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writes:I'm so confused. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 months, and I do love him, but I don't feel like I want to be with him. I like spending time with him, watching a film, or going to the pub etc, but I can't look at him the way I should when it comes to anything intimate. I love hugging him, but kissing or anything more doesn't affect me at all, on't 'feel' anything when I kiss him. I'm starting to think that maybe I love him more as a friend? I know that I should talk to him, or end it with him and tell him the truth as to why, but it will send him back to how he was a few months back - he's having a baby with his ex, she's being nasty about it saying how she'll stop him being at the birth, and knowing where she moves to etc.Is there anything I could say that will hurt him any less? If not, what exactly can I say?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): Just be honest with him, he'll at least respect you for that. Obviously there's bound to be pain involved with a breakup/potential breakup, but it's something he will need to experience in order to move on from you when the time comes.
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reader, josephy  +, writes (28 August 2009):
 your question somehow is like something I'm going throw now.I thought a lot about it and I found out that I love him as a friend but I could say nothing because of him having a bad time and saying I love you to me all the time or every time I want to tell him. what I think is that I feel pity for him and in a way or another I feel responsible it's more like tide to him than being with him by my own desire I don't say I don't love him cuz I do. I stopped trying to tell him because my ideas changed, to love is to be the everything for the other person and the everything could be being his friend in the first, feel him. Anyway back to you I always encourage the frank talk. just tell him the way you feel, tell him that you should keep on your friendship as you see your relationship works more like friends, assure him that you'll be there when he need something.He will understand maybe you'll do what I couldn't do.
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reader, 2old4this  +, writes (28 August 2009):
 You cant worry about those other problems of his, and drawing it out only makes it worse. You have to come clean to him now. And, a word of advice. Tell him straight. Don't give him the "its not you its me" speach or the "I just need some time" one. And please no "We will still be friends" one either. Trust me, if you just tell him exactly what you wrote us. That you just don't have those feelings for him and you need to move on. Two months is not that long of time, he will be ok i'm sure.
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