When a girl gets hurt in a relatonship, does she tell anybody (even her ex)?
Q. When a girl gets hurt in a relatonship, does she tell anybody (even her ex)?...
A. 5 April 2007: I guess it all depends on the indidual really. Some people like to keep it to themselves, while some like to tell people. Talking to people can be very theraputic, and can even help the individual get over their problems quicker.
good luck ... (read in full...)
Should I mention this?
Q. shld i tel my boyfriend of 4years that in my 1st yr of varsity i slept with 4 guys? ...
A. 4 April 2007: Without knowing anything about the situation, I mean were you going out with your boyfriend at the time you slept with these 4 guys?.
There is just not enough information here to be able to write an appropriate answer.... (read in full...)
What are girls meant to do when having sex? Move or just lie there?!
Q. Heya Im just wonderin, what are girls meant to do when having sex? When they are under the boy are they just meant to lie there or what? Do they move their hips intime with his?? Help me please!!! I want to make sex better for us!!...
A. 4 April 2007: First off i am going to say that you are still very young to be thinking about having sex, and below the age of consent i hassen to add.
Obviously you are going to have sex anyway regardless of what anyone says.
I guess what girls do while having s... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and really want to have sex with my 21 yr old boyfriend!!
Q. hi, im 14 years old and i have a 21 year old boyfriend, i see him all the time and i love him alot. its not really a problem though cause if i didnt want to see him i would of told him to **** off. anyways, my friend has been to his house with me,...
A. 4 April 2007: Whats the rush, you are only 14. And you are two years below the age of consent. You 21 year old boyfriend could get in to some serious trouble if he were found out, even face a prison sentence for having sex with a minor.
Wait till you are 16 then... (read in full...)
Was he sincere and honest about not being able to get online ?
Q. hello i met a nice man on a marriage site i did not know that he existed on the site until one day i recieved an invitation to chat from him he told me that he would love to chat with me then i agreed we chatted and sent e-mails he told me that ...
A. 4 April 2007: It could all be a fallacy, something he has concocted, or he could be telling the truth, its hard to say.
As its the first time its happened i would be inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt. But walk away if it happens a second time.
Goo... (read in full...)
I'm confused, he says he wants to be with me but is dating someone else again!?
Q. 3 months ago i split up with my boyfriend, 2 weeks after he got together with this girl and are still going out with each other. his cheated on her twice with me. last week at my birthday he told me he still loved me and that i was beautiful. he ...
A. 4 April 2007: I don't think this guy knows what he wants, i think he wants his cake and eat it. He went with you twice while he was still in a relationship with another woman. What does this tell you about him. And if you were to get back with him how do you know ... (read in full...)
I think I'm falling in love with him, but he loves my best friend and think shes falling for him! What do I do ?
Q. Well... I think I'm falling in love with this guy that I know, his so nice and sometimes sweet. His not perfect, but his in love with one of my best friends, and i think she's starting to fall for him as well. I dont know what to do. what do i do?...
A. 3 April 2007: If this is the case, that he is falling in love with her, and vice versa then unfortunately there is not an awful lot you can do about it. Ask him his feelings, maybe you could be wrong about him liking this other girl, but don't be too upset if he ... (read in full...)
She flirts with everyone and shes married, Im annoyed as shes sleeping with a guy at work and it could have been me!!
Q. Hi, there is a girl in my office, she started flirting with me some time back but as she was married i did not respond,flirted with her sometimes but never slept with her (though i wanted too). whenever i would give her signals she sould ignore t...
A. 3 April 2007: I would say you had a lucky escape, i would be thankful that someone else has taken her up and not you. From what you have said she spells one word and that is trouble. I think she is just interested in cheating on her husband, and will sleep with ... (read in full...)
We used to be such good friends but I think she's fallen for another guy and I don't know what to do?
Q. me and this girl met last summer we really started to like each other and we met a few times after and we talk every night on the phone, im not quite sure what we are and now she has started to fall for another guy and i dont know what to do...
A. 3 April 2007: Ok so you met last summer and you really started to like each other. But during this time did you ever tell her your true feelings for her?. She may well like you, but could have become despondant because you haven't asked her out, or told her how ... (read in full...)
Im considering becoming a prostitute as I fear its the only way out of my debt!!
Q. I'm so desperate for money right now, I owe so much out, I've been having thoughts that my only way out is prostitution. I really don't want to do this, is there any way round this? I need money asap and really have no other choice. Is it dangerous ...
A. 3 April 2007: My advice would be to steer well clear of the prostitution avenue. I can only forsee that this will lead to a life of upset, with guy's having their wicked way with you. Not to mention the risk of contracting some unwanted virus or disease.
I hope... (read in full...)
My ex wont leave me alone, I do still have feelings for him, but I know I dont want to go back! What should I do ?
