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Does my teacher like me or am I confusing these signs?...
Q. Dear Cupid There is this teacher in my school. He is alot older than me but I have the feeling he's attracted to me he messes with other girls but I think he likes me. Here are a few things he has done: 1. If the desk infront of me is empty ...
A. 11 February 2008: Seriously, i'm not sure I believe this anymore. I think this is an adult pulling our legs to see how far he/she gets with it. Sorry, it's just too much right out the movies too believe anymore. I can't imagine anyone being this stupid now a days. ... (read in full...)
Does my teacher like me or am I confusing these signs?...
Q. Dear Cupid There is this teacher in my school. He is alot older than me but I have the feeling he's attracted to me he messes with other girls but I think he likes me. Here are a few things he has done: 1. If the desk infront of me is empty ...
A. 8 February 2008: He is being flirtatious with you, but you just cant go that way right now. The trouble both of you could be in is so great. you gotta wait til you're 18. Besides, its innocent flirting right now so just leave it at that. When he comes up to you and ... (read in full...)
I had to let him walk away...but I love him so much and want him back.Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for a year and just split up recently. I am in my late twenties; ten years younger than him. In the beginning, he pursued me strongly. I wanted to start slow. When we were together, we were great and got along ...
A. 23 January 2008: You know it's strange. I am in the same boat more or less. She split with me after a year and of course I want her back. But telling her that would not help it would only make things worse. So, I kept in touch but not much. In fact if you can help ... (read in full...)
I can only orgasm on top of him but lately he 's been losing his erection!
Q. I have been married since Sept. 07 and I am 7 months pregant. The only way that I can have an orgasm is if I am on top. We used to mostly have sex that way, he seemed to like it a lot too. But the last few months, when I try getting on top, his ...
A. 23 January 2008: There is something psychological going on here, with the both of you. There are a lot of things you can do though. I know you've said you can't orgasm in other ways, or positions. But there are sex help guides out there that can help, if anything, ... (read in full...)
I want to be friends! He wants to be action man.
Q. ok, is it just me or can me and women not be friends unless the have some sexual intercourse? i have this guy whom i attended college with and he is an awesome person, but everytime we hang out its like all he is worried about is getting a little ...
A. 18 January 2008: For some reason women think they can meet random guys and just be friends and nothing else ever from day one. The problem is, is if a guy takes time to talk to you in the first place that meens he has in some way found you attractive and is ... (read in full...)
I've no wish to scare him off - do I tell him how I feel?
Q. hi, i have come in contact with this great guy ( i think ) smart, handsome, funny and above a nice person.so far so good.the attraction from my side is there but im not sure how he feels. should i ask him/tell him how i feel? i dont want to scare ...
A. 18 January 2008: Yea, you just want to know for sure if this is that friend path or is it the more than friends path you guys are taking because of the distance. I think most guys are like me and like things pretty straight forward. Just ask him one day. "Do you ... (read in full...)
Am I being foolish thinking that he's stringing me along?
Q. I was engaged and almost married to a guy. He and i called it off a month before the wedding. 2 months later we got back together. 4 months later, my friend suspected that he was cheating and would not tell me why. I broke it off and a week later he ...
A. 18 January 2008: Laura is right. You do need to have a serious talk about future expectations from both of you. Your instincts are probably a little acurate too. Guys don't like to talk about there feelings much you know that. But he's gotto be honest with you and ... (read in full...)
What do you do when your life is going all wrong but you cover it up and act like everything is okay?
Q. what do you do when your life is going all wrong but to cover it up you fake a smile and act like its all, all right? see i have this boyfriend named Dylan hes suppost to be my love and everything but hes always agreeing with Joe. see Joe always ...
A. 18 January 2008: Sounds like Joe is just one of those type of friends who doesnt like it if his buddy (Dylan) is having fun with anyone but him. I don't really think you have much to worry about. But I do think that maybe you should try not to be around Dylan when ... (read in full...)
I told him I slept with a guy while we were on a break and he flipped! He doesn't want me now! Advice?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs on and off. I love him with all my heart and he means alot to me. The longest we've ever been apart has been one month, within that month I was dating another guy. The reason for our b...
