Women only: Oral sex or intercourse?
Q. This questions is for women only: This might sound like a weird question but just think about it for a minute. If you had to choose between really good oral sex or actual intercourse - Which would you prefer, a really good tongue licking you dry all ...
A. 28 July 2009: Intercourse! No Contest.... (read in full...)
He slept with 71 women, I've only been with 2 men - am I over reacting?
Q. Ive just found out that my boyfriend of 5 month has slept with 71 women!! I went out with him the other nite and i heard a conversation mentioned bout the number 71 i asked him and he said i was number 72! I feel sick cos i got the impression that ...
A. 25 July 2009: You do have self worth, that's why you're out here talking to us. You know that this is not the life you want.
You can do bad all by yourself, you don't need this creep to help you along. Leave him please. tell him that #75 is signing off. he... (read in full...)
We have an agreement so my wife can have sex with another man, but now he has started to be abusive to her!
Q. I have a new question . My wife has had sex with another guy while we are married. And thats ok with me because i have medical problems that prevent me from getting an erection .AND we both are in agreement about this arrangement so dont preach to ...
A. 24 July 2009: I assume this guy is paying her for keeping his child. If she is working for this man then she needs to get another job. It would be the same on any job you work at, abuse is abuse.
Oh yeah, she should also find someone else to sleep with, no... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's blue balls.....he says if I don't give him head he will leave me!
Q. My boyfriend says every time we hang out he gets blue balls and is in pain for hours, even days. It causes him headaches and muscle cramps too. I do plenty of sexual things for him almost every time we hang out. He's tried masturbating beforehand, ...
A. 24 July 2009: Excellent! Thanks for letting us know that we made a difference, and that you're going to give him the boot.
God Bless!!... (read in full...)
19 and looking to get my tubes tied
Q. I am currently 19 and looking into getting my tubes tied. I know that this is a risky operation and I can blow my chances of ever having children but I am strongly curious about this option. Does anyone know what the chances are of pregnancy after a ...
A. 23 July 2009: Great day in the morning women, don't do this!! This is major surgery. I know someone who had her tubes tied, this was after she had already had two kids and decided she didn't want anymore. Well she eventually met a man and got married and her ... (read in full...)
I need a date for the wedding fast!
Q. Hi! Need a bit of advice please guys and galls, Been invited to a mates wedding at work but the invite is for mke plus partner im single have been for 2 months. I really wanna go to the wedding but cant let my mate down I need to find a date ...
A. 21 July 2009: You don't have to take a love interest. Take a good friend or a relative that you don't mind hanging out with.
Or you could get together with your other co-workers that are going to the wedding and hang out with them.
Or you could go stag. Y... (read in full...)
Foreskin doesn't retract! Help!
Q. i am 20 years old and a hindu. when my penis is erect , my foreskin gets tight and doesnt pull back... plz tell me some soluton to it as i fear that it will affect my married life? [email address removed per DearCupid guidelines] plz r...
A. 21 July 2009: I know a guy who had the same problem as you. He had to get circumcised to remove that skin.
Talk to your doctor see what he says.... (read in full...)
How do I come clean to my mum that the condom she found was mine and my boyfriend's?
Q. my mom found a condom that me and my boyfriend used but i couldnt find any excuse but to tell her that it was one of my friends from work that put it in my bag but i find it hard to believe that she believed me and im 16! i dont know how to tell her ...
A. 21 July 2009: That's right rcn!
I dated my boyfriend (now husband) for 3 months. I told my parents that I was meeting some of my friends and going out. finally I decided to bring my boyfrind home to meet my parents so I told my mom that I had met this guy... (read in full...)
How do I come clean to my mum that the condom she found was mine and my boyfriend's?
Q. my mom found a condom that me and my boyfriend used but i couldnt find any excuse but to tell her that it was one of my friends from work that put it in my bag but i find it hard to believe that she believed me and im 16! i dont know how to tell her ...
