After his climax, he's dressed and ready to go out for food! What about my needs?!?!
Q. It's like it's all about him! How can I make him see I have needs, too? My boyfriend and I are really close. We've been together for a year, but after the first five months of having sex (It's month nine and a half), he kind of lost interest in...
A. 15 February 2007: You have got to say something otherwise the problem will only get worse and he will think as long as he gets his pleasure thats it.
Sit him down and tell him your feelings, tell him how unfulfilled and unsatisfyed you feel, and you have needs also... (read in full...)
My husband said he hates me, but still loves me. He is blaming me for wanting and trying to commit suicide! I'm hurt and scared.
Q. i have been with my husband for 15 years although only married for 7 in may, i have been sexualy assaulted and lost a pregnancy, which i have blamed my hubby for over the years as he used to run away and leave me stranded before i got attacked, we ...
A. 15 February 2007: Im sorry to say it but i think it is your Husband who has the problem and not you. From what you have wrote he sounds like a very unstable character. How can you lose all feelings for someone, hate them, yet love them?. I would be more concerned ... (read in full...)
We're great friends, but his ex and him are very close. What's going on here?
Q. We love each other very much,we are great friends even.He lives 2 houses from his ex-girlfriend. They are very close friends. they are sometimes together at his house at night or in the street at night. he walks here home at night. she's free to ...
A. 15 February 2007: While i agree that when a relationship ends it is good to both end on good terms and maybe still be friends, like maybe saying hello if you see them in the supermarket, or filling your car up with petrol or something.
However in this case it does... (read in full...)
The guy I'm with wants to date other women, too! I'm uncomfortable with that. What should I do?
Q. Im new to the dating scene I guess, always been in a relationship. Right now, I'm dating one guy but to him it's okay for him to date other women. I'm not really comfortable with that. I'm sort of selfish when it comes to men I dont like to share ...
A. 15 February 2007: I don't think this guy is for you. How can you start any sort of relationship with him seeing other woman, thats absurd. Of course you are not comfortable with him dating other woman, who would.
Im sorry but i would ditch this guy and go with som... (read in full...)
I've been w/ my gf for 3 years, but I've loved another for 6 months, too! What do I do?
Q. Hi, i'm having a girlfriend (lets call her girl A) for over 3 years now and i think she really is the one for me. she feels the same way about me too. but now there's a girl at my school who i love too, but she's also one of my best friends. i ...
A. 15 February 2007: You and only you know the answer to this question. You know in your hearts of hearts which one you want to be with the most. But don't string both of them along at the same time, if you do this you will risk losing both of them if the word gets out ... (read in full...)
Could he be my mr right??
Q. hi all, I am a 25 yr old confused lady. I have 3 male friends that i fancy. One i have known for over 3 yrs,he's over 10 yrs older than me,i thought he would have proposed by now but things didn't workout and we are just friends now though he ca...
A. 15 February 2007: It is quite possible he could be your Mr right, only you will know in your heart of hearts if he is. In this day and age it is not uncommon for a girl to ask a guy out.
If you really feel this is the guy for you i think you should ask him out.
... (read in full...)
Things are going slow...any advice??
Q. hello, happy valentine everybody... Well I'll go straight to the prob...there's a guy with me at work but he's in a different dept so I don't see him much; he's sooooo great we've recently been getting close... ast week we went out it was our 1st t...
A. 15 February 2007: Hey im in a similar situation with this girl, we flirt all the time and have been for months now, and nobody will make a move.
I would say take the bull by the horns and tell this guy how you feel, its obvious you both like each other. I reckon he i... (read in full...)
I'm due to meet a guy I met online and I'm so shy and nervous. Any suggestions?
Q. Hi there... ive recently been talking to a local guy who I met online. He's a couple of years older than me and has a 2 year old daughter. We've agreed to meet for the first time tomorrow for lunch. We've exchanged photos and Im worried im not ...
