He says if I don't sleep with him, he won't help with our children
Q. heres the story: about 5 months ago my live-in boyfriend of 5 years left me. He instantly had a gf (which leads me to believe he was seeing her before the break up, altho he denies it) anyway, we keep in touch bc we have to, as we have children ...
A. 9 July 2009: If you are afraid he will physically harm you get a restraining order against him. also try to get at least temporary custody of the kids until the custody case has been completed. if you are unsucessful in that if you tell them he threatend to ... (read in full...)
I don't want to use birth control and don't want her to get pregnant
Q. when is it ok for me to cum inside my girl???wit no pill and no condoms.. and please dont tell me to use a condom cuz its not the same and i dont want to hear .make her take pills.. ...
A. 6 July 2009: As the old saying goes - you can't have your cake and eat it too... You don't want to wear a condom, you don't want her to take the pill. Try holding hands! That should solve the pregnancy problem.... (read in full...)
Who do I choose as my other birth partner?
Q. My baby is due in 6 weeks and Im really excited... not nervous... honestly :) My problem is that other than my fiance I dont know who I want in the delivery room with me, my mom or my mother in law. This might seem like a straight forward cho...
A. 5 July 2009: I think you need your mom there. My mom was there for both of my kids births. It's a cherrished memory. I don't think there is anything like seeing your baby, have a baby. Break it easy to your future mother in law - she will understand and she ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to stay friends when we love each other? We're both married!
Q. hi if you are friends with a married man, you spend time alone together, and your friendship has quite obviously taken a turn towards being romantic; you've both admitted to each other that you want more and that you've fallen in love; he's told ...
A. 5 July 2009: Unless you two plan on getting divorces, I suggest ending this relationship. right now you are torturing yourselves. you don't need to put your hand in the fire to know that it will burn you.
If the current marriages go south then you can see what... (read in full...)
I'm so lonely. I don't have a single friend...
Q. I'm so alone. I know half of this has to do with my actions. But! I'm so alone. Sorry if this is long but I need help!!!!! I don't have a single friend that I could call on if I needed too. I went thru high school with tons of friends and dropped ...
A. 5 July 2009: It sounds like you don't have problems making friends, its just that they are usually at places where you will only be for a limited time (school) and when that time is up you drift apart.
I suggest joining a club or some organization that will... (read in full...)
Just found out he's married and unsure of what to do. I don't want to be his bit on the side!
Q. I've been having an affair with a married man, although not for the usual reasons. Before people criticise me, I didn't know he was married at all - not one bit. In fact I didn't even know until now, as on Sunday night we were at the pub ...
A. 3 July 2009: "How can I ever be sure that I'm not going to just be some married man's bit on the side again" Every man is not like this low life. Take a little while for yourself and then get back out there. You live and learn. Use this as a learning exper... (read in full...)
Should I tell my 11 year old cousin that I love her?
Q. Hi i am an 18 year old boy and last week i met my cousin who is 11years old actually i met her for the very first time...we had nice time and became really very close.but i have fallen in love with her i am too much attracted to her. What shall i ...
A. 3 July 2009: Cousin or not she is 11 years old. leave her alone.... (read in full...)
Broken...
Q. Hello, I've been in a relationship for 6 years with this woman who is now 31. She was a single mom of 3 kids with three different fathers, a high school drop out. I became daddy #4 four years ago. In our house there is a total of 6 different ...
A. 3 July 2009: With the restraining order I guess you have no choice but to leave. But I do feel for you, there are men out there that don't want to take care of their own children much less someone else's children. I applaud you for that. The only thing you c... (read in full...)
Seeing a married man and he wants us to have sex in his wife's bed!
Q. I'm 18 and seeing a married man of 40, and its just mainly sex but i wish he would leave his wife for me, we usually have sex in his car and he suggested how hot and thrilling it would be to have sex in his and his wife's bed? The only thing...
A. 2 July 2009: If the only thing you are worried about is that you "might get caught" then you have a bigger problem than can be solved by us.
Having sex in that womans bed is the height of disrespect. she does NOT deserve that!
It is disrespectful to you too.... (read in full...)