A. 16 January 2008: I think your relationship with him has run it's course. By what you said it probably should have ended a while back. Not saying that you two wont ever get together again, but truth is truth. You are young and it's ok to move on. Keep in touch with ... (read in full...)
Are there any creams or remedies that dimiss the hurt during the "first night"?
Q. I am 22 and I am a virgin. More so, I am a virgin who just got engaged. I really want to have sex and so does my man - not that hes pressuring me at all. The problem is every time I try it hurts too much... i've used copious amounts of lube ...
A. 16 January 2008: First of all I commend you on waiting for sex with the one you love. I suggest using your finger to masterbate for a few days. After that, find something a little bigger to do it with each time for a few days until you either bust the hymen(thats a ... (read in full...)
Does my teacher like me or am I confusing these signs?...
Q. Dear Cupid There is this teacher in my school. He is alot older than me but I have the feeling he's attracted to me he messes with other girls but I think he likes me. Here are a few things he has done: 1. If the desk infront of me is empty ...
A. 16 January 2008: This happens all the time. The best thing to do is leave it alone. People get in alot of trouble over stuff like this. Girls mature faster than guys, so it's natural for you to find older men attractive. But, you just cant do anything like that. If ... (read in full...)
I slept with my mate while drunken, now she won't even speak to me! Ideas to solve this?
Q. hi i got drunk at a party once and slept with my mate and she now wont even talk to me i dont love her but i want to talk it over with her how do i get her to just listen for like 5 mins?...
A. 15 January 2008: That depends. Does she think you took advantage of her or does she believe it was just two drunk people who did something stupid and now she cant face you? If she thinks you took advantage, then I don't know what you can do. Probably nothing right ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and my boyfriend planned for us to reenact porn scenes...
Q. Hi I'm 15 and my boyfriend wants to see me squirt I need help my boyfriend is 18 and likes us to watch porn together then reenact it he got his best mate to join so we could reenact this scene with two boys one girl help please ...
A. 15 January 2008: Don't do it. It's a relationship killer no matter how much you both might want to do it. If you guys have one of those relationships where you both know it's just for fun and if it ended it wouldnt be that bad, then maybe. Of course I would like to ... (read in full...)
He cares about me but can't commit to be because we're long distance.
Q. I've been seeing this guy for awhile and we both really care about each other. I want to start a relationship with him but he doesn't want to because we're currently long distance. He said he really cares about me and even refers to me as his ...
A. 15 January 2008: Let me try to clear up what I meant earlier. Does this guy like you, sure he does. But, From early on according to what you wrote he doesnt want to get serious with you. It really doesn't matter what the reason is at this point because you are NOT ... (read in full...)
He cares about me but can't commit to be because we're long distance.
Q. I've been seeing this guy for awhile and we both really care about each other. I want to start a relationship with him but he doesn't want to because we're currently long distance. He said he really cares about me and even refers to me as his ...
A. 14 January 2008: Now hold up. I dont agree with Laura. This guy probably does really like you and if you lived there you two would be exclusive. Not all guys are pigs, just like not all women are lying bitches. He told you flat out what the deal is. He told you he's ... (read in full...)
Walking on egg-shells! Surely this is not healthy?
Q. WHY AM I WALKING ON EGG SHELLS?? I am 28 years old, and have been dating a really great guy from the past 11 months. He is SO stressed out with work, that it affects every facet of his life, and our life together. He looses his temper easily, f...
A. 14 January 2008: Alot of men define themselves by there job and abilities. In fact he probably makes his career more important because he sees that as the foudation for everything else. Cant have a future without a good job. Cant have relationship without a good ... (read in full...)
I always "freeze" when having to take the conclusive steps to end my marriage, because of the abuses. What to do about the indecisiveness?
Q. I really need help to make a very big decision - that is to leave my husband. I am 35 - no children. What I guess I am asking is why I have deliberated over it for so long when the evidence that we are not right for each other is so obvious. I ha...
A. 12 January 2008: I believe that sometimes emotional abuse may be worse than physical. The reason you may be hesitant is because he has worn you down. You are almost conditioned now to always rely on his decision making because of what he has done. People CAN change. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell the ex wife how I feel, although she is presently in a relationship? I never felt that I stopped loving her, even living 5 yrs with another woman.
