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writes:I met this guy and we slept together but he was quite rough and I bled, I know why I bled, it's because I only lost my virginity a few months ago and I've only had sex twice since. He doesn't know this and assumed I was just coming on my period, how do I tell him the truth? I'm seeing him tomorrow, so I need to do something about this soon.Thanks for your help xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2014): One night stand or not if you're afraid to talk with someone about sex etc., you aren't ready to have sex with them, or with anyone probably. It should be a priority, not an embarrassment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2014): I think you're getting the wrong end of the stick, this guy was a one night stand, then we actually happened to like each other and want more, that's why I'm seeing him tonight, I feel afraid to tell him because I don't know him very well and it's embarrassing. Thanks for your feedback xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2014): Just find a better partner, sexually and otherwise. If you can't discuss your sexual history and their sexual history, you're not ready to have that part of a relationship.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (1 May 2014):
However you tell him you should make sure your partner is aware that they have to take it easy until you're properly lubricated.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 April 2014):
 "Harry, I need to tell you something about the last time we had sex. I wasn't coming on my period. I bled because the sex was too rough for me. I had sex less than 5 times in my life. I know I should have told you but for some reason, I didn't know how to tell you. It's taking a lot for me to be this brave, but I do want you to know."
If you can't communicate about your concerns and needs during sex, you are really not ready for it.
Just tell him.
If you are too spooked to tell him face to face, is this guy really violent? Are you scared of him?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 April 2014):
I think you should just tell him that you need him to be a little more gentle. You need to tell him the truth. Don't be afraid to say that it, because it won't do you any good to be having sex in a way you don't want to have it, and it won't do him any good in the long term either.
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (30 April 2014):
 Find yourself a more considerate partner. He should only be rough if you allow it. If he makes you bleed then he is inconsiderate. He doesn't need to know that you are inexperienced, just make it clear that its unacceptable.
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