Like what
he writes?
... Add *old4this to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *old4this a private message | | | *old4this's profile:I am a male age 41. I reside in the US. I am married for several years and have experience dealing with young love in a deep emotional manner. I believe that the majority of people under the age of 30 have had the same types of problems in relationships. Experienced advice helps because it helped me. |
|
How can I get past the hurt... how can I trust him again?
Q. Hi, I broke up with my partner. In that time he had two other women. (seperately) anyway recently we have been talking a lot and the other nite he rang and asked if he could come over. We had a good talk and he told me that he wants to be with me. ...
A. 2 May 2009: The truth is we never know if we can trust the person who hurt us before. The only thing we can do is ask ourselves if that person is worth you maybe getting hurt again. I'm not a believer in not giving people second chances. Ultimately it is up to ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend has a phobia with going down on women!
Q. I think my boyfriend has a phobia with going down on women. he has tried a few times but has never went down on any woman and he is 30 years old. i have questioned him about this and he says he doesn't know why he can't do it and says his problem ...
A. 24 April 2009: Either he is afraid he doesn't know what to do, or he doesnt like the smell. And he would never tell you that either. Also, there are some people who just thinks its gross and wrong. There are women who wont do it to men for that reason as well. So ... (read in full...)
Is being in love a good thing?
Q. is it a good thing to be in love? and i know there is going to be different answers but i wanna hear all your opinions on this....
A. 11 April 2009: For somebody who is happy in love, they will say yes. For someone who just got dumped on, they will say no. It is a hard road to be in love, but if it works then it's reward is the best thing ever. That's the best answer I can give.... (read in full...)
How do I go about dating 2 people at once?
Q. Hi, I'm 27 and just recently got out of a 3 year relationship and I seem to be over it because it just wasn't working and I knew it wasn't and had been waiting to end it for a while. Now, the thing is that I've recently started working (my firs...
A. 11 April 2009: Well, if your feelings were that strong then you probably should have not gone on that other date and just concentrated on figureing out your feelings for guy one. Find out if you are pregnant. If not then cut your losses and move on. If you are ... (read in full...)
Why is he so inconsiderate?
Q. my boyfriend and I moved together 3 months ago.I started getting very stressed because he wouldn't clean at all. I told him, we had an argument he got a bit better,but later he keept neglecting everyhting.We had around 3-4 arguments about this, ...
A. 9 April 2009: I will say this much in his defense. He probably kept house just like this when he was living single. Unless he lived at home until now which means he never really had to do that stuff because his mom probably did it. Not saying he's right, i'm just ... (read in full...)
If I am pregnant, I have no idea who the father would be!
Q. Well I'm 15 and I have a 15 year old boyfriend that is about to turn 16. We have been together for 9 months and We have had PROTECTED sex a few times and had no worries about it. But lately I have been getting pregnancy signs and I missed my period. ...
A. 9 April 2009: First off you need to find out if you are pregnant first. I would doubt it if niether boys ejaculated inside you, but it's not unheard of to happen if someone ejaculates on the outside of the Va-jj as you said the 17 yr old could have. ... (read in full...)
Is a girl desperate or slutty if she calls a guy?
Q. I have a long distance friend who I like very much. He's very nice to me and we generally keep in touch by email. More like once a week or so. It's been 2 yrs since we met in a meeting and we haven't cut communication ever. He says he enjoys...
A. 9 April 2009: Well, what are your intensions with him? By your question I can't tell if you wish just to remain friends or become more than friends. You need to make that choice first so there will not be mixed signals. Either way, you calling him in this ... (read in full...)
Why won't he tell me the truth that he cheated?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend cheated. i confronted him about it, but he denies everything that was said. the sad part is we have kids. why wont he tell me the truth? what is he hidding?...
A. 9 April 2009: Are you 100% positive? He is doing what most guys (and girls) in his position do unfortunately. Deny deny deny. Unless you show him a video tape of him doing it he will probably never admit it. And sence you are only 99.9% positive he did it, there ... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to feel better about herself?
