I'm not sure I can manage to go to the funeral!
Q. Its my cousins funeral on Friday, he was 19 and had been suffering with cancer for 18 months. We were so close and im crying my eyes out writing this. My mum really wants me to go to the funeral but I dont know if i can bear it. Any tips or help ...
A. 21 December 2011: Hiya hunny
I am so pleased you managed to attend and got to say your farewell's with everyone who loved him too.
HUGS xxx... (read in full...)
She's in the early stages of a divorce fighting over a child. Do I sit back?
Q. I recently met a woman, who is in the earliest possible stage of divorce. She has a child with her husband, and he is fighting the divorce because he refuses to go a day without that child. I over the past several months have fallen in love with ...
A. 14 December 2011: When you say "stay the course"... exactly what do you mean?
Are you talking about getting involved in the fighting and arguments... or are you talking about being there to support her after another row?
If its the first... then back off. If its... (read in full...)
Title How can I get my boyfriend to kiss me before christmas Break?
Q. Hey Everyone, Oksy so Me and My boyfriend have been dating since 12/10/11, and that hasnt been long, ive longed for him to ask me out and after weeks of my friends bugging him, he finally asked, i found out hes liked me since the 6th gr...
A. 14 December 2011: why not try kissing him?
Ask for a hug... and then lift your head and move in for a kiss.
There are NO rules that say he has to be the one to make the first move!... (read in full...)
What would be a non-creepy way to get this guy's number?
Q. Ok, so there's this guy I really like. He's got a girlfriend, but I know her quite well (she's actually one of my good friends) and she's not happy with the relationship. She feels that they're moving way too fast, and stuff like that. She wants to ...
A. 14 December 2011: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO - that clear enough?
She is a friend of yours and you are planning to flirt with her boyfriend.
Regardless of whether the relationship is in trouble or not, does not give you the right to flirt.
As soon as he is sing... (read in full...)
Have any girls on here gone to a bar alone?
Q. I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make some ...
A. 13 December 2011: I dont think a bar is the right answer here.
What about your classmates? Cant you strike up conversation with them? or if you see one of them in the coffee shop - go over and introduce yourself. Try talking about a recent assignment or upcoming... (read in full...)
He has been divorced 5 years but his ex still calls him to fix things for her! Is this appropriate?
Q. How appropriate is it for a man who is divorced for 5 years to go round to his ex's house to fix the cooker/replace a fuse/figure out why her car won't start when he is in a new relationship? She isn't seeing anyone and they have 1 child so ...
A. 13 December 2011: hmmmm
perhaps there are other reasons she calls your boyfriend.
As they have children together naturally he has a responsibility to help ensure that their child grows up in a safe, warm home.
If she calls a handyman/plumber etc... (read in full...)
Self conscious about my eye, how do I deal with people who make fun of me for this?
Q. So first of all, im blind in 1 eye. I don't feel like going into detail about it but I can say ive have a lot problems that have come along with it. If I look even the slightest bit upwards my blind eye goes completely crosseyed and it has been very ...
A. 13 December 2011: A very close friend of mine has only 1 eye. She is a beautiful successful woman with a gorgeous hubby and 2 beautiful children.
When I first met her I noticed that there was something different about her eye but couldnt put my finger on it... no... (read in full...)
My boyfriend arrived for a 2 week stay with me without any money! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend has just arrived for a 2 week stay (we're long distance) without any money! He says he's taking a month long break unpaid and has just enough to meet child maintenance payments during this time so I'm going to have to cover for him. He ...
A. 13 December 2011: yes he has child maintenance obligations... and yes these come first. Those are facts. He has a responsibility to support his children.
However YOU have no such responsibilities. Let him support himself, and kick him back to his mums if he canno... (read in full...)
Have I lost my virginity and could I be pregnant?
Q. Hi...I'm a 21year old and I'm still a virgin so I'm really clueless about sex. My boyfriend and I were making out so things got heated, we both ended with just our underwear on. I don't know if this is regarded dry sex or not but I was laying flat ...
A. 12 December 2011: no hun you can relax... your NOT pregnant.
... (read in full...)
Discovered his secret phone and dating site registrations...but he has managed to turn it around on me for violating his privacy!