A. 15 February 2007: I know it must be really daunting meeting someone for the first time that you have never seen in the flesh.
All you can do really is just ne natural, and be your self.
I don't think he will be put off by you because you have put on a little w... (read in full...)
What can we do to take our relationship to the next level?
Q. Hello Me and my boyfriend having being seeing each other for about 3 month now. I've known him for about 3 years and we finally got together, i was so happy when we did. The problem is we are both very shy and find it difficult to communicate...
A. 15 February 2007: Invariably these things happen when they are ready to happen, one thing leads to another. Take it nice and slow and don't rush anything, take it one step at a time and only do the things that you are both comfortable with.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is only 16 and she keeps talking about marriage all the time which is really irritating me! Why is she like this?
Q. When my girlfriend and I started going out, she used to go on about marriage and say things like 'When we get married' and things like this. I told her that I don't want her to say things like that as we are still young, im 18 and shes 16. She then ...
A. 15 February 2007: What you have got to remember is that when boys are growing up invariably they are in to sports cars, motobikes, and football. While girls that age dream of that white wedding with the lovely dress, the horse drawn carrage ect. Its probally just a ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend back? Any ideas anyone?
Q. I have cheated on my boyfriend of 3.5 yrs. We were going through rough times just bought a house, was turning into the party house but I wanted to settle down. I told him I didn't love him anymore and we went to the bar, he continuously ignored me, ...
A. 15 February 2007: Why don't you arrange to meet up with him and talk to him person to person, maybe go out for a coffy or something.
Tell him how sorry you are, and it was a difficult situation you were going through at the time.
It may take some time for him to p... (read in full...)
What do I do? I'm new in the office, should I make the first move and ask him out?
Q. I like this guy that i'm working with at the office so i like him a lot and it looks like he likes me too but there's lots of tension in the office i don't know why theres lots of girls who will feel like who is she to have just arrived and got ...
A. 14 February 2007: Any sort of office dating is difficult. As you have only been there a short amount of time take a back seat for a while, find out abit more about this guy. It does sound like from what you have said that there is a conection between the two of you, ... (read in full...)
Why is Valentine's Day so depressing?
Q. Why is valentines day the worst most depressing day of the year every year?...
A. 14 February 2007: Is it, its the same as any other day of the year for me, just more interflora vans running here there and everywhere.... (read in full...)
How can I make my friend feel better about herself?
Q. Quick question: What do you say to a friend who has low self-esteem and thinks that the guy she's dating thinks you're prettier and sexier than she is? She's having a tough time with this relationship, this guy won't commit, and she says you've j...
A. 14 February 2007: I think all you can do is be there for her, comfort her when she is feeling low.
If telling her things to boost her esteem is not working, why don't you get a group of friends and go for a girls weekend away somewhere. When you get the chance to h... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel so sad over a celebrity passing away?
Q. Is it normal to feel so sad over a celebrity passing away? I have actually, physically, cried that Anna Nicole Smith died =.(. I'm glued to the TV and am so upset on what a joke the media and stupid people have made of her death. Doesn't anyone ...
A. 14 February 2007: I think it is normal to feel the way you are feeling, especially as you were a fan of hers.
The closes't i think i have come to the way you are feeling was when Princess Diana died.
x... (read in full...)
Want to tell her, how I feel but I'm afraid if the answer is negative it will affect our friendship ...advice?
Q. Hi, I have been at uni for two and a half years now and i have been living with this girl ever since the first year. We get on very well and are best friends however recently i have really wanted to get with her and have had very strong feelings...
A. 13 February 2007: If you don't ask you will know how she feels about you. Tell her how you feel, you may be pleasantly suprised at her reation.
If she dosen't feel the same im sure you can both go on being friends as you are.
Good luck... (read in full...)
I feel so depressed every Valentine's day... Help!
