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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating my girl for 10 months and she still refuses to give me a blow job, I mean she says I am the best at eating her out but I want her to return the favour.
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 Okay, I can see how unfair this may seem on you. You are giving her oral sexual pleasure and she refuses to return the favour!
I think you need to talk to her and ask her to reason why she won't give you a blowjob. Don't just accept the situation, talk it out and get to the bottom of the issue.
However, I can understand where you girlfriend might be coming from. Personally I think the idea of giving oral is repulsive, I have tried it and I hated the experience. This could be the case for your girlfriend, perhaps she's had a bad experience with oral and doesn't want to try it again? Which would be understandable. Furthermore, How would you feel if you were being pressured into something you didn't want to do?
Key word: communication
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reader, Nitru  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 If my bf told me that he won't give me oral if I wont return the favour, I'd be seriosly mad at him. So definetly do NOT say that.
So very possibly she's too scared ro embarrased to do it or she just isn't one of those who would do such a thing. Yeh basically talking helps most times. So talk :)
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (8 February 2010):
 To 'eat her out' ..... such a horrible description of a glorious act.
People of your age tend to make sex a power struggle. That is just immaturity and inexperience. But I want to ask you WHY you give your girl oral.
Do you do it to get her off?
Do you do it because you like giving her immense pleasure?
Or do you do it, simply because you want her to give you a blow job in return?
Examine your motives. Then, accept that you cant force her to do anything sexual. So stop trying.
She needs to mature to the point where she is comfortable with the thought of a penis in her mouth, and what to do. It might be with you, it might be ten years from now. There are no guarantees.
People who say 'don't give her oral, unless she gives it to you' are sending you down the wrong road. This will only lead to the point where the oral sex fight is the focal point of your relationship, and ends with bitterness on both sides.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): Tell her that you will eat her out only if she reciprocates. If she doesnt want to give you oral - dont give her oral!
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