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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): I think he's a freak and would cheat on you, marriage is to be faithful to one person not to shag two girls at once, one conveniently been your best mate, bastard
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): Nope. Definately not. And by all means, don't do it, if you don't feel comfortable with it. Worst mistake a woman can make and will do years of damage to your self-esteem, not to mention the wreck it'll make of your trust for this man in the long run.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): my ex husband asked the same thing of me. the idea was good becuase i was curious. We asked my best girl friend to be the other person and she agred as long as her boy friend could watch to. heh! funny, both blokes had the same idea.
we all talked about what the rules would be. no men allowed. no touching. only watching. a one time thing only. We all agreed. my girl friend and I had fun, but decided we were straight and not bi. my girlfriend and i agreed that if my husband hit on her later, or her boy friend hit on me later we wold tell them no and let the each other know what they had done.
both guys hit on us for a private fling with them. both guys said please don't tell.
this was a huge part of why all four of us broke up. the only surviving relationship was my best girl friend and i.
this did not work for us.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (9 January 2007):
 He is obviviously fantasising about lesbian sex, lots of men do but most do not ask there girlfriends/ wife to actually do it.
My advice is don`t do anything you are uncomfortable with, if you fancy your girlfriend and she fancies you then maybe it could happen but if you dont then dont, let him keep his fantasies and just tell him it aint gonna happen so get over it and move on.
Does he want to join in with the sex?
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reader, stina  +, writes (9 January 2007):
 Hi Anon,
I agree with Ponun when he asks "what do you think?" and Dr Pete when he writes "do you want to have sex with your girlfriend." As long as you two have a relationship where you feel comfortable doing this sort of thing, then by all means go ahead and do it. But if you have reservations about it, then you need to have a discussion with your husband and tell him what's on your mind.
So is it normal? Who cares - it doesn't matter if it's "normal" or not. The thing that should be addressed is whether or not it fits your relationship and lifestyle.
Oh, and you should consider how your friend might feel if you decide to go through with this. You might want to think how she's going to react before pursing any of this if that's the route you choose. You don't want her to be weirded out or anything, right? But if you're close enough to ask her about this, then things will probably be okay. Maybe try to bring it up nonchalanty as a scenario not involving her in particular, and see what she has to say. But you know your friend best, so you probably already thought how this conversation would be carried out.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): I wouldn't say it is abnormal but it probably isn't a common thing to ask.
Some people fantasize about their partners having sex with someone else. That might include watching, or taking part.
Usually this kind of situation comes up later on in life when a couple have been married for a longer time.
It's probably a good idea to ask any potential wifes/husbands/girlfriends/boyfriends what they're in to before you get too serious with them.
This kind of question should be grouped in the same category as: "Do you want children", "Do you believe in marriage" and "Do you believe in monogamy (being faithful to one person". I think they are pretty fundamental questions to a successful relationship!
... do you want to have sex with your girlfriend?
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (9 January 2007):
 What do you think?
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (9 January 2007):
 Some men think it would be cute to watch two women together. However, most men keep that a fantasy, and don't ask their partner to do it.
Besides, how could you ever ask your girlfriend to have a physical relation with you, it would probably harm your friendship, no?
It might be good to tell your husband that his request is totally unreasonable.
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reader, ingotblue +, writes (9 January 2007):
 it sounds like he wants to either watch or join in, its every mans fantasy to have two women.
when it arises most run in fear or freeze up, yes hes a red blooded male but you have to do some soul searching before you even consider it, is your relationship strong enough to withold the possible repercussions if you were to indulge in his fantasy?
so i think yes he is normal but it is up to you if you want to go ahead.
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