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He said he didn't fancy me as much as her! Is this true?

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Question - (18 June 2009) 11 Answers - (Newest, 16 July 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, *edshoes83 writes:

Hi I have a sex question. I had a messy get together with my boyfriend and his ex was a little upset and tried to stir some trouble. She told me one night how he had had this massive premature ejaculation problem previously (when he was with her), I had never noticed it. She said that was because he got over it with me as he doesn't fancy me as much as he did her. Firstly is this true?!

Secondly I asked him about it, as we are very open and I was worried about it. Since I have asked him, he has started to have premature ejaculation. This isn't really a problem as we will have sex once, it will be over quite quickly, but as we are both highly sexed we will have sex again soon after, and are both satisfied. I have told him How I do not feel it is a problem (which I honestly don't) in the hope he will not be nervous about it.

So basically, is what she said correct and that he didn't have it because he doesn't fancy me...?

and are there any hints to help this problem if it does become a problem?

rant over! will appreciate any help you can give!

x

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A female reader, redshoes83 United Kingdom +, writes (16 July 2009):

redshoes83 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

redshoes83 agony auntsorry just to let you know, i did not steal him they had been split up for about 3 months before anything happened between me and him.

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A female reader, redshoes83 United Kingdom +, writes (16 July 2009):

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redshoes83 agony auntsorry just to let you know, i did not steal him they had been split up for about 3 months before anything happened between me and him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009):

since you were messing with her bf at the time and you "stole" him from her, she is jealous. so maybe also cut her some slack, after all she is human too.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009):

dont listen to her shit.

hes with you right not her?

so be happy and enjoy your bf :)

and you can just as easily listen to some of my (probably true) shit:

- he probably didnt care as much about her so he finished quick. but for you he cares more so hell keep on going.

- maybe hes started getting more nervous with you thinking youll expect him to perform well and want more from you after hearing about you asking about his ex

- maybe he thinks you want him to have premature ejaculations?

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A female reader, babymama99 United States +, writes (18 June 2009):

babymama99 agony auntIf he fancied her he'd still be with her. I think the green-eyed monster has gotten a hold of the ex and she can't stand to see you guys happy.

You said "Since I have asked him, he has started to have premature ejaculation" - leave the poor guy alone. he probably had just learnd to control himself. now because of the ex its back, front and center in his mind.

Chalk the ex-girlfriend up to what she is, a has been trying to cause trouble.

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A female reader, redshoes83 United Kingdom +, writes (18 June 2009):

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redshoes83 agony auntjust to set things straight! it wasn't him who said that he didn't fancy me as much as her!!! it was his ex that said she thought that was why he didn't have the problem with me!

when i asked him, he said that was ridiculous.

I think you are right and she is a jealous ex, just wanted to check! thank you for your replies xxx

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A female reader, redshoes83 United Kingdom +, writes (18 June 2009):

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redshoes83 agony auntjust to set things straight! it wasn't him who said that he didn't fancy me as much as her!!! it was his ex that said she thought that was why he didn't have the problem with me!

when i asked him, he said that was ridiculous.

I think you are right and she is a jealous ex, just wanted to check! thank you for your replies xxx

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A female reader, redshoes83 United Kingdom +, writes (18 June 2009):

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redshoes83 agony auntjust to set things straight! it wasn't him who said that he didn't fancy me as much as her!!! it was his ex that said she thought that was why he didn't have the problem with me!

when i asked him, he said that was ridiculous.

I think you are right and she is a jealous ex, just wanted to check! thank you for your replies xxx

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (18 June 2009):

Honeypie agony auntSorry hun, but really you need to stop listening to her. She is a jealous bitch.

Sometimes they off a little fast other times they last longer, it doesn't mean the guy loves you any more or any less.

Next time you see her tell her that he can go on for hour with you. That will give her something to think about.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (18 June 2009):

eyeswideopen agony auntHis ex is feeding you a bunch of baloney, ignore her. It sounds like your sex life is just fine to me.

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A female reader, saraann12345 United Kingdom +, writes (18 June 2009):

Honey, this just screams jealous ex! He probably feels relaxed with you so it hasn't been an issue. Ignore his ex, hopefully she will soon go away.

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