How can a guy be still in love with me after 15 years?
Q. How can a guy be still in love after 15 years? He is a family friend, same age and loves me like a crazy. He proposed me few times but I wasn’t ready to get married and didn’t accept. I got married 8 years ago but he is not dating anyone because he ...
A. 8 March 2012: YOU don't have to do a darn thing for this guy....
HE has chosen to continue "carrying the torch" for you, despite his knowing that YOU have gone on with your life...
I WAS that guy for the longest time.... but - after a while - I figured out ... (read in full...)
Should I break things off? I don't think my girlfriend is into me
Q. I need a little advice for my situation, I'm with my gf for more than three years but its been kinda of a roller coaster (good time, bad times etc') but I feel we have some fundamental problems like some miscommunications, our communication is not ...
A. 8 March 2012: Break up with her and expect that you and she cannot/will not remain "friends." Get on with your life...... (read in full...)
Why does my ex stare and try to get really close to me?
Q. I was at my ex's work the other day, he works in a supermarket and i was at the self serve thing with my mum and he wouldnt stop staring at me, he stares at me everytime i go there or even if i see him anywhere, anyways he walked towards me and ...
A. 8 March 2012: He's doing it to intimidate you. Guys LOVE to have power/be in control of situations..... and, if you react as I suspect you do (with a skittish shirk) then he's gotten his satisfaction from the interaction... and then goes about his business armed ... (read in full...)
What does this say if I'm getting no pleasure at all? He'd rather kiss the cat than me.
Q. Ok, i don't know to say this but I never have my pleasure and he used to give me everything i want and then when he got me, he stops trying. Now he doesn't even want to do what i want to do. Like sex, making out, kissing (he kisses the cats instead...
A. 7 March 2012: I detected this detail in your submittal: "...Whenever i want to go somewhere .." This leads me to believe that you and he share the same address. Is that so???? If "yes," then you have committed the cardinal error of young women everywhere.... (read in full...)
We are only FWB because I don't feel good enough for him, but how do I cope with the knowledge that he is dating other girls?
Q. I have been seeing an amazing guy for almost two years, he has asked me to be his girlfriend but I said no because he was leaving for college and I feel as though I'm not good enough for him. so we've just been a thing, or friends with benefits kind ...
A. 7 March 2012: You are a poster-child for "FWB" wherein the GIRL sells her soul and wonders why she feels like crap.... and the guy comes out scot-free and gets all the s*x he wants without ever having to consider the dispair that he's left in his wake.....
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Is there a difference between a woman who is a 'tease' and a woman who is a 'challenge'?
Q. is there a difference between a woman who is a 'tease' and a woman who is a 'challenge'? i've been called both before and i worry about what this means and the image people have of me. i enjoy hanging out with guys but i've never been comfortable ...
A. 7 March 2012: There are similarities and differences between the two. Here are the important ones:
Similarity: Both think that they are hot stuff and that guys will fall all over themselves to get their attention.
Differences: The tease is so obvious th... (read in full...)
Is he testing the sexual boundaries?
Q. I started seeing this guy about 3 weeks ago. I have seen him 3 times. I'm confused though as Ive had bad judgement when it comes to guys before. Im not sure if my gut is telling the truth or I am just relating back to previous heartache. The first ...
A. 7 March 2012: A guy will test, keep testing, you until he finds out if/that you are prepared to remove your clothes and put out for him....
You are in the midst of that....
Good luck... ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be confused over how I feel about him?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles! I recently met a guy at work and we exchanged contacts. We've been texting nonstop since. We just went on a date (is going out one to one with a guy considered a date?) but when we had our heart to heart talk he told me he was ...
A. 7 March 2012: It's OK to feel confused.... HOWEVER, DON'T react to that confusion in an inappropriate way...
I suggest you stay "on the sidelines" for a while.... and, if this guy should ever dump his "girlfriend" consider that he THEN may be available to you, ... (read in full...)
Just a few questions about love and loss....
