How do I find out if this guy is cheating on me?
Q. How do I find out if this guy is cheating on me? Lately this guy im seein does not want to spend time with me and does not return my txts most of the time, so one night I had a feeling he was with someone else and I had to go past his place to the ...
A. 12 December 2011: perhaps she is giving you dirty looks because she is jealous? Noone likes to think of their ex moving on and finding someone else. Often we project all those negative feelings we should have for the ex, onto their new partner.
How many times ha... (read in full...)
Should I keep striving, though I'm not sure what my final goal is?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I was hoping someone wiser than me can offer some advice. I'm a full time college student, majoring in Biology, and I've hit a wall - my true passion a year ago was English but I decided (with pressure f...
A. 7 December 2011: Can I suggest that you change now. Make an appointment to speak to the careers advisor (and if possible the counsellor) in your college. They will have the expertise to help you in the right direction.
IF you can, finish this year of college ... (read in full...)
I'm on depo, should I be getting a period?
Q. So, i have a weird problem... I'm on the depo needle (ment to stop you getting pregnant) I got it last october 19th, its ment to last 3months, but the other day i got a period sort of thing, and as far as i know you shouldnt get it on the n...
A. 7 December 2011: Absoloutly normal.
Not everyone stops their periods on the depo.
For some they have one continuous period whilst on depo (i did for 9 months! - its why I came off it).
For others they have mini breakthrough bleeding every now and again.
Fo... (read in full...)
Would you be willing to be friends with a transgender?
Q. I suppose this is more a question than seeking advise but as a person that is transgender I am curious to know how people really view someone like me. I'm female born in a male body. I've never known anyone els like me and friends from my youth put ...
A. 7 December 2011: I HAVE met people like you. At an old place of work (finance - eek!), I organised a small finance package for a woman about to complete her journey with some facial surgery... we are still friends now. She shared some of her most personal ... (read in full...)
It's a good marriage, but part of me feels she'd have preferred to spend her life with someone else.
Q. I dated my wife when young and she dumped me. Then she went right to another guy that she married. They were together for about 5 years. Then they divorced with no kids. He wanted the divorce not her. She said a long time ago she didn't want a ...
A. 6 December 2011: have you spoken to her about this?
You have been bottling this up for a very long time, it will probably come as a shock to her.
The way I see things, SHE chose to be with you. SHE chose you to be the father of her children, SHE chose you to... (read in full...)
Is this how cheats normally behave?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend almost 5 years. She is 10 years younger than me. We go out,and without fail she chooses out a girl in the crowd and when we get home she has accused me of looking at her chosen girl all night or says we couldnt take ...
A. 6 December 2011: no idea - although perhaps her accusations help her to relieve her own guilt.
Are you still together? She obviously isnt likely to stop her behaviour or cheating as its been going on for so many years.
HUGS X... (read in full...)
He's a great guy and he's dating trash
Q. Okay so there's this guy. I've had a crush on him for a while but then it turned into more of a brother/sister relationship. We still flirt and all but this isn't what this question is about. He just got into a relationship with absolute TRASH. She ...
A. 6 December 2011: you should do NOTHING!
Its really none of your business. If you go poking around and trying to cause problems, the only relationship you will hurt is yours. Nothing drives a friend away faster than them sticking their nose where it doesnt belong. ... (read in full...)
I don't have much experience but I think I get more turned on by affection and romance. Should I tell my Bf how I feel?
Q. I'm with my first boyfriend and not very experienced. To me his penis looks really small when he is lying down and not erect, but his erection is a good size. He thinks me looking at him naked (without erection) should turn me on but I just find ...
A. 6 December 2011: to be honest I dont know many women who get turned on by the sight of a flaccid penis.
I mean... theyre just not that attractive.
Men thrive on visual stimulation, and women are more mentally stimulated. Thats not to say you dont appreciate ... (read in full...)
My LDR owes me money. He's coming to stay with me. How should we work out who'll pay for what while he's with me?
Q. My boyfriend works in another city and is coming to stay with me for 4 weeks on his holiday. He's coming to my place because he lives with his mom and I can't go there, and also I am not going to have time off until next year. He borrowed mon...
