Guys always ask me out when I just want to be friends and then it ruins the friendship
Q. Hey guys, I need some advice. The thing is that every time I want to be mates with a guy they always end up asking me out and I hate this. When they ask me out I say no or whatever and then our friendship seems to always end there and I can't be the ...
A. 18 July 2007: Before they even get the chance to ask you out i think you should be upfront right from the off maybe. If you don't feel you are going to have any feelings for them then stipulate that this can never go beyond anything more than a casual friendship. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being nervous all the time? I can't enjoy life to its fullest!
Q. I have a bad nerve problem. How can I stop being nervous all the time because it is stopping me from things I really want to do?...
A. 18 July 2007: Take some time out by yourself, find a place where you are away from the outside world, turn your phone off. Just relax all the muscles in your body and concentrate on your breathing while thinking relaxing and positive thoughts about yourself. ... (read in full...)
Is our relationship illegal if we are not having sexual relations?
Q. i am a 15 year old girl and my boyfriend soon to be fiance is 18 and i was just wandering if it was illegal to date or to get engaged if there is no sexual realations?...
A. 18 July 2007: It is not illegal just do date, however is would be illegal if anything sexual were to happen between the pair of you.
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Could I have caught HIV from biting my tongue in a restraunt???
Q. Today I went and ate at a buffet restraunt with my family and friends. While I was eatting I bit my tougue by mistake and blood was coming out. It looks a bit puffy now. Since I bit my tougue, could I be expose to any diseases since this took place ...
A. 18 July 2007: I don't think that it would have been possible for you to have picked up HIV from a resturant, Unless the utensils you were using had someone elses blood on them, which is unlikely.
You just bit your tounge we all do that from time to time. I thin... (read in full...)
I don't think I love my girlfriend any more... Meanwhile another girl has come on the scene!
Q. I (mid thirties) have been living with my girlfriend for the past 4 years, I don't think I love her anymore and I don't find her attractive. I was recently introduced to a girl at a party and can think of nothing but her at the moment. I have been ...
A. 18 July 2007: You have got to tell your current girlfriend you don't have feelings for her anymore sooner rather than later. The longer you leave it the harder it will get and feelings of resentment will grow stronger.
Sure she will be upset, but its better this... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesnt show me any affection
Q. my boyfriend says he loves me but never shows any affection to me. Could there be anything that im doing wrong?...
A. 17 July 2007: I don't think there is anything you are doing wrong atal. I think he means it when he says he loves you, but some people find it difficult to express their love in a physical way.
x... (read in full...)
I have fallen for a lady I work for, but I am too shy to do anything about it
Q. i have fallen in love with a lady that works in the same shop as me but i'm really shy and i'm not sure if she really likes me or is just being friendly. every time we do'nt see each other for a few days she really smiles when she see's me and her ...
A. 17 July 2007: I think her smiling at you when she has not seen you in a few days is not really enough to say if she fancies you or not. If she is constantly flirting with you throughout the day then maybe i could say she does.
Be careful of dating people who you ... (read in full...)
Should I apolgize to the new guy I'm seeing for sending him a drunken message?
Q. Hey there, I wrote not so long ago with a dilemma in that I liked a guy who was best mates with a guy I had been seeing altho I have now stopped seeing the first one so no problems there. I am due to see the guy I like next wkd but have done so...
A. 17 July 2007: Im sure you are not the first person to send a drunken message, and by no means the last. Just send him another message saying sorry about the text the other night i had a bit to drink, im sure he will be fine about it.
All the best x... (read in full...)
How long after my break-up would the next relationship be considered a "rebound?"
Q. Hey everyone. I've just broken up with my girlfriend of just under 2 years. There's nobody I have my eye on as such, but if there ever were; how long after my break-up would it be considered a "rebound"? I'm told rebounds should be avoided,...
A. 17 July 2007: I agree with danielepew on this one, if you are emotionally over this person then anytime you want to start dating again is fine.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Should a guy stay with his girlfriend if she has faked a pregancy?
Q. Should a guy stay with his girlfriend if she has faked a pregancy? ...
A. 17 July 2007: Im with Flower girl, if she can lie about something of this magnitude then what else could she lie about.
The alarm bells would be ringing for me and i would consider walking away.
Good luck ... (read in full...)
He wakes me up for unsatisfying sex - how do I approach him without him getting offended?
Q. My boyfriend wakes me up in the middle of the night to have sex. He pokes me so I can wake up. He does not perform foreplay ever, and I have to get him aroused. Then I must get on top and do all the work, always. I'm really tired of this. He doesn't ...