Q. hi all, Got a few questions to ask all.. 1) how to let go of hatred and sorrow to a person that you once loved deeply?(especially for a no life, no social activities,not much friends, no confidence, no self esteem, feel humiliated when fac...
A. 7 March 2012: Let's answer your questions in the order that you posed them:
1. You decide that hatred and sorrow are non-productive thoughts and feelings,... and find more-positive subjects to occupy your mind....
2. Love and hate are "kissin' cousin"... (read in full...)
I get made fun of because I'm 21 and a virgin
Q. i'm a 21 year old male, who's still a virgin, and don't know what to do, i'm in this relationship and my girl makes fun of me that am a virgin, all my friends make fun of me that am a virgin and because of that i get lonely and depress and i just ...
A. 6 March 2012: First thing you've got to do is have nik-nik with a girl, some time, so you can cast OFF that dreaded label of "virgin"....
After you do THAT, you can expect your life to be perfect..... (read in full...)
Is it ever OK to cheat on your spouse?
Q. My wife has basically lost interest in sex. We've talked about it a lot, and says she just doesn't think about it very much any more, and that she's at a stage in her life where she's just not interested. She still gets in the mood, but it's very ...
A. 6 March 2012: There are two segments in your submittal which are all the information that you need to address this issue. They are:
"Or, I could stay in the relationship and accept the fact that for the rest of my life I will only rarely have sex; get divorced... (read in full...)
My friends girlfriend wants to end their relationship because he used to watch porn
Q. So I have this friend (yes folks, it actually is a friend) who's going through something that neither of us can seem to really get our heads around. His girlfriend of over a year sent him a random text yesterday, immediately stating that she ...
A. 6 March 2012: Are we missing something? :/
You (two) sure are!!! She's ready to dump him, and needed a plausible excuse, and the "porn" thing was it....
Case closed...... (read in full...)
What does it mean when he says he wants to want me instead of having me?
Q. Ok...I have come out of a 6 year relationship about 5 months ago and have recently met an amazing guy, been seeing him for about 2 months now. I really think i am falling for him. But he said to me were take things slow? He said instead of rushing ...
A. 6 March 2012: What you have here is a very crafty guy who knows how to couch his intentions in various terms which are meant to confuse you..... as evidenced by your submittal, here...
This is a variant on the "4-date" scheme in which a guy acts coy for an i... (read in full...)
What am I missing here?
Q. I have a family picnic outing with my girlfriend and her family and also a child (11 yo) from a family friend. I was playing catch me with the same child, and while we were playing she said you are slow and fat and you can't catch me. I didn...
A. 6 March 2012: What your "missing" is that your G/F saw bits of an argument between two 11-year-olds.... and ONE OF THEM was her 30-35-year-old boyfriend!!!!!... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my partner's attitude problem?
Q. I'm currently in a relationship but my partner seriously have an attitude problem.Firstly she's tend to become very rude when I come up with suggestions or ask questions regarding her whereabouts. When I bring up something dat she does wrong she ...
A. 6 March 2012: This one's simple: You decide that you've had enough of her abuse and say to her: "So long, (her name here), I've put up with enough of your abuse and I'm leaving from you."
Good luck....... (read in full...)
It would be a shame if something this good fell apart over drugs!
Q. I've been seeing this girl for 4 months now, I'm 33 and she's 27. We've gotten quite serious, we're madly in love and she has more or less moved in with me. One of the strengths of this relationship over past relationships of mine is that we can t...
A. 6 March 2012: Yes. Here are my thoughts.... and they stem from this piece of your submittal: "...All the same, I appreciated her being honest with me..." As I see it, this girl really IS cocaine addicted.... since she continues to return to its lure. YOU j... (read in full...)
Can anybody read this man's mind?
Q. I was going out with my partner for a year and a half. He always travelled with work and we always managed to make things work. But after xmas he said he wasn't sure if he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. When I challeneged him and said ...
