I'm dead nervous around boys and I'm thinking of cancelling this date!
Q. I'm going out on a date with a nice lad i met over shop the problem is i'm dead nervous around boys and although i really want to go i'm thiking of cancelling and i dont want to its just my confidence is really low and im really shy and probably ...
A. 7 September 2007: You are not the first person to be nervous before a date, and by no means the last. If it makes it any easier he is probably just as nervous as you are. Its a natural thing to be nervous before embarking on a date, with what shall i wear, what shall ... (read in full...)
I'm 24 and have been asked out by a 17 year old. Is there too much of an age gap?
Q. well i'm 24 years old and i've been asked out by a 17 year old what do i do, he's a good looking, kind harted guy is there too much of an age gap? another thing he is kind off related to my friend who lives next door what do i do ?? ...
A. 7 September 2007: Personally i don't think 6 or seven years is that much of a gap really, and you are above the age on consent. Age gaps invariably only ever become a problem is either of the people concerned have got issues with it. If you are both ok with the age ... (read in full...)
How can I alter this shirt to fit me better?
Q. My mom brought me a shirt for school and it is a bit baggie on me (I cannot return because I have already worn it) can someone give me any ideas on making tighter please?!!!!!...
A. 6 September 2007: I think that after a couple of washes on a high heat will certainly make it fit you better.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
I have a big confidence problem because of the size of my penis...
Q. Hello... I have a big confidence problem because of the size of my penis. I know it sounds stupid, But I am a young teenager, and I have a very small penis. It majorly affects my confidence and I can hardly even talk to people now without being...
A. 6 September 2007: Most girls i think will tell you that it is not the size of your manhood that counts but rather how you use it. If you meet someone and fall in love and they love you for you it really should not matter how big your appendage is.
All the best... (read in full...)
She's thinking of dumping her boyfriend, am I in with a chance?
Q. Hi, I'm having a slight dilemma here, there's this girl I like, I'm pretty sure she likes me as well cause she flirts with me a lot but she's got a boyfriend though and they've been going out for a year, she's spoken to people about dumping him ...
A. 6 September 2007: Yes there is every chance that if she seperates from her current boyfriend you stand a chance with her. But don't persue her while she is still attached, as this would not be right. Wait for her to break up with him then leave it a while because ... (read in full...)
One of my friends is at an all time low... she hates herself. How can I give her her self-esteem back?
Q. One of my friends is at an all time low... she hates herself. How can I give her her self-esteem back?...
A. 6 September 2007: Ultimately be there for her, tell her things that will boost her confidence and self esteem amd make her feel good about herself.
Arrange a day out somewhere like a theme park or something to help take her mind off things, somewhere where you can ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with him or not?
Q. What shall i do? Hi i like this boy but i dont like him he keeps asking me out and i say no i dont know if i should say yes or not so then he knows how i feel can you help me?...
A. 5 September 2007: If you don't share the same feelings he does then don't go out with him, otherwise you are effectively leading him on and ultimately he will be even more hurt.
Just be upfront and honest and tell him that you can never see him in this way.
Goo... (read in full...)
What do the words "dating" and "committed" really mean?
Q. i would like to know what dating really means and commited really means??...
A. 5 September 2007: These could mean different things for different people, but for me dating is seeing someone on a casual basis, enjoying each others company and sharing some good times together. Moving on to commited i would say its when a couple want to take the... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how I can get over my exgirlfriend of 7 months?
Q. my ex gf now of 7 months.....i just cant get over her......i still miss her so much.....i love her also.....i have tried to ask someone out at school but i just can't i always think of her............and i feel like im betraying her..........any ...
A. 5 September 2007: If you are still carrying this much feeling for her is there not a chance the pair of you could get back together. You say she talks to you sometimes on IM so why don't you ask to meet her and see what she says. If she does not want to then all i ca... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and want to have sex! I'm scared but I want to. Should I???
Q. i am 12 i want to have sex with my boyfriend. what should i do? i am so scarde but i want to, so should i have sex with him ...
A. 4 September 2007: NO you should not have sex with him because you are far to young to even be contemplating participating in sexual activities. Your so young, put the sex thing on hold till you are at least 16/17, later on in life you will be glad you waited. x... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my friend, but our relationship is not moving further
Q. ive got a friend but i told him ive got a crush on him. he said hes got a crush on me, but our relationship is not moving further....
