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I want to end this relationship but don't want her to hate me
Q. hi am currently in a relationship n am not happy its not the same as it used too be its the 3rd time that we have been out with each other bt this time is just different were both young but ive had enough but i dont want to break her /heart and her ...
A. 19 April 2010: Theres really nothing you can do to stop her from hurting over this if she really cares for you. If you take her to the side and just be honest with her about how you feel, then that would be best. Whether she will hate you or not I can't say. But ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because I wanted to talk about what's on his phone
Q. hey. well im 18yrs of age and i've been having a lot of obstacles in my past realtionships. well today my boyfriend and i broke up again all because i wanted to talk about something i seen yesterday in his phone. i wasnt going to fuss or fight about ...
A. 19 April 2010: Well, I think you know that you two not being together is for the best. I know how you feel when you say you keep waiting around for him to do better but he doesn't. When you love someone it is hard to let go even when they are bad to you. But ... (read in full...)
I have a gut feeling my boyfriend has the hots for my sister...
Q. I'm a bit worried about my relationship lately. me and my boyfriend been together for more than a year now, we cuddle, kiss, tell each other we love one another a lot but i think he has a thing for my older sister, i dont know why but its just the...
A. 1 April 2010: He may have a little crush on her or he may just be getting along as friends really well with her i'm not sure. I think the only thing you can do is one day get him alone and be honest and ask what he is feeling. ... (read in full...)
What are the odds that her new relationship won't work out, and if she'll realize I won't lie anymore?
Q. i lied to my girlfriend for 5 months about hanging out with friends and then confessed and stopped lyin.she lied in the beggining of our relationship about her ex boyfriend for about 6 months and i forgave her. she wont forgive me and started lyin ...
A. 31 March 2010: That's a subjective question. The best thing to do is leave her be for a while and try to move on. If after about three months or so you still like herr then give her a call to say hello. You guys had a bad relationship from the start and it was ... (read in full...)
She's getting attracted to girls again, and is bugging me to let do something with them! I think it's cheating. Help!
Q. Me and my girlfriend 'W' have been together for almost a year and a half. We met at school and liked each other straight away. I was shocked to learn recently that she used to only like girls, and has in the past had girlfriends, but she says it ...
A. 31 March 2010: First off she WAS and IS still young. At this point no matter what you say, she is going to do it anyway. I would just say to her I am not comfortable with it and im not ok with you pursueing it. And that if she cannot promise that she will stay ... (read in full...)
I made a HUGE mistake last night!!!
Q. I made a HUGE mistake last night. In a moment of passion (during sexual foreplay) I asked my GF a hypothetical question of "If I wasn't in your life, and you had to be with one of our/your friends/acquaintances, who would it be? The problem is...
A. 31 March 2010: Dummy! dummy dummy dummy, lol. ALWAYS make it a celebrity or someone that could NEVER be a threat. She got into the fantasy, thats all. You could have said a cartoon person and she would have been screaming that name and doing crazy stuff. Just ... (read in full...)
Two Guys I REALLY Like...Help!
Q. *OP's own title* I really like these two men: Mateo and Ed (fake names of course). And I just don't know what to do, who to choose, etc. Ed is a sweet guy, 20 yrs older, good-looking, and extremely kind to me. We joke around constantly, tease ea...
A. 30 March 2010: First off, it's natural for women your age to be attracted to much older men sometimes because of the authority they have or just the ability to take care of them. Perhaps even just the fact that they are much more mature acting than those closer in ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend raped me. I'd say 'no' but he wouldn't listen!
Q. I was with my boyfriend (21) for 2 and a half years. Im 22. We broke up 8 months ago as it was a terrible emotionally abusive relationship. He was so so nasty that I just cracked and eventually developed some type of anxiety. He cheated on me, ...
A. 30 March 2010: Some people don't show these symptoms of stress until years after a traumatic event happened. I believe the next best step is too talk to a therapist about everything that has happened. After that I can't tell you to press charges or not. Maybe that ... (read in full...)
Love... maybe???
Q. He makes me smile, laugh, and love my life even when I'm down. He is different than the others I've dated. My only concern is if I'm too young to be in love with him. To start off I'm 17 and he is 20. I knew even before we started dating it was ...
A. 20 March 2010: Accountable is pretty right on. It's love. Just enjoy the heck out of it the way it is. Don't try rush it. Just go with it. You sound as if you know your boundaries. Just take it day by day and love him.... (read in full...)
Lost, don't know what to do?
Q. Hi, I've been married for 17 years. There is a 12 year age gap between me and my husband. At first it did not seem to matter, but now he has turned 50 and has no teeth, i'm struggling. I have had 2 one night stands in the past and felt very g...