Q. I discovered that my boyfriend of 4 years has been registered on several dating sites and texting off a secret cell phone. I asked him what he thought he was doing and he went very serious and asked me why I have violated his privacy. He has offered ...
A. 12 December 2011: I would lay it down straight.
Ask him why he felt the need to be unfaithful
Ask him about the behaviour (whatever it was) that led to you feeling you had to snoop
Ask him what he intends to do now
Sometimes men do these things in order to... (read in full...)
Is my trust issue all in my head? Will he be hurt if I ask him about this?
Q. So I think this problem is with me and my trust issues, but I'm not sure. We've been together about a year. I know he loves me. After talking with him about a lot of things, more and more he has made his affection for me more obvious--he has ...
A. 12 December 2011: Why dont you be straight about it?
I cant understand how after being together a year, your not comfortable enough to ask who he was meeting for breakfast. I would think some gentle encouragement for him to widen his social circle is a good thi... (read in full...)
Other women don't get on with my fiance, help!
Q. Hi i just wonder if theres anyone out their who can give me some advice. I have been with my fiance for coming on 9 years, she is a beautiful, caring although sometimes hotheaded woman lol but all in all she is a good girl with great morals. We have ...
A. 12 December 2011: hiya hun
Before I dispense with the advice I just wanted to say how absoloutly lovely it is to read a post from someone so obviously in love with his fiance... really warms those cockles.
ok
I think its not that your wife doesnt get on with ... (read in full...)
Have I lost my virginity and could I be pregnant?
Q. Hi...I'm a 21year old and I'm still a virgin so I'm really clueless about sex. My boyfriend and I were making out so things got heated, we both ended with just our underwear on. I don't know if this is regarded dry sex or not but I was laying flat ...
A. 12 December 2011: hiya
1 - your still a virgin
2 - the chance of pregnancy is slim-zero
I think at your age you really REALLY need some general sex education before moving further with your relationship with your boyfriend.
It is possible to get pregnant if ... (read in full...)
Is the honeymoon over?
Q. Hello there. I'm not really sure, but I really think the honeymoon phase in my relationship is gone. We have been together for a year now and the amount of sex we now have compared to before has dropped and it leaves me incredibly frustrated. We u...
A. 12 December 2011: ok ive come back to this after giving it some more thought.
Could it be that whats actually lacking is QUALITY rather than QUANTITY of sex?
Loving sensual sex which leaves both people fully satiated is always going to be more satisfying than ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and my family hasn't talk to me since I told them I'm pregnant. How do I get them back?
Q. I'm 15 and having a baby what should i do? i'm keeping the baby but my family hasn't talk to me since I told them. I want my family back, so what should I do? I can't do this on my own, they want nothing to do with me. ...
A. 12 December 2011: ok more questions
1 - where is the babys dad?
2 - how does dad feel about baby and you?
3 - how does dads family feel about baby and you?
4 - what were your parents reasons for stopping contact (is it because you refused to consider adoption/ab... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I can manage to go to the funeral!
Q. Its my cousins funeral on Friday, he was 19 and had been suffering with cancer for 18 months. We were so close and im crying my eyes out writing this. My mum really wants me to go to the funeral but I dont know if i can bear it. Any tips or help ...
A. 12 December 2011: hiya hun
I am so sorry for your loss. Cancer is such an evil devestating disease.
Funerals are about your chance to say goodbye, and celebrate the amazing person your cousin was.
I know your distraught at the moment, and have every reason to... (read in full...)
Was he just using me to make her jealous?
Q. I've had this guy friend for about 2 years now ever since we went to the same summer camp. We've talked on and off and have remained friends since then. He had a girlfriend last year when we saw each other every saturday at an extracurricular ...
A. 12 December 2011: did you call or text him?
If not why not?
Why dont you just text him saying it was great seeing him. Just keep it friendly.
Sounds to me like you both had a great time and your both too nervous to make the next contact.
He may have ... (read in full...)
Is the honeymoon over?
Q. Hello there. I'm not really sure, but I really think the honeymoon phase in my relationship is gone. We have been together for a year now and the amount of sex we now have compared to before has dropped and it leaves me incredibly frustrated. We u...