A. 4 September 2007: Maybe he is shy and abit scared to take that initial step to take the relationship to the next level. Why don't you help it along abit and maybe book a table at a nice resturant, you already know for sure he is going to say yes. Good luck x... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and never had a boyfriend. I feel there is nothing appealing about my personality. Could anyone advise me?
Q. Hey! I'm 15 years old and I have never had a proper boyfriend. I'm not bad looking but I don't feel I have much personality. I know guys would rather girls with a big personality and I feel insecure and that I'll never have a boyfriend becaus...
A. 4 September 2007: You are still only very young, you have got all the time in the world to get a boyfriend. Don't be in to much of a rush, relax, enjoy yourself, have fun with your mates and i bet you get a boyfriend when you least expect it.
All the best x... (read in full...)
Can I see my questions/answers if I dont have an account?
Q. hey all - i post answers on DearCupid a lot but i remain anonymous because my computer is really slow and it would take me ages to make an account. so i was just wondering how i can view questions that ive answered because i can never find them ...
A. 3 September 2007: No you have to have an account, honestly as Jamer says it only takes about thirty seconds, give your Email address, choose a screen name, its simple.
All the best xx... (read in full...)
Can an 18 yr old get in trouble for dating a 14 yr old even though they are not having sex?
Q. If my mate goes out with her boyfriend who is now 18 and she is only 14 even though there not having sex or anything like that could he be put in prison ?...
A. 3 September 2007: Im sure he can't get into trouble just for dating her, as long as he does not touch her or carry out anything sexual whatsoever.
I also can't see why an 18 year old man would be interested in a 14 year old. Not that i would have even cont... (read in full...)
He says I am frigid but I think I am too young!
Q. I am 13 and i like this 19 year old boy..he really likes me and i like him but he said i am frigid..i think i am to young and he is a dad what shall i do?? help...
A. 3 September 2007: Reading this post it struck me as very unnatural, and somewhat worrying why a 19 year old grown man would be interested in a 13 year old. It just not right, so i would terminate all contact with this guy with immediate effect. Just to put in ... (read in full...)
Whats your opinion on pierced noses???
Q. I hate my nose. its kind of big, looks pretty awful to be honest. i want it peirced though, but im not sur if it will suit me, i love nose piercings on small cute noses but mines quite bigger than normal. what do you think? do you think that ...
A. 3 September 2007: I agree with flowergirl, having the piercing will draw more peoples attention to your nose & make you more paranoid.
xx... (read in full...)
I have two girls on the go, I don't know which one I prefer!
Q. Hi. I am goin out with this gorgus girl for about 3 months on and off she is 14 im 16 and is prepared to go all the way with me , we have had oral sex. My mind is trubled becasue i have just relised that were live there is this fit girl hu i am hav...
A. 3 September 2007: It took me quite abit of time trying to get my head around your lingo here, anyway i am going to start off with this girl is underage and is illegal for her to go all the way with you. You are now 16 and she is still classed as a child in the eyes ... (read in full...)
How will I know when I am in love with my guy??
Q. I know i haven't been in love yet because i have only ever had short relationships, now i have found a great guy!! We have been together two months! i know i do not love him yet, but i was wondering...what are the signs of love!! how will i know ...
A. 3 September 2007: You can't actually say how long it will take to fall in love, for some its love a first sight, others it could take a month, or even a year. You will most certainly know when you do. When you love someone they are on your mind 24/7 from the moment y... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my boyfriend? He's going to uni soon and the distance might be a problem..
Q. hey my boyfriend is going to university soon and i love him so much :( but i dont know if to break it off as its most likely he will find somebody else or the travelin will get in the way what should i do ? please help. ...
A. 3 September 2007: If you love your boyfriend and he loves you then there is no reason why you should split up from him. I think you are focusing on negatives to much, like he will meet someone else, or the travelling will get in the way. Instead focus on positive ... (read in full...)
I think ive fallen in love with my friend but I have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend and baby!
Q. Ok, where do I start. I have this friend and we are very close to each other and I recently realised that i may be in love with him. The problem is that he has a girlfriend and a baby and I have a boyfriend but my relationship with my boyfriend is a ...