Q. My girlfriend and I have a great relationship and are very happy. We live together and share everything together. We are both quite attractive but lately my girlfriend has started gaining weight. It's hardly anything and I don't even care. Thats ...
A. 9 April 2009: Don't say things like "still" attractive and thigs like that. Everytime she says don't look at her or that she is fat then she is looking for you to say no, your not fat at all. You are beautiful. Things like that. Her self esteem might be a little ... (read in full...)
Should I make the first move or let him?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 3 months and we have made out with the kissing etc which is great. I can't tell if he wants to have sex because as soon as we get to that point he just stops and that's it. Should I make the first move or let him?...
A. 8 April 2009: He might have be nervous or be worried about how he looks or worried that he may not have the tools to please you. Just try going for it one night. Just start moving your hands that direction and do what comes natural. If he pulls away then you have ... (read in full...)
He's trying to control my life
Q. He's told me that there are two things that will make him treat me well and one of those things is good sex. I have always let him know that he makes me feel amazing and makes me feel better physically than I ever have (it's true),...
A. 8 April 2009: He doesnt love you, he just wants to dominate you. Meaning he wants a servant and a slave and he is verbally and emotionally abusing you to do it. You need to get out now and stay with family and friends and make sure this guy is gone for good. He ... (read in full...)
Does he only want me for sex?
Q. About 5 Day's ago a Friend of mine sent me an honesty Box Comment saying " i would like to make sweet love to you all night long, it'll be so good you wont want me to stop." I figured out that it was one of my perverted Friends, But he's a Nice ...
A. 8 April 2009: Take it from an older guy who knows. He's a horn dog and thats it. If thats what you want then fine. But I would suggest moving on. It doesn't sound like he would be a very good guy to be with anyway.... (read in full...)
He is rude towards me after we broke up
Q. Hoping someone can help. My ex broke up with me before Christmas. I was hurt but since he asked for no contact, I complied. I saw him tonight when we happened to be at a table of mutual friends in the restaurant. I ignored him, just acted like he ...
A. 7 April 2009: I've never understood why women want to be friends with their ex's. Once you get out of a relationship, then it feels pointless to try to have anything else with that person. It is different for guys. If a guy wants to be friends afterwards it's ... (read in full...)
She's torn between two lovers. Should I walk away?
Q. I am in love with a girl and I honestly believe she is also in love with me. There is no doubt. The way she looks at me, the way she touches me, and how we kiss tell me everything. We lose control when we are around each other. The problem is...
A. 5 April 2009: Brother, you two aint building nothing together as long as they are together. You said it yourself, he has all these problems yet she still is with him. This is a heartbreak situation for you and if you can make yourself do it, I say walk away. Find ... (read in full...)
I'm getting frustrated! I want to move on, but is he not over me?
Q. My ex-boyfriend dumped me and moved out of our apartment 4 months ago. He told me he didn't see a future with me and said he didn't think he was completely over his ex-wife (they have been separated for 3 years, married for 2, and have a son ...
A. 5 April 2009: Hey, you want to move on so do so. You deleted his text, now delete his number, his myspace account from your friends list and make it private. Completely cut ties with him. When he tries to call don't answer. If he doesn't get it then just flat out ... (read in full...)
I miss my Mom terribly!
Q. This is a relationship question, but, It's not a regular one. My mother passed away last year and her birth day is on Sunday, April 5th. She would have been 52 years old. I am having the worst time this weekend! I miss her soooo bad, and now, wit...
A. 4 April 2009: First off you are not alone. It hurts terribly to lose a parent at any age but to lose one at an early age is difficult. Anyone that would bash you for feeling this way is heartless an I would think no none would be that way towards you. If you are ... (read in full...)
How do I go about dating 2 people at once?