Q. every single valentines day im alone, lonely spinster im constntly depressed all the time i doubt the day will eva come wen i find the 1 infact i just know it neva will i know this iz hardly a positive attitude but ive given up now ive just ad ...
A. 13 February 2007: You are so young, you will probably meet someone soon and have many happy valentines days together. Then you will look back to how you are feeling now and wonder why on earth you were worrying so much. Your time will most cetainly come, make the ... (read in full...)
It's so offputing when he stares at me. Is my teacher just being normal?
Q. i'm in 11th grade and at my school there is this teacher who doesn't even teach me but he acts really wierd with me. Hes like the strictest teacher in the school to everyone but me. Once he took a photo of me and started going on about how much he ...
A. 13 February 2007: I think this teacher has got a thing foy you bigtime. He is treating you diferently to other students, giving you eye contact, taking pictures of you ect.
This is so so wrong, and its obviously making you feel uncomfortably otherwise you woul... (read in full...)
Kissed my friend and now she's 'off' with me!!
Q. My best friend is a girl and ive liked her for sometime now she knows this to. She said that we couldnt get together before because of our friendship - she don't want to lose a friend but,over the weekend we kissed a number of times and one kiss ...
A. 12 February 2007: I think your only option here is to talk to her, ask her why she is being off with you.
she obviously has some feelings for you, otherwise she woulden't have been kissing you over the weekend, and as you say one kiss felt serious.
Pull her aside an... (read in full...)
My Mum has joined my disaster Dad is dissapproving and its making me ill!
Q. Hello, a little while ago I wrote in and got advice ("Should I let my bf meet my disasterous Dad??") It's the first problem on the "age differences" page. Anyway my problem seems to be getting worse now. I was very upset that my Dad was respondi...
A. 12 February 2007: Now i would say that if you were 15 or 16 then there would be something wrong with that. But you are 18, no doubt nearly 19 and he is only 28. A ten year age gap is not that much these day anyway.
For your Mum to say she is not going to allow you ... (read in full...)
I'm married, but have a crush on my best friend - should I tell her to stay honest w/ her, or let it go?
Q. Hi, I'll try and keep a long story as short as possible! I'm 33 and have been married 8 years. My best mate is a girl I work with and have known for 4 years. Although I have a pretty big crush on her, the last thing I want to do is wreck our ...
A. 12 February 2007: Stay with you wife, what you are experiencing is a crush, and crushes pass in time. If you take up this thing you have with this girl your marriage will be affected, the friendship with you mate will never be the same again, and also your crushes ... (read in full...)
I want to break up w/ my fiance, but his tears and begging get the best of me! How do I break up w/ him??
Q. i am 20 my fiancee is 23 we have been together for three and a half years and been engaged three year. recently I have become less and less attracted to him and although I love him, i'm just not in love with him anymore. We have talked about it ...
A. 12 February 2007: The longer you leave these things the harder they get. You have got to tell your fiance that you are not in love with him anymore. I know its hard but when he gives you the waterworks you have got to be strong and not give in to it, its for his own ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and the guy I like is about to turn 19 - will people think this is wrong if we date?
Q. i'm 20 and like this guy who will be 19 nxt month! do you think friends and family would look at me wrongly if i dated him... as he is younger! he is a little immature but we get on so well, and flirt all the time!...
A. 12 February 2007: I say go for it, he is not that much younger than you anyway.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
I got my cousin pregnant - we're both 17 and don't know what to do! Help!
Q. My cousin and i recently were both at a party. After the party she came back to my house to sleepover as both our parents were away for the night. As you can already guess one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together, the only problem ...
A. 12 February 2007: this is the outcome of having unprotected sex with someone. But what were you thinking having sex with a cousin.
Is she certain she is pregnant, i mean has she done a test and it showed up positive?
If its positive i would get her to go and see ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about this boy... Helppp!!!
