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Hi people!!

I am a very down to earth, understanding person, and I don't give advice that I wouldn't take.

So...I would love for anyone who seeks advice to feel free to send me a private message, and I will do my best to be helpful in solving your problem.

Guy at work staring at me, does he like me?

Q.   Hi Hoping that someone might be able to give me some insight. I started a new job a few weeks ago and since working there I have tried to knuckle down and do a good job so haven't taken much notice of other people and more or less just spe...

A.   14 March 2009: oK...UH, UM, first i think the guy at your job is a total creep...all he did was stair and not smile. Stay away from him. I have a feeling he is not a nice guy, and i take my feelings very very seriously. ok, i am going to take bits and pieces ... (read in full...)

Did I miss the boat with a relationship?

Q.   I fell in love at 16 and got engaged at 18 my boyfriend went to service. I met a boy at work who I heard was crazy about me. He wanted to ask me out. I happened to know that he was seeing a girl already steady on and off. I finally went for a...

A.   14 March 2009: I don't the man your engaged to or whatever is a nice guy. If he hits a guy for talking to you, that means he doesn't want him talking to you or you talking to him. And if he hits a stranger for talking to you he must not trust you and he must be a ... (read in full...)

He's being appropriate with me

Q.   I went on a date with a boy 2 weeks ago and we had a really good time. Afterward, we went back to my room and made out for a little and then he was the one that ended it and said he should go. A few days later, we talked and he told me that he ...

A.   14 March 2009: See, i know your a girl, we make things soooooooooo frunkin complicated, when it is simple as hot dogs and fries. Just talk to him, be very straight forward with your questions. Do you really like me or am I your cute little booty call? If he says... (read in full...)

Hot and cold relationships

Q.   hi just an update! i wrote ages ago: .... why would a guy say one minute he wants to be "a friend" but say he used to have feelings for you more than any other girl? next minute he avoids you, next week speaks to you .. then tries to hold your...

A.   14 March 2009: WHo cares about it being long. what-ev! I feel you girl my bestfriend that is a guy is doing the samething. Anyways, he does like you, but he is confused himself about how he feels. So, you should ask him how he feels and you tell him about ho... (read in full...)

I love my friend more than my own girlfriend

Q.   Right i have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 years now and recently i have been hanging out with a friend who is a girl and i don't know who want to be with anymore. i think i love my friend more than my own girlfriend. me and my friend have ...

A.   14 March 2009: Dude! I'm kinda in your situation too, but i'm the girl that is the "friend". I'm sorry to say this, but either way you are going to hurt someone...but there is a way to make your decision easier. First make a list of all the things you love abo... (read in full...)

Depressed & lonely! Need help!

Q.   I'm 17 year old and live in NYC.. Since I can remember I've never had friends for long.. Since age 14 I dont have any friends male or female... I DONT GO ANYWHERE.I only care for a boyfriend as my companionship.BTW:I am only ATTRACTED TO OLDER MEN ...

A.   28 December 2008: Ok...first things first! Go back to school and get away from your boyfriend. I don't want you to get so attached that you feel that you need him, and that you are nothing without him because that is where I think you are heading. Once you have don... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and ready for sex --how to tell my boyfriend!?

Q.   hi im 13 and my question is how do i tell my boyfriend im ready for sex??? me and my boyfriend been together for along time and told me to tell him when im ready but i dont know how...can u help me oh yea i thought this over for the last 2mo...

A.   28 December 2008: Hey...I am 13 as well. You can call me all sorts of names, but I don't think you should do it. A baby can be born on the first try, condoms break, and you have to have complete and total trust in him. You have to know that if things do not go a... (read in full...)

How do I get to know him better?

Q.   I like a guy who works at the gym I go to. He has the most beautiful eyes. He oversees the gym and helps people with the equipment when asked. I don't think he is a personal trainer. He seems to be working almost everytime I go to workout, I can't ...

A.   28 December 2008: Okay! You should keep going to the gym of course, find any reason at all to ask for his help, and after he helps you...if you are bold enough...ask him about something... EXAMPLES: choose only one Hey!... Have you seen the movie...? How long ... (read in full...)

The note I'd love to give to my Spanish teacher, but won't...

Q.   I’ve had massive crush on my Spanish teacher for few years. I know nothing is going to happen between us; she’s married and I’m under-age. I sure miss her when I don’t see her, especially on weekends. I’m really having a hard time now since we ...

A.   28 December 2008: HI! I have had a crush on a teacher before, but not quite as luvy duvy as you are. It was over in less than a month. You should give her the note...don't get too axcited...if you give her the note you must take out or change the last sentence. ... (read in full...)

