... (read in full...)
He's stopped drinking at the furry cup!
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now. The thing is, he has completely stopped giving me oral, which i absolutely love and dont think i want a relationship where theres no chance of it. He did right at the beginning of when we ...
A. 10 January 2007: Do you do give him oral as well? Maybe you should stop and see how he feels about it? Sex is giving and taking. "You scratch my back and I'll scratch yours", as the saying goes... ... (read in full...)
How could I reach O with him on top?
Q. As the song goes.."she only comes when she's on top" am i normal!!!?? Yes, this is my problem and its troubling me a lot ever since. I couldnt come unless im on top or unless im touching myself. I have no clue if im the only person that has ...
A. 10 January 2007: Well, it's very difficult to come that way because when he's on top he will not stimulate you so much as if you're on top and have control of everything.
You're far from the only one who has this problem. There's a large percentage of women in the ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my insecurites over his porn viewing, even to the extent I cant bare him seeing women on the TV!
Q. Im driving myself insane and probably ruining my relationship in the process! HELP! Ive posted on here before about my struggle to deal with finding that my boyf of nearly 4 yrs masturbates occasionally over page 3 girls and that I found a small ...
A. 9 January 2007: Maybe you're feeling this way because you're pregnant? Your body is changing in many ways and some women might feel really unsexy as they get bigger with the child.
The fact that he masturbates to photos doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, as ... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to have sex with my friend. Is this normal?
Q. My husband wants me to have sex with my girlfriend. Is He normal?...
A. 9 January 2007: Some men think it would be cute to watch two women together. However, most men keep that a fantasy, and don't ask their partner to do it.
Besides, how could you ever ask your girlfriend to have a physical relation with you, it would probably harm... (read in full...)
Is it healthy for two people who have broken up to remain in the same house?
Q. Is it healthy if two people broke up to still stay in the same place/house?...
A. 9 January 2007: If the breakup was amiable, and you can stand the idea of seeing your ex date another person, then you could probably keep living together.
But I know that personally I would prefer to move out to have some space to myself and heal after the brea... (read in full...)
Is love supposed to be painful?
Q. Is love suppose to be painfull?...
A. 9 January 2007: No, it's supposed to be enjoyable, but a lot of people encounter situations where love is painful anyway, so you're not alone.
Why do you think love is painful?... (read in full...)
Can a Fetus hear outside noises in the womb ??
Q. Can a fetus hear outside noise in the womb? ...
A. 9 January 2007: I've heard that the baby learns to recognize the mother's voice and heart beats, and in some part also the father's voice.
I also had a friend who's mother used to play a certain song a lot during her pregnancy, and once when she was 13 her moth... (read in full...)
Hubby left me and the kids,,now I'm wondering what to do with his huge porn stash in the garage!
Q. Runaway Husband I have been married for 12yrs. My husband took off last week after a brief argument and left me with two children and no financial assistance. He has refused to talk and said he will rather have a divorce than move house. I a...
A. 9 January 2007: Two ideas come to mind, as 3000 magazines might be a bit difficult to burn.
1) If you have any paper recycling containers in the area, you could dump the magazines there (in batches, because that amount of paper is hard to lift all at once), at nigh... (read in full...)
Since the birth of our child, he never wants to have sex. I feel ugly and low on confidence.
Q. my boyfriend never wants to have sex with me. i had a baby a year ago and since then he never seems to want sex. it's really upsetting me and i'v tried to talk to him about it but he gets upset and angry with me for mentioning the problem. he says ...
A. 9 January 2007: Well, having a child in the family can make you tired.
Children have a way of preventing the parents from getting enough sleep. They also put a bit of strain on the economy, especially if you're not super rich to begin with.
In addition to this; so... (read in full...)
He lives on the other side of the world. I want to emigrate to be with him. Is this a good idea?
Q. Heres a question for you the only guy I have ever really liked - I think he is my soulmate (if there is such a thing) lives on the other side of the world we usually see each other once a year either I go there or he comes here, but realistically ...
A. 9 January 2007: Agony aunt Vina had a very good point in that you should try to find out if your soul mate would be willing to move for you. Otherwise it's no point in you moving. You have to feel the same way about each other.
If your feelings are mutual,I... (read in full...)
Im not sure I trust him. What should I do?
Q. hi, im 22 and my bf is 25, this is my 2nd serious relationship and his first. the problem is that he doesnt trust me at all, i dont really know what to do, its got to the point that i dont go anywhere without him unless he knows where i am...he ...
A. 8 January 2007: There's something not quite right with this guy.
Where did he get the idea that he can tell you who not to be friends with?
And everybody knows a diary is personal (my boyfriend kept one for a while and a knew without even having to ask him that... (read in full...)
I do have savings right now. Is it smarter to rent for now or buy a house?
Q. My boyfriend and I both decided to live together very soon. He used to have a high paying job, but he has decided to go back to school for 4 years. I still live at home right now. My boyfriend said he might not be able to help with money while he's ...
A. 8 January 2007: You would pay for the two of you while your boyfriend goes through high school? You're very brave =)
I would recommend to rent, as it won't make you get stuck in a a huge loan if you should loose your job.
But, I have never taken a loan and... (read in full...)
She thinks the world revolves around her and her bf. She can't figure out why friends are avoiding her, though. Should I tell her the reason?
Q. i have this friend and she is pretty cool. she would tell me about her problems within herself and i helped her out. i got her a bf because i thought that's what she needed. then, a month later she starts to change. she's always bashing people about ...
A. 8 January 2007: Making a comment like "we're tired of how you treat us like crap just because you have a boyfriend", might put her in a defensive position and make her less inclined to listen to you, so even thought you would like to say that, I would recommend you ... (read in full...)
I pushed him away w/ my nagging, but we're trying to make things work. I think his feelings have changed - am I just being silly?
Q. Hi there, I am eighteen years old, I have been in a relationship for almost a year with someone who I believe to be the love of my life. We had been dating for about nine months when we both left home to come to the same University, we spent a lot ...
A. 8 January 2007: From your letter it looks like you're suffering a bit from low self esteem. Was this maybe the reason for the previous nagging?
"Your boyfriend tells you all the time that he loves you, but you're still worried about him not loving you", listen t... (read in full...)
Any ideas on what to get my sister for the opening of her new medical practice?
Q. Hello, I just need some opinions, it's simple really. My sister will be opening her medical practice next month, and I'd like to get her a "welcoming gift" of some sort, for her office, what would be nice, and all ideas would be greatly appre...
A. 8 January 2007: I don't know what kind of person your sister is, but maybe you could buy her a plant for the office, as a symbol of growing business.
Of course you will attach a congratulations card where you tell her how happy you are for her and that you are prou... (read in full...)
I was not a priority in my bf's life, so I made new plans for myself. Now he's smothering me! I'm so confused. Help!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a lad who did not express his emotions. He very rarely complimented me and even when he did it was usually after my prompting 'do you like my new top?' etc. He was always very wrapped up in his own activities a...
A. 8 January 2007: Hi Annie, Sounds like your ex-boyfriend only wants what he can't have. You wanted to be with him, he told you he didn't have time to come to see you and made you sleep on the floor. Now that you've got a job (less time for him), he brings y... (read in full...)
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