A. 3 September 2007: I think if you persue things here it is going to cause alot of friction for everyone. Its all complicated, you have a boyfriend, and he has a girlfriend and a baby. If he goes with you he risks losing his child, or at least only seeing him/her at ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me the meaning of a bj please?
Q. hi i just wanted to know what the hell a bj is, cuz everyone is talking about it and no1 will tell me the meaning. thx!! xoxoxoxoxoxxox...
A. 3 September 2007: Personally i think you are to young be asking such a question as you are under the age of consent, and i feel it would be wrong to tell you. Sorry x... (read in full...)
Should I tell my bf i cheated on him??
Q. My boyfriend is the most loving caring man i have ever ever met. He would never do anything to hurt me and i would never do anything to hurt him but the other night i went to my friends party and an old friend and i got chatting - one thing led to ...
A. 3 September 2007: You say you would never do anything to hurt him but you did that the other night by sleeping with an old friend. As for telling him, well that depends on whether you have a conscience. If you can progress with this relationship without your conscien... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my FWB guy but someone else is hitting on him now! I feel like I cant compete with her! What should I do?
Q. When I first met this guy, I couldn't stand him at all. Then something happened that threw us into a common bond and we gradually became friends. I spent more and more time with him and our chemistry became apparent. It's become a drunken habit of ...
A. 3 September 2007: Don't give up just because someone else is hitting on the guy you like. It happens all the time, look at it as a challenge. Im sure you have got just as many if not more good qualities than what she has got. Don't feel like you can't compete with ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I love him but I cant bear to lose him. Is this love?
Q. hi, i have been seeing my bf for 10 months now, i love him so much and dont want to lose him but i seem to be quite mean to him alot.we cant get along and im not even sure i love him? yet i cant bear to lose him! is this love?...
A. 3 September 2007: I think you are unsure if you love this guy, because in one sentence you say " I love him so much and don't want to lose him " then you finish it of with " im not even sure i love him ".
The only person that knows if this is love or not is you. When... (read in full...)
Do you think he really loved me??
Q. Me and my boyfriend was having a affair! He lived with me for bit but then went back for the kids he said! Anyway we kept seein each other for past 7mths! We had a row and was made now he doesnt want to know me! He replies me txts sometime...
A. 2 September 2007: Im assuming here that when you say he went back for the kids, that this guy is a married man. If this is the case then i would be inclined to leave it at that, don't persue him anymore and tell yourself you had a lucky escape. If he is married then ... (read in full...)
Should I drop an email to ask for a catch up just like friends?... He has a girlfriend.
Q. I met this guy five years ago, we broke up two years ago but still kept in touch for a year. We had a huge arguement last year, he went away with another girl by the end and we stopped talking, contacting... we even pretended didnt see each other if ...
A. 2 September 2007: I think that by sending the email is going to cause unessesary friction for everyone. You both have a past together, have shared intimate moments, so you know that its not going to stop at just meeting up as friends and catching up.
Im sure his curr... (read in full...)
Is it disrespectful to give a gift to someone who's involved with another?
Q. Is buying a gift or giving something to a ex or a person involved a sign of disrespect to the lover of the person you have given the gift to?...
A. 2 September 2007: I don't think it is disrespectful, as long as there are no suggestive remarks involved. There are involved girls where i work and i sometimes give them gifts like on birthdays and Christmas.
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I'm living with my fiance but I'm still seeing my ex!
Q. I have been living with my fiance for 4 years we have our own house etc but I have been seeing my ex for the last 6 months. I love them both but I really don't know what to do. I feel trapped and confused. My ex thinks I still live at home. I keep ...
A. 2 September 2007: The bottom line here is you know its wrong to be seeing both people and that you shoulden't be doing it. I think you are laying alot on the line here because ultimately you are risking losing both guys here and ending up on your own. All it takes is ... (read in full...)
Whay can I do if it's not in his character to be so affectionate?
Q. what should i do to make my boyfriend sweet to me? i know it is not his character... but i just want him to be affectionate to me......
A. 2 September 2007: Unfortunately we can't change people, and further more we should not try either, we are what we are. Respect him for who he is, what was the quality that you saw in him that made you want to date him?. Focus on his good points, rather than dwelling ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my ex! What should I do?
