Irregular periods are making me nervous about having children in the future, what should I do?
Q. Just want some readers opinions on this. I've been tracking my menstrual cycle and in this year alone (2011), ive so far had 6 periods. Obviously this is different to the 'typical' woman who may have 1 every month or so. It's making me nervo...
A. 19 December 2011: hiya hun
Thankyou for updating us all.
If I was in your position I would be popping to the doctors to check that all is well with ovulation. Get them to monitor you to ensure your ovulating properly. That way you will know if there is indeed ... (read in full...)
We're both virgins, should I expect him to be somewhat skilled?
Q. Okay, this might be a little odd and maybe shallow, but I was wondering: guys, how were you the first time you had sex? And girls, were you pleasantly surprised or not? I ask because my boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time and...
A. 3 December 2011: I think your actually asking more than one question here, and they arent necessarily mutually exclusive.
You dont need to have penetration to achieve good "sex". From reading your post it doesnt sound like you have done much in the way of foreplay... (read in full...)
Help me reach a decision regarding my mortage/stress situation
Q. Okay, this is not strictly a relationship question but it relates to the situation that I have been left in after a break up. If your health had been not good for some time (due to the stress of the relationship and also because of having to do ...
A. 2 December 2011: There are pro's and con's for both...
a) probably the most practical...
i-it would allow you to keep a secure home (owning outright instead of mtg)
ii-it would allow you to keep your support network of friends, family and your children close ... (read in full...)
Father with two kids and a persistent housewife
Q. We have a married couple with 2 kids where the husband wishes to divorce his wife but she wants to continue with the marriage. Here are some questions I'd like to get your answers to : 1)How can a single father protect himself and the kids when he...
A. 2 December 2011: Steps to take
1)divorce/family lawyer
2) divorce/family lawyer
3) divorce/family lawyer
BEFORE he does anything else.
I'm from the uk so this is a guess, but I assume each state will have its own laws with regards to custody, divorc... (read in full...)
HELP Should I take my Husband of 30 years back,after he cheated 8 years ago.
Q. Hi should I forgive my Husband of 30 yrs. I found out last year that he had a 2yr affair with a woman he did a job for .This happened 8 yrs since when we were going though a really bad patch, I still carnt get over it and its been a year since i ...
A. 2 December 2011: why do people insist on blaming the other woman? She isnt the one who betrayed her marriage vows... HE DID She isnt the one cheating and lying to you..... HE DID SHE simply slept with a man for a 2year affair. Yes he was married and yes she k... (read in full...)
HELP Should I take my Husband of 30 years back,after he cheated 8 years ago.
Q. Hi should I forgive my Husband of 30 yrs. I found out last year that he had a 2yr affair with a woman he did a job for .This happened 8 yrs since when we were going though a really bad patch, I still carnt get over it and its been a year since i ...
A. 2 December 2011: ouch, no wonder your hurting.
I think before either of you decide that the marriage will work you need to talk to more people - get some more counselling.
His betrayal wasnt just a fling, it was a 2 year affair. Obviously he would prefer you... (read in full...)
Is this weight gain normal even during pregnancy?
Q. Hi. I'm just under 7 weeks pregnant and am due for a termination tomorrow due to medical problems that could risk my life if I continue with my pregnancy. I've come to terms with all of this and I'm okay in myself at the moment. I've got the sup...
A. 2 December 2011: perfectly normal for the swollen breasts, and feeling swollen all over. Within the first 6weeks of my pregnancies my boobs went up a massive amount. I went from a b cup to a dd overnight it felt like!
I obviously dont know your medical history,... (read in full...)
My married lover wants to continue seeing me while he ties up loose ends with his soon to be ex-wife
Q. I am involved with a man who is still married but unhappy. he tells me he will file for divorce within the next 5 months because he is unhappy. he wants to wait to do it because she is not able to support herself financially due to their debt.......
A. 2 December 2011: heard this thousands of times over.
If he has every intention of being a single man in the next 6mo, then I suggest that you stop contact until he has his divorce.
If things are as amazing as you suggest, then 6mo isnt very long in light of... (read in full...)
How can I avoid sex in a loveless marriage?