A. 6 December 2011: you really should have had this discussion before lending him the money. Does he know it was a loan? or could he be thinking it was his christmas gift? IF you made it clear that it was a loan, then I would talk to him sooner rather than later ... (read in full...)
Can someone please explain to me how the morning after pill works?
Q. Can someone please explain to me how the morning after pill works? I keep getting different answers from different sources. It's my understanding that it's supposed to delay or even prevent ovulation (if your body has not yet already ovulated...
A. 6 December 2011: As a general rule the morning after pill has a two pronged effect. It alters the lining of the womb (by blocking certain hormones temporarily) to make it impossible for an egg to implant It prevents ovulation (if you havent already ovulated)... (read in full...)
Is he being selfish? My boyfriend wants no sex before marriage, and I'm not okay with that
Q. So, 10 months ago I met a guy at a coffee shop. We hit it off quite well. I had to move away for a job, do we were forced into a long distant relationship. After couple months of virtual conversations, we both fell hard for each other. Despite the ...
A. 6 December 2011: Are his boundaries so definate that he wants no form of intimacy? No kissing, no cuddling, no massage, no holding hands - I'm not talking sexual here, just sensual. To be honest I would have a hard time being in a relationship with someone I wa... (read in full...)
Can I rebuild after so many set-backs? I desperately need experienced advice on my heart ache
Q. Hi everyone. I have been a dear cupid reader for 3 years now. This is the time of my life I really really need support and advice. I feel I am really ugly and unattractuve. Please I urge you to read cause it is going to get really long but I will k...
A. 6 December 2011: Hiya You sound like a really nice guy... but very full on. You obviously have so much love to give, have been treated badly and have made some HUGE mistakes. I think your first relationship meant alot more to you than it ever did to her - I ... (read in full...)
I feel I can't say no to him. What should I do?" What advice is the best to help me in this situation?
Q. I am a 16 year old girl and my boyfriend is 18 year old . Both of us love each other very much but we are of diffrent caste and our family is highly orthodox but he had promised me to marry and now he is asking me to have a physical relationship. I ...
A. 6 December 2011: Before you do anything.... think of the consequenses What will your family do if you sleep with him - but dont marry? What will your family do if you marry him? What will his family do if you sleep with him - but dont marry? What will hi... (read in full...)
Is he being selfish? My boyfriend wants no sex before marriage, and I'm not okay with that
Q. So, 10 months ago I met a guy at a coffee shop. We hit it off quite well. I had to move away for a job, do we were forced into a long distant relationship. After couple months of virtual conversations, we both fell hard for each other. Despite the ...
A. 6 December 2011: I think you have to respect his boundaries.
If his morals and beliefs are such that sex should be saved for marriage (regardless of his past) then you must respect that.
What I would qualify is whether that means you cant be intimate at all.... (read in full...)
Is it too much to ask of a guy to put up with my distrustfulness and help me work through to a normal relationship one day at a time?
Q. Is low self esteem a big turn off? I don't mean like to the point where you feel like hiding in the basement is all you're worth. I mean, not accepting compliments easily because you think their false. This goes in with my question. I DO NOT have ...
A. 6 December 2011: Hiya
you can "fix" yourself! I suffered from low self esteem badly (along with major depression) after my divorce.
When someone pays you a compliment, instead of analysing it.... just smile and say thankyou. Meet their EYE when you say thanks. ... (read in full...)
Chronic ED for a guy in good health??
Q. Is it possible for a man to have a chronic erectile dysfunction, for 5 years,for psychological causes, what he does not know what are they? Its my husband, he is in perfect health, but we are unable to have sex,as he has no sexual desire, and when ...
A. 6 December 2011: Hiya Totally agree with C.Grant.
I know you have mentioned "perfect health"... but has this actually been qualified?
Is he on any form of medication (or health supplement?) - many of these can cause lack of libido and ED.
Has he been che... (read in full...)
How much do your breasts grow when you are pregnant?
Q. I am trying to concive a child and I am just wondering what is the average size your breasts grow? AsI already have rather large breasts (36G) and I am just worried that they might get to big. ...
A. 6 December 2011: lol dont panic!
Mine grew massively when pregnant but actually SHRUNK after stopping breast feeding to be a smaller size than I was before.