Q. I was with a lovely girl for 10 years. We met through work, moved in together, then we bought our first home together and 8 years into the relationship we got married. We were very close and shared everything. I really thought we were going to be ...
A. 11 January 2008: Yea, when your that young you definitely change alot over the next 5 to 7 years. Especially women, at least that is the assumption. Anyway, there was an initial attraction that will always kinda be there. But now it's different. She is different. ... (read in full...)
Why won't he get it together already?!?!?!
Q. Hi. My ex boyfriend and I are still in touch, well we are sort of friends- or trying to be. I still care about him, we were together for two and a half years and broke up in October of last year. I know it is not any of my business anymore, but it ...
A. 11 January 2008: I guess we know why you broke up. If you couldn't handle it as his girlfriend then what makes you think it would be different as his friend. The bottom line is you still have feelings for him like you said and that just means trouble. It sounds like ... (read in full...)
Should I wash these men out of my Hair?
Q. Dear Cupids My current boyfriend is opening up a business that will be making some hair cosmetics products. My ex boyfriend works for an ad agency so a Chinese client that gave them a hair product making machine for free (as a gift) as a donat...
A. 8 January 2008: your current boyfriend is not vulnerable. you gotto know what you want first. sounds like youre afraid to talk to your ex because of you might get back together. you have plenty of good reasons to do so. none of that matters if you DONT want your ex ... (read in full...)
We just can't seem to be happy together
Q. hiya, well my relation ship is at an end again. me and my fiancee split up on new years eve, over a rather trivial argument. i got really angry and told him to leave. we have been seeing each other for over a year, are very much in love, but ...
A. 7 January 2008: He is an insecure male that wants to be in a secure relationship. You are an independant woman that wants the same. Ask yourself what it is exactly you want from him. If you wanted him to be more secure and confident, then you would probably have ... (read in full...)
I terminated our child and ended the relationship, I'm very confused
Q. I love my boyfriend somuch but we've come to the end of the road with our relationship. I have tolerated alot of pain from him. I yarn for closeness and committment from my boyfriend but he is never ready for me. He only yarns for me when he wants ...
A. 7 January 2008: You already know what to do. You're taking charge of your life and doing the right thing. If he ever loved you he never would have done all those things. People make misstakes, but come on. I may not agree with terminating the pregnancy but I can ... (read in full...)
Is this rape? Should I forgive him?
Q. I met this guy 8 years ago, I was madly in love with him however, it turned out he was gay! it took me a couple of years to get over him. I have then moved on with my life and moved into a differnt province. I lost touch with him about 5 years ago. ...
A. 7 January 2008: First of all, hello1 needs to chill. When this type of thing happens to a young woman this is usually how they react. Confusion and all. And how dare you try to make her feel worse for not going straight to the police. I don't know if you been raped ... (read in full...)
Do I wait for him to resolve issues with his ex?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for three years, and have lived with him for two. We love each other very much and would like to marry. He has one child from a past relationship, whom he supports both financially and emotionally. The ...
A. 7 January 2008: It doesn't sound like you need to cut and run as of yet. In fact in sounds as if he is trying to do the right thing by his child. I think you have her pegged pretty well. She has been so used to just being them she has gotten a little dependant on ... (read in full...)
She dumped me and is with someone else but says she still loves me, do I try to move on or try to get her back?
Q. ok, I am not together with my girl anymore. she has gotten into something with another guy and everything. she broke it off with me. I still love her and i want her back. I could let this go, but she's not letting me. she still wants to talk with me ...
A. 5 January 2008: Ok Starfairy. We were together a little over a year. She definitely has feelings for me still. Somewhere along the way I guess she just lost that initial attraction for me. It's not something that happens on purpose. And this guy she's seeing is ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to just have a sexual soulmate?
Q. I am married. My husband and I are part of an open sexual lifestyle. We attend Adult lifestyle parties here and there. I have never made any connection to another man in years. I have just met a man and have been sexual with him 3 times now. I ...
A. 5 January 2008: Hon, I'm sorry but I just don't believe in having that kind of open relationship with anyone. And, thats basically the reason why. People fall in love all the time and each time it is real love. When you get married, you made a consious decision to ... (read in full...)