Q. Hi, I'm 27 and just recently got out of a 3 year relationship and I seem to be over it because it just wasn't working and I knew it wasn't and had been waiting to end it for a while. Now, the thing is that I've recently started working (my firs...
A. 3 April 2009: I think you are doing fine. On your date, if he asks, just tell him you are not seeing anyone exclusively at the moment. But kinda let him know that you are a one man exclusive type of woman that just hasnt found the right guy yet. That should leave ... (read in full...)
I have no life because of him and think I am being brainwashed!
Q. ok, so seven years ago I met the man of my dreams. Total charmer. He went out of his way to impress me. But things turned south very quickly. For instance, every time I missed his phone call he would go crazy. He wouldnt talk to me for days. I ...
A. 2 April 2009: You are right. get a support staff of friends and family and walk away. At this point it's either that or let him control you forever.... (read in full...)
Family already doesn't like my guy..is the strain too much?
Q. I have been dating a man, who is very business oriented, for about 2 months. We met completely at random and have an amazing chemistry. However, three weeks into dating I found out he is ten years older than me, a huge blow because I am in college. ...
A. 2 April 2009: He may be feeling like a family wrecker a bit right now or maybe he is trying to come up with a solution. First off, no man is ever gonna like the guy his daughter is dating, so your father is out right now. But try meeting with your guy and your ... (read in full...)
What does she want from me?
Q. My girlfriend of two years started seeing someone else, I found out by chance, I walked away broken hearted. I wished her well. I never called him or used his name. We all work in the same building. This was sometime ago, and I have tried very ...
A. 2 April 2009: You do nothing. I promise she is jealous and probably always been annoyed how you have taken the breakup in stride and moved on with your life. How dare you not sit at home crying over her and calling her asking her back everyday! LOL. I will say ... (read in full...)
X boyfriend troubles
Q. Ok, this is complicated. My ex bf and I had a fight and he left. This has happened a few times. This time I told him I was seeing someone else(I lied) because I didnt want him thinking that he could leave whenever things got tough and Id be right ...
A. 2 April 2009: I definitely know what you are doing and you did a brave thing. I think it was probably for the best that he believes you arent gonna keep waiting on him anymore. Yes, it might backfire on you and instead of him fixing his problems he might just ... (read in full...)
Wanting to be with the love of my life.......a married man who won't leave his wife....
Q. I am 29 years old and I am so much in love with a 40 year old married man. This has been going on and off for 3 years. He is in love with me as well but he has a problem with starting a future with me. He does not want to start over --- house, ...
A. 2 April 2009: But he doesnt want that with you hon. If he really did then he wouldn't care what the cost, he would be with you. You said it yourself, it's been 3 years. What makes you think it will be different now? Look lets be honest. You made a terrible ... (read in full...)
Is dating your ex's sister a total "NO"?
Q. My partner left me about 18 months ago now for another guy and at the time her sister spent a lot of time at my place, helping me with childcare. I fell for her and a while after I'd split up with her sister, we started dating. We dated for about 6 ...
A. 2 April 2009: She didnt change her mind, she just didnt want to date you anymore so she gave you a reason. Thats all. Dont worry about it anymore and go hit the date seen back up. I know, easier said than done.... (read in full...)
Am I boring because I don't like to go clubbing?
Q. Hi, i don't really like going clubbing but i do socialize alot in different ways i go to house parties and like meet new people quite often but clubbing just isn't my scene. because i don't like clubbing does this mean i am boring? ...
A. 2 April 2009: I didnt either and still don't. It was a little difficult to get myself out there but I managed. It's a personality thing. You will probably get along better with people a good bit older than you right now. But like Fionna said, it will become less ... (read in full...)
My man is competing with me in the "girly" world!
Q. hello. i was just wondering if it is normal for an independent woman to want a man to look after her and make her feel safe because this is what im after. i do everything myself and dont NEED a man. What im saying is it possible now society has ...