Q. Is it possible to stay married, not be love and avoid sex with husband all the time? Is there anyone here who has been in this situation? Please share your views and experience to help me. Many thanks.....
A. 2 December 2011: Hiya
Looking at your country of origin i'm wondering if this was a forced marriage?
If so there are agencies out there who can help you escape (with your children if you have any)... however for many of these women it means losing contact w... (read in full...)
Will not getting him a huge gift make him hate me?
Q. I am freaking out over my boyfriend's Christmas gift. He works and I don't (I'm looking for a job though!) and I have some ideas - a video game he's wanted for a long time but never got around to buying it, a good webcamera for his computer because ...
A. 1 December 2011: I would go for the webcam...
As for another xmas gift, what about inviting him to yours and wrapping yourself as a pressie ;)... (read in full...)
Would it be better to not get married and disappoint our families?
Q. I am due to get married in three months. For the past two years I have been catching my soon to be wife in darting chat rooms. She has been clumsy and left things around,including guys phone numbers. I have never been able to get past this as she ...
A. 1 December 2011: There would be no way on earth that I could be induced to marry someone who I was sure was actively being unfaithful.
... (read in full...)
Do not connect to new husband..
Q. I am in love with my boss who is married and loves me too. I recently married a guy as per my parents wishes knowingly he is not my type but didnt had any options. I cannot leave the job because it pays me well with other benefits and has ample ...
A. 1 December 2011: just read your update.
You mention your boss's true honesty,
to who... you? or his wife?
You must realise that you are both decieving someone. Could you ever really trust your boss romantically when he has cheated on his family? Could... (read in full...)
Law-school girl drama-Llama!
Q. I'm 28 and have been studying with a 21 yr. old girl in law school. She started slacking a bit and I told her to shape up or I wouldn't study anymore. She said I shouldn't be so abrasive right b/f finals week. We were supposed to study together ...
A. 1 December 2011: Unless you are actually paired up as study partners (and even then you could talk to the lecturers involved), I would move on and find someone as serious about their studies as you are. I'm 31 and have returned to study too. I work closely wit... (read in full...)
Why would a guy throw it all away for a random one night hook up?
Q. This may be a brad question, but it just doesn't make sense to me why a guy would cheat on a good girl that hes been with for a few years. I was absolutely good to him. Im as sincere as they get. Im honestly the type of girlfriend most guys are ...
A. 1 December 2011: I know this doesnt speak for all men, but for the majority (yes even those in loving relationships and happy marriages), if its offered on a plate they will take it.
Its no excuse but alcohol does release inhibitions, people act very differen... (read in full...)
Do not connect to new husband..
Q. I am in love with my boss who is married and loves me too. I recently married a guy as per my parents wishes knowingly he is not my type but didnt had any options. I cannot leave the job because it pays me well with other benefits and has ample ...
A. 1 December 2011: you may not like what I have to say but it comes from experience.
Let your husband go.... there is absoloutly no point prolonging something that is so obviously not working for you. If you are from a non-uk culture in which divorce could mean los... (read in full...)
"Momma's boy" - attractive or not to women?
Q. Want to get some feedback from women here... I grew up without a father so my mother had to be both parents in a way. As a result, I've always been a "Momma's boy". She's not protective or invasive in my personal life we just have a very solid and ...
A. 1 December 2011: for me it all depends on the type of mummy's boy you are. Are you the sort of independant man (financially and mentally), who has a strong, close and healthy relationship with your mum? Do you talk to her about anything, respect her views and ma... (read in full...)
Its been 5 years and I'm still not over my ex
Q. After 5 years I am still not over my ex. I miss her like nothing else and it's eating me alive: I have had heavy depressions over this. She was the womkan of my dreams. We always stayed somewhat in contact until a year ago I cut of all contact: ...
A. 1 December 2011: 5 years is a very long time... but in reality its probably only been a year. You stayed in contact for 4 years which obviously kept all those feelings alive. Since you initiated no contact you have found out that she lied to you for a long time ... (read in full...)
Man over 20 with a teen?
Q. I am a 24 year old male and I was wondering is it illegal for me casually date a girl who's 17? Or just simply be good friends with her?...