A. 12 December 2011: oooooh only once or twice a day....... PAAA HAAA HAAAAA HAAAA HAAAA Snort! OK sorry about that. I think you will find that your honeymoon period has gone when your having sex once or twice a month (or less). You mentioned tha... (read in full...)
How do I find out if this guy is cheating on me?
Q. How do I find out if this guy is cheating on me? Lately this guy im seein does not want to spend time with me and does not return my txts most of the time, so one night I had a feeling he was with someone else and I had to go past his place to the ...
A. 12 December 2011: perhaps she is giving you dirty looks because she is jealous? Noone likes to think of their ex moving on and finding someone else. Often we project all those negative feelings we should have for the ex, onto their new partner.
How many times ha... (read in full...)
Skin colour on the penis?
Q. My boy friend has two different colours of skin on his penis. The part that is closer to the tip of his penis is lighter, but the other part is darker. why ?...
A. 12 December 2011: is he circumcised? Scar tissue is often a different colour to the rest of his skin... it can be darker or lighter. Regardless of whether he is circumcised the penis is often lighter (pinker) on the head. In an uncircumcised man it is a glossy... (read in full...)
I can't compete sexually with my wife's former lover
Q. My wife's last lover had a bigger penis, greater stamina and could please her with vaginal intercourse. I feel so inadequate and don't know why I should make any more pathetic attempts. Any advice?...
A. 11 December 2011: Seriously?
Aside from the obvious need for further info with rivi's questions.. I can only give a general answer.
* engage in more foreplay... cunnilingus, fingers, massage etc. If her orgasm is top priority to you, then ensure that is satisfie... (read in full...)
I had a fling with a guy I met on holiday, but I like him! How do I approach him to see if he would be interested in something more?
Q. This is just for some advice really. So I went on holiday this year with the girls and we met a few lads out there. We had such a good time and I got particularly friendly with one of them. We recently had a reunion with a couple of them which ...
A. 10 December 2011: If you dont try you will never know.
I wonder how you will contact him if you dont have his number... do any of your friends have his number?, are you friends on any social networking sites etc?
Assuming you can contact him, why dont you mes... (read in full...)
Can a man maintain an erection for awhile? Or will he lose it if he doesn't "use" it?
Q. Kinda random question, (but there's a valid reason for me asking, honest!): when a man gets an erection, can he hold on to it for a while before having sex, or does he lose it if he doesn't use it almost straight away? To put it into context, if he ...
A. 10 December 2011: I think the answer depends on the man and whether he is enjoying the foreplay enough to maintain an erection.
for example:
Some men love to go down on a woman, some men do it only because their partner gets so much pleasure from it. Now if ... (read in full...)
Now I'm 21 Is it normal for me to be okay with wanting to experiment with sex?
Q. Throughout this year my stance on dating has changed. I used to think that I would be the type of guy to wait until I was in a real relationship to have anything to do with sex. But after my 21st birthday my thoughts about dating in general have...
A. 10 December 2011: Absolutely 100% normal Sex is more fulfilling in a loving relationship, but that doesnt mean that consensual one nighters arent fun too. The simple rules are: BE SAFE - contraception and protection from STI's BE HONEST - do not lie ... (read in full...)
Now I'm 21 Is it normal for me to be okay with wanting to experiment with sex?
Q. Throughout this year my stance on dating has changed. I used to think that I would be the type of guy to wait until I was in a real relationship to have anything to do with sex. But after my 21st birthday my thoughts about dating in general have...
A. 10 December 2011: absoloutly 100% normal Sex is more fulfilling in a loving relationship, but that doesnt mean that consensual one nighters arent fun too. The simple rules are: BE SAFE -... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my best friend's older brother. Should I wait, or make a move?
Q. Hi okay I'm having an issue. My best friends older brother is 2-3 years older than us, but I'm falling for him and have secretley liked him since i met him about 3 years ago. He always talks to me and talks about how hilarious I am and stuff. I...
A. 10 December 2011: There are alot of things to consider before you make any sort of a move (now or in the future).
Have you considered what will happen to your friendship?
This is your best friend, what will happen if you lose her?