A. 17 July 2007: I don't you think you should be worried about offending him here, this is something that has got to be brought up. He is getting sexual feelings in the middle of the night, then pokes you to get you up, then expects you to do all the work. I think ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of the acne?
Q. How could I get rid of my acne, scars, red marks on my face, and blackheads. Plus Keep it off. Are there any products in stores that could take all of these away? That won't break my budget. I've been to the dermatologist already, he gave me these ...
A. 17 July 2007: Pop along to you local Gp and see if he can prescribe somthing you can put on your acne.
Other than that diet plays a big role in acne, a diet high in fatty foods and fizzy drinks don't help. Eat plenty of vegetable's and fruit, and drink plen... (read in full...)
How can I last longe in bed?
Q. I'm with a new a new girlfriend and have started to suffer from premature ejaculation... it is really gettin me down.. How can I fix this?...
A. 17 July 2007: You have a new girlfriend and no doubt you are extremely turned on by her sexually, hence the premature ejaculation. When you are in the middle of making love to her and you feel you are going to ejaculate to soon, withdraw and do some forplay on ... (read in full...)
It's been 5 days should I leave it longer before I take a home pregnancy test?
Q. How long should I leave it before I take a home pregnancy test. Me and my boyfriend used protection but the condom split. It's been 5 days should I leave it longer?...
A. 17 July 2007: You have already left it five days, i think you should do a pregnancy test as soon as possible and don't leave it any longer. The condom split to the likellhood that sperm did enter you is very high.
Do a test today just to give you the peace of m... (read in full...)
I panic before a first date and cancel - how do I stop this behavior?
Q. I am 20 year old virgin, and I never had a problem with this as I was happy with myself. Now though I am getting lonely and want a boyfriend, however I am so nervous and unexperianced I normally panic and end up not even going out with them on the ...
A. 17 July 2007: You are not alone, it is only natural to be nervous when embarking on a first date. That feeling you get when the butterfles are racing round in your tummy, and the love sick feeling, and the worry of what you are going to talk about. The guy you ... (read in full...)
Her family has a history of divorce and she's slept with over a dozen people! Am I setting myself up for heartbreak?
Q. I have been dating a great girl for 6 month. We get along quite well and are getting more serious. I am having reservations however. Both her mother and father have been married 3 times a piece, and her brother and sister are both separated from ...
A. 17 July 2007: Don't judge her on the previous relationships of her parents and her brother and sister. Just because they have all had failed relationships dosen't mean that if you married her it would fail like everyone else's did.
So she has been with a doze... (read in full...)
My bf said he liked another girl that goes to his school! I trust him, but not her. What can I do?
Q. well my boyfriend told me the other night that he liked this girl and im going to 9th grade but he has to stay in 8th grade with her so we will be in 2 differant schools and im afraid that they will go out while im not being able to see him im mean ...
A. 17 July 2007: The fact that he told you he likes this girl is not a good sign, i don't think he should have told you this. If he has got feelings for this other girl then he should do the decent thing and finish the relationship with you.
Don't be to upset if t... (read in full...)
When's the best time to have children? During college or after?
Q. so i've been with my boyfriend for 2yrs and we plan on getting married in the future. we also plan on having kids. but the problem is. i dont know when is the right time to have kids?? during college? or after?...
A. 17 July 2007: I would say wait until the end of your college course is finished and you have got your qualification under your belt.
You may find it difficult to finish your course if you get pregnat before.
good luck x... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about another girl?
Q. i was with my b/f watching tv and i had a movie on for a few seconds and changed it and then he said i thought you liked so and so(he said the name of the movie) and i said umm no..i never saw the movie. And he said oh i thought you said that...i ...
A. 16 July 2007: I don't think you have got anything to worry about here, i just think he got confused.
All the best x... (read in full...)
How can I break up with her without hurting her?
Q. hi, there is this girl that i am currently goin out with and i want to break up with her without hurting her and i really dont kno how. please help! ...
A. 16 July 2007: Its better that you tell her now rather than later, the longer you leave it the harder it wil get. Sure she will be upset, but its better that you tell her how you feel rather than lead her on and give her false hope. Just sit her down and tell her ... (read in full...)
Is 30 minutes of exercise in the morning enough to lose weight?
Q. Is 30 minutes of exercise in the morning enough to lose weight? I just do aerobic, should I try incorporating weight lifting, if so, how many minutes of weight lifting is needed?...
A. 11 July 2007: 30 minutes of vigourous excersise in the morning is enough, as long as its followed by a healthy diet during the day to.
