Mom found a condom wrapper in my bedroom. She now says my bf and I are not allowed to be alone together, here! Is she being unreasonable? or is she right?
Q. Right this is a long one so i need to find a place to start. Well im 15. Have been with my 17 year old boyfriend for 5 months. i was moving my room around with my mum nd she found a condom wrapper. She at first was pretty ok about it, but then she ...
A. 31 May 2007: I can see where she is coming from, but i think she should be pleased at least if you are having a sexual relationship with your boyfriend she can see that you are being careful and taking precautions.
Of course she is going to be shocked - you ... (read in full...)
I'm 16. Will a 19yr old date me?
Q. Ok, theres this boy that i've known since i was little, because we grew up together in the same church. Sounds like a fairy tale huh? The only problem is that hes 19 and im 16. Do you think hell wanna date me anyway because i'm very mature for my ...
A. 30 May 2007: There isnt that much of an age difference between you, he sounds like he is a nice guy so why not get him on his own and tell him you like him see what his response is.
... (read in full...)
I got dumped because she found out a mate had a crush on me!
Q. i was going out with this gal, and a mate had a crush on me and told me, somehow my galfrend found out, and ditched me, which hurt alot. the mate that had the crush on me is going out with another guy, but asked if i would ever consider getting ...
A. 30 May 2007: i think its because you told you friend that you would consider dating her that has hurt your girlfriend.
She wanted to feel like there was no other girl only her.
if you love your girlfriend and want her back then explain that you were trying ... (read in full...)
I got treated bad by him and now I cry almost everyday!
Q. I need help Im a teenager and almost eveyday i cry and get upset about someone who i really like who ive done things with in the past he says he likes me on the day but he just f*cks me off the next day and hes admitted he has used me. Were really ...
A. 30 May 2007: Put some distance between you both. You can be friends with him but you need to get everything right in your mind first. Accept that you cant be more than friends because of the way he is and the way he has treated you and keep your distance make ... (read in full...)
I'm incredibly paranoid towards my girlfriend!
Q. Dear People, I'm 22 and my girlfriend is 23. We've been together for about 6 months now and we both love each other. Over the past 6 weeks she has been at trainng for her work which means she spends 5 days staying at her training camp an...
A. 30 May 2007: Having been with your girlfriend for quite a time i think you should have trust which you must have had before she was away a lot.
Its only natrual that you miss her, try not to be too paranoid. Just tell her that you miss her a lot and you want... (read in full...)
I said one wrong thing and now he refuses to talk to me!!
Q. I HAVE BEEN REALLY STUPID!!! i have been talkin to this guy that i realli like for about 3 to 4 months now! he is really nice! well we wa chattin on msn just now and we wa laffin n jokin he wa showin me things on cam n i wa doin the same n i ope...
A. 30 May 2007: Whatever it was you said you have apologised for, just give him a bit of time and he might get over it and talk to you again.
Im sure if he is worth it he will forget about whatever you said, can it be that bad?
just wait and see what happens ... (read in full...)
She lied about her age but her reason was valid...I think? What do I do now?
Q. Hi, I'v been dating a girl for almost 5 months, but recently she has told me her true age :( I initially met her in a night club (pub) hence didnt query her age when she told me she was 18. Plus she looked 18, and the staff of the club must ha...
A. 30 May 2007: I think you either need to wait until she turns 16 before you start to date one another. That way no one can say you are a pervert and you dont run the risk of things between you going to far.
Im sure she is a really nice girl, but i think a ... (read in full...)
Off to college next year! I want to be single..how do I break off with my bf?
Q. Hey im 17 and I have a boyfriend that is really great, he's sweet, smart and very good looking. Im going to college next year but i don't want a boyfriend in college just because i don't want to be so committed and obligate to one person just yet. ...
A. 30 May 2007: Only break up with him if you are sure that this is what you want. Rather than end it completely why not try a trial seperation, have some space from each other and then decide if you want to go to college with a bf.
Your still young and you ... (read in full...)
Was I looking like a pimp by overdressing? Some friends thought so...any views?
Q. Now this question sounds weird but it's a issue for me. Do I come across as pervy or a flirty type? Ok well basically, I'm in my teens, never had a girl fiend always act poite and friendly as well as always treat ladies with utmost respect (...