Q. My ex-boyfriend won't leave me alone- and i know theres a part of me that doesn't want him to. He was my first proper boyfriend- i lost my virginity to him but we broke up, because he deals drugs and is always getting into trouble. The thing that ...
A. 3 April 2007: To be brutally honest i think you should forget about this guy and move on.
Its natural to still have these feelings for him as he was your first, and you haven't met anyone else yet. Listen to your friends because i think what they are saying is c... (read in full...)
Would getting some porn DVD's be a bad idea ?
Q. I would like some advice, we have been married many years and my husband keeps requesting for us to get some porn DVD's to watch together, now I'm not so sure that this is a good idea after reading some of the stories on this site, and I don't want ...
A. 2 April 2007: BEENTHEREDONEIT gives you good advice. Communication is the key here.
Talk to your Husband, tell him how you feel about the porn DVDs, talk to him about what you have read. Don't do anything you feel uncomfortable with, and don't be pressured into... (read in full...)
How can I avoid looking at someone who wears underwear or a bikini?
Q. hiya. I'm here agian I've a very confusing problem how can I avoid looking at someone who is wearing an underwear or a bikini??? as you know this happens a lot in the movies and commercial...etc. Please help me....
A. 2 April 2007: I woulden't feel bad about looking at women in underware or bikini's, it not dirty or anything. You are young its natural to be curious with regards to the female sex.
Enjoy it.... (read in full...)
He flirts with me a lot! Can some one please tell me whether he thinks of me as a mate and what should I do?
Q. hey well i am in year 11 and there's a guy in my form who i really like. We aren't really friends, we've known each other since year 7 but we don't know each other too well. However we've recently started talking more over msn and at school. M...
A. 2 April 2007: From what you have written it does sound like he fancies you, but like you is to she to say anything. So consequently the signs come across as flirtatious gestures. Next time he flirts with you flirt back, try to hold eye contact with him for a few ... (read in full...)
How do you know when your being used ?
Q. How do you know when you are being used?...
A. 1 April 2007: there are many factors that could initially point to being used, such as he could keep wanting to borrow money from you. Maybe going out with you to make someone else jealous. Without knowing anything about your situation its hard to say.
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Im in love with her but Im to shy to talk to her! How can I speak to her ?
Q. i am in love with a girll and will like to marry her but my problem is that im shy and whenever i met her i loose the confidence to speak to her. tell me what to do ...
A. 1 April 2007: Without knowing to much about your situation, whether she is someone you work with, a neigbour, or someone you just see out and about. All you can do is gradually build up a friendship with her bit by bit. Complement her whenever you see her, do her ... (read in full...)
I dated him 7 months, we broke up but I love him, He said maybe we can be together in 2-3 yrs, is this likely or even possible!?
Q. what can i do? Im a 15 year old nearly 16 and I think im in love. For 7 months me and my boyfriend was going out and said we loved each other every day, but he moved away 2 months ago, he has since dumped me and said he has a new girlfriend. I asked ...
A. 1 April 2007: Ok so you both were in a relationship together for seven months, he moved away finished with you and got another girlfriend. I think that telling you that you are going to be together in 2 or 3 years is leading you on, giving you a false hope of ... (read in full...)
While he's away, I'm seeing a new guy! Who should I choose?
Q. There is a guy who is practically perfect, but there is no spark with him. I know that he likes me a lot and we have only been dating for a little bit. He is shy and doesn't have experience with girls. He has been away on vacation for the past week ...
A. 1 April 2007: Although you think this other guy is out of your league he probably isen't.
As for which one to choose i would go with the one you feel you have more chemistry with. The one who you find yourself thinking about more. Which one do you think of last... (read in full...)
When I'm drunk guys feel me up and take advantage! I feel like a slut--what can I do to stop this?
Q. When i'm drunk, occassionally i'm taken advantage of a fair bit, not overly far or anything, some guys will just start feeling me up yet when i wouldn't want them to. I do stop them from doing this but not immediately, like my common sense doesn't ...
A. 1 April 2007: I woulden't drink to the excess where it takes you a while to realise a guy is touching you up. There is nothing wrong with drinking, but its about knowing when to stop. Don't let these guy's think they can touch you when they want, your worth more ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to trust me, after she's been abused by her bf?
Q. there is this girl that i like and i am planning on asking her to be my girlfriend. the problem is that she has had really abusive boyfriends and can no longer trust boys as she used to. is there any way that i can convice her that i am a good guy ...
A. 1 April 2007: Ok so has had a couple of abusive partners in the past, so naturally she is going to be wary of future relationships. It may take time, but all you can do is gradually build her confidence up in you bit by bit. Show her you are a nice guy, that you ... (read in full...)
I tease her and she says "shoosh you" and "make me then." Is she flirting with me?