A. 1 December 2011: in the uk, the age of consent is 16, so it wouldnt be illegal.
However as a parent I would question your motives. I would much prefer a deep friendship whilst she is so young than anything more physical. It would allow her family to get to know ... (read in full...)
Irregular periods are making me nervous about having children in the future, what should I do?
Q. Just want some readers opinions on this. I've been tracking my menstrual cycle and in this year alone (2011), ive so far had 6 periods. Obviously this is different to the 'typical' woman who may have 1 every month or so. It's making me nervo...
A. 30 November 2011: Hiya
Just wanted to add to KC's excellent advice.
You mention your periods are irregular and that you have had 6 cycles this year so far.
How irregular are they? Is there still a pattern?
Some womens cycle is much shorter or longer ... (read in full...)
We had sex for the first time without a condom. Should I be worried?
Q. My girlfriend and me had sex (first time for both) without using a condom. She takes pregnancy pills, and she said it was ok, but i am still worried. Should I be worried? Shes also been complaining of feeling dizzy. but that could be anythin...
A. 27 November 2011: as already has been said... IF she is taking the pill correctly IF she hasnt had an upset stomach IF she isnt taking any other medication which could interfere with the pill (like antibiotics) Then you have probably nothing to worry about.... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that she might be pregnant?
Q. I am 18, in first year university. My girlfriend is almost 17, in her last year of highschool. We've been dating since August and had sex twice. The first time, which was the FIRST time for both of us, we used a condom, and it seemed like it was ...
A. 27 November 2011: Hiya If she is on the pill, and IF she is taking it as prescribed then the chances of her falling pregnant are very slim indeed (1% ish). The protection offered, drops dramatically if she wasnt taking the pill correctly, had an upset stomach OR... (read in full...)
Colourblind test
Q. Hi guys need help-not romantic stuff but please help me as your advice is really cool and appreciated. Hey guys sorry to disturb but i need help-very worried got an opportunity to apply for a highly paid job but need to do a colourblind test. I...
A. 26 November 2011: the worst that can happen is that they fail you again.... if you dont try you will never know.
As the prev poster says women are very very rarely colourblind.
However.... 0.1 - 4% (depending on where you look) of women are colourblind.
... (read in full...)
Question on genetic testing...
Q. I was wondering ,if anybody familiar with genetic testing? Does it really work? There is serious mental problems in my family, and I want to see , if there is anything shows up, as a genetic explanation. Does genetic testing shows any predisposition ...
A. 26 November 2011: Hiya
I'm afraid there isnt yet a test which will show an individuals predisposition to mental illness. They have currently identified common genes in families with certain mental illnesses (such as schizophrenia), however it is thought that is ... (read in full...)
Who's in the wrong here and what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone what do you think about this situation and who is in the wrong here? my fwb and I have been having sex for 8 months now, I really like him and I thought he did me. we both agreed not to have sex with anyone else, he is a bouncer so I kno...
A. 26 November 2011: your words were that this was a) a FWB b) "he said he only wants sex" So instead of the relationship you wanted you decided to settle for something you didnt. In the meantime you have become more emotionally attatched, and so he has backed... (read in full...)
Who's in the wrong here and what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone what do you think about this situation and who is in the wrong here? my fwb and I have been having sex for 8 months now, I really like him and I thought he did me. we both agreed not to have sex with anyone else, he is a bouncer so I kno...
A. 25 November 2011: hmmm
The first thing that strikes me here is that (as almost always happens) you have strayed way beyond the boundaries of FWB and into full on relationship.
A FWB is someone you get on well with and who you share a physical relationship. Th... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date a friend's daughter?
Q. I was having a conversation the other day about morals, and the person asked me if I thought it was ok to date a friend's daughter. We didn't go into depth in terms of which friend, how long you'd known them, etc. personally, I couldn't see a p...
A. 25 November 2011: I have to agree with so very confused...
I have friends who are older than my parents! That means that their children are often my age or even a little older. To me that wouldnt be an issue at all.
Equally if there was a large age-gap but the ... (read in full...)
Is sex outside the marriage infidelity when it's a 5 year plus sexless marriage?
Q. I have a very long term friendship with a woman. Her marriage has been dead for many years but stays because of her high school children and financial reasons. My marriage has been over for 10 years. During coffee last week , sex became a topic. She ...