A. 30 May 2007: Dont change the way you dress just because someone else doesnt like it.
I actually think the guys who were saying 'pimp' etc were jealous - you walked in confident and girls were complimenting you on looking so smart.
Its nice that you have res... (read in full...)
My 'sex buddy' guy got me pregnant-then he accused of giving him chlamydia! Any advice for me?
Q. I have a major dilemma... please any advice would be appreciated. I started seeing a guy a few months ago, I knew he's just split up with his girlfriend and it was just sex between us... but i kinda got emotionally attached. In the end his ...
A. 30 May 2007: Firstly get yourself checked out fot std.
His girlfriend probably gave it to him if she had been sleeping around and she isnt likely to accept the blame, you just need to make sure he hasnt passed it on to you.
You dont have to prove to him... (read in full...)
My parents don't like my girlfriend and are starting to turn my head round to their way of thinking.
Q. Hi everyone, I'm 24 and my girlfriend is 37. I'm into her (I'm not sure I love her though) but my parents and family isn't big time. They're also not thrilled about her having a 15 year old son. They keep telling me I'm being suckered in cause sh...
A. 29 May 2007: Stop listening to other people and think about what you want.
You must know in your mind whether you want to be with her, imagine your life without her in it? can you do that?
If you can then leave - but make sure you are making the right de... (read in full...)
He's pressuring me for sex! Break up now with him or later after exams are done?
Q. I have a boyfriend, and weve been going out for nearly 3 months. Weve done sexual things, but not sex. We have nearly had sex, but got walked in Now when he tries, i back out, and ive decied that i dont want to, and i dont regret my decision. I a...
A. 29 May 2007: Dont be pushed into doing anything you dont want to do. You've made up your mind you want to end it with him, i dont think you should drag it out.
Your gcse's are important, and you dont want to be sat in an exam worrying about ending things with... (read in full...)
I'll do anything for it to be how we once were...
Q. ok so im 8month pregnant, 15, and by boyfriend -hes the dad- keeps forcing me into sex, he sexually abuses me and accuses me of cheating on him and goes everywere with me and if he cant he gets one of his m8s to go with me instead , he beats me up ...
A. 29 May 2007: I understand that you love your boyfriend but he is abusing you and your baby.
Please for the sake of your unborn baby find the strength to leave him. Can you move in with family and get them to help suppport you?
Dont let him control you,... (read in full...)
I threw my vibrator in the bin and now I can't pleasure myself properly, any suggestions?
Q. hia just a quickish question, im in a great 1 year relationship and we are a very sexual couple. but when i am not with him, i still become kinky and i cant pleasure myself no matter what. i did have a vibe but i threw that in the bin when i moved ...
A. 29 May 2007: Why not go to ann summers and invest in a new toy, you will have more fun with that than trying to and tiring yourself out.
Or you could have some fun in the shower....... (read in full...)
I heard he's going to ask me to marry him and I don't know what to say to him.
Q. Hey, I am going out with a guy and I have been for almost a year now. His friends have told me that he's going to ask me to marry him. At first when they told me I was really excited about it because we were both really into each other, but now when ...
A. 29 May 2007: Maybe you need time to think about what you want out of this relationship, are you ready for marriage?
Have you thought he was changing towards you after you learnt he was planning to propose to you?
If you arent happy with the way things a... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old male and have never had sex...
Q. Hi, I would appreciate some advice, I am a 27 year old male, at University (a late starter), in the UK. My problem is that, at the age of 27 years, I have never had any sexual experience with the opposite sex, girlfriends/rela...
A. 29 May 2007: Your definately not too old for nightclubs and the girls you are at uni with. 27 is really young!
Dont stress out about being a virgin, i know i think its nicer that blokes arent out there putting it about.
Believe me when you meet the right gi... (read in full...)
This is really embarrassing, I keep itching down below its driving me mad
Q. Hi, This is really embarrassing, I keep itching down below its driving me mad...I have used all the thrush creams on the market but it still persits.....To my horror I went to the GUM clinic and was tested for loads of STD's even though I am marri...
A. 29 May 2007: I know i get this problem after shaving - sensitive area and everything.
Id suggest going to see your doctor and telling him/her about the problem.
Could it be your underwear - you could be extra sensitive in this area and this could be irritati... (read in full...)