A. 21 July 2009: ha ha ha, I agree with the other posters. She already knows sweetheart. One of your friends put a dirty condom in your bag and it made it all the way home contents in tact. I don't think so, and neither does she.
Maybe she's just letting ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's blue balls.....he says if I don't give him head he will leave me!
Q. My boyfriend says every time we hang out he gets blue balls and is in pain for hours, even days. It causes him headaches and muscle cramps too. I do plenty of sexual things for him almost every time we hang out. He's tried masturbating beforehand, ...
A. 21 July 2009: Get rid of this wierdo. If he's in pain for hours and days, with headaches and muscle cramps; then he needs to see a doctor because there is something wrong with him. Menally and Physically. Think about it what would happen if he didn't have a ... (read in full...)
She's way too pretty for me but I like her!
Q. last night i went to the cinema with my friends and and there was this girl who went with us and i ended up stareing at her more than the movie. i think that this girl is way to pretty to go out with me but i still like her has anyone got any ideas ...
A. 20 July 2009: I have seen some beautiful females with some ugly guys. And the first thing you wonder is what in the world is she doing with him. But the fact of the matter is that its not the wrapping that makes a girl swoon, its the present on the inside.
A... (read in full...)
Is there an instrument that detects infidelity?
Q. if i have sex with another man will my husband know? i hear there is an instrument which detects that on this date you had sex with another man is it true? please assist?...
A. 20 July 2009: Yes there is a tool that will detect the hormones that were secreted from your other lover. if the hormones don't match up with the husbands then the detector will alert.
If you believe that, I have a bridge in Brooklyn I want to sell you, I ... (read in full...)
My dad won't let me and my boyfriend sleep in the same bed, and he keeps checking on us! What can I do?
Q. I am 19, my boyfriend is 19, we have been together for 5 years. the problem is: My dad wont allow us to sleep together in the same bed! i have been respectful towards my dad for years always going to sleep on the couch a couple times a week ...
A. 20 July 2009: Move Out!!
Stay with the boyfriend at his house. Is he still living with his parents?
Your father has every right to lay down the law in HIS house. You need to continue to respect that until you are living in YOUR house.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been calling me horrible names but always claims he is joking after!
Q. my boyfriend and i have a very close relationship we've been on and off but recently he's been calling me a bitch a slag and a c**t wen i say thats rude he always replies with im jokin but is he really joking but i love him so much i could never ...
A. 20 July 2009: The next time he calls you a name you call him a limp dick, bastard. then smile and say oh just kidding.
Most people who do stuff like this can dish it out but they can't take it. When he realizes that you can "joke" the same way he can he'l... (read in full...)
How can I stop my posessive feelings?
Q. Hi there, Quick outline to my situation: I live with my friend, who's also a work colleague. We sleep together also, in the same bed every night (we do have separate bedrooms though.) We moved in together after breaking up with our long term pa...
A. 17 July 2009: The first thing you need to do is sleep in your own bedroom, alone. The second thing you need to do is go out and develop friendships of your own. join a club or some other social networking event. Get a boyfriend. don't sit around waiting f... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend I caught her boyfriend cheating? I don't want her to lose her virginity to him!
Q. I saw my friend's boyfriend cheat on her at this party that my boyfriend was hosting at his place (he lives on his own). She was looking for him cause he told her needed to a phone call half an hour ago. Anyway she asked me and my boyfriend if we ...
A. 17 July 2009: Yes!!! you have no obligation to him. and he has already shown that he has no love for his girlfriend.
Tell her what you saw and then she can make the decision about her virginity accordingly. but at least you won't have the guilt that you knew... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a married man and now I'm worried his wife will confront me at work!
Q. Hello, Iv got a problem, I slept with a married man now things are kinda getting freaky, I slept with him a couple times, i work very closely with him, i called it off after he told me that he "loved me" His wife became suspicious (during ...
A. 17 July 2009: Ok, you said you know you made a mistake that you won't repeat - so for that I say good for you. And I can put my double barrel away.