How far do you have to go to be committed?
Q. I've been with the same man for over two years and he says he wants to committ yet we both have trust issues actually we have a lot of issues but always say we love each other it'll be ok, My main one issue is : IS it ok to say you want to be ...
A. 5 January 2008: Well, don't get married yet until you figure out the issues that you have, or at least work on them. When you get married you have to compromise on things. Both of you do. If at the end of the day you can't live with the way it is and he wont budge ... (read in full...)
How do I get this boy to leave me alone?
Q. Theres this boy at School who likes me. He stocks me,fallows me and keeps calling my name. I usely ignore people I don't even like as a friend. I block them out. He keeps telling me how pretty I am and keeps asking me out. I don't even...
A. 31 December 2007: You might want to just stop him and say, "look, I know you like me and everything. And i'm really flattered. But I'm just not interested in being your girlfriend or anything. And all this attention you give me is just making me not like you more. So ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me...how do I not hurt him now?
Q. My boyfriend of six months just broke up with me. I'm heartbroken. This stupid part of me still loves him, and I'm actually so much more worried about his broken heart than mine (He still loves me too). What should I do to ease the pain for bot...
A. 2 July 2007: If he still loves you and you love him, then what was his reason for breaking up with you? Is he afraid? Or did maybe you do something that hurt him? It sounds like if you both love each other you can work it out. But you both have to learn a lesson ... (read in full...)
Do guys get turned off by pubic hair?
Q. Do guys get turned off by pubic hair? Im 16 and im scared guys wil think im dirty. plz help ...
A. 16 June 2007: Look. just keep it nice and trimmed, like for bikini season, and you got no worries. as long as its not a jungle we are cool with it. And there are some that dont mind the jungle. h.a.n.d.... (read in full...)
I'm a 21 year old female, who's been told she 'intimidates men', but I'm not even sure how I do it.
Q. I was just wondering if I could get some male input here. I'm a 21 year old female, who's been told she 'intimidates men', but I'm not even sure how I do it. If a women were to initimidate you or scare you off, how would she do it? Im not the kind...
A. 16 June 2007: Alright. My friend gets told that alot by her friends and family. Why? because they dont want to hurt her feelings by telling her she is stubborn and pig headed and that its ok to let someone help you sometimes even if you dont need the help. You ... (read in full...)
Am i wrong to just let them be??
Q. I am a single middle divorced female with 3 grown children ages 35,30,3l,1 boy the eldest and 2 girls. I believe my problem initially stems from a messy, spiteful divorce approx 20 years ago which left many scars and unresolved issues. My problem ...
A. 16 June 2007: Something you hashed over got my attention. The night he stayed up telling you what kind of person you are and that you were a bad influence. I dont know you. Do you have opinions about he and his families lifestile that are negative? Do you ... (read in full...)
Obsessed with taking my wife's 17 year old sister to bed!
Q. I am happily married,,my wife is 26yrs old and I am 46.The problem is that I have this obsession with my wife's sister,,she is 17yrs old I want to take her to bed and she seems to have feelings for me as well.What do I do?...
A. 16 June 2007: Man, you should have known you'ed get no sympathy here. i'm only 7 years older than my girl and it took me a while to get past THAT. Every guy finds younger women attractive. You just dont act on it man. You are 46. If you dont get help soon you are ... (read in full...)
Do you think I have any hope of her falling back in love with me?
Q. I've been married for 6 years and we have 2 kids together but my wife says shes changed and wants different things from life and isnt in love with me anymore. I moved out last week to give her some space and I've told her i'm willing to change and ...
A. 16 June 2007: you know, thats the problem with getting married so young. You have no idea whats out there yet but you think you want to start a family. It sounds like now she has realized that. There is no telling. The most you can do is be there if she wants you ... (read in full...)
Do I divorce my husband and go for my dream man or continue living in this unhappy marriage for the sake of the children and the society I live in?
Q. I am married for 20 years but was never attracted to my husband as it was an arranged marriage. I continued in this marriage for the sake of the children and the society i live in. Now both the boys are teenagers. There was no intimacy in our ...