Q. There's this girl I really really like and she knows I like her a lot. When we're around each other, I tease her about top-up credit (she tops up a lot), I tease her about a lot of things. She keeps on telling me to 'shoosh you' and I say 'make me ...
A. 26 March 2007: By just going on the information you have given its hard to say if its flirting or friendly banter, Although i would probably sway more torwards friendly banter.
Does she give you prolonged eye contact then smile and look away, does she ever play... (read in full...)
What can I do to celebrate our first year anniversary?
Q. I'm in my first serious relationship and its coming up to our 1 year aniversary. im not sure what to do, what to buy etc. can anyone help me? and if you can please help me fast! ...
A. 25 March 2007: How about a nice candle lit dinner for two at home, with some nice mellow love songs, and some wine.
Or book a table at your favourit resturant on the day of your aniversary. Whatever you choose to do im sure it will be lovely.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
I keep thinking how lucky he is to have a 19 year old blonde virgin on his arm and what an ego boost.
Q. I'm an 19 year old virgin and my boyfriend is 36 years old. We have been together for 6 months and I've had lots of fun with him. The thing is...with the age gap. I keep thinking how lucky he is to have a 19 year old blonde virgin on his arm and ...
A. 25 March 2007: I don't think you are doing him an injustice atal. Age gaps are only a problem if you let it.
Like Dr Pete says couples who are right for each other don't notice age gaps because they get on so well. If you like him and he likes you 17 years is n... (read in full...)
We are both 15 and never had sex! So is it wrong just for us to be sleeping in the same bed?
Q. is this against the law? Me and my gf have been going out about a year we are both 15 and are sleeping together a few times(NO SEX) and by that i mean just to sleep. Yes we do kiss and cuddle sometimes but we don't have sex and are still both ...
A. 24 March 2007: I don't think its wrong that you are both sleeping in the same bed together, I take it yours/her parents are ok with this too?.
I think its very mature of you both to wait till you are ready and old enough.
But just beware that if you are sleeping... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy but had a dream last night about another guy! Is this normal?
Q. i have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now and i lost my virginity to him... but last night i had a dream about someone else is this bad??...
A. 23 March 2007: I woulden't worry to much about this dream, unfortunately its something that we have no control over. I don't think its bad atal, and don't think you should feel guilty either, just maybe keep it to yourself and don't tell your boyfriend.
All t... (read in full...)
She wants to dump him and date me. How do I advise her on that?
Q. This girl and I are really close. We've known each other for around 6 months, and we would really like to start dating. Sounds great, right? Well, the problem is she has a boyfriend at the time. Yesterday, she just started crying. She tells me it'...
A. 23 March 2007: I woulden't encourage her at the moment as she is currently in another relationship. Her splitting up with her boyfriend has got to be 100% her doing, and not because you told her to do it.
She quite clearly wants to be with you and not this othe... (read in full...)
Is car sharing a way of controlling??
Q. Although this is not a real serious question, i was just wondering what people thought about this small issue in general. My boyfriend said that once i passed my driving test, we could both use his car. Sort of, share it between us. Obviousl...
A. 23 March 2007: I don't think the reason he wants to car share with you is to keep tabs on your where abouts.
I would feel privileged that he actually trusts you to drive his BMW, especially as you have not been driving that long.
Be honest with him, say its a re... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy says he fell for you ?
Q. What does it mean when a guy says he fell for you? I can eloborate in a private message, if you want to get to the nitty gritty......
A. 23 March 2007: If i was to use this term with someone it would mean that i now see them as more than just a friend, that i realy fancy them and wanted a relationship.
If someone has said this to you then i would say they fancy you 100%.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
I told him I had been with someone else when I hadn't! What should I do?
Q. a couple of weeks ago my boyfriend took me home and drove off an left me there.i was so angry that i told him that i had been with someone else when i havent.i dont even remember that night because i was so angry.but hes saying i said these ...
A. 21 March 2007: I don't see what good could ever of come from you telling your boyfriend that you have been with someone when you haven't. There are issues now and its going to hard for him to actually believe that you were not with anyone. However all you can do ... (read in full...)
He said he deleted his profile on the dating site...should I trust that he did this?
Q. In my question from yesterday about how my boyfriend had a profile on a dating website, I asked him if he would delete it for me and he said that he did indeed delete it after he realized his profile was searchable and he received a message from ...
A. 21 March 2007: If your boyfriend says he has deleted his profile from the website, i would be inclined to believe him.
If he haden't deleted it i don't think he would have agreed to you going online and having a look. I suggest you do this anyway just for peac... (read in full...)
Three boys I really like. How do I know which one is true love?
Q. well...i think im in love but with wat boy?.i think about 3 different boys on several occations and i love them all but how do i know which one i lovelove?? xxxx...
A. 21 March 2007: Lucky you, three boys to choose from. As for which one to pick i would go for the one that you feel most attracted to, the one who you get butterflies in your tummy with. Don't be so quick to be in love, you are still very young. Enjoy yourself, ... (read in full...)