Advice please? Do I have a yeast infection?
Q. so... this is really gross! but i think i might have some kind of bacterial or yeast infection! there's a discharge and it's kinda yellowish-white. smells kinda like chlorine. and it gets clumpy like cottage cheese! what is it?...
A. 2 July 2009: It does sound like a yeast infection. if it is your first time you should have a doctor diagnose it as such. after that a round of the over the counter medication Monistat 7 or Monistat 3 uaually work for me.... (read in full...)
He told me he was divorced now I want him to leave his wife for me!
Q. I know your all gonna call me bad names but its so hard, i really like him and miss him loads, when i met him he told me he was divorced and i deserve a nice rich boyfriend and said he would fit that category, hes a lawyer and gets paid a fair ...
A. 1 July 2009: He can get sex in a car from a prostitute. He's getting you for free. If he's all that rich at least make him splurge for dinner and a room. Looks like he's getting the better end of the deal and what are you getting - a creak in the neck.
... (read in full...)
I hate my boyfriend's sister with such a passion.
Q. I hate my boyfriend's sister with such a passion. At first we got on well, I'd heard of her before, she is one year below me and is known for having a bit of a bad reputation. my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 months and last month af...
A. 29 June 2009: You are dating your boyfriend not her. be civil when you have to be in her presence but that's all that is required.
You and your boyfriend have made up and resolved your differences, but the sister has never appologized so as far as you are conc... (read in full...)
My wife watches a lot of porn. Is this normal?
Q. I just found out my wife has a tonne of porn on her laptop. We have an ok sex life having sex about 2 times a week but many times she turns me down. I noticed she seldom goes to bed the same time I do and comes to bed really late like 2am. Her ex...
A. 29 June 2009: I don't think this is abnormal at all. the same way a man can look at porn and get off, a woman can do the same thing. most times a women is just better at not being discovered watching it.... (read in full...)
I know things could be a LOT worse, but seriously?
Q. December of last year was not my best month. The first of December, my mother passed away from breast cancer. The seventh of December, I got into a car accident that left me with a broken leg (currently in the cast) and $1600 in debt. The twentieth ...
A. 29 June 2009: That sounds terrible. The only thing I can say is to please continue to pray and you are in my prayers.... (read in full...)
My guy best friend has a girlfriend, I don't know where this jealousy is coming from!
Q. My bestfriend of 10 years has a girlfriend now. I always had a boyfriend but up until the guy im wit i never thought of anything serious. He is the only boy i trust with no doubts and the only person who can bring a smile on my face at the worst of ...
A. 29 June 2009: Could it be that you are just having withdrawals? This guy who you have been telling all of your secrets to and visa versa, now has a new lady who has entered the picture.
You used to have all of his attention, now you have to share him with this... (read in full...)
Having an affair with a married man and don't know what to do. I just want to be happy!
Q. I am sitting here with a very heavy heart . I have fallen for a married man and don't know what to do . To be honest I'm not sure if you'd say I was " in love " with him .... but very much " in like " . We have been friends on and off for years ...
A. 29 June 2009: "I just want to be happy" are you happy? You are seeing a man who is by your own words using you, contacts you only when he feels like it, he leaves you hanging like a puppet, you contact him to "see if he is coming" and he leaves you sitting ... (read in full...)
Is it just the attention from another male that makes me feel well?
Q. This is going to sound horrible.. and I already feel like I know the responses I will recieve.. but here I go. Long story short, my friend and I went out drinking one nite.. met sum guys, talked for about 3 hours and the one guy and I made out for a ...
A. 29 June 2009: Throw this fish back in the water. Sure he's going to say he's unhappy and is staying in the marriage just for the kids. What would be the alternative. I am happily married to the best woman in the world but I still want to screw you every now an... (read in full...)
What was your favorite age and why?
Q. hey guys and girls can you answer this plz , tell me which period of age was your favorite and why !!!!!...
A. 28 June 2009: Well I hate to be the old croney in the bunch but I would say I'm the happiest I've ever been right now, and believe me I'm one of the lucky ones, I've had a pretty blessed life. I'm 34. But right now I'm settled. good husband, wonderful kids, ... (read in full...)