Q. i am a school girl and i reali love this boy at school but i`ve already been out with i want to go out with him again and never break up but i am scared that he might turn me away i am scared of telling him how i feel about him i cry nearly everyday ...
A. 12 February 2007: It all sounds abit heavy for you age bracket. Instead of crying over this boy everynight get out there and have some fun with your mates. Leave all that emotional stuff till you are older.
Good luck... (read in full...)
I want to have wild sex with my coworker. Should I ask her out or get it out of my mind?
Q. I think of having wild sex with a girl in my office, but i am just worried that she might find it to be bad and would get hurt if i asked her out for the same. Though i have indicators that says she is interested in me, i am not clear whether she is ...
A. 12 February 2007: Yeh i think its abit much wanting to get all over her on the first date, i think she may be somewhat taken aback by that. Also watch out when dating colleagues, while things are good things are good, but when it goes wrong it can get abit messy for ... (read in full...)
Why do people cheat on one another?
Q. Why do people cheat, why do they cheat when they know that they love or maybe think they love the person there cheating on ?...
A. 12 February 2007: As Dazzerg say there are many different answers to this question. I do think its wrong to tar everyone with the same brush, adittedly there are cheater's out there, but equally there are just as many who would not cheat.
Why Does someone cheat? W... (read in full...)
I am seeing a married man, is there really any hope that he'll want to leave his wife to be with me?
Q. Hi i have been seeing a married guy now for about 7 months, when i first met him he told me he was married so when he offered me his number i declined but we bumped into each other a few more times and i still refused to get into a relation...
A. 12 February 2007: I think this guy is in the wrong here, he has a wife and two children, whilst trying to be with you also.
He wants his cake and eat it, invariably these guys never leave their wives, so ultimately you become his mistress or bit on the side meet... (read in full...)
I would love to get together with this guy but I don't know how to tell him.
Q. i am completely in love with this guy. we have known each other about six months and we have a great friendship. we meet at work, but i was only working there for two weeks and we got on straight away. he told me to keep in touch when i was leavi...
A. 12 February 2007: I know how you feel, when you really fancy someone and you just can't seem to find the courage or the words to express how you feel.
I think this guy's feelings for you are reciprocated, and for whatever reason he is either shy or scared to let his ... (read in full...)
I really really like this girl and I think she likes me too. How do I know if the feeling's mutual?
Q. I am terribly confused. I don't even know how to start. I think I am falling for a friend? We talk pretty much everyday. I've never been the type of person to talk to anybody the way I talk to her. We talk about everything/anything, we share things ...
A. 11 February 2007: Im going through a similar sort of thing with a girl i really like too.
I would say start off with some light flirting, like eye contact, touching ect. If any of this is reciprocated then this is your green light.
You pretty much know straight... (read in full...)
What is going on with my ex? He's so off with me sometimes and other times so nice!
Q. Hey, I was just wondering whether any of you would know what the hell is going on with my EX. We still talk after being seperated for 10 months and for being together over a period of 2 and a half years. Basically, sometimes when we talk h...
A. 11 February 2007: I don't know if you are still in love with this guy, which is why you still talk after ten months. But i think this guy carry's abit of a Jeckle & Hyde character, being that of a nice personality, and then a nasty personality.
Did he adopt th... (read in full...)
I don't feel the same about my girlfriend any more but don't want to hurt her. Any ideas of how to break it gently to her?
Q. Hi I have been in a relationship for little over a year now and I am begining to lose interest in the girl. After the first six months of the relationship I thought this girl was the one. But recently I have not felt the same way. She wants to ...
A. 11 February 2007: I think the longer you leave it the harder it will get, for you and for her.
This girl will initially be heartbroken, but in time she will get over it. It is the right thing to do to tell her your not in love with her anymore, as soon as poss... (read in full...)
Am am totally stuck about what to buy my boyfriend on valentine's day. Any ideas anyone?