A. 6 March 2012: You are in luck... as I can devine EXATLY what this man is thinking.....
He's thinking: "Well, I've sure got this girl in a whirl, and not thinking straight..... AND, I've kept her interest enough so that she STILL thinks I care for her when, in... (read in full...)
How do you reject people you are not interested in?
Q. What is the best way to say no to someone? I just came from a long relationship and I'm just now setting foot in the dating arena again since a long time, so it's a bit awkward. Basically I'm having a hard time rejecting those I'm not interested in. ...
A. 5 March 2012: I could write several pages of text to enumerate the MANY, MANY rejections that I have received from women over my protracted lifetime..... NONE is terrific to hear... but ALL are effective when they make the message loud and clear: I am NOT... (read in full...)
He asked if I wanted to be FWB, I really want to but I'm scared because I'm a virgin! What should I do?
Q. So I've been pretty good friends with this guy for a year. We had an instant attraction and we both have wanted to be just more than friends but he had a girl friend at the time so nothing happened but he's now single. We've been flirting and ...
A. 5 March 2012: You write (quote): "....does anyone have any advice?" Yes... I have advice. You say to this guy, "I value myself as a person, enough so that I will NOT just be your convenient vagina, so that YOU can pleasure yourself at the expense of MY se... (read in full...)
I know he treats me badly, so why do I still have feelings for him and keep coming back for more?
Q. I have been sleeping with this guy for a year now. It has been on and off and he has gone back with his ex gf for part of it and so we weren't together then. So right now I'm laying in his bed but he's not here. He's at her house and I heard so much ...
A. 5 March 2012: I think you're missing an important opportunity here. You write: "... I feel like shit that he 1. Lied to me and told me he was going to his families house for the day 2. Told me That she's having sex with her drug dealer for money 3. That she's a ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a guy's gay without asking?
Q. Ok this is a really stupid story and a really stupid question but I need to know. How can you tell if a guys gay without asking??? Normally I already know since 90% of the fellas I fancy are Gay or turn out to be gay. But One of my friends frien...
A. 4 March 2012: I suggest that you go to Radio Shack and get one of their "gaydar" units.... (It's sort of like a GPS unit....)
It takes a couple of AA batteries, and you start it, and point it at a man or woman, and it will tell you if that person is GAY.... ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a virgin and wants to have sex. Advice to make her first time special?
Q. Hi my girlfriend recently said to me that she felt she was ready to have sex. She is a virgin while I am not so I was really excited. The problem is I've never had sex with a virgin before and I am really nervous about being her first. I mean I love ...
A. 4 March 2012:
Bring her flowers, first......
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My ex is ignoring me after we split up for a second time, what should I do?
Q. I wish my ex-boyfriend would stop ignoring me. See, we have a bit of a complicated relationship. We started dating about six months ago, and then he fell for some other girl while he was with me. He broke it off, but he continued to communicate w...
A. 2 March 2012: EVERY guy wants to arrange things so that he will have multiple girls who will do s*x with them. It's what makes young guys breathe!!!!!
You are, prospectively, one of those girls for one of those guys..... and, it sounds like you're not content ... (read in full...)
My parents want me to rethink my future with him because of his unstable job, should I listen to my parents or my heart?
Q. Hello everyone :) I wanna ask some opinion, suggestion, and whatever comments from you guys. Here is my situation I'm having a great relationship with my bf for 2 years. We are in the same age, both 22. He is caring, mature and responsible. ...
A. 2 March 2012: There's REALLY only one question, isn't there? ... and that question is: "WHO is going to marry this guy and live life with him, YOU, or your parents?"
The answer to THAT question is the answer to YOUR question.... (read in full...)
Do age gaps really matter when it comes to good sex?
Q. Does the age gap really matter when it comes to good sex and relationships? Do you think its wrong for a 53year old women to have sex daily? why would her boyfriend of 41 tell her that love doesnt get measured by the amount of sex sessions??...
A. 2 March 2012: After the clothes come off, and the lights go out, EVERYBODY'S THE SAME AGE!!!!!... (read in full...)
Why does this girl ignore and disrespect me when we are out with others?