I hate it when he has to go to his wife! It's like he never has time for me...
Q. Im 18 and hes 40 and where having an affair, i hate it when he has to go to his wife, help? First of all he told me got divorced at christmas and he was 2 kids who are 3 and 7 who live with the mum, then he finally admited he was still married an...
A. 28 June 2009: What do you do. End this one sided "relationship", Get you a man of your own, and don't date anyone else's husband ever again. as soon as he told you he was still married you should have turned out the lights and exited stage right. the show... (read in full...)
We've tried everything we can think of, but I just can't get pregnant!
Q. hi guys , i have been married for 2 years and trying to concieve for 1 year and half but no luck . we have tried different positions . but i want to know whats the best position for getting pregnant ? and can i still get pregnant if i'm on top or...
A. 28 June 2009: Please don't give up. It was at the moment when I had started to give up that I got pregnant. I know it's hard and depressing. A kind of sadness that can't be explained. I felt like less than a woman to see everyone around me getting pregnant... (read in full...)
He's been visiting the mother of his fourth child without my knowledge!
Q. My husband had 3 children before we met. We went out for a while and then seperated to give each other time to figure out if we wanted to be together long term. While we were seperated, he entered another relationship and had a child. Shortly before ...
A. 26 June 2009: I really see a red flag with the 4th woman. if he is open with you about the first 3 women than why is he so secretive about the 4th one, unless he has something to hide.
I absoulutely belive that a man or woman should have contact with their chil... (read in full...)
My child's father want's me back after he ran off with another women and got married.
Q. Hi there i need some advice , my kid is 7 years old i'm in a relationship with someone else not his dad, thing is my boyfriend and i have both been very busy with studies spent very little time together. My childs father is now married to his sugar ...
A. 26 June 2009: I know that this man probaly brings back a lot of memories for you, as you have a lot of history together; but this man is MARRIED. he needs to resolve whatever is going on in his life before you start anything with him. He hurt you before and now ... (read in full...)
My fiancée has no enthusiasm for planning our wedding, should I end it?
Q. I feel like I may be acting stupid, but, I have been with my lady for over 2 years and we have been engaged for 6 months and have been living together for 3 months. I thought when a couple gets engaged that they begin to plan the wedding, also, I ...
A. 25 June 2009: No need to cancel the wedding. she IS excited about marrying you, just not so excited about this big expensive wedding. she still loves you, you still love her. She just dosen't want a huge wedding. Maybe she is not much for planning, you need ... (read in full...)
She told the guy I love that I'm getting married but it's not true. What should I do?
Q. my best friend told the person that i love am getting married this summer and its not true and he hasnt spoken to me since then until yesterday he sent me a message saying : congratulations for marriage and wished me happiness , i have no idea ...
A. 25 June 2009: Send him back a message and say "what marriage? I'm not getting married, I've been waiting on you!!" then let him know that you're happy to hear from him and hope he stays in touch.
PS, get rid of the "friend", with friends like that who need... (read in full...)
He fractured my collar bone...is this likely to happen again?
Q. Hi. Well basically i have been with my boyfriend for about 7 months. We're fine, completely, the only problems we've had are his temper. He has a tendency to get extremely agitated and argumentative and often takes stuff out on me (not physical). ...
A. 24 June 2009: Ok let me get this straight.
In 7 Months...
He shoved you, then said he didn't mean to.
He saw you speaking to another man, he then procedded to hit you and he FRACTURED YOUR COLLAR BONE and said it was because he had been drinking. (commo... (read in full...)
He masturbates to my cousin's naked pics! I'm so angry about this..am I over reacting?
Q. I have a 20 year old cousin who works as a model. Recently I found my husband keeps naked pictures of her in his sock drawer. We see her at family gatherings and I'm scared he will want to have an affair with her. She flirts a lot with him but ...
A. 24 June 2009: I don't think you are overreacting. its one thing when its some movie star that he will never have a snowballs chance in hell of ever meeting much less have an affair with. but its another thing when the person is someone who he has access to. ... (read in full...)
