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writes:So, I know there's lots of posts around here about men and women being uncomfortable about their partners sexual history, and usually everyone just says to either not ask, or not give out details.I've never had sex before, so I am a virgin. I have fooled around with another guy though, and as a result he broke my hymen and made a big deal about "popping my cherry". I know it's a dumb question, but is breaking a girls hymen a big acheivement for most guys, even if it's not through sex? And if so, should I keep that detail from my boyfriend? It makes me a little uneasy, like I'm lying to just say I fooled around with a guy since it seems hold so much for guys to break a girls hymen. But, I'd like to spare him the details, so I'm just curious what other people think. Or what other guys would think if their girlfriend told them this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009): Virginity is important to me but hymens are not. I would still think of you as a virgin if I was your BF and this incident would not be a big deal to me. Whatever you do, don't start lying to him. That's where this can take a turn for the worse and end up being a bigger deal than it has to be. Either tell him the truth, tell him you're not going to tell him anything either way, or don't bring it up.
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reader, Ifyoudontmind +, writes (28 August 2009):
Sexual pasts only causes unneeded friction. Seriously its like a relationship demon, it haunts you.
Especially if one personal is sexually expierenced and the other isnt.
Dont bother, if a guy is petty enought to care that you broke your cherry, he isnt worth your time
-iydm
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (28 August 2009):
 I dont think there is any need to go into detail - the hymen is pretty easily broken so any new partner you have wont think anything of it if you dont bleed or they dont break your hymen. Using tampons, sports such as gymnastics and horse riding can all break your hymen without you really noticing, so many girls (even though they are virgins) have already broken their hymens without having sex!
Dont worry about this - you are still a virgin and that is all that matters. And when you do find a guy who you want to lose your virginity to, he will be that special that a broken hymen wont be a big deal at all. And if he does make a fuss about it, well he is not the right guy for you.
I hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): Your sexual history is no one elses business but your or possibly your fiance's. Just tell anyone that wants to know that it is personal and you are not going to discuss it with them. Even a fiance, as far as I am concerned it is not his business either. But I would not lie.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (28 August 2009):
 I wouldnt think its a big deal personally. You can still tell a guy you never had sex, you just fooled around some. He shouldnt need to know anything else.
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