Am I cheating a young girl? Should I look for an older woman?

Q.   I am 48 and I fall in love with an 18 year old. I dont know how, but I cant live without her. Am I cheating a young girl? Should I look for a older woman only to get out of my deep emptiness in my life. But I dont find or I dont like any of the ...

A.   9 December 2008: I think you should look for an older woman, but before you do anything...talk to her about how you feel. If you still feel the way you do...then, you look for an older woman. If things don't work out with older woman...go with your heart, but your... (read in full...)

Why would he not call me?

Q.   Can anyone offer me any explanation for this please? I met a friend of a very good friend of mine a couple of weeks ago. This guy told my friend (also a guy) that he really liked me, asked him loads of questions about me such as am I single, wha...

A.   7 December 2008:  If he wants to get with you he will call. If not...SO WHAT!! There is plenty of guys to go around for all of us girls. Chillax!...forget him.... (read in full...)

How can I approach this subject with her without causing problems with her current relationship?

Q.   Hi, I could do with some advice with this one... I grew up with a girl called Jenny when I was younger... our parents were best friends... she and me (Chris) went to school together, spent the holidays together... did virtually everything toget...

A.   2 December 2008: Hi! Start off by telling her that you are not looking to mess up her relationship, but you still have feelings for her. (say it with all of your feelings and every any emotion you have) Tell her that you are willing to wait...(only if you a... (read in full...)

The other guy...

Q.   Hi, who ever reads this, my name is kurt. I recently got into a relationship several months ago, 9 to be exact. His name is bob. We met on craigslist. What was supposed to be a one nite thing turned into a 9 month relationship. THE PROBLEM: ...

A.   2 December 2008: No...your not crazy. I would be mad if you didn't break up with him. I'm sorry but you sound so much like just another guy or the other guy. You should break it up by telling him about how you feel abou your relationship and what he's doing, and ... (read in full...)

Is there a way to apologize for my stupidity?

Q.   I asked a guy friend to ask this girl for her number specifically telling him to tell her that it was for me. I didn't ask her myself because I had recently moved to a different part of the city and his was the only number I had. I called her and ...

A.   30 November 2008: Yes there is a way! Tell her why you didn't ask her yourself I am sure she will understand. Say it very apologetically. If she forgives you tell her why you wanted her number and then ask her if she would like to go out with you on a date, but only ... (read in full...)

Help! Dilemma!

Q.   I found out I am pregnant, for most this news would be exciting and happy as it should be for me. I was indecisive about what i wanted to do and when i decided i knew i had to tell the "sperm donor". The relationship I had with this person was at f...

A.   30 November 2008: Ok...that sounded like a soap opera, but you did the right thing by telling him. As for your question it's a yes and no thing...you should consider both his and your feelings equally because you are the mother and he is the father. As you said "I ... (read in full...)

Is he just not into me?

Q.   I met a guy last spring in the mall, he is definitely attracted to me. i had a crush and we flirted a few times. then he stopped flirting with me and i decided to stop going to the mall to see him but decided to leave a "window open" by seeing ...

A.   30 November 2008: I understand where your coming from... He is totally into you, but I think he's trying not to be too forward with you because when he was being forward by asking you to come to his job you said no. Your worrying about nothing he does like you... (read in full...)

I'm attracted to my cousin and the thought of someone else being with her drives me crazy! What to do?

Q.   Im frm India im really attracted to my cousin and have sexual fantasies about her. she is med student in another city , weve rarely met , except for a few family reunions. but the last time we met ( years back) in delhi , it just set up some ...

A.   30 November 2008: Your more than welcome!! I'm glad I could help...I just got out of that situation not too long ago...So, don't forget to remind yourself that she is your cousin. To contact me personally for any advice go to www.dear... (read in full...)

How do I stop my boobs from growing?

Q.   Okay i'm 15 years old, i'm 5'1 and my boobs are way too big already, i just want to know if there's anything i can do to stop growing anymore! I'm already a 32F, no 15 year old at my short height should have boobs that big, and i'm really quite ...

A.   30 November 2008: LOL!!! I understand...but im a thick 13yr old with alot going on but I stopped growing this year...well that's what my doctor said... Girl...the only thing you can do about them is to have surgery and that doesn't sound fun! Ok please don't get... (read in full...)

My husband won't touch me, what should I do?

Q.   I would like if anybody who has some good points would give me a few min.What should I do with this totally awkward\ situation? My husband lost interest in sex, and literally ,he won't even touch me, yet, he says ,he loves me , wants to spend hi...