A. 16 June 2007: I cant imagine being married to someone I didnt love to start with. If this is true, he probably feels the same way. I would get out whether you have met someone else or not. It sounds like youve given this marraige long enough.... (read in full...)
She called me to say she couldn't meet me, she was 50 miles away to be with her dad but I saw her an hour later in town!
Q. what do u think is going on? i've been dating my girlfriend a little over 3 1/2 months i planned for today friday 15th June to spend it hanging out together but this morning at 11.40am she text me 2 say she couldn't meet me friday or satur...
A. 16 June 2007: there is no other guy. you both need to slow down. her father probably is sick and she used it as an excuse not to see you so your feelings would not get hurt. the best thing to do is believe her until you catch her red handed doing something wrong. ... (read in full...)
She dumped me and ran back to her loser ex
Q. can someone please help me? I met my ex g/f via internet dating. we met and the sparks flew immediately. we didnt rush into anything and were always together. our kids loved each other and we loved them. she left her ex because he used to get drunk ...
A. 14 June 2007: You just move on for now, brother. Seriously, I know how you feel. You feel like your gonna die. I'm sure she does care for you a great deal. She may even love you. But she has a deep wanting for this other man. It doesnt make sense, but she does. ... (read in full...)
I don't think we're marriage material..how do I tell him this?
Q. hi, ive been thinking a bit lately. Have put a few problems on here and appreciate the advice. Actually no, I value the advice I've received. But one more for you agony aunts. I'm due to be married next year, sex life is non existent, ive never had ...
A. 10 April 2007: Look. If you guys cant talk, then dont get married, period. Some people are looking to get married just for the sake of getting married. You obviously want a partnership and working relationship out of this. Take him aside and just ask him, "why do ... (read in full...)
I am bad at relationships! Can anyone help me?
Q. HaPpy Easter guys...I dunno how to begin or wht 2 say cos actually am all messed up! I feel so lonely cos am single and ppl around me r all couples, I've had 2 relationships in my life and they were quite recent and both of them ended badly I was so ...
A. 10 April 2007: Guess what? You are still plenty young. My advice is to just take some time off from relationships. Even a year wouldnt be bad. Go out with your friends and have fun. Meet new guys, but try not to sleep around. Eventually you'll meet a nice guy to ... (read in full...)
I really like her but she's really flirty with other guys and is always being pursued by them...what can I do?
Q. theres this girl i've been seeing for about a month who i am crazy about. she says she loves me and wants to be with me. the problem is that she is really flirty with guys and is always being pursued and sleazed over by them. i've been in relation...
A. 10 April 2007: I'm with you brother. It sounds like youre younger than me, so if you are let me tell you it doesnt get easier. Either she likes you or she doesnt. But, dont give her an ultimatum like that. The best thing you could do is tell her the way you feel. ... (read in full...)
It's been 3 months...should I tell him I'm in love with him or should I wait?
Q. hi im 16 and i have a 16 year old bf. i think i am falling inlove with him. but i dont know if he loves me. i want to know how he feels and tell him i love him. but im not sure how cos apparently boys dont like talking about how they feel and ab...
A. 10 April 2007: It's tough at 16. Most adults would say that you are too young and blah blah blah. I believe you can fall in love at 16. So, if he cant start his day without hearing your voice, then wait till you are alone with him in a romantic place and just look ... (read in full...)
My 19-year-old son is dating a 38-year-old woman; I'm worried the age gap is way too large
Q. Hi there I've got a problem which I've never dealt with before in our family: age gap relationships. My 19-year-old son is dating a 38-year-old woman; I'm worried the age gap is way too large. My husband is the same age as me, so I've n...
A. 4 October 2006: It depends on how serious the relationship is. Odds are, even though you probably don't want to here this, it's a sexually based thing. It actually makes sense, boys peak at 18 and women at around 35. I dated a 30 yr old woman when I was 19. It ... (read in full...)
Denied sex, as he looks at porn!
Q. My boyfriend needs to look at porn on a regular basis, and has denied me sex to do so before is this a real problem?...
A. 29 September 2006: It's called porn addiction. Don't laugh because it is a clinical addiction. It happens when the fantasy world of exotic sex partners becomes more exciting than the real thing. I know, I thought I might be having that problem too. So I decided to ... (read in full...)
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