A. 20 March 2010: Im going to agree a little with that last guy. Too many people bail out of a marraige too easily now adays. I'm not saying to stick around no matter what. I'm saying if there is a problem with the marraige then you try everything you can to fix it. ... (read in full...)
My husband has lost his sexual desire - is it me?
Q. My husband lost his desire ,and erection. He thinks it is a medical problem,but the doctor says he is OK. No heart ,d, or any problems, not even with hormones. So, this is tremendous impact on our marriage. I don't know how to accept this...What ...
A. 19 March 2010: This sometimes happens to guys for alot of different reasons. I had a friend that just had added stress in his life and he was "off" for close to 6 months. This was a 30 year old guy too. The desire to have relations may come from an inner ... (read in full...)
Her ex boyfriend won't leave us alone and refuses to believe she has moved on!
Q. I have been dating this girl for the past 7 months and we are very happy together. There is a problem though, her exboyfriend will not accept that they are not together any more. She has told him several times to move on but he refuses to do so. He ...
A. 9 December 2009: Yea I might call the cops on him once to let him know you are serious. But, she is going to have to be ok with all this first. Most of the time what guys need in this situation is ultimate closure. She has got to say or do something really ... (read in full...)
What gives?
Q. Ok so here goes.. My BF and I agreed to take things slow. He said we needed to talk. This was after 6 weeks of no contact. He said he loves me and cares about me. We made plans to get together to talk and grab a bite to eat on Friday. Frid...
A. 23 October 2009: Yea, he is not seeing another as i said. These other women on here need to realize that not all men are liars and players. Some of us guys just have some problems with intimacy or even have problems recognizing a good thing when we see it. I believe ... (read in full...)
Body Acne Problems
Q. [WARNING GROSS STORY. SORRY!] This is So embarrassing. So, I REALLY like this boy. and we are currently dating. He tells me I'm pretty but I feel like I'm the ugliest girl in the world. This is because I have horrible skin. I have acne and stuff, ...
A. 22 October 2009: It's none of your sisters biz-ness and if she must know then just tell her you want to see the dermatologist. She will know that has nothing to do with sex.... (read in full...)
What gives?
Q. Ok so here goes.. My BF and I agreed to take things slow. He said we needed to talk. This was after 6 weeks of no contact. He said he loves me and cares about me. We made plans to get together to talk and grab a bite to eat on Friday. Frid...
A. 22 October 2009: More info would be nice, but I don't think he is seeing anyone else at all. From what you wrote you two just don't seem to have time for each other and it's frustrating him as well as you. Because it is already unstable, if you guys get a chance to ... (read in full...)
Body Acne Problems
Q. [WARNING GROSS STORY. SORRY!] This is So embarrassing. So, I REALLY like this boy. and we are currently dating. He tells me I'm pretty but I feel like I'm the ugliest girl in the world. This is because I have horrible skin. I have acne and stuff, ...
A. 22 October 2009: You really need to see a dermatologist. I think it would be best to get their answers on this because you are certainly not alone. ... (read in full...)
Venus vs Mars
Q. y do girls who have a bad past get called a slut and a guy called a player? and y when a girl is known for sleepin around and finds a good guy he is told to hang on to her no matter her past...but when a guy has a past of cheatin girls are normally ...
A. 22 October 2009: If a woman cheats on a guy, it most likely is not just for sex but for some kind of emotional connection with the other person and the lack of that from her boyfriend/husband. But, when a guy cheats it is usually just for sex, period. I'm not saying ... (read in full...)
Is my appearance holding me back?
Q. I wanted to ask guys what attracts you to a woman? I am not a typical girl i am 6 foot tall, alternative looking, pierced and tattooed but i wear small jewellery in them. I have 3 in my lip and 2 in my nose. I have auburn hair its shoulder length ...
A. 17 September 2009: I think you are just a whiney baby!!! I'm just kidding, that was supposed to make you laugh. I think Code is right. Just a change of surroundings may help. ... (read in full...)
Why can't I go to my boyfriend's place?
Q. My bf refuses to take me over his place? What does this mean?!!!!Does he live with another girl?...
A. 31 August 2009: Seriously, this guy sounds 100% bad news. Don't stalk him, cause you might get shot by someone. I'm not kidding. You know he deals guns and probably deals drugs. You definitely need to leave him and get away regardless of whatever he is hiding. He ... (read in full...)
Why can't I go to my boyfriend's place?
Q. My bf refuses to take me over his place? What does this mean?!!!!Does he live with another girl?...
A. 29 August 2009: Well, ask him why. It may be he still lives with his parents or his place is really messy. He may be ashamed of his living situation or has a roomate he doesnt want you to meet. It could be a number of reasons, so I wouldn't jump to conclusions. But ... (read in full...)
I've tried it all to get over her death! Help!