Q. Ok so im back again, with more drama. I started seeing a younger girl of 18. She is a co-worker of mine and we went on a date and spent the next three days basically just making out and watching movies at my place. i like the freshness of it and ...
A. 2 March 2012: You say you're "seeing" a young girl.... then describe situations in which you are not REALLY "seeing" this girl. Instead, you are "seeing her carry on a relationship with some other guy, whilest you just happen to be nearby."
Is that clear en... (read in full...)
How do I tell my friends that I'm dating someone again that cheated on me?
Q. I know that this sounds pathetic but here it goes im 23 i previously went out with a boy when i was 16 up until last xmas, we had a pritty much perfect relationship for 5 and a half years but when it came to last summer he wanted to move in and i ...
A. 2 March 2012: Here's my suggestion. You gather your friends together and say to them:
"You remember that guy I dated for almost six years? .. and he was anxious to move in together, and broke up with me because I said "No?"..... and I subsequently found ou... (read in full...)
I'm not attracted to the guy I'm dating but I do like talking to him. Do I end it?
Q. My lab partner and I recently started seeing each other. After 3 years of being with a person whose emotional and conversational skills could probably be surpassed by a hunk of wood's, the guy seemed like a nice change of pace. We talked quite a ...
A. 1 March 2012: I believe that what your describing is a "strictly ORAL" arrangement!!!!... (read in full...)
Why does my b/f send me a sweet text when he hasn't talked to me in 2 days?
Q. My boyfriend hadn't spoken to me for two days, but he has just sent me a text message saying " I can't be apart from you too much ". What does that mean, and should i text or ring him back now, or should i make him wait a bit?. I don't know what to ...
A. 1 March 2012: Let me help you with a little interpretation of "guy-write."
He WROTE "I can't be apart from you too much..."
What that MEANS is: I'm horny... and haven't got any OTHER girl available at the moment, and believe that if I can get together wit... (read in full...)
Is it ok to wear my most slimming outfit 2 times in a row?
Q. I met someone from online about 2 weeks ago. We spoke for 2 weeks prior to meeting as well. We met and the date went pretty well and we seem to like each other. He doesn't live very close and I am going to go visit him this weekend and it will be ...
A. 1 March 2012: Here's a hint about guys and clothing:
IF you wear something that makes you look hot (as you've described)... ALL the guy "saw" was that outfit, in a clump, on the floor, next to his bed.....
You may be pretty certain that, if you wear it agai... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a gangster! Should I marry him?
Q. Hiya, I'm 27 years old woman and I dated a 19 year old boy for 5 months last year. The very first time that we met, I doubted that we would ever got along as he's 8years younger than me, turned out, it was like love at the first sight for us both ...
A. 1 March 2012: P.S. I understand that NO drug-trafficking organization offers retirement benefits to their "employees".... Do you know WHY?????? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a gangster! Should I marry him?
Q. Hiya, I'm 27 years old woman and I dated a 19 year old boy for 5 months last year. The very first time that we met, I doubted that we would ever got along as he's 8years younger than me, turned out, it was like love at the first sight for us both ...
A. 1 March 2012: Go watch "The Godfather" movies a couple of times.... and see if that is the kind of guy you want for a partner.... (He's "in there".....)... (read in full...)
Why does this guy I dated keep talking about my flaws but checks up on who I'm dating?
Q. I dated a super handsome and very rich guy 5 months ago and I am sure that I got bored with him and the fact that he always spoken TOO politely as if that we are business partner or something and that he said constantly that we weren't match. Last ...
A. 1 March 2012: How many different ways do you suppose we "Agony Aunts (and Uncles)" will tell you to simply chalk this up to a mismatch, and simply leave the guy alone, and ignore him when he approached you?????? I'll be watching for follow-ups...... (read in full...)
I feel uncomfortable because I have a higher sex drive than my boyfriend!
