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Controlled and abused...

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Question - (30 November 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 30 November 2008)
A male United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

How do I decide if I need to stay in the relationship I'm in when I feel like I'm being controlled and somewhat abused?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008):

If you dont feel fine now in your relationship.. Just get out of there.. its easy to say but hard to do i know.. but its only the matter of disicion.. you choose Left or Right?..

Good luck........ Gladyz

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A female reader, boo22 United Kingdom +, writes (30 November 2008):

boo22 agony auntHi, You phrase your question in an interesting way i feel. How do i decide if i need to stay in a relationship where i'm controlled and abused. I would say why on earth do you NEED to stay in a relationship that makes you feel bad about yourself. Honey get out and stay out if you possibly can. Good luck x

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A female reader, Helper123 United Kingdom +, writes (30 November 2008):

This may seem like a hard thing for you to choose..

but people who read your question straight away think well of course.. leave him, hes obviously a jerk and thinks he can do what he likes to you and get away with it.

Well i agree.

But i know that its not as easy as doing so..

I have been there before.

You obviously have feelings for this man,

as you are letting him get away with controlling and abusing you.

My advise for you is to leave him.

If he would become violent or over angry with you about talking about it, then dont.

Get your stuff when hes not home and leave.

Leave him a letter explaining every thing you are feeling and how it is effecting you.

Make sure you tell him you hope for the both of you to still be friends.

This way he wont think you are dumping him so harshly and he wont backfire.

If you think that this is the wrong advice, then stay with him or do it your way or how ever you feel.

But trust me..

I have been there before, and doing this will have a major effect on your life, making you much happier, confident and less worried or stressed.

Find a man you trust and you know will be there for you, and would never halm or hurt you inside or out.

I hope my advice will help you.

Many thanks.



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A female reader, luvy duvy United States +, writes (30 November 2008):

luvy duvy agony auntIf you feel like that in any situation you should not stay in the relationship. If he cares for should not feel controlled or abused in anyway and he will except the relationship ending. If he doesnn't take it leave, get away from him...I know that the police seems kind of over board, but if you feel in anyway threatend, you should tell the authorities or someone to keep an eye on him.

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