1st - d cup before, G cup when breastfeeding, C cup after
2nd - C cup before, GG cup when brea... (read in full...)
Wait 6 yrs or call it quits now?
Q. What would you do if you were me? 48 yr old in a 1 yr relationship. He wants to date for 6 yrs then marry, due to him recently buying and renovating his house. I'd like to get married now. I can't see the back and forth for that long. I take ...
A. 5 December 2011: why 6 years?
Why not 5 or 7?
Its just odd to be putting such a definate timescale.
Is it that he wants to save enough ££'s to get married "properly". Is it that it will take 6yrs to complete the house so it is ready for you and your childre... (read in full...)
Should marriage be in my dreams only?
Q. I am a working happy young at heart 59 years old woman-kinda short and 'cute'm I am currently living with my 46yr oldboyfriend. We have been in a monagamous relationship for about 3-4yrs. His family loves me-as does my family love him. Do you think ...
A. 5 December 2011: why should marriage stay in your dreams?
Is he against marriage?
have you discussed marriage?
not alot to go on from your post... (read in full...)
I'm falling for this guy! Is he just being dirty or does he like me?
Q. I have been in college since September. When I started I use to notice a guy in my class always looking at me and we never really spoke to each other until about 3 weeks into the course. He's very flirtatious to me. He is with some of the other gi...
A. 5 December 2011: go on the night out
Enjoy the attention
and if a relationship happens - FANTASTIC! If not, wow what an ego massage he has been! Perfect boost for your confidence.
I would say that he sounds like a bit of a flirt anyway, so if you two ... (read in full...)
Ladies: What sexual positions do you like that don't impact your self image?
Q. hello all. really need some advise on sex positions for women with body confidance issues. Over the time of our relation ship my fiance has put on abit of wait. Witch i dont mind. In fact she was abit to thin for my taste when we started dating. ...
A. 5 December 2011: Hiya I think before you talk about positions you need to reassure her (constantly at first) how much you find her attractive and how you love her body. Then when your making love - and especially when your pleasing her try whispering how ... (read in full...)
How many weeks/months should you wait before having sex?
Q. I have been browsing the site for an answer to: when is it best to have sex for the first time in a new relationship? Most replies were about the date number ...(1st to 5th etc.) but what I would really like to know is a time frame: how many ...
A. 5 December 2011: Thats not something you will get a straight answer for... The real answer is WHEN YOUR READY! Some people dont have much spare time and so maybe only get to see their boyf once a week or fortnight. Others have tons of spare time and see their... (read in full...)
Help me to chose a tattoo for my best friend that has just died.
Q. Okay...well my best friend just died and I've been handling it quite strangely...but anyways I've decided that I wanted to get a tattoo for him...nothing like rip or stuff like that...I searched and searched for quotes and I couldnt find one that I ...
A. 5 December 2011: So sorry for you loss.
I like...
Start living, thats the next thing on my list
Aside from that, are you getting any support with grieving?
I can tell you that your not likely to be handling it "strangely". People respond to grief in such ... (read in full...)
Should I sell her engagement ring?
Q. Me ard my partner were Engaged to get married next year last week she told me she does not love me and has not loved me for a long time. She doesn't want to make things work as she has feelings for someone else. Question is do I sell her engagment ...
A. 5 December 2011: I would hang onto it for a couple of months... then sell it and blow the lot on a holiday
Its what I did ... (read in full...)
Am I justified or being selfish by telling my bf that his sexual persistance annoyed me?
Q. Hi everyone, I am 27 and my boyfriend is 33. He's my first sexual partner and we've been together for 2.5 years. I've always felt bad that we have sex as I wanted to save it for marriage. We're going through a difficult patch at the moment. I ...
A. 5 December 2011: First things first... have you taken the morning after pill? You have 72 hours to get one, but they are more reliable when taken sooner after sex than later. As for your BF... have you explained you wanted to wait for sex? How did... (read in full...)
My fiancee does not want her parents told we are engaged. How do I build a better relationship with her parents? Kind answers only please!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for eight months and are now happily engaged. Seems simple enough, right? Well we are both 17 and out parents don't exactly approve. My father says that he is happy that I have found someone I would like to ...