Q. I have always had higher sex drive than my bf and that has always been bothering me. I would be afraid that he finds me overly sexually active and feels disgusted by me. I spoke to him about this and he said he is fine with it, he isnt disgusted by ...
A. 1 March 2012: Sexual/intimacy mismatches are sure to be nightmares. YOU have to decide how long you'll put up with it.... 'cuz THAT determines how long you'll endure with that partner who is not your sexual/intimacy equal.....
P.S. Been there/done that....... (read in full...)
I feel guilty for the breakdown of his marriage!
Q. I met and fell in love with a man who was married when we met. He told me that he had been unhappy in his marriage for more than a year and was contemplating divorce at about the time we met. I refused to date him because he was married. He promptly ...
A. 1 March 2012: Please ask yourself the REAL question: If he was willing to fool around with YOU whilest he was married, what's the likelihood that he will fool around on YOU once the two of you get married?????
Remember, guys will do and say MOST ANYTHING... (read in full...)
An old friend wants back into my life, but I don't think I can handle his issues
Q. Someone is trying to get back into my life, and I’m very conflicted about it. Bear with me while I try to keep this as short as I can and still give enough detail. We were buds in high school, but really bonded in our last year there when our g...
A. 1 March 2012: Soooo, forget the issues... AND, forget this "old friend".... WHAT good can come of it?????... (read in full...)
An otherwise wonderful relationship, but my partner doesn't get physical with me anymore. What should I do?
Q. Whether you are single/living together/engaged or married, after a certain amount of time, the honeymoon phase passes, and you are both true to yourselves and really get to know each other. You find that you are very happy in your relationship, ev...
A. 1 March 2012: OK.... so I won't tell "leave him".
Instead, I'll tell you that I could have written your submittal a few years ago..... AND, finally, after 4 years of no nik-nik, I capitulated, threw in the towel, and "left her...."
It's not possible to carr... (read in full...)
I thought he really liked me, but he tried to kiss someone else that night! How do I forget about our amazing kiss and move on?
Q. So I fell for this guy about 3 months ago, and I thought he really liked me. One night he kissed me (he is only the 2nd guy I have kissed) but it was so amazing. He was gentle and lovely. I found out later he tried to kiss someone else that nite. I ...
A. 1 March 2012: Are you going to be in Florida, USA any time soon? IF so, please stop by and I'll give you a kiss that will make the one you are pining for seem like a peck-on-the-cheek from your Grandmother!!!!!
Do you need my phone number?????... (read in full...)
What are your opinions on taking a break and giving your lover space after a horrible argument?
Q. Hello everyone. My boyfriend and I got into the worst argument we've ever gotten into last Friday. We've been together for almost two years now and that one topped them all. I will be honest that I barely have the energy and strength to expl...
A. 1 March 2012: I believe you've described a "relationship" which has repeated "arguments"..... Frankly, I don't think that "relationships" which are based upon arguments (hence: "drama") are much worth it.....
I'd have walked away from you months ago.... ... (read in full...)
Ladies, would you go out with a guy who asked you out straight away?
Q. As the above question says, would you go out on a date with a guy who you had only met on that occasion asked you out at the end of the evening? If you perceive that as needy, if a guy fancies a girl when should he ask her out?...
A. 1 March 2012: It looks to me like your submittal is "circular"... and YOU'VE ANSWERED OUR OWN QUESTION!!!! (albeit, with another question!!!).....
Cripes... how small a hoop do you expect a guy to jump through before he's allowed to ask you out?????... (read in full...)
I've developed a strong hate for gay men because of a failed legal dispute, how do I change this?
Q. Ive been involved in a legal dispute with a major airline the last two years over a discrimination claim. Ive now lost the case and the man I accused of discriminating me is gay. Since the incident (and a few bar happenings), Ive overall developed a ...
A. 1 March 2012: I suggest that you close your eyes, imagine that the guy you claimed discriminated against you was a buff, studly type, who you'd like to have take you to bed and pleasure you for the evening..... THEN, decide if you would like to continue hating ... (read in full...)
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