A.   30 November 2008: Okay...I'm thinking that it's not you...maybe he is depressed, (I'm sorry to say this) but maybe he cheated and it is messing with him emotionally causing the depression, he may think he isn't good in bed... ROMANTIC WEEKEND ... (read in full...)

How do I ask a woman to have sex with me?

Q.   I'm in my forties and have not had sex for nearly 17 years. How do I get a woman into my bed? Females only answer please. Thank you....

A.   30 November 2008: Well...first of all...do not ever put yourself down like that. You should look for love. When your in love with someone...no matter how they look...they will be the most handsome or most beautiful to you because love has that power. I think I have ... (read in full...)

Why did he choose a woman similar to me?

Q.   hi all,i got a problem that needs solving,i have a best friend who is a guy,he is also the best friend of my guy,thing is we were friends before my guy and i got together. i will call my best friend R. R and i are so close that i tell him everything ...

A.   30 November 2008: WOW!! You are in a huge mess, but I want to help clean it up. Ok, I have tons of guy friends and yes...before we were friends either we liked each other or he just liked me.(i'm not trying to act as if i'm all that, but it's true) So, I wouldn't be ... (read in full...)

He never has time for me so I broke up several times, but I want him back again! I need your advice.

Q.   I have been seeing someone for 6 months now and he never has time for me between his 2 jobs and maintaing his bod. I have never met family of friends or been to his residence and have went out a few times. I told him because of this it was over seve...

A.   30 November 2008: Okay...are you sure your not in lust. People confuse it for love all the time. Lust is nothing more than just a physical attraction. Love is like so much more it would take pages to explaine it. You say that he like to maintaine his body. So...do ... (read in full...)

I'm attracted to my cousin and the thought of someone else being with her drives me crazy! What to do?

Q.   Im frm India im really attracted to my cousin and have sexual fantasies about her. she is med student in another city , weve rarely met , except for a few family reunions. but the last time we met ( years back) in delhi , it just set up some ...

A.   30 November 2008: Sweety...I was in the same boat with you more than onnce. I hate having hot cousins...but this is what you do...keep all of your sexual fantisies as fantisies...when you feel yourself getting hard in the pants when your around her...walk away. ... (read in full...)

How do I ask a woman to have sex with me?

Q.   I'm in my forties and have not had sex for nearly 17 years. How do I get a woman into my bed? Females only answer please. Thank you....

A.   30 November 2008: Yes, okay I am a teen, but my suggestion would be...to find a female in your situation...if that is not an option...find someone you like...at a job, restraunt, someone you just happen to bump into...get to know them and ounce you do the physical ... (read in full...)

If anyone out there has any ideas or knows how to let go I would appreciate you sharing it with me.

Q.   I have been married for 40 years and my husband passed away. Now I find myself in this relationship that is verbally abusive, I have no trust, he consistently lies to me, I let him walk all over me, I know this is wrong, it is not me to come across ...

A.   30 November 2008: Hi, you sound like a very bright young lady. Leave him. Love is a terrible thing to waste. You are wasting it on someone that is abusing you emotionally. I think you are picking up the phone and coming right back to him because you think it's too ... (read in full...)

Why would he not call me?

Q.   Can anyone offer me any explanation for this please? I met a friend of a very good friend of mine a couple of weeks ago. This guy told my friend (also a guy) that he really liked me, asked him loads of questions about me such as am I single, wha...

A.   30 November 2008: Sorry...I am a female, but I think he is nervous maybe even shy about what to say. I think this opinion maybe right because my male friends agree. Don't worry. HE WILL CALL!!... (read in full...)

Younger men!

Q.   There is a guy who is younger than me and he really likes me but I think he is a geeko and I really don't like him. He is always following me around! What do I do!?...

A.   30 November 2008: Aaaaaw! This is so common...He has a crush on you. Just explaine to him that he's to young for you, and that you guys can be friends. It will all work out fine! ... (read in full...)

Should I knock this relationship on the head and move on?

Q.   I've been dating a woman that lives with her partner. He is seeing someone else and does not sleep a home 5 out of 7 days per week and when he does, he sleeps on the couch (so she says). The woman I am dating says that she wants to end their 20 yr ...

A.   30 November 2008: Talk to her about how you feel about her and her partner still living together. If she doesn't take the steps necassary to doing as she says she wants to do you should end it and move on. I know it's hard to let someone you love go, but sometimes ... (read in full...)

Falling Again

Q.   I have a Big problem!! I am married and find myself falling in love with another man!! This is so seperate from my marriage!! I still love my husband and we are happy! Is it possoble to be in love with two people at once? And, what should I do?...