She may be so upset at you d... (read in full...)
Is it possible for someone to move on so quickly without any thoughts about the previous long term relationship?
Q. My friend split up from her partner of 18 years. Within a few she was dating someone else. I strongly suspect she was cheating and left her partner for the new guy. It been less then three years and she has married the guy she was cheating with. Is ...
A. 10 December 2011: within a few what? Hours? Days? weeks? months? years?
If it was indeed hours or even days, then yes she may have had feelings for this person before her 18yr relationship officially split. She may have already accepted the inevitable breakdow... (read in full...)
Late period (and very important date very soon)! Any ways to bring it on?
Q. I've always had really regular periods, and if they haven't come exactly on time, they've been a day or two early. Never late though. And yet, this month it's taking a while to arrive - I'm about three days past my expected date. I wouldn't worry ...
A. 9 December 2011: Just because noone seems to have mentioned this...
Have you done a pregnancy test? No contraceptive is 100% so maybe it would be a good idea, as you may have more to worry about/celebrate than a holiday period.
If your on the pill, you can (o... (read in full...)
What is more appropriate/acceptable? Spending holidays with your family or your significant other?
Q. I would love some inputs! What is more appropriate/acceptable, spending the holidays (Thanksgiving, Xmas, New Year) with your significant other or your family?? I'm a little torn. I want to spend this time of the year with my family but ALSO with my ...
A. 9 December 2011: Why dont you both spend xmas eve with your family, xmas days with your own families and boxing day with his family?... (read in full...)
What is the best way to get back your husband's sexual attention?
Q. What is the best way to get back your husband's sexual attention? I feel my husband does not look at me with desire. And never really care to have sex with me. I'm not sure what is going on, but I would like to make some changes from my side, an...
A. 9 December 2011: can I just add a couple more things to odds excellent questions
How was your sex life in the past?
Has it changed or has it always been stilted?
Have you changed (appearance or attitude generally)?
Has he changed (appearance or att... (read in full...)
I'm concerned that my b/f is in denial about being gay
Q. My boyfriend and I are finally dating after knowing each other for 8 years. We had a bit of a blurred relationship in the past where we were having sex but not officially together. We were both to blame. He says it was due to his social anxiety ...
A. 9 December 2011: lol, someone better go tell gordon ramsay he is gay then, if liking wine and cooking are now "Gay pastimes".
lets think about this logically shall we?
1 - he has a speech impediment
The last time I checked this was not genetically linked t... (read in full...)
If someone in my family is depressed, am I liable to get depressed too?
Q. I'm not sure if this is a stupid Question to ask and if it's the right site to ask it on but I'm scared of becoming depressed. The tone in my house has gone down a notch since my sister has got herself into some trouble and has brought my mothe...
A. 9 December 2011: hiya
If you are surrounded by people who are depressed and your surrounded by family "drama" then yes you are more prone to depression.Your own mental health problems would make you even more prone.
Can I suggest that you phone your doctor/ther... (read in full...)
I thought he was the one, but he wants to go slowly and now I am just closing down
Q. I see my man once a week, and because of his schedule, I allow him to make that date. Only once a week. We get along very well. But I miss him and have told him. I've asked for more time together, just maybe one more night a week. However,...
A. 9 December 2011: you asked for more contact, and when he offered you said no??? What sort of perverse reaction is that? I just dont understand your logic here. Is it that you want to be chased, rather than do the chasing?. Its ok now to do a bit of the chasing. ... (read in full...)
I can't deceipher what my girlfriend's text message meant?
Q. In General I have always felt that text messaging is a poor way to have any serious communication, but recently it has gone from misunderstandings to causing conflicts. Because of this I am looking for a 3rd party(s) opinion on what one would imply, ...
A. 9 December 2011: She is trying to say one of two things
"wow - cant believe you didnt even give me a kiss/say you lvoed me"
or
"wow - cant believe you didnt even apologise"
None of which are positive. You both need to sit down together and discuss the is... (read in full...)
He wants to marry me, but its always next year!
Q. Hello , I was wondering if ou all could give your thoughts on m strange relationship? would appreciate. I have been with my 7 year older man for 5 years, had a realy swept off feet beginning (he proposed ealy with amazing ring) this was followed...