As for the wife, I don't think she is going to confront you. she threated you with going to the next level if... (read in full...)
How do I tell my lover that he squashes me during sex because of his weight?
Q. I was wondering if anyone can give me some advice as to handle this, I have a lover who while is not obese but is about 25kilos heavyer than me .when we have sex he likes to lay on top of me with all his weight sometimes i feel like i'm being ...
A. 17 July 2009: I know this might sound strange but, stop breathing for a few seconds. just hold your breath. then when he says "what's wrong?" say NICELY "you're kind of heavy I can't breath". then he can just use his knees and elbows to take some of the weight ... (read in full...)
How can I chase her without putting on pressure?
Q. My ex-fiance and I split up about 2 months ago. About two weeks ago she approached me via email and we have been talking daily since then, and seen each other almost every day since, but only for a few minutes, just to see each other and talk to ...
A. 13 July 2009: Just do what you did when you first started dating. you didn't run her off then did you? in fact you've been together long enough to become engaged, so you must have been doing something right.... (read in full...)
How can I mention to him that he has forgotten my birthday!!!
Q. Well today is my birthday and I have been seeing this guy for about 3 months or so, but he seems to have forgotten. What should I do? I do not want to immediately freak out or anything and start yelling or screaming but I can not help feeling a b...
A. 13 July 2009: Just say something referring to your birthday like "I treated my self to a nice manicure on my birthday YESTERDAY, do you like it." I'm sure he will be horrified that he missed it.
I'm sure it was an honest mistake. And whose to know he may be p... (read in full...)
I got irresponsibly drunk, had sex and my parents want to sue him
Q. i kinda got raped. i cant explain but i can try. i was drunk. i passed out , was consantly throwing up, but continued drinking. he carried me into his room. i was awake, i didntr say no but i didnt say yes either. im 16 and he is 22. my parents ...
A. 12 July 2009: You are under the age of 18, he is over the age of 18. That makes you a minor and him an adult. That is statutory rape. Your parents have the right to have him up on criminal charges, even if you were completely sober and willingly consented.
I... (read in full...)
I'm a longer but I don't really want to be
Q. I am a male, 18, and have no idea what to do about me. I am quite an anxious person, and want advice on what to do. I find it quite hard to interact with other people, often people my own age. I never eat with other people at college and rarely make ...
A. 12 July 2009: My advice is to be confortable with yourself. there is nothing wrong with not feeling confortable around a bunch of people. You are an introverted person thats all, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
You want to be the life of the ... (read in full...)
Boys look at me but say nothing, is it because I am fat?
Q. I feel really fat and like no one wants to go out with me. I weigh 150 but I am 5'8" and all of my friends say I am not fat and it's just muscle. I play a lot of sports but I still feel like I am fat and ugly. i have a lot of guy friends but I want ...
A. 12 July 2009: First of all you are not fat. I looked up the chart for your height and you should be between 136-150 pounds. for a larger frame person it can go up to 167 pounds. so I would say you are just fine.
I am also 5'8" and I reached my full height righ... (read in full...)
My stepfather to be wants me to call him dad, he is abusive and I don't like him, what can I do?
Q. Hey everyone I need a little help as some of you know my dad past away not to long ago. And my Mom seems to be over it already cause she's getting married and I just got out of the hospital a little while ago cause of my accident with a dirtbike. So ...
A. 11 July 2009: Sweetheart, I know you feel a certain responsibility for your mom, maybe stiming from the fact that you are the oldest. But, your mother has made her decision to stay with this moron and there is pretty much nothing you can do about it. so don't ... (read in full...)
Best friend's boyfriend is coming on to me!
Q. i think my best friends boyfriend keeps coming on to me! He will say things like, i wish she was more like you, i think your gorgeous, can i pop round and see you etc! They have been together for 3 years and they have a little boy together, i know ...
A. 10 July 2009: I had that situation once. My ex-best friend called me from her boyfriends house. When she left he dialed *69 on the phone (this will ring back the last number you called) and called me back. then he started trying to ask me out. I told him to ... (read in full...)