A.   30 November 2008: Yes, I believe it is possible to be in love with two people at ounce, but the question is...Are both of them in love with you? You think your falling in love with this other man, but is he falling in love with you? I believe marriage should b... (read in full...)

I am scared to get in a relationship with him fearing he is worse than I am thinking.

Q.   I have a friend from work whom I will call N. We longboard and I talk to him at work. He works in the same department as my uncle and recently my uncle said that N is saying stuff about me he doesn't approve of. He wouldn't tell me anything ...

A.   30 November 2008: Talk to your uncle about the things he says. Make him talk! To get him to talk tell him that you are going out on a date with N. He will defitnely talk because if the guy is no good he will do what he has to do to keep you two apart. If your unc... (read in full...)

Behavioural problems???

Q.   I think I have some sort of behaviour issue... I am extremely melodramatic, I have a very short temper and tiny things annoy me... such as mistakes i've made in writing especially in pen it makes me so angry and i often attept to write it agian and ...

A.   30 November 2008: Yes, it helps, but I don't think there is a name for what you have. I think you should talk to your friend and him about it. I think it would help you to get over it all. I don't think you have ADD or ADHD. I think the way doctors or speciali... (read in full...)

Does he really likes me or am I another one of his conquests?

Q.   I met a military guy 2 months ago, he's leaving in January, so I have this single month left to do something. When we met I notice he's too much out there, like a player kinda thing. He kept looking at me a lot and he even asked me if I was a ...

A.   30 November 2008: Way to go to you! You are at an age between 30 and 35 and you are still a virgin. I'm a teen and I have read about abstinence, so i'm tryin too. Anyways...I know your lookin for someone, but it seems like you are heading for lust...not love. Yo... (read in full...)

Controlled and abused...

Q.   How do I decide if I need to stay in the relationship I'm in when I feel like I'm being controlled and somewhat abused? ...

A.   30 November 2008: If you feel like that in any situation you should not stay in the relationship. If he cares for you...you should not feel controlled or abused in anyway and he will except the relationship ending. If he doesnn't take it well...you leave, get away ... (read in full...)

Behavioural problems???

Q.   I think I have some sort of behaviour issue... I am extremely melodramatic, I have a very short temper and tiny things annoy me... such as mistakes i've made in writing especially in pen it makes me so angry and i often attept to write it agian and ...

A.   30 November 2008: I really do understand. I need more information to answer your questions to the fullest, though. From what I have read I would say that there is nothing wrong with you as far as telling people you feel super or brilliant when asked how you are. ... (read in full...)

Am I worrying over nothing... or is he cheating?

Q.   Me and my husband have been together for nine years and married for two. We have three kids together all under the age of five. Hhe is in the military and recently went to do training in a different state. He started talking to a girl and lied to ...

A.   29 November 2008: Your an army wife...you have evry right to worry, but if you can't shake the feeling you should talk to him about it. It shouldn't anger him when you bring it up because it should click somewhere in his mind that she is talking about this because ... (read in full...)

Why is the news of my ex being engaged bringing me down?

Q.   I broke up with my ex of 5 years a few years ago. She broke up with me and got together with the guy she was cheating on me with. Just found out recently they got engaged. I have a great girlfriend now and we have such a good time together so why is ...

A.   29 November 2008: It's okay. You are not with her physically, but you are still emotionaly attached to her thats why it's bothering you. Yes...you have a girlfriend, so don't look into it as if something may still be there with your ex...Try to keep what you have ... (read in full...)

Troubled and dysfunctional family...

Q.   Dear Cupid, I need help, at least advice from anybody who can have a little attention to this. I have a very disfunctional family and it's really killing me, parents never been good to me specially mother who seems hated me frome the very start of ...

A.   29 November 2008: You know what?!... You are a wonderful woman. I suggest that you tell them everything that you just typed a few minutes ago. If they do not listen. MAKE THEM!! If they still don't listen... ask them to talk to you about how they feel, and then you ... (read in full...)

I like this lad and he likes me - but he has a girlfriend and I don't know what to do.

Q.   i really really like a lad at school who i think likes me aswell cos he flirts with me nearly as much as i do with him, and that is a lot! the only problem is that he has got a girlfriend and i dont know what to do! he probably knows that i like him ...

A.   29 November 2008:  I understand your situation. I have been it before. He is most likely no good if he is flirting with you while he is in a relationship...think about what he would do if you guys were dating...Yeah! I thought you would get it...it would hurt ... (read in full...)

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