Can anyone help me make sense of this behaviour?
Q. Hi, I'm hoping for some advice/support. I'm very upset about comments that my partner makes. I've been with him for 4.5 years and gave him loads of support when his ex wife was divorcing him. I live in a council house, have two mixed race c...
A. 24 June 2009: He is insecure AND nasty!! yep all of the above. Of course he's loving, loyal and generous if he wasn't he wouldn't have gotten you in the first place. but now he is showing his true colors. His ex-wife got rid of him for a reason, and now ... (read in full...)
I've never had an issue with my body until my boyfriend started making comments about my weight!
Q. I'm 5ft8 and a size 12-14 which ive always thought is pretty normal. My bodies in proportion and ive never really had an issue with it. Until i got with my boyfriend and now am sexually active, i was before but only little flings, ive never been ...
A. 23 June 2009: I'm 5'8" and I wear a size 14. In my college days I wore a size 10 and weighed 136 pounds soaking wet. I was tiny and couldn't gain weight to save my life. If ever got down to a size 8 It would be because I had some kind of eating disorder or was ... (read in full...)
He says if I don't sleep with him, he won't help with our children
Q. heres the story: about 5 months ago my live-in boyfriend of 5 years left me. He instantly had a gf (which leads me to believe he was seeing her before the break up, altho he denies it) anyway, we keep in touch bc we have to, as we have children ...
A. 23 June 2009: Get a good Lawyer (a public defender is free) and take him to court. Tell the judge that currently he is watching the children so that you can work. If he refuses to watch the children while you work ask for that much more in the child support ... (read in full...)
G/f threw me out because I laughed when her bikini top got pulled off
Q. My girlfriend (of 2 years) is really mad at me for not covering her up at a pool party when my friend pulled off her bikini top and all I did was laugh and well me and my friend (we were both pretty drunk at the time) played monkey in the middle ...
A. 19 June 2009: How do you make it up to her? by leaving her alone you insensitive brute. you should have pounded that guy who took your girlfriends top off, instead you added to her humiliation. She walks home and you didn't see fit to show up until 3 hours ... (read in full...)
He said he didn't fancy me as much as her! Is this true?
Q. Hi I have a sex question. I had a messy get together with my boyfriend and his ex was a little upset and tried to stir some trouble. She told me one night how he had had this massive premature ejaculation problem previously (when he was with her), I ...
A. 18 June 2009: If he fancied her he'd still be with her. I think the green-eyed monster has gotten a hold of the ex and she can't stand to see you guys happy. You said "Since I have asked him, he has started to have premature ejaculation" - leave the poor g... (read in full...)
My wife's dad died she's so upset..I want to help her but I'm not sure how to!
Q. Hey everyone! Ok i'd like a little advice because i feel so bad not knowing what to do or say. 2 Weeks ago my wifes dad died. The funerals was last week etc and after that she seemed to be alright. Well not alright but she was coping.. I think i ...
A. 18 June 2009: Just Hold Her.
Don't say anything, don't try to make her talk about anything. Just sit beside her, or lay beside her and just reach out and hold her in your arms. That is worth a thousand words. Kiss her on the forhead or on the top of her head... (read in full...)
My husband says if I engage in a threesome just once, he'll stop the flirting and porn...
Q. Please Help if you can! My hubby is overseas til September..since he has been gone he has been signing up on singles sites as single, going to porn sites and even sent a sex letter to a gal that is supposed to be my friend..now, I know he has ...
A. 18 June 2009: You have a threesome and he will stop, cold turkey, all the wrong he is doing. I DONT THINK SO. You need to tell him that he needs to stop doing his dirt now, period; and then maybe you'll allow him to come back home in September. because he has ... (read in full...)
We've tried everything we can think of, but I just can't get pregnant!
Q. hi guys , i have been married for 2 years and trying to concieve for 1 year and half but no luck . we have tried different positions . but i want to know whats the best position for getting pregnant ? and can i still get pregnant if i'm on top or...
