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Does he really likes me or am I another one of his conquests?

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Question - (30 November 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 30 November 2008)
A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I met a military guy 2 months ago, he's leaving in January, so I have this single month left to do something. When we met I notice he's too much out there, like a player kinda thing. He kept looking at me a lot and he even asked me if I was a trouble maker.

Well, I have to attend his office since I'm a contractor. Every time I go he never keeps his eyes from me, but when people is around he maintains a low profile until we are left alone that he approaches me and flirts and likes to be straight forward he likes me.

The thing is he's a player, like a lady in his office say. So, I'm afraid of letting myself go and be one of his conquests. Another thing is that I've notice he looks at me even when I'm not looking at him, like staring. I might be talking to other people and he resents if I don't notice him so he backs off and approaches me later. He speaks to me with his eyes that he wants me, but still don't want to let it go.

The last thing he'd just divorced so, ( already verified that in his office). Is that bad as to if it's too soon for him. I like him physically, b/c he's HOT enough to satisfy my needs. I'm a virgin and I love someone who doesn't love me which made me hurt. I don't want to get into any guy too much , just enjoy the experience. Please give me your advice if to let this one go or should I give it a try?

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A female reader, katatonik United States +, writes (30 November 2008):

katatonik agony auntI would trust the reservations it sounds like you already have about this guy and stay clear of him. Not only is he a player, you mention that he's also recently divorced. Unless he has a perfect and now platonic-only relationship with his ex-wife (you don't say if there are kids involved or not), getting involved with him may bring you more baggage than you may want in your first "intimate" relationship. And he's leaving, so if you get emotionally attached to him at all--which isn't unlikely, considering it would be your first time--you will only be hurt again. There's no hurry or ideal age by which you need to lose your virginity, so I'd say wait for the someone you KNOW is right for you =) and good luck

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A female reader, nicole90 United States +, writes (30 November 2008):

nicole90 agony auntI have a good friend leaving on a mission in a few months and its the same. Everytime we are alone he acts like we are dating and he will kiss me and flirt. But when we are in public it seems we are good friends and he will ask me "you think that girls hot?" I have learned to distance my heart from his hurtful games. But it's hard not to get attached to a sweet talker but if it was me, I would stay away from military man. Don't give in to his games and keep your distance. there are more "hot" guys out there that would like to be with you and only you.

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A female reader, luvy duvy United States +, writes (30 November 2008):

luvy duvy agony auntWay to go to you! You are at an age between 30 and 35 and you are still a virgin. I'm a teen and I have read about abstinence, so i'm tryin too.

Anyways...I know your lookin for someone, but it seems like you are heading for lust...not love. You and your military guy seem to only have a physical attraction. Go out with him on a couple of dates and don't have sex. Try to find things that you have in common, and try to get to know each other better. If all he seems interested in is your body and having sex...for get about him.


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A female reader, Teacake United States +, writes (30 November 2008):

Teacake agony auntYou already know the answer and I guess are having us support you in staying away! A player is a player and you will feel horrible after he's had you. Let him suffer and don't cater to his ego.

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