A. 2 April 2009: I hate to say this, but yea things are out of order. I don't care what anyone says, there is no such thing as 50/50 in a good marraige/relationship. ONE of you has to be the dominant. It doesn't matter which one, but someone has to take lead so to ... (read in full...)
Is swinging booming in real life?
Q. is swinging booming in real life or does it only sounds like that in the web but in real life it is not that much?? and is it true that most swinger couples practice interracial sex??? i mean the wife or th GF especially??...
A. 1 April 2009: It only could work if niether of you is in love with the other. I truly believe if you really love someone then you cant be ok with them being with someone else. And it's not about being in control. It's about respect for your lover and there ... (read in full...)
Why is it seemingly more acceptable for girls not to give oral than it is for guys?
Q. Why does it often seem like people are harder on guys who won't give oral than they are on girls? Even just browsing through questions on here, I've noticed that when a guy complains that his girl won't give bjs people tend to get a bit defe...
A. 31 March 2009: It's called a double standard. Just like if guys have had alot of sex partners then they are studs. But if girls have had alot then they are sluts. Sucks doesnt it.... (read in full...)
I want to be in a relationship but now quite sure how to go about it
Q. My name is John, i'm 19 and i'm pretty much lonely. I used to date a lot of girls back when i was i n high school but since then i stopped dating because of something that is hard to explain. Let's say that i first meet this girl and we talk for a ...
A. 31 March 2009: Ok, im not so sure you need a therapist or a doctor yet. I'm thinking you are alot like I was and still am. I'm thinking that you dont really date, you just meet a girl that you like and you try and be with her. Thats actually ok, but you probably ... (read in full...)
How can I let her see that I am NOT like her ex and would never hurt her?
Q. My girlfriend's EX used to hit her whenever he was drunk, and she was very scared of him. I'd heard that he abused he sexually as well, but she won't talk about it so I'm not so sure. When we met she was on antidepressants, and hadn't been with ...
A. 31 March 2009: She was burned by someone and you acted alot like him at the pub that night. He probably even said alot of the same things to her at some point that you try to say. Like "I would never hurt you" , and stuff like that. Just stay focused. The other ... (read in full...)
Hubby out of shape!
Q. My hubby has always been gorgeouse-well almost. We dated when we were young, and for a few years he was in an unhappy relationship and he gained about 20 kilos so it totally changed his looks. He blamed his ex girlfriends pregnancy and the fact that ...
A. 31 March 2009: First off, men tend to immulate what there girlfriend/wife is going through. It's not on purpose either. You are pregnant and probably a little miserable and feeling fat. So he is miserable and fat. It happens in life. He probably will drop most of ... (read in full...)
I just have a feeling he doesn’t like me like that
Q. So there's this guy that I met about a year ago and in that year we have became very good friends. I believe I can say he is one of my best friends and recently I've developed a huge crush on him. I denied it to myself for a while, but finally gave ...
A. 30 March 2009: I think you should just casually ask him, "hey, do you ever think about if we should go out or not?". Or maybe a little bolder like, "what do you think about us being more than friends?". You know him better than anyone so you can figure out what to ... (read in full...)
He said he loves both of us and won't leave her for me...
Q. I been talking to this guy for a year. We dated briefly and after we broke up, we stopped talking for about a month. Well in that month he started talking to this other girl and they started dating. Well when me and him started talking again, he ...
A. 29 March 2009: If he wont leave her then you gotta leave him. It's hard I know, but he has told you he wont leave her. So you cant let him have both right? That would be so wrong. The only thing you can do is move on. You never know, he might realize his mistake ... (read in full...)
My friends say I shouldn't close the door on other countries, but I just don't feel attraction for non-latinos.
Q. If you're an American, white woman who is 29 (or older) but love latin culture... what are the chances that you'll find someone who will be not only latino, but be faithful, true and love you too much to ever break your heart? For years, I...
A. 29 March 2009: Well, theres nothing wrong at all in being attracted to a certain kind of person. But I am wondering what exactly is causing this attraction to be so narrow and specific. But, thats really ok also. You know what you like. As for the "latinos all ... (read in full...)