He's sending signals one minute then backing off the next, what should I do?
Q. dear agony aunts and uncles i need your help, ive have just met this guy and i cannot get him out of my head he is sending signals one minute and then backing away the next i don't know what i should do please give me some help A.S.A.P PLZZZZZZ...
A. 29 May 2007: Perhaps he is confused and not sure how he feels.
Maybe he doesnt know that you like him, can you talk to him and find out where you stand?... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and I think I'm gay!
Q. im 14 know. And i think im gay. I like girls still. But i cant help but look at other boys when were in the gym showers. Its strange, because i want to be with girls, yet i want to 'do thing' with boys! help?...
A. 29 May 2007: Your not the only one to think and feel like this. To me it sounds like you are bi sexual.
There is nothing wrong with this, give it time and you will know in your own mind who you are most attracted to.
Your still young, you have plenty o... (read in full...)
I told my mom my boyfriend is 12 years older than me, now she's going to tell my stepdad!
Q. im 19 years old and have a bf whos older then me he is 31, ive told my mom as i thought i could tell her, but she keeps saying she is going to tell my step dad but i know he will leave if she does what should i do as i really like this guy and i ...
A. 29 May 2007: You are 19 and old enough to make your own decisions. If you and this guy are serious about each other then there is nothing they can do to stop you.
Why would your step dad leave when he finds out...??
Here if u need to talk to me :)
xxx... (read in full...)
He sexually abused me and I can't get it out of my head.
Q. im 14, a year ago my boy friend sexualy abused me, he didnt have sex with me, he stalked me. sent me texts, asking me to do things, asking me to send pictures, he even sent me porn...of him. It was a monday and i had chemistry, he cornered me i...
A. 29 May 2007: Im always here if you want to talk to me, send me a private msg if you need me. ... (read in full...)
I fancy my cousin, I have done since I was 12. Is this normal?
Q. I am really confused. Ever since I was 12 I started to fancy my cousin. Is this normal because it is starting to worry me. I can't help the way I feel about her. Please help!...
A. 29 May 2007: Yes i think this is normal.
Its probably just a crush though, i dont think you should risk revealing this as it could cause problems within the family. ... (read in full...)
Is it true that no parents will like their daughter’s boyfriend? Any views?
Q. Is it true that no parents will like their daughter’s boyfriend? My boyfriend’s parents absolutely love me and want us to get married. On the other hand, my parents always try to find things to criticize about and tell me I should wait and see ...
A. 29 May 2007: This i think is because its their daughter, im sure if it was a boy then they would be pleased.
I dont think any bloke will ever be good enough for a parents 'little girl'.
Dont live your life trying to please them. ... (read in full...)
She invites me over to her house and all she does is snog her boyfriend, it's soooooo embarrassing!
Q. I'm at the end of my tether. My best friend and her boyfriend invite me over to her house. Then all they do is kiss, pull and do things infront of me that make me feel REALLY uncomfortable. They don't have any other friends becoz when they ...
A. 29 May 2007: A lot of friendships fail because of this, men hey! lol.
Find some more friends who have time for you.
When they invite you round just tell them that theres no point when all they do is ignore you and make you feel uncomfortable.
She might... (read in full...)
I am almost 15 and I think I love my best friends older brother.
Q. I am almost 15 and I think I love my best friends older brother. I have known him since elementry school and even back then I really liked him, He is a freshman like me so at first when I became friends with his little sister it was kinda awkward ...
A. 29 May 2007: He might think of you as another sister.
Ask him, get him on his own and tell him you think you like him see what his response to that is.
He might like you too - im sure he would let you down gently if he doesnt feel the same.
Its worth a try ... (read in full...)
How would someone get into there 30's and still be single and never married?
Q. How would someone get into there 30's and still be single and never married? why would they have a lot of (short term) failed relationships? is it just bad luck or is there something wrong with them?...
A. 29 May 2007: There is nothing wrong with not being married by the time you reach your thirties, there are loads of people out there who arent married.
It could be that you've never met the right person. ... (read in full...)
Help..I'm pregnant. What can I do?
Q. ok so i've asked alot of ? about me and my bf about french kissing, sex, etc. but i didn't listen to anybody cuz I'M PREGNANT!!! i ain't told my mom cuz she'll litterally kill me well when i went to wal-mart i found and took a pregnant test thing, ...