Should I run away to my father's?
Q. Hi, My parents have been divorced for several years. I used to live one week at my daddy's and one week at my mom's. Then I had some problems with my dad when teenage came. So I stopped the one-week-thing to live with my mom. I don't see my dad...
A. 10 July 2009: I think that's fine.
The reason you're not with your dad is because you choose not to be. and he allowed you to make that choice. but seeing as he is still looking after you by going to your school and such shows that you are still importan... (read in full...)
He kissed me and only got a semi-erect penis?
Q. So last night my male friend gave me a smooch on the lips goodbye. Although we are just friends he always plants one on my lips. So i asked him last night why he kisses me on my lips instead of my cheek and he said I ask for it. Ok...yes I secretly ...
A. 10 July 2009: He kisses you on the lips because he WANTS to. If he didn't want to he would wave at you on the way out the door.
He got as semi-erection because you were turning him on. He left because he knew that if he continued, in just a few more seconds ... (read in full...)
6 years ago he touched me inappropriately and now he wants to be friends!
Q. when i was 7 i was sexualy touched during a game of truth or dare. The rules were was if u don't do the dare u had to take a pice of cloths of and i had gottin down to my underwear and shirt and when i did not do another dare i did not want to take ...
A. 10 July 2009: He is bigger and stronger now.
You could say well he was only 10 then. Well I don't know to many 10 year olds that will tell someone they will hurt them with a knife and then proceed to touch them against their will. this is NOT a normal 1... (read in full...)
Barriers in our Love
Q. Hi, I am really in love with my girlfriend of 3 months.I have given up alot for her and she knows that and she loves me like crazy. But my mind keeps saying there will be barriers that will keep us apart and there is nothing I can do about it. I r...
A. 10 July 2009: Also: sex after marriage is just fine in fact I recommend it.... (read in full...)
Barriers in our Love
Q. Hi, I am really in love with my girlfriend of 3 months.I have given up alot for her and she knows that and she loves me like crazy. But my mind keeps saying there will be barriers that will keep us apart and there is nothing I can do about it. I r...
A. 10 July 2009: You are being obsessive. Creating problems where there is none. You care for your girlfriend so much that instead of living in the now and enjoying your time together you are creating these worst case senarios in your head and concentrating on ... (read in full...)
I'm much older than him and he's interested and I want to make his first time memorable
Q. I live alone, and there's a boy in my neighborhood who helps me out with odd jobs. He turned 18 two months ago. He's leaving for college in September and has been nervous about the whole thing. We were talking about it recently. I told him not ...
A. 9 July 2009: LOL,
The ladies are saying "are you crazy - leave him alone"
The guys are saying "are you crazy - go for it!"
I think I'll stay neutral. :)... (read in full...)
He says if I don't sleep with him, he won't help with our children
Q. heres the story: about 5 months ago my live-in boyfriend of 5 years left me. He instantly had a gf (which leads me to believe he was seeing her before the break up, altho he denies it) anyway, we keep in touch bc we have to, as we have children ...
A. 9 July 2009: If you are afraid he will physically harm you get a restraining order against him. also try to get at least temporary custody of the kids until the custody case has been completed. if you are unsucessful in that if you tell them he threatend to ... (read in full...)
Please help... My brother molested me and I'm afraid he'll do it again.
Q. Recently, my stepbrother has been trying to pants me. i thought it was just some inmature thing a brother would do. but last night, my step brother and me were in my room talking. We were just talking about his ex-girlfriend and other thing like ...
A. 8 July 2009: Tell your parents.
Can you lock your door? if so lock it.
If you really can't bare telling your parents - you mentioned that he was scared and didn't want to wake you. maybe you can confront him and say look I know what you were doing the o... (read in full...)
I'm so confused and I feel so used!
Q. im not sure how this whole sex thing goes im only 13. but any way heres the story and tell me what to do...okay so i have a guy friend hwo lives walking distance away. i text him sometimes and well go hang out at the sovial hall. so one t...
