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writes:Little urgent help please!!! I am a student and my financial situation is pretty bad at the moment. Things begun to look up when I landed a pretty decent part time job. The catch is I need to be a member of an association in roder to be able to begin. That means some documents need translating before I can even apply. There is only two people in the entire city who can do that and one is not answering my calls. The other is a pervert. I met with him twice already. First time he hinted that because he is old he may need my help with his workload and for that I could make quite a decent amount of money. But the second meeting was different.Not only did he not translate the documents I need to start the new job, not only did he not mention his previous offer, he hinted that he wants to massage me (because he said it helps clarity of the brain)and offered me to live free of charge at a spare flat he owns. I of course told him off and refused and left. But my documents (originals) are still there as I left in a hurry. Today he called me and told me to go over so we can translate them together so I can see how it is done. I want nothing more to do with this man. How do I handle him and get my papers back? What can I tell him to offend him the way he deserves to be offended? Please give me some advise as I am meeting the creep in an hour and a half Thanks in advance
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reader, auntyR  +, writes (4 December 2011):
take a male friend or relative with you. If not take a whole gang of your girlie mates and make sure you tell one of the other friends where you are all going. Don't go on your own at all. If you are really creeped out by him at anytime tell the police.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (4 December 2011):
 Hi OP,
This is the first time I've EVER been relieved to hear that someone's blind and old!! Thank God!!
Ok, its good that you're not going today, and I'm glad you're looking at getting someone to go with you. Either that, or wait for the other person who can help you.
And the next time he tries acting funny, tell him "I do not appreciate this filth. Don't you dare cross this line with me. No job in this world is bigger than my self respect, so if you think I'm some desperate girl who's going to let you talk and act dirty with me just for this, then you can just go to hell. One more bit of filth from you, and I'll inform the police. Stay within your limits".
Unfortunately some people ARE just disgusting, but trust me, you will be fine. Dont worry, just be safe.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (4 December 2011):
 Have you got tall strong friends. Go to the flat with a strong man friend or a couple of girlfriends, he won't dare try anything if other people are there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): Hi everyone again. This is the OP. Thanks for answering. Got some really good advise. Actually I just cancelled today's appointment. I am not feeling comfortable going there alone and there was no one available to come with me today. It sucks as I really need my papers. Hopefully I'll get them soon before I lose my other job. Sigh. He is just as disgusting on the phone as he is in person. Bad news is he is on the committee for interpreters and one of the three potential people that will judge my translating abilities in a few months time. Some people are just plain disgusting. (sorry for the rant)
I'll update if it gets resolved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): to anonymous 123. OP again! Thanks for your answer. He is almost blind so I would have to go to his office (this is why he wanted me to help him with the translations in the first place). The whole issue is that the papers need to be officially translated. Otherwise I could have translated them myself. He is one of the only two people around who can do that. Still, I'd rather wait for the other one. I'll try to get someone else to come with me. Knowing that he is blind and really old gives me some sense of security but I am really uncomfrotable about this.
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (4 December 2011):
And, I should add, if he does not return the papers, you have to inform the police.
Do not attempt to handle this on your own, if he doesn't return them to you today. This man needs a kick up his backside and he needs the cops to do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): Thanks. OP here. I know he is a pervert. Last time we met he kept telling me how younger men can't give young women orgasms. it only takes an older man (he is eighty years old) then he said that whenever one of his girl students feels stressed he massages their thighs and they feel better and offered me to live rent free to an apartment he owns. I stormed out and this is why he has my papers. When he called me today he kept giving me examples of german grammar using the word penis, claiming he was joking. So yeah, he is a pervert. I already alerted friends but no one can come with me. one is going to call me ten minutes after. He is disgusting and I know he is using the papers to lure me there. The thing is I need them urgently so I can't make an appointment when one of my friends is available. He is eighty and doesn't move easily so I am pretty sure I can handle him, I just don'e want to be in this situation at all. Thanks for the response! That was quick and appreciated
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reader, bluecow +, writes (4 December 2011):
 Take someone you trust (preferably a big strong man) with you.
keep a mobile phone with you too, just incase you need to ring the police immediatly.
Once you have your papers back (whether they are translated or not), ring the police and the organisation (or association) he works for and report his unprofessional behaviour.
Hoping everything goes ok! Above all, stay safe!
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (4 December 2011):
Oh my GOD what a creep!!! Yuk! How disgusting can people get!
Ok first of all, most importantly, meet him in a public place. Tell him you do NOT need his help, tell him you are busy and you have to meet someone, just ask for him to come to a busy place and take the papers from him. Make sure you check the parcel before you leave.
Do not waste your time telling him anything or talking to him, because that's exactly what he wants. Such creepy perverts thrive on attention, ANY kind of attention. Even if you scream at him, it'll give him a cheap thrill.
Do NOT get drawn into his offer to help you, because that seems like a ploy to get you to be near him, so he can make a move on you. That is the only reason why he is now offering help.
What translation is this? Cant you get it done professionally? It may cost more, but its worth it, as long as you don't have to deal with nonsense like this.
Do not have any further contact with him.
Please provide an update, take care and do not panic. Everything will be fine.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (4 December 2011):
 Demand your papers back from him. If he refuses, call the police as he is keeping your property and has made some sexual implications.
He can't legally keep your papers. How do you know that he is a pervert? Has he done similar things to other girls? Is he convicted at all? I would see if a friend could come with you to witness everything that happens, if something goes wrong then it won't end up being your word against his...
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