A. 29 May 2007: Its normal for you to be scared about having a baby, tell me a woman who wouldnt be.
Talk to your doctor of you bfs mum about this.
Your scared you dont know what to expect.
Lots of women go on to have many babies so just think it cant be that... (read in full...)
Her guilt is eating me alive but I DON'T want to get back with her.
Q. Hello! I asked a question a while back: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-22-lesbian-and-in-a-relationship-with.html Anyway. Here's a followup, and a new problem. I managed to leave my girlfriend, but now she won't stop calling me and sending m...
A. 29 May 2007: Dont get back with her, she has messed you around too much and made you think negative about relationships.
You deserve someone who will treat you better.
Try ignoring her calls, or change you number and cut off contact with her, she shouldnt... (read in full...)
I'm been with my boyfriend for almost 3 months now and want to initiate foreplay. Any tips?
Q. dear cupid !! i have been with my boyfriend for 3 months nearly now and the sexual tension between us gets reeally high . However, we have not done any foreplay or anything and i do not know how to start it and wandered if you have any ideas xx...
A. 29 May 2007: Do you feel ready to have a sexual relationship with your boyfriend? Foreplay is the start of it so make sure you are.
Think its best to talk about it, you should feel comfortable enough with each other to talk if you are both ready to have sex... (read in full...)
Special evening planned for my bf..just need some lingerie..any good online lingerie shops out there?
Q. My boyfriend comes back in three weeks from a five month trip. I really want his first night back to be special and memorable. Can anyone recommend any online lingerie shops? There are a million on the net and I don't want to end up with some...
A. 29 May 2007: annsummers.com have some nice underwear as do Victoria's Secret.
Candlelit dinner sounds very nice, how about a nice treat for desert!
Ann summers do chocolate body paints, try that with some whipped cream!... (read in full...)
She doesn't really like me so why can't I just get over her?
Q. Well for a starter im 13 and i like this girl and i keep putting myself down i have never really asked her out but my friends did behind my back but she says like eww or she will tell me later i know she will never date me but i cant get over her i ...
A. 29 May 2007: Just be friends with her, she might come to realise that she likes you too.
You havent actually asked her outright yourself, maybe you should at least you would know then if you stood a chance with her. ... (read in full...)
Dilemma about telling a good buddy.. he's dating his old gf!
Q. I was with a guy on and off for three years, it was always ending because he was very jealous and controlling. It ended for good three months ago, partly because he was no longer interested in having a relationship with me because of our up and down ...
A. 29 May 2007: Neither of you are doing anything wrong here.
Things didnt work out for you, but it could work out with his friend.
If he is a good and worthwhile friend then he will be happy that his mate is happy with you.... (read in full...)
Hate his promiscuous past! How do I move on from this?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. I find myself having a hard time accepting his permiscuous past. I find it hard to forget somethings he has told me about his past with other guys. Is this normal? Is this a sign that it wont work? How do ...
A. 29 May 2007: as long as he loves YOU then what he has done in his past is in the past.
dont let it ruin what you have ... (read in full...)
Is it right to spend time with the opposite sex when you're with someone else?
Q. Is it right to spend time with the opposite sex when are you in a relationship with someone else?...
A. 29 May 2007: I dont see the problem with men and women being friends.
I can see why a partner may be a bit concerned as they automatically think that you want something more than friendship simply because its another bloke/girl.
As long as your clear about ... (read in full...)
Should I call him or just leave it?
Q. I was talking to this guy for a while like for 6 months.I started to have feelings towards him.Then he started talking to my friends which got me mad.He also started to give me mixed signals which even got me more mad.He would call me at 2:30 am ...
A. 29 May 2007: I think you did the right thing, he was clearly messing you around. It sounds like even he doesnt know what he wants.
... (read in full...)
Should I tell her we shouldn't be friends any more?
Q. ok heres the thing , i felt like ive always been bi but didnt realize there was a definition to my sexuality until the age of 13 i think, im 17 never had a boy/girlfriend, mi best friend is a girl and i dont know how to explain it but... i get these ...
A. 29 May 2007: I dont think you should stop being friends with her, it may just be you have confused your friendship with feelings of love towards her.
She knows that you are bi so why not try telling her not to openly flirt so much with you as it is making you ... (read in full...)