Light weight lifting is good if you want to target and tone up a particular part of the body, and probablly 15 to 20 minu... (read in full...)
How do I tell my partner that I no longer am in love with her?
Q. Recently I have stopped being in love with my partner and we are just getting more and more distant how do I tell her that I'm no longer in love?...
A. 11 July 2007: Like the other posts have said you have got to do it sooner rather than later. The longer you leave it the harder it will get. Sure she may be upset but at least in your mind you will know you diden't lead her on, and it will be a weight off your ... (read in full...)
I can't control my anger when it comes to my boyfriend! He's cheated on me six times, but I still want to be with him!
Q. My boyfriend and I had a quarrel. I don't know if i love him still, because i sometimes realize that i've been harsh on him, and i always regret what i've done everytime we're not together. Sometimes I think it's because of the pain he gave me ...
A. 11 July 2007: Alot, or most people would have walked away after the first time, but he has done it another five more times since then. How much more of a wake up call do you need, he is walking all over you. Now he knows he can cheat on you wherever and whenever ... (read in full...)
The new guy I'm seeing is amazing! The problem is my friends - they say he's too ugly for me and that I'll end up hurting him!
Q. i have being seeing a guy who i think is amazing. We seem to get on so well, and have such a connection. All the past guys i have dated have all been boring and i he just makes me laugh so much. I love spending time with him, but problem is none of ...
A. 11 July 2007: Don't listen to your friends, they sound very immature to me. What matters here is how you feel about this guy, not what your mates think.
He sounds like a nice guy, he is funny, makes you laugh and you feel comfortable around him, thats all that... (read in full...)
How can I learn to trust my boyfriend of 7 months?
Q. hey! i have had a boyfriend for over 7 months and we are pretty strong but i have a big issue on not being able to trust him, i ave seen all the people he works with and i get paranoid if he doesnt txt me or works late! i need to stop feelin like ...
A. 11 July 2007: You have got to stop these feelings of paranoia, otherwise you will risk pushing him further and further away and ultimately risk losing him.
From what you have said i am assuming he has never given you a reason for you not to trust him.
Relax... (read in full...)
My gf checks out her ex's web profile pics and ebay account! She says she's just "letting go" - should I believe her?
Q. I have dated a woman, age 28 for the past 10 months. We moved in together in March. Before this, she had another boyfriend in another city whom she kept in touch with until we 'fell in-love" I was told that there was no communication after...
A. 9 July 2007: Got to admit it does sound abit funny, why would she check his web profile pics, and his ebay account?. Maybe she is curious, who knows. But she is with you and not him, and im sure she would tell you if she still had feelings for him.
Good ... (read in full...)
I'm so mad at my gf's ex for what he did to her!! How can I control my anger?
Q. hi there .. ive been with my gf for about 4 months now .. and i just realized that a former bf of hers who i know quite well and have never really liked him.. used her and im REALLY mad because she seemed really upset .. and im jus really mad at him ...
A. 9 July 2007: I agree with flower girl, forget about it. I know its hard and what her ex did was wrong. I don't think it will help matters if you went and hit him. Put it behind you and be there for your girlfriend.
Good luck ... (read in full...)
I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay?
Q. I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay? I wanted to wait until i was in a serious relationship before i had sex but now i dont know if i should just go out and sleep with someone because of the whole age-pressure thing?...
A. 9 July 2007: I don't think this is a bad thing, after all twenty is still young. Don't rush out and sleep with someone for the sake of it, you are better than that and you will regret it later.
Save it for the guy you fall head over heels in love with, you will... (read in full...)
Been in touch with a guy on the internet and after week hes' told me he loves me!
Q. hi evry body i have just know a boy from internet and after a week he told me that he love me shod i bleave him or not ?...
A. 9 July 2007: You have got to be really careful with internet dating, as you really do not know who you are talking to. For him to say i love you after such a short space of time, well im sorry he is either a desperado, or he is just playing games. Be careful ... (read in full...)
Is it against the law to date an 18 year old guy when your 14?
Q. Is it against the law to date an 18 year old guy when your 14?...
A. 9 July 2007: Not against the law to date, it is however if anything sexual were to happen between the pair of you.
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How do I get my boyfriend to stop spying on me?
Q. My boyfriend of 1.5 yr won't stop spying on me. He takes my cell phone without my knowledge and reads texts, goes through my recent calls. We have an otherwise great relationship. I want him to trust me. I have done nothing to betray him, yet ...
A. 8 July 2007: He has obviously got some major insecurities and trust issues with regards to your relationship. Maybe he was cheated on in a previous relationship, who knows. If he carries on like this he runs the risk of pushing you away, then ultimately losing ... (read in full...)
