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writes:I told this guy that I've been knowing for 8 years and talking to for 3 That I'm in love with him for the first time and I told him that I wanted to know how he felt about me honestly and he said he'll call me so we can talk about it but he hasn't called yet does it sound like he feels the same? or am I getting ready to recieve some bad news from him? I am really In love with him and very scared cause I don't know how he feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all the wonderful advice.......We've known each other for 8years and shared a few intimate moments I really wanted to be his girl but he never brought it up I thought that maybe it was because our physical attraction was too strong and we'd have a hard time resisting each other and we both agreed on not wanting to have a sex based relationship but now I'm stronger and I know how to control myself maybe he doesn't yet anywho I will be moving on Since I still haven't heard from him.
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reader, carrie212 +, writes (7 June 2008):
 yeah it could go both ways.. he may just need time to think about how he feels before he gives you an answer. he probably wasn't prepared to hear it. and some guys are just afraid of the "L" word. give him some time to think about it.. you don't want him to be like yes! I love you too! and then realize that he made a mistake. and its a good sign that he wants to talk about it.. but honestly if he doesn't love you, he's not the one. everyone deserves to be with someone who truly and genuinely loves them.
everything will work out whether he does or doesn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): Yeah it kind of sounds like he is avoiding the subject because he might not feel the same way. It is a very hard thing to let someone down, so he is probably hoping that you will move on and forget about it.
I guess if I were you I would go about my life and move on. I think his actions (not calling back) is a big enough sign that he does not feel the same way. So don't ask anymore. And act totally cool and like you are fine and happy and don't bring it up anymore. And that's that. You live and you learn...
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reader, :):):)  +, writes (7 June 2008):
How long has it been since he said he'd call?
If its still less than a week, dont worry there is still plenty of time for him to call yet.
He may just be thinking it over, it is a big thing to tell someone you are in love with them.
If he dosent call, you can safety say you have your answer.
It may be painful, but you will move on and it will make you a stronger person.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): He probably won't be responding at all. You said all you had was a "talking" relationship? If thats true then you've probably scared the daylights out of him. He probably doesn't love you but I'm sure he liked talking to you & felt comfortable doing so. But now he can't have that.
In any case don't pursue an answer from him. It'll make things worse
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): How can you be in love with someone you hardly know? If he doesnt get in touch then dont pester him, and just walk on and leave all of this behind you. If you do hear from him then great, but if he doesnt want to know then there is nothing that you can do to make him want to know you. Sorry, but that is how it is and you will have to accept this and move on. I have been there and it hurt like hell, but i did get over it, and so will you.
take care
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