How do I know my boyfriend doesn't want to break up for good?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and a half. We have lived together for about 7 months and now my boyfriend has asked for a break. He says he just needs a week to clear his head. We've had issues in the past - I, personally, ...
A. 29 May 2007: He needs a bit of space, let him have some space. Tell him you understand and that you hope he still loves you as much as u love him.
He may see that you respect his space, have time to think and come running straight back to.
Let him get his ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on what to do for my boyfriend's birthday? I would like to do something very unique.
Q. I need some ideas to make my boyfriends birthday special. He's gonna be 17. I want to do something unique, not just a take him out to eat at a nice restaurant kind of thing. Any ideas? I would like ideas for just me and him, or things I could do ...
A. 29 May 2007: Get tickets for a concert - do u know his favorite band?
Or something you could do with friends - paintballing can be great fun!
... (read in full...)
I discovered that my mother masturbates, what should I do?
Q. i discovered that my mother masturbates herself , what should i do?...
A. 29 May 2007: I can see why you feel uncomfortable about this, no guy/girl wants to see there parent pleasuring themselves.
You dont need to do anything though. What you mother was doing is completely normal and although we dont want to think or see it she is j... (read in full...)
My husband says he is burnt out in our marriage...
Q. I need some help with my marriage..To give you an idea of my relationship: Hubby is 37 I am 32..we have 2 girls 4, 9. We have been together for 11 years...married for 6. My husband recently told me he is burnt out on our marriage..the rest of ...
A. 29 May 2007: Ask him if he is willing to try to save you marriage, marriage counselling could help you both.
If he isnt then he cant really expect you both to continue living like this, not only will it affect you it will have an affect on your children.
... (read in full...)
My wife says she loves me like a brother and it's tearing me apart.
Q. What is wrong with my wife? I love my wife very much. I love her as a person and adore her physically. I am very warm and affectionate to her. However, I do not feel that physical bond towards me. She says she loves me but so does more so like a b...
A. 29 May 2007: I think that having been together for 8 years (a long time) she has just got used to you being there for her and is now taking you for granted (although maybe unintentional).
You clearly still love your wife so try to help her re discover... (read in full...)
He sexually abused me and I can't get it out of my head.
Q. im 14, a year ago my boy friend sexualy abused me, he didnt have sex with me, he stalked me. sent me texts, asking me to do things, asking me to send pictures, he even sent me porn...of him. It was a monday and i had chemistry, he cornered me i...
A. 29 May 2007: Well done for having the courage to talk about this.
I think that you need to tell you parents about this (if they dont already know), dont let the matter drop find the strength to deal with this.
He has wrecked you confidence but i am sure you ... (read in full...)
Help..I'm pregnant. What can I do?
Q. ok so i've asked alot of ? about me and my bf about french kissing, sex, etc. but i didn't listen to anybody cuz I'M PREGNANT!!! i ain't told my mom cuz she'll litterally kill me well when i went to wal-mart i found and took a pregnant test thing, ...
A. 28 May 2007: from what you have been writing it sounds to me that you are sure you want to have this baby. DOnt let anyone pressure you into giving the baby up for adoption or having an abortion. You know in your mind what you want, and your decision will be ... (read in full...)
Help..I'm pregnant. What can I do?
Q. ok so i've asked alot of ? about me and my bf about french kissing, sex, etc. but i didn't listen to anybody cuz I'M PREGNANT!!! i ain't told my mom cuz she'll litterally kill me well when i went to wal-mart i found and took a pregnant test thing, ...
A. 27 May 2007: your mum and dad may well come round - they must be in shock, i doubt they were ready to hear there little girl was having a baby!
At least you have you boyfriend and his mums support.
Im sure you will get through this and make great parents.... (read in full...)
Help..I'm pregnant. What can I do?
Q. ok so i've asked alot of ? about me and my bf about french kissing, sex, etc. but i didn't listen to anybody cuz I'M PREGNANT!!! i ain't told my mom cuz she'll litterally kill me well when i went to wal-mart i found and took a pregnant test thing, ...
A. 27 May 2007: Okay - you really need to tell you parents. They are going to be upset/mad of course they will you are there little girl and this is going to be a great shock to them. But you can't go through this alone.
Go and see a doctor as well they can help... (read in full...)
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