A. 9 December 2011: I think you need to re-read your post.
He forced an abortion
He flirts with other women
He doesnt satisfy you sexually
He treats your children differently to his own
You lived together for a year and it didnt work out
You have been with ... (read in full...)
Would my ex of 4 years feel badly about being with a new guy?
Q. I've just been out of a four year long relationship with a girl who's been really very close to me. Its been some time after our break up, but our relationship was very intimate and we went as far as foreplay. We're just in our twenties. She's bee...
A. 8 December 2011: Hiya I can guarentee that its possible for her to now love someone else. Whether she feels guilty for the sexual experiences she has had with you isnt something I can answer. I would expect it depends on culture, personal morals and whe... (read in full...)
Should I fret about my girlfriend violated my butt-hole?
Q. My girlfriend and I met a few months ago. We started having sex the third time we met (she initiated). First I thought to myself "great, no more boring lengthy dating". The first few times were like normal sex (I led and she followed) but since then ...
A. 8 December 2011: I'm not sure what your asking here. Is it that you did enjoy it - but are afraid you might turn gay? OR Is it that she violated your trust and did something you really dont like? If its the first, then let me tell you - nothing in this ... (read in full...)
Tips for easing a very bad back!!
Q. Hello again everyone. My bf has a very bad back, he broke it in a car crash back in 2006, he crushed one the vertebrae at the base of his spine. Now he's sort of learned to live with it, but there are times when it is very painful for him, ...
A. 7 December 2011: Can I also suggest you encourage him to see a doctor before going down the route of organising such a physical massage which could do more damage than good.
As an alternative to sports therapy what about acupuncture? You could buy him a couple o... (read in full...)
Vulgar bulgur
Q. Okay I know this is a rather silly question, but the other night my gf cooked this dish that I hated. She is a tender woman and so I haven't told her yet. The next day she said she was quite pleased with the flavor. Any tips on gently telling h...
A. 7 December 2011: its time for the "sh!T" sandwich.
Praise her cooking, and mention your favourite dish. Then mention you didnt enjoy the bulgar as much as... another favourite dish.
Then go on to ask whether she would perhaps make you something special.... (read in full...)
Aske me home for a drink - What are his intentions?
Q. If a guy asks you to go to his place for a drink, is he only after one thing ?. He doesn't live comepletely on his own. He has housemates, but he does have his own room. He did ask me when i was going to be out around town again at first, but i said ...
A. 7 December 2011: Why dont you suggest he meets you during the day for a coffee somewhere?
You mention you dont like drinking much, and I think its very unsafe to be going to a strangers house.
If he is as interested as he seems, he will jump at the chance to sp... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my sick ex, or go with my new love
Q. I am driving myself crazy and feel like I am tearing myself into two!! A few months back I left my ex because I had really strong feelings for another guy and felt I couldn't be with my ex because it wouldn't be fair on him and I really wanted to ...
A. 7 December 2011: I cant really add anything to chocoholics excellent advice.
My only suggestion is to reassure him that you WILL be there for him to support him on his journey, BUT you will not be his partner.
Explain to him that your romantic relatoinship is ... (read in full...)
Should I keep striving, though I'm not sure what my final goal is?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I was hoping someone wiser than me can offer some advice. I'm a full time college student, majoring in Biology, and I've hit a wall - my true passion a year ago was English but I decided (with pressure f...
A. 7 December 2011: Can I suggest that you change now. Make an appointment to speak to the careers advisor (and if possible the counsellor) in your college. They will have the expertise to help you in the right direction.
IF you can, finish this year of college ... (read in full...)
How do I find out if this guy is cheating on me?
Q. How do I find out if this guy is cheating on me? Lately this guy im seein does not want to spend time with me and does not return my txts most of the time, so one night I had a feeling he was with someone else and I had to go past his place to the ...
A. 4 December 2011: Hiya
The car could easily be a friend, neighbour, family member, work colleague... almost anyone he knows! It certainly doesnt mean he is cheating on her.
Are you guys officially a couple? Have you agreed to be exclusive? If not, and if this... (read in full...)
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