Is a framed picture too 'sappy'??
Q. IS a pic of me and my b/f in a frame too sappy to give a guy for an anniversary??..its a wooden frame engraved with our names and a nice saying. I got a practical gift as well. ...
A. 21 March 2007: I don't think it is sappy atal, i think this is a really thoughtful thing to do. And with the frame engraved with your names and the nice saying, i think he will really like this, I know i would.
x... (read in full...)
How do I apologise for my drunken phone calls??
Q. I need advice on apologizing for stupid drunken calls when i was all blacked out and was saying obscene and disrespectful things to my girlfriend... ...
A. 21 March 2007: All you can do really is emphasize how sorry you are that you said these stupid things, and that you were in a drunken state and diden't know what you were saying.
Follow it up with maybe some flowers, then take her out for a meal to a nice rest... (read in full...)
I want to tell him how I feel, but I dont know how to without ruining the friendship!?
Q. I want to tell a guy how I feel about him (i love him). But i dont know how to without ruining are friendship. I feel that sometimes he knows how i feel, and sometimes i feel that he like me. Neither of us have been in a relationship before, so its ...
A. 20 March 2007: All you can do really is ask him. Start it off by asking him if he fancies doing something casual like go for a coffee somewhere, maybe a spot of lunch. Start of by being friends, throw in abit of light flirting such as eye contact, and touches.
W... (read in full...)
He ignores me! Should I just get over him?
Q. I met this lad on holiday last year and i fell in love with him we dated for a month but he lived too far away, when we split he didnt tell me he just ignored my texts and phone calls. I still love him and cant get over him and i want to know if i ...
A. 19 March 2007: I know its hard, but the reality is you are going to have to get over him. He ignored your phone calls and texts, he coulden't even bring himself to tell you it was over, what does this say about him.
You are still very young, soon you will meet... (read in full...)
He says he wants back with me but is dating another girl! What can we do?
Q. my first boyfriend and i split up about 2 years ago and i got talking to him the other day and he told me that he loves me and he always has but the problem is he has been dating this girl i no since we split. He wants me back and i want him back ...
A. 19 March 2007: I woulden't persue him while he is tied into another relationship. I also think it was wrong of him to express his love for you, especially as he has been dating this other girl for the last two years.
If he love's you and always has then he shou... (read in full...)
My best friend has started to make me feel bad all the time, how do I get rid of her!?
Q. I have a friend, who up until now was my best friend. She has become really childish, she makes horrible, nasty comments. And always puts me down. She always wants to be around me, I think she gets some kind of pleasure by making me feel bad. I do...
A. 19 March 2007: I think you should avoid this girl, she dosen't sound like a very nice person, and seems to want to scould you all the time.
I can only assume that for whatever reason she is jealous of you which is why she puts you down.
I would try to distance... (read in full...)
I'm getting married in less than 4 weeks! I don't want to marry him yet I can't call it off! What should I do?
Q. I'm getting married in less than 4 weeks time and i feel sick about the whole thing. His parents are chuffed to bits. My son hates him and their family. I cannot get anyone to have my son for one night while we get to the venue, which is 50 miles ...
A. 19 March 2007: I think if you having these feelings then you have got to tell your fiance now rather than later how you feel. The longer you leave it the harder it will get. Its better telling him four weeks away that you don't want to marry him rather than a ... (read in full...)
He wants me to give him blowjobs all the time but he's only ever given me oral once!
Q. My boyfriend wants me to give him blow jobs all the time however he has only ever given me oral once. I don't know what to do?...
A. 18 March 2007: The only thing you can really do is talk to him about it. Stress to him that you are unsatisfyed, ask why its you giving all the pleasure but no pleasure is being returned.
Communication is the key, i hope after you have spoken he may be more will... (read in full...)
My husband always spits in my face!!!
Q. I have been married for 16 yrs now. I am 35 and my husband is 37, My problem is that from the very beginning of our relationship my partner goes to far with insults, He has told me for 17 yrs now that I forced him into marriage or that he felt sorry ...
A. 18 March 2007: My heart really does go out to you here, he really sounds like he is puttting you through the mill. I think the things he says to you, like the derogatory remarks and the spitting in your face is totally out of order. He say's you forced him into ... (read in full...)
Why is he acting so close to me all the time when he has a girlfriend?
Q. There's this boy, we are together when ever we can , we text each other constantly and we talk on msn for like 10 hours a day. However he has a girlfriend and they hardly ever talk. Some people have said he is doing it to make me jealous or ...
A. 18 March 2007: I think this boy does like/fancy you, he sure is giving you the signs of wanting to be with you.
What concerns me though is that he already has a girlfriend. I would wait till his current relationship is over, until then i woulden't persue him. If y... (read in full...)
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