A. 18 June 2009: We tried for 3 years. I had to take medication and got pregnant with our first one. Got pregnant again (without even trying) with the second one. Now we have two little ones running around.
if you go to fertility treatment they will want you... (read in full...)
Do I need to be worried about my husband visiting our neighbour?
Q. i've been crying all day. i really don't know what to do. let me explain. my hubbie and i went to a neighbor's party this weekend. there were about a dozen people there including my good friend vicky and her husband carl. it was good at first ...
A. 17 June 2009: This just dosen't seem right. your trying to tell me that out of a dozen people, 6 couples, no one, not one person said anything to their husbands while they were having sex with this woman. and the woman whose husband was first in line just got ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of the douche bag?
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up a little over a month ago. She cheated on me with some guy on spring break and a week after we broke up she hooked up with this same guy. I found out that she cheated with him after we broke up and after I heard that ...
A. 17 June 2009: You should thank your lucky stars that you found out about her. It looks like the other guy dosen't want her either because you keep saying "hooked up" instead of dating.
Just be glad that she is now someone elses problem and not yours. you'll f... (read in full...)
Is ignoring someone a good way to break up with them?
Q. I am breaking up with my girlfriend. I plan on doing the whole ignoring treatment. I stopped talking to her, I stopped calling and I am ignoring her txt msgs. She has a feeling that I will be doing this. Is this a good method and what would...
A. 17 June 2009: Now you know this is wrong that's why you're asking the question. You should sit down and talk to her like a man and not run away like a wimp.
Tell her how you feel, nicely. This will bring closure to the relationship and won't leave her wond... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and sister got into a fight...how to fix this?
Q. I went to my sister's fiancé's birthday with my girlfriend of 4 years. My sister and girlfriend don't get along that well for reason, They fight until me or her fiance break it up. My sister can't have any kids because she had a eating disorder in ...
A. 16 June 2009: I can't think of a more hurtful thing you can say to a woman who wants, but can't have kids. Your Girlfriend was TOTALLY out of line. If she dosen't like your sister than she should have stayed home. She knew that she was going to be at her ... (read in full...)
I feel like a child compared to my friends because I'm not having sex, drinking and taking drugs!
Q. Im 14 years old and all my friends are already having sex and giving guys BJs and drinking, drugs ect... i really don't fit in but for some reason im friends with them there nice people but i feel as if im werid cos i dont have a boyfriend and im q...
A. 15 June 2009: You are actually being the most mature one of the group!
I shy away from reading the posts from some the younger group because its depressing to me. all of the talk of sex and blowjobs and such from such young, young children.
Please contin... (read in full...)
Mom's boyfriend came into my room and played with me..how do I tell my mom?
Q. okay, last night my mom had to work (as usual). her boyfriend just moved in last week, so he is around when she's not. last night before I fell asleep, he came in my room and sat on my bed. he talked to me about boys and how now i was old enough to ...
A. 15 June 2009: This really pisses me off, so I have to say something else.
Just like the other poster said.
Feeling pleasure in your private region is susposed to happen. just like giggling when some one tickles you, or feeling pain when you stomp your t... (read in full...)
Mom's boyfriend came into my room and played with me..how do I tell my mom?
Q. okay, last night my mom had to work (as usual). her boyfriend just moved in last week, so he is around when she's not. last night before I fell asleep, he came in my room and sat on my bed. he talked to me about boys and how now i was old enough to ...
A. 15 June 2009: Look young lady, I don't care if you jumped on his lap and begged for it. He is a full grown man and you are a young child.
THIS IS HIS FAULT NOT YOURS!!!
You did absolutely NOTHING wrong.
If you where my child I'd be spitting mad but ... (read in full...)
Married co-worker is like a drug to me
Q. 8 months ago I started a new job and everyone was talking about the Rob the cute married guy that has a bitch of a wife . She would show up at our office and yell at him in front of everyone, and he just seemed to allow her to do it. Within the ...
A. 15 June 2009: Tell him to "show you the papers", divorce papers that is. He may seem like the love of your life but right now he's the love of someone elses life. Namely his leagally wedded wife.
You don't really know why his wife was screaming at him. Ma... (read in full...)
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