A. 5 December 2011: Hiya
Why dont you begin by building up more of a relationship with her dad?
Make friends, let him see that you are good for his daughter before you even bring up the marrage subject with him.
Your GF/Fiance is also wanting to hold things o... (read in full...)
Painful sex. Advice?
Q. Ok so I'm 18 and my boyfriend and I have been dating over a year. We have sex often, but lately it feels rough going in. I thought I was lubricated enough without any lubricant or anything but it feels like something is scratching me and when he p...
A. 5 December 2011: pop to the doctors.
If your sex life is active, and you indulge in rough (wrong word... perhaps vigorous)sex then you may have a teensy tiny perineal or vaginal tear.
However, it could also be from an infection or (very very unlikely) somet... (read in full...)
Why would a man appear jealous if you are with someone else, even though he himself does not want to be with you?
Q. Hello, I just need opinions on this subject. Let me give a little info on my situation. I am seeing a man, and we have decided to just be friends with benefits. We have dated in the beginning and when a relationship was brought up he stated that he ...
A. 5 December 2011: it could be any number of reasons.. He is afraid to lose his "booty call", when you begin a relationship with another man. He is afraid to lose you... perhaps his feelings for you have changed and he now wants a relationship. Per... (read in full...)
My wife's ex-boyfriend contacted her after 20 years of no contact. I am not sure what to think about this.
Q. My wife's ex-boyfriend (the one prior to me) contacted her after 20 years of no contact. I have been with my wife for 19 years. My wife did not tell me about this. I discovered it when I saw a strange number on her cell phone bill. I confront...
A. 5 December 2011: My instinct says your overreacting, but I realise we dont have the full story. Perhaps she didnt tell you straight away because she knew how you would react! They have been apart over 20 years! If their split wasnt so painful (or even if it ... (read in full...)
We have not consumated this relationship. He is married. But can I get over him while I have to see him twice a week?
Q. I have a major problem here and need help. I am in love with someone who is married. He is in love with me but we have not had an affair. We acknowledged that this was the case but that we would do nothing about this. The problem is is that I ...
A. 5 December 2011: OK lets get a few things clear first. You were having an affair... just not a physical one. An emotional affair is just as serious and just as damaging on everyone involved. This is why your so upset. You are doing the right thing but keepin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's father, who just got out of jail a few months ago, is driving me crazy!!
Q. Ok, I have a problem with my boyfriends dad. He just got out of jail a couple months ago. At first I liked him because I never met him till he got out of jail but now...2 months later...the man drives me crazy. If me or my boyfriend dont pick up the ...
A. 5 December 2011: hmm this is a difficult one. How long was dad in jail for? What sort of running around are we talking about? Grocery shopping, doctor visits OR just visiting friends? Could it be that your boyf LOVES his dad and is trying to build a relatio... (read in full...)
How do you satisfy an older woman sexually?
Q. I am close to an attractive older woman who is 12 years older than me. I would like to consider sex with her. I am a bit concerned about satisfying her sexually if we do it.What are some ways to sexually satisfy an older woman? How can I make t...
A. 5 December 2011: I cant speak from my own experience (I'm 31) but I can give you some tips via my lovely friend and pseudo-mum who is 62. The mechanics are the same, everything works in the same way. The clitoris is still in the same place etc. What may be lac... (read in full...)
He said we may or may not get married!
Q. Hello Everyone I have been dating my boyfriend for 2yrs now. Im ready to get married but hes not. he said he will know when hes ready. hE SAID WE MAY OR WE MAY NOT...Is he ever going to matty me or should I just let go and move on? I know I wil...
A. 5 December 2011: If you were under 25 I would be saying... back off etc etc However, I am a firm believer that once you get past the age of 30, most people know what they want out of life. Many have been married and divorced already or have had LTR's which will... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant for 5 seconds of sex, on my period??
Q. Is it possible to get pregnant whilst on your period? seriously!!? i had sex on the 4th day of my period so i was not heavy and my partner didnt even notice, however i had sex without a condom for literally 5 seconds and then i stopped it and said ...
A. 5 December 2011: Highly unlikely but it IS a possibility. As you are only 2 weeks in, any home test may be negative, however a doctor can run a blood screening test to be sure. Remember too that condoms are only around 90% effective, so if you have had sex wit... (read in full...)
