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writes: Is it healthy if two people broke up to still stay in the same place/house?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2007): hey yes it is possible, i did it. Having split up from partner of 3 years, i stayed for a month to help out finincially . I went well untill he asked a week after if his girlfriend could stay!!. That didnt go down too well with me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): It depends on the situation.
This has happened to me twice and had completely different outcomes.
The first time we stayed together until the rental period expired so it was around 3 months. We were very respectful of each others feelings neither of us intended on dating anyone else and actually we made every day count as special because we were both sad to be leaving each others company and the home we had made.
Time two was one of the worst experiences of my life. I almost lost the friendships of the two other people living in the house, there were seriously bad arguments and I wished I had kicked her out on to the street the day I knew it was over, haha.
So it depends on the nature of your relationship and how much you care about each other.
I would say though if there are any arguments or problems then get out of each others sights by any means possible because it can get messy.... very, very messy!
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (10 January 2007):
 Answer is definitely no!! Regardless whether you have moved on or not, it still is a very bad idea for so many obvious reasons!! Take this from me! I know it first hand.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (9 January 2007):
 I think the answer to your question is no. I know sometimes, people stay in the same house because of commitments or children but I don't think it's healthy. There are reasons for the split and hanging around is only wasting everyone's time. Both people need to move forward and you can't do that if you continue to live in each others' pockets.
I know it can be hard to make that break to split up with someone and even harder to move away and be alone but it has to be done so you can continue your life and maybe find someone new or just be happy on your own. As for children, it does them no good to live in a house full of quiet resentment: they'd be better off having two happy and separated parents.
Good luck.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (9 January 2007):
 If the breakup was amiable, and you can stand the idea of seeing your ex date another person, then you could probably keep living together.
But I know that personally I would prefer to move out to have some space to myself and heal after the breakup.
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