A. 8 July 2009: You shoudn't feel used. You were firm in what you wanted and what you didn't want. I applaud you for that.
He showed his hand. if you had went over to his house there's no telling what would have happened. you were smart to sniff this out befo... (read in full...)
Can you buy a toy on-line anonymously?
Q. I'm 17, and I really want to buy some sex toys. I'm a virgin, and I'm not in a relationship, but that's because I'm kinda shy and nervous. But I still love masturbating; I've been doing it for years. The only problem is, I'm getting bored of...
A. 7 July 2009: lol, no they won't tell. they don't care, they will process your transaction and before you can blink an eye they'll be on to someone elses.... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my weight?
Q. i have one question. i am 5"0 and i weigh about 79 my family and friends are worryed bout me but i don't make myself thow up i eat normaly i am a vegatarian so idk if this is bad. any help?...
A. 7 July 2009: I looked it up on the internet to find what the normal weight range is for a 5'0 female and it said you should be somewhere between 100 - 104 pounds. So you do seem to be significantly under weight.
Talk with your doctor to find out how to gain... (read in full...)
I don't feel an emotional connection to my son, could he be another man's?
Q. Hi I'm a 28 y.o guy and I have a three and a half year old son with my ex-wife. Even though he has my name I still don't feel an emotional connection, like a father would feel for his son. the evil tongues say he isn't really my son. and Yes my ...
A. 7 July 2009: I was reading about a mixed race couple who both look like medium brown skinned African Americans. They had twins and one twin came out looking like a medium skinned African American; the other twin came out looking totally White - I mean blond ... (read in full...)
Can you buy a toy on-line anonymously?
Q. I'm 17, and I really want to buy some sex toys. I'm a virgin, and I'm not in a relationship, but that's because I'm kinda shy and nervous. But I still love masturbating; I've been doing it for years. The only problem is, I'm getting bored of...
A. 7 July 2009: As long as you have a credit card you can buy what you want. I guess they assume that if you have a credit card your legal.
They usually send the items in plain unremarkable wrapping and will bill the credit card with an unassuming name. If t... (read in full...)
Is it hard to go through college without a parent's support?
Q. I feel so bad, that I can't help my son with his college education . I don't have the money, and it brakes my heart to see, many of his friends, just spoiled to death. Not just that they don't have to take loan, but they don't even work , when ...
A. 7 July 2009: Please don't feel bad, he has your support; thats priceless.
When I was in college I got loans and when I got out I paid them. And I am VERY proud of myself. I know that if my parents were able to pay for my higher education they would have done... (read in full...)
How do I define when is it too young or too old to have sex?
Q. is 15 young to have sex ? i was just wondering what are peaple views on 15 years olds having sex is it too young or an alright age? i would just really like to know what peaple think about it ! thakns ! x...
A. 6 July 2009: Yes, 15 is too young.
if you have to sneak around behind your parents backs to do it. yes
If you don't have a place of your own, where you can spend the night with your partner. yes
no type of contraception is 100%, so if you can't af... (read in full...)
I don't want to use birth control and don't want her to get pregnant
Q. when is it ok for me to cum inside my girl???wit no pill and no condoms.. and please dont tell me to use a condom cuz its not the same and i dont want to hear .make her take pills.. ...
A. 6 July 2009: As the old saying goes - you can't have your cake and eat it too... You don't want to wear a condom, you don't want her to take the pill. Try holding hands! That should solve the pregnancy problem.... (read in full...)
He says if I don't sleep with him, he won't help with our children
Q. heres the story: about 5 months ago my live-in boyfriend of 5 years left me. He instantly had a gf (which leads me to believe he was seeing her before the break up, altho he denies it) anyway, we keep in touch bc we have to, as we have children ...
A. 23 June 2009: Get a good Lawyer (a public defender is free) and take him to court. Tell the judge that currently he is watching the children so that you can work. If he refuses to watch the children while you work ask for that much more in the child support ... (read in full...)
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