Q. Hello, I got married at 22 and when 4 years passed, my wife had a problem and she died, it's been 3 years I can't get over it! Knowing she's dead keeps me awake all the time rendering me always afraid, worried, I love her that much that words can't ...
A. 28 August 2009: I dont know your religion. If you believe in God, you get down on your knees every night and you pray for healing. Pray hard. If thats not an option then you go out and find a widowers group. A group of people going through what you are going ... (read in full...)
Do happily married people have affairs? is this possible?
Q. Do "happily married" people have affairs? I have a guy friend who has told me that he is in love with me and wants to have a relationship with me, but that he would never leave his wife. I've refused because I think having affairs is one of the ...
A. 28 August 2009: You have to remember, this is all coming from his side and there is always two sides. You are right, if he was REALY in love with you he would leave her for you. Trust me, all he wants is his cake and eat it too. Break ties with him now before he ... (read in full...)
Help me out of this mess, he loves his best friend ,what do I do?
Q. Hi all, A little while back I send a question, but did not word it very well I have been with this guy for nearly 2 years the last ouople of mnths have been great fantastic, see he has been a bit of an asshole sometimes and about 5months ago I le...
A. 28 August 2009: you are doing the right thing. He loves another. He has to figure that situation out before he can be with anyone else. You just move on without him and find a better mate.... (read in full...)
Looks like my wife is cheating on me, what do you think?
Q. is my wife cheating on me she has been in a job for 12 years she used to come home at 5:30 on the dot till lately she has not been getting in till about 6 reason i post this because my mate went into the news agents were she works and the bosses son ...
A. 28 August 2009: yes, suspect away! But get some real proof before talking to her about it. I would get someone who works there to find out for me. Maybe someone who has seen them fooling around.... (read in full...)
Problem is , I don't feel anything for him anymore, how can I let him down easily?
Q. I'm so confused. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 months, and I do love him, but I don't feel like I want to be with him. I like spending time with him, watching a film, or going to the pub etc, but I can't look at him the way I should when ...
A. 28 August 2009: You cant worry about those other problems of his, and drawing it out only makes it worse. You have to come clean to him now. And, a word of advice. Tell him straight. Don't give him the "its not you its me" speach or the "I just need some time" one. ... (read in full...)
I am a virgin, but an ex took the "cherry" from me in another way, should I tell future boyfriends?
Q. So, I know there's lots of posts around here about men and women being uncomfortable about their partners sexual history, and usually everyone just says to either not ask, or not give out details. I've never had sex before, so I am a virgin. I h...
A. 28 August 2009: I wouldnt think its a big deal personally. You can still tell a guy you never had sex, you just fooled around some. He shouldnt need to know anything else. ... (read in full...)
We were cheating, I left my partner she hasn't left hers!
Q. We were cheating on our partners and we got caught I finished it with my partner because I felt like it was the rite thing to do. She wants me back but I only feel like I would hurt her again so I cant. She went back to him but she wont stop te...
A. 28 August 2009: Both of the first two comments were mostly right. Linz was a little hard on you though because you were honest with your affair and didnt want it to continue because you fell in love with this woman. You were right in ending it with your girlfriend, ... (read in full...)
Whats going on with me? He is perfect now
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. and after the first 2 years he left me to be with one of my friends, i was depressed for those 4 months he left me. in between that time he would come back and say he wanted to be with me and i would take ...
A. 24 August 2009: I think you two should go your seperate ways. One reason you guys act like this is probably that you both are young and, right now, your relationship with each other can't grow further because neither of you are ready to get married and both of you ... (read in full...)
Dated many guys and its always the same thing
Q. Hey I have separated from my husband over an year and I have been dated many guys and the more guys I met moreI realise I will end up alone, so I need your help to know ig the problem is with me or it is just the way things are. I am lost. I...
A. 24 August 2009: Men and women look at sex very differently. Women want romance, men want sex. It doesnt sound like you are doing much wrong, you maybe should just let the guy know from the moment you two start talking that you are wanting a meaningful relationship ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to be next in my life
Q. Here's the deal, several years ago I was heartbroken by an ex that tore out my heart and threw it in the trash:(, so sad I know, but moving on I've moved on since then, I mean my God that was high school lol. But I think about her here and there ...
A. 16 August 2009: I think what everyone else is saying is pretty right on. But definitely get to know her again FIRST. I have some experience with this. Same situation with me. But after a little while I realized she wasn't the same person that I liked before. Also I ... (read in full...)
Is this avoiding commitment a phase or something more permanent?
Q. My love life seems to be drifting right now. I'm not sure what I want and when anyone tries to get too close, I back off. I'm wondering if this is just a phase... I seem to just want some positive attention from at least a few guys at a time right ...