I'm 27, he's 22. Is there a problem?
Q. hello, i met a nice young man who is 22 years old he is mentally mature and understands me he tells me that he likes me and wants a future with me.I like him too and we both like the same things .But iam 27 do you think the age difference is a ...
A. 8 July 2007: Age gaps in relationships invariably only become a problem if one of the couple involved have got any issues concerning age.
If the pair of you are ok with this small age gap then everything will be fine. I mean five years is nothing atal, at the ... (read in full...)
I think I fell in love with an ex coworker and I want to leave my husband for him.
Q. I think I fell in love with an ex coworker and I want to leave my husband for him....
A. 8 July 2007: I would be absolutely sure that your feelings for this ex co-worker is 100% love, and that he loves you 100% also. If you feel it is then the right thing to do in this situation would to be upfront and honest with your husband and tell him how you ... (read in full...)
She's put me off the relationship with her plans for the future.
Q. ive met a girl online and we have been together for a few months, she is making all these big plans for the future and shes pushed me to a point where i dont want to be with her anymore how do i tell her i dont want to be with her for no reason plz ...
A. 7 July 2007: When you say there is not a reason to finish with her, well her plans for the future that are driving you up the wall is a good enough reason.
If you don't want to be with her anymore then you have got to be upfront and honest and tell he how you ... (read in full...)
He's 50 and he's reknowned for cheating. Will it be different now?
Q. Is it possible for someone who has cheated on nearly every girlfriend he has had to change and not cheat anymore? He is in his 50's now...
A. 7 July 2007: I agree with Yummy Mummy with the cheater don't change their spots thing. he has cheated on every girlfriend he has ever had, so the likellhood is he will not have changed. If he says he has could you ever believe this is true or not.
Good ... (read in full...)
How big of an age gap do you think is too big? I'm seeing a guy who's 25 years older.
Q. Just a quick question, How big of an age gap do you think is too big? I am seeing some one 25 years older than me.. is the difference too much?...
A. 7 July 2007: If you are both ok with the age gap then there is no problem atal. But if either of you have got any hang ups regarding age then its doomed to fail. After all age is only a number, being happy and enjoy the relationship far supersedes numbers.
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Is age really that important?
Q. If you fall in love with someone older than you about 7 yrs older and they're married with a baby but her and her man are seperated and we both like each other...is age really that important ...
A. 7 July 2007: I don't think that age is important if it falls within the laws of consent, and the couple in question don't have a problem with it. If you are both ok with it then its fine, but if either of you have got any hang ups regarding age than its doomed ... (read in full...)
He's 34, I'm 21 and still live at home. My parents found out and went proper mental... !
Q. I am a 22 year old who still lives at home with her parents. I met this great guy through a woman that I know (he works for her). He is 34 and that is no issue to me, but when my parents found out, they had a heart attack. They freaked out on me ...
A. 6 July 2007: At the end of the day you are a 22 year old adult, not a 16 year old teenager. I think your parents should realise the fact that you are grown up and old enough to date who ever you wish.
I know your parents love you and want the best for you, but ... (read in full...)
Does a guy say what he means when he's drunk?
Q. Hey, are what a guy says and does when he's drunk really what he thinks and feels? How do i know if he actually likes me or if he's just drunk and wants to get some skin?...
A. 4 July 2007: I think when people are under the influence alcohol are often very different people to when they are sober. When we are drunk we often chat a load of nonsence, so what we think and feel is guided by how much alcohol we have consumed.
If you want... (read in full...)
Should I ask my friend out?
Q. I really like my friend. Ive known her now for four years and I am not sure how she feels about me. We dont chat much but we always texting each other now and again. she sent me various texts saying that she remembers me every day and she will ...
A. 4 July 2007: Its hard to say, she could have mean't this as a friendly gesture, like something you say to a best mate, or it could mean she really likes you. I think your only option here is to ask her how she feels. Why don't you ask her out for a meal or ... (read in full...)
Normally guys that are into me make me feel smothered; am I fooling myself this time?
Q. I am with a guy a month and getting on very well. He is a perfect gentleman and cannot fault him. The physical attraction and desire for him is not 100%. can this grow or am i just fooling myself?? I always prefere the blokes who are not that into ...
A. 4 July 2007: It is possibe that your physical attraction for him could grow over time, if you give him a chance. He sounds like a real nice guy. Surely its better to have a guy who is really into you than some guy who is not. I think you shouls stick it out with ... (read in full...)
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