Q. valentines day is coming up and i have been racking my brains for something to buy my 17 year old bf. he's got me something but i dont know what hmm. Does anyone have any ideas as i am totaly stuck! please someone help me! lol xxx...
A. 11 February 2007: I don't know how much you want to spend, but i would say a nice bottle of aftershave, Boxershorts with hearts on them, chocolate shaped hearts, Romantic love songs CD.
Hope this helps x... (read in full...)
I'm going out with a boy but he keeps hitting me and I can't explain the bruises to my parents.
Q. i am goin out with this boy, but he keeps hitting me and treating me like a pig. wat shall i do? i dunno how to explain 2 my parents with the bruises are HELP wb xxx...
A. 11 February 2007: If i was you i would drop this guy like a bad habit. Any guy that lays a hand on a woman in just a plain coward, and that is what this guy is a coward. Confide in your parents, tell them the truth, thats what they are there for, they will be glad ... (read in full...)
I love her but she says there is no spark!
Q. Im in love with this beautiful girl but she doesnt know my full feeling for her, we have kissed before. I have said to her that i want to have sex with her but now shes saying that friends is all she wants because theres no spark. I really love ...
A. 11 February 2007: As you have said you want to have sex with her she probably thinks that this is all you want. Tell her how you feel, and the extent of the feelings you are carrying for her.
If she still says no, and there is no spark be a man and move on, ther... (read in full...)
Should I let my bf meet my disasterous Dad??
Q. Hi, I'm 18 and dating a guy who's a bit older than me (he's in his mid 20s). So far everything's been fantastic. My family and friends approve so there aren't problems there. The one person who doesn't approve is my dad. When he found out about ...
A. 11 February 2007: I don't think that it is a big age gap between you and your boyfriend. i know he is your Father and he loves you, but you can't let his comments come between you and your partner.
If you are really worried about them meeting for fear of your fath... (read in full...)
Can a broken heart fully heal?
Q. Hey everyone, can a broken heart fully heal?...
A. 11 February 2007: I am going to assume you are talking about a broken heart from a relationship break up. A broken heart can heal over time, but all people are different, and heal in different spaces of time. Some people just want to put it behind them and move on,... (read in full...)
I'm still thinking about my ex! Does this mean that I still love him and is this natural?
Q. i have been goin out with this amazing lad for about 2 months but i cant stop thinking about my ex even though i have no feelings for him at all...well i dont think i do. i'm confused....does it mean that because i'm still thinking about m...
A. 11 February 2007: Its perfeccly natural to still think about an ex boyfriend, After all you shared time together, and these thoughts are all stored in our memory banks. But as long as you realise that these momories are water under the bridge, i don't see any harm in ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose him! But he's ignoring me--what should I do?
Q. I really love my boyfriend but over the last few days he won't return my calls and he is acting like I've done something wrong. I don't want to lose him or I will die! Please i really need some help..xxx...
A. 11 February 2007: Ok stop trying to call and text and go round and see him face to face and ask him what the problem is outright. If he won't tell you then i would finish it with this guy and go and find a boyfriend that gives you the respect that you so rightly ... (read in full...)
I like this guy but am too nervous to talk to him. Any suggestions?
Q. dear cupid, i really like this guy and i'm too nervous to say anything to him because i don't wanta screw up. what should i do??? ...
A. 11 February 2007: Just be yourself, go up to him and spark up a conversation with lots of smiling and eye contact. Don't reherse what you are going to say before hand as invariably look like you are trying to hard.
You will find that the conversation will be flowi... (read in full...)
I am 13 and my girlfriend is a bit shy to go any further, what can I do?
Q. hi i am 13 and i think my girlfriend is a bit shy about doing anything physical she is ok with hugging and kissing at school discos but she wont go any further what can i do ??????...
A. 10 February 2007: You are so so young, enjoy the hugging and kissing, and all the joy that being 13 brings. All that physical stuff can wait till way way later. Good luck ... (read in full...)
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