A. 29 July 2009: you sound pretty ok to me. a three year relationship like you had takes time to get past. And going out to just feel good about yourself is fine, in fact I believe thats what you should do. Just try not to lead any guys on in to thinking you want ... (read in full...)
She says we are too close to be lovers
Q. there is this girl i have known for 3years, we have been good friends, we share everything, she know a lot about me and i know a lot about her too. she always tell me that i am her best friend. i love her but i never told her until recently, i want ...
A. 4 July 2009: Translation, " she doesn't like you like that, so you best move on". I say this from experience not to hurt you. Not gonna lie, she could change her mind but it's highly unlikely. All you can do is sit down and tell her how you feel and if she ... (read in full...)
We're both married but want to be with each other
Q. hi there! i am 24 and i get married when i was 21 with a older man 12yrs age gap.now im working abroad i find this another guy which i fell in love and he is more than my husband.in responsibilities, caring for me and also in bed. he is also mar...
A. 4 July 2009: If you have problems with your husband then the first thing to do is find out why and if your marraige is saveable. If it is not then you should seperate. Also, you cannot pursue this other guy unless he is seperate from his wife. You both need to ... (read in full...)
Should I keep her a secret?
Q. Recently i just started getting into relationship with a girl i like. I Don't know if i should reveal it to my close group of friends. One reason is because my girlfriend ex-boyfriend is one of my friend also but this friend is not in my group of ...
A. 4 July 2009: If her friends know then your friends should too.... (read in full...)
My life is a like a tv show!
Q. My life is like a t.v. show it all started 2 years ago wen my parents got a devorse and my dad won custody and my mom moved in with a gurl named doc (she is a lesbian) and i started thinking my mom was a lez then my dad found a new websit for ...
A. 4 July 2009: You just have to believe that you are not defined by your mom and dads actions. Both of them are trying to be happy with themselves and are searching for that hapiness wherever they can. Your friends arent much good friends if they judge you by your ... (read in full...)
He is paranoid that I might cheat, due to his past experiences
Q. I'm afraid that my boyfriend will get upset with me. You see, I'm Head of the Student's Council of our faculty, and this week we've been celebrating the faculty's anniversary. I had to organize a party for this Friday night, at some local club. I ...
A. 17 June 2009: Well, i'm kinda like this with my girlfriend and just like him I am trying to be less worried about it. The bottom line is it is going to take time and effort not only on your part but his as well. You just keep faithful and maybe humor him by ... (read in full...)
How would you approach this?
Q. For the past month, I've been seeing this much older guy. He texts me everyday, takes me out on dates, we get along, tells his friends about me, told his family he met a lovely lady.. etc.. etc. He tells me he thinks I'm beautiful, smart ...
A. 17 June 2009: Actually, it sounds like you are doing fine. You are being careful but still getting to know him. As time goes by you will slowly let your guard down more and more. As far as the sex thing, that is up to you. But if you stay the path you are walking ... (read in full...)
I want a threesome and my wife feels it too
Q. I am a normal guy, with a good professional career in Banglore. I fantasize a lot about sharing my wife with other men in a threesome fashion, and also about watching her have sex with other men. It has become such a strong part of my sexual life ...
A. 4 June 2009: There is nothing wrong with you. It doesn't matter where you are from. But, my advice is to just leave it a fantasy even if she might feel that way too. It always leads to jealousy. Why is she enjoying him or her so much? Why does she want to be ... (read in full...)
I can't stop cheating!
Q. hey guys how are you? just would like to ask for some outside point of view on my problem.don't even know it's a problem though but stil... it seems to me i've got a bit of a commitment problem.here's the thing.i've been going out with a girl on a...
A. 4 June 2009: I don't think you have a maturity problem because you said it yourself, you know its messed up to treat someone that way. Breaking up with this girl is the right thing, because if she was the one then I don't believe you would have cheated. My ... (read in full...)
We were together for 4 years, how do I move on?
Q. My ex and i have been broken up for 6 months. Since she broke up with me I took it a lot harder than her. We were together for over 4 years so i knew this was going to be a process. The thing is, it's been six months. i would have thought that ...
A. 11 May 2009: You will get over it when you are ready. It took me a year to get over someone once and I think it's because I really loved her. You probably really loved this girl too. All I can say is to try and emerse yourself into other areas of your life. Try ... (read in full...)
How can I get past the hurt... how can I trust him again?
Q. Hi, I broke up with my partner. In that time he had two other women. (seperately) anyway recently we have been talking a lot and the other nite he rang and asked if he could come over. We had a good talk and he told me that he wants to be with me. ...
A. 2 May 2009: The truth is we never know if we can trust the person who hurt us before. The only thing we can do is ask ourselves if that person is worth you maybe getting hurt again. I'm not a believer in not giving people second chances. Ultimately it is up to ... (read in full...)
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