A. 25 November 2011: Absoloutly its still infidelity.
I'm afraid just because she doesnt WANT to have sex with her husband (which is her perogative!), it doesnt make it OK to sleep with someone behind his back.
I would think that she needs to talk to her hubby abo... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend's sex drive plummet?
Q. I really don't get this. My boyfriend became impotent overnight.He had very high sex drive, and ready for sex anytime. Now when ever we want to have sex, what is less and less,he is losing his erections right after he would enter. So we can't have...
A. 25 November 2011: Try not to jump to conclusions like happy-time suggested. If he has been aware of his issue (it may have been creeping along for a little while) then that fully accounts for his lack of sex drive. He doesnt want to be embarrassed. Sudden erectil... (read in full...)
How can I boost my sex appeal??
Q. hi i was wondering how to boost my sex appeal. I have been with my fiance for 8 years. And i feel she know longer fancys me. She has know interest in sex and doesnt masturbate. I work out with average build. Do most me the house work and all the ...
A. 24 November 2011: Your being sooo helpful, and I wouldnt want you to be put off doing that BUT its not SEXY its CONSIDERATE. So you do the cooking, alot of the cleaning and give her a break from the kids on a weekend. What part of that turns you on? Aside fro... (read in full...)
Involved with a married man and need unbiased thoughts, please help!
Q. Hello all, Please take the time to read: I met my boyfriend of almost two years (in December) online by chance. I actually caught his attention and made the first move, but we took a lot of time to get to know each other as friends first be...
A. 24 November 2011: WOW So many things jump out at me from your posts. I will try to be concise but I cant promise. 1) You have on several occasions mentioned that you have "looks" on your side or that you are "hotter" than his wife. This may well be true (e... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so depressed and sick at times? What can I do to overcome this?
Q. please help any advice or if you know why im feeling like this etc, but i have had drepression on and off and this year felt worse to the point of going to the doctor and i now see a counsellor which is good. im not working and living at home but i ...
A. 23 November 2011: oh I have been there and walked a mile in your shoes. I used to describe my depression as being locked in a grey room with no doors but a window. Outside the window I could see everyone else having a nice time in the sunshine, while I was locked ... (read in full...)
I need to wow him
Q. My fiance and i are usually amazing, especially in bed. I just feel like he's slowing down and getting bored. Not a good thing at all ladies! I need help, I need to wow him for a couple nights and get his mind up and running again....
A. 23 November 2011: Assuming there isnt another reason for his slowing down (something happening at work, other worries?), then what about treating him and you to some new toys or lingerie?
As the previous poster suggested, striptease, dancing, sexy underwea... (read in full...)
New young crush. How am I doing so far? What should I do?
Q. okay, so I've been crushing on this guy for a while. a sophomore guy (as i am a freshman). we only have classes together on Fridays, and were pretty much inseparable at that time. but any other time, we just pass each other by. this Friday wa...
A. 23 November 2011: The only way you are going to know if he is interested in either a platonic or romantic relationship is to actually be with him.
why dont you ask him to show you how good this zelda game is? I realise it might not be your thing, but it opens up... (read in full...)
Does the contraceptive jab protect from STI's, does it hurt and should I tell my mum I'm having sex?
Q. i have asked my mum to book me an appointment and she has...the appointment was for me to get the contraception impact done. I am having in up in my arm on thursday, but my mum asked why i wanted it :\ i said to her that i cant handle having periods ...
A. 23 November 2011: The implant (and any other form of hormonal contraception) will ONLY protect you from PREGNANCY. You will still be able to catch STI's! The only forms of contraception which can prevent STI's are condoms. Howver even these wont protect you agai... (read in full...)
If online dating fails to work, what other options are there?
Q. I've tried every sensible dating site in the last 16 months. Paid and free. I have had two dates in that whole time. I've had profiles reviewed and everyone has come back saying my photos are good, my profile is interesting and they don't ...
A. 22 November 2011: I'm 31, and given up on dating sites. To be honest I seem to meet more people now by going out with friends (no I dont mean nightclubs) and talking to people. By being sociable I seem to get more dates. I'm still waiting for my prince char... (read in full...)
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