What I want is a deep passionate, yet reserved relationship
Q. I'm a 16 year old female and I've had one boyfriend, long distance and it didn't work out (2 years ago). I never really wanted a boyfriend and then it hit me one day that I'm lonely and want a romantic relationship. My problem? At school everyone...
A. 29 March 2009: For what it's worth, I wish I had met a girl like you at that age.... (read in full...)
What I want is a deep passionate, yet reserved relationship
Q. I'm a 16 year old female and I've had one boyfriend, long distance and it didn't work out (2 years ago). I never really wanted a boyfriend and then it hit me one day that I'm lonely and want a romantic relationship. My problem? At school everyone...
A. 29 March 2009: damluvaam is pretty dead on. Believe it or not there are alot of girls your age that feel as you do. I actually have never been into the fun fun fun seen either when I was your age. I too usually hung out with people older then me for the same ... (read in full...)
Early stages of relationship and I'm already losing interest in sex
Q. I've been in a very loving relationship for 8 months now. My boyfriend is so caring, understanding, lovely... everything I could ask for and we very rarely argue. When we first together we had sex basically every day. This is how I...
A. 29 March 2009: Well, it's ok not to want to have sex as much. You may be a little burnt out. My girl and I only have sex about once or twice a week, but that may have alot to do with the fact I dont get to see her alot. But even when we are together we dont always ... (read in full...)
He's not handling our break up well
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months yesterday and he didn't handle it very well at all. I said we can still be friends, and the next day he tried texting me again because he's upset still. Should I keep talking to him as a friend and console ...
A. 28 March 2009: Unfortunately telling a guy that you can still be friends is like a kiss of death to them. Thats the last thing he wants. The best thing to do is make a clean break and move on from each other. You are the problem so you cant console him. Yea, he is ... (read in full...)
I can see us breaking up but I still have fun with him
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years and nearlly two months, lives with me and my family and has done for 2 years. Recently tho we;ve been argueing alot, we usualy argue but neevr this much before. He says he doesnt think thing's are working out and doesnt want ...
A. 28 March 2009: Also it seems like you two are on the same page. Maybe talk to him again. Try some of those fun things together. But ultimately you guys should maybe try a break from each other for a while. agree to remain friends. I think he will. Work on you two ... (read in full...)
Am I becoming evil? Whats wrong with me?
Q. Lately, I've been having a series of really vivid dreams. Some of them seem to have a dark thread running through them, and I'm getting scared because I do terrible things in my dreams. I'm so angry all the time. In waking life I force myself to ...
A. 28 March 2009: I think that maybe you have spent so much time focusing on all the positive things in your life that you havent dealt with the problems, however small, that you may have. For instance, how is your love life? By some of what you said you may need to ... (read in full...)
After a breakup, is it normal for the person that has broken up with you to still respond to kisses and lingering hugs...?
Q. After a breakup, is it normal for the person that has broken up with you to still respond to kisses and lingering hugs, and engage in sexual activities, as well as calling you beautiful in text messages? I know this person loves me and cares, a...
A. 28 March 2009: I HATE that "I love you but i'm not in love with you" bull crap. You either love someone or you don't. You have to back away and move on. It's only stalling your own happiness by giving you false hope. It sucks when you love them, and I might be in ... (read in full...)
He told me he ended their affair... but I found out he hasn't and I'm heartbroken...
Q. My husband had an affair a year ago, I found out after two weeks, he ended it and we stayed together. I found out a week ago that he did not end the affair it has been going on all the time. He has left me for her and I am totally broken, we have ...
A. 28 March 2009: When you love someone so much that you build your whole life around them, thats when it seems like the world ends when they leave. The truth is your husband is a moron. And you CAN live without him, right now you just don't want to. He made his ... (read in full...)
| *old4this's friends
These are mutual friends, so *old4this has
added them and they have added *old4this!
|