How do I find out if this guy is cheating on me?
Q. How do I find out if this guy is cheating on me? Lately this guy im seein does not want to spend time with me and does not return my txts most of the time, so one night I had a feeling he was with someone else and I had to go past his place to the ...
A. 4 December 2011: Hiya
The car could easily be a friend, neighbour, family member, work colleague... almost anyone he knows! It certainly doesnt mean he is cheating on her.
Are you guys officially a couple? Have you agreed to be exclusive? If not, and if this... (read in full...)
The girl I love doesn't want to date me because she says her parents wont approve of it, and wont even let me talk to them
Q. I. Love this girl sooo much and she says she loves. Me too. But like. She says she can't date me because her family wouldn't approve.so now I'm sitting here in tears I'm asking her to let me talk to her parents about it and she says she's 100% sure ...
A. 4 December 2011: IT would help if you could give us a little more information about why her parents wouldnt approve.
Is it your background?
Family?
Reputation?
Race?
Education?
Age difference? - is she much younger?
Or is it simply that they feel their da... (read in full...)
Urgent help needed!! I am meeting the creepy pervert who has my papers, in an hour and a half. How do I handle him and get my papers back? What can I tell him to offend him the way he deserves to be offended?
Q. Little urgent help please!!! I am a student and my financial situation is pretty bad at the moment. Things begun to look up when I landed a pretty decent part time job. The catch is I need to be a member of an association in roder to be able to ...
A. 4 December 2011: Take someone you trust (preferably a big strong man) with you.
keep a mobile phone with you too, just incase you need to ring the police immediatly.
Once you have your papers back (whether they are translated or not), ring the police and the o... (read in full...)
What do you think about when you're masturbating and/or having sex?
Q. i have a question for guys and gals. me and my boyfriend got into a conversation about sex and masturbation. he told me that when he masturbates he fantasizes about things, and when we have sex and i close my eyes, he thinks that im fantasiz...
A. 4 December 2011: During sex for me its about the feelings, sensations and how much I am pleasuring the person I am with...
Masturbation though lets my imagination run wild. I sometimes just focus on the sensations, other times wild fantasies.
Hope that hel... (read in full...)
How can I confront my boyfriend of lying about porn?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a great relationship for the past 2 years and haven't had any big fights... except about one topic: porn. I absolutely hate it. I see it as a form of cheating. He knows I would never allow him to look another ...
A. 3 December 2011: I'm finding this really hard to answer, as I personally dont see any problem with porn when used sensibly. Do you expect him not to masturbate and only pleasure himself when he is with you? Does that mean you no longer (or never have) masturbate... (read in full...)
Did I do everything right on this casual date?
Q. Hello. I've hardly been out on casual meetings with guys. So ive got a couple of questions.. There's this guy i've been texting for a month now. We live in the same area. Both of us are shy and don't talk too much. Oh and we both have been in previ...
A. 3 December 2011: Yes he likes you
Why dont you suggest meeting for another coffee over the weekend?
Just drop him a text, tell him you will be in town on sunday if he fancies meeting for a coffee... I would bet money on the fact that he says yes (or arranges... (read in full...)
I was just wondering what I could do to spice up our relationship without actually going to the private zone?
Q. Hello everyone. This is not really a dilemma but just some suggestions. I've been with my girlfriend for 20 months and the most we have ever done is making out. There has been no like touching of boobs or anything private due to her morals which i ...
A. 3 December 2011: What about massage?
I'm not suggesting you get butt naked, but what about a sensual back , foot, neck, or head massage?
Warm oils and the chance to explore each others bodies a bit without going near the boobs, or genitals?
Would this be t... (read in full...)
We're both virgins, should I expect him to be somewhat skilled?
Q. Okay, this might be a little odd and maybe shallow, but I was wondering: guys, how were you the first time you had sex? And girls, were you pleasantly surprised or not? I ask because my boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time and...
A. 3 December 2011: I think your actually asking more than one question here, and they arent necessarily mutually exclusive.
You dont need to have penetration to achieve good "sex". From reading your post it doesnt sound like you have done much in the way of foreplay... (read in full...)
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