Q. I couldn't stop thinking about having sex with my ex, but I don't want him to look down me if I tell him that. What should I write in an email to him??...
A. 2 September 2007: Probably best to not send him the email and move on. If you tell him you can't stop thinking about having sex with him, i think you will be be-littling yourself and yes he may well look down at you.
Don't send the email, unless of course you have... (read in full...)
My dad would disown me if he knew we were together!!
Q. Im going out with an 18 year old guy, but Im only 13 almost 14. I've been with him for a 13 months and Ive told him my own do's and don'ts and he said he repected that and wasn't going to go beyond the line, dont worry I never though of having sex ...
A. 2 September 2007: Reading this post the first thing i thought of is why is a 18 year old man interested in a 13 year old, this strikes he as somewhat odd to say the least. It does not suprise me atal when you say your dad would disown you, to be honest what dad would ... (read in full...)
How can I avoid losing my indentity in my next relationship??
Q. My last relationship ended recently. When I reflect back on it I just can't believe that when I met him I had so much going on in my life and somewhere along the way I kind of lost my identity. Somehow I got so involved in his life that I forgot I ...
A. 2 September 2007: This is the benefit of hindsight, look at your previous relationship as a learing curve. When you enter a new relationship vow to never do the things you did in the last one. Its so important that you keep your identity and stay who you are, if you ... (read in full...)
Do guys care as much about weight as girls imagine them to?
Q. Do guys care as much about weight as girls imagine them to? Or do girls simply create this belief that most guys like slim girls? I'm in a fairly new relationship and i'm really happy with my boyfriend but i'm extremely insecure and am completel...
A. 2 September 2007: I think you need to work at building your confidence & self esteem up here. If you are thinking that you are not good enough for him all the time, or you body is not right, or his sisters are all so thin, this is dwelling on negative things, which ... (read in full...)
She doesn't answer the phone when I call, or she'll answer and promise to call me back but never will.
Q. Hi, I am 18 years old and decided to start experimenting with a relationship with another woman 2 months ago. The biggest problem is that she's 39. It was troublesome at first, but after a couple of nights together we both feel much more ...
A. 2 September 2007: She could be genuinly busy, or she could be giving you hints that she is not interested anymore. The only way you are going to find out for sure is to ask her, at least this way you will know where you stand and can move on if needs be.
Take ... (read in full...)
Hi, I'm 13 and I want to have sex.
Q. Hi, I'm 13 and I want to have sex. My girlfriend said no. I don't want to pressure her but i want it sooo bad. I really love her but i don't know if i should break up with her. please help me i don't know what to do....
A. 2 September 2007: I really think that you are far to young to even be contemplating having sex at the moment. If you like this girl as much as you say you do in your post you will wait till she is ready, and till you are both old enough too.
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I want to be in a relationship too, but I always end up as just a "friend."
Q. Im a 14 an i feel i really want to have a girlfriend. Most of my friends are having sex and have girlfriends and i just feel left out ?? ive never been in a proper relationship before,and also i never feel confident to ask girls out because i dont ...
A. 1 September 2007: I know you are probably going to hear this alot in responses, but the fact is you are still only 14 and your time will most certainly come, believe me.
I remember being your age and thinking how i would love a girlfriend and why have i not got one.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with one of my closest friends. Should I tell her?
Q. Okay well im 16, and one of my closest friends is 14 going on 15. Iv known her practically all my life and love her to bits. The problem is, now im starting to like her as more of a friend, i cant get her out of my head, and every time she comes an...
A. 1 September 2007: First off i think its very grown up of you to say you would wait to she is over the age of consent before you had sex with her, thats the right thing to do.
I assume she does not currently have a boyfriend, in which case i think you should tell her ... (read in full...)
I'm drifting away from my family because they hate my guy that's 29. I'm 17. What should I do??
Q. Ive been seeing this man for nearly 2 years now, but my family hate him because hes older than me, im 17 and hes 29. He has been nothing but nice to me since we met, but ive been slowly drifting away from my family, and i dont want that to happen, ...
A. 1 September 2007: Its always hard when parents don't approve of who we are dating, it causes all sorts of bad feeling and resentment.
Do your parents like him as a person or is it just the 12 year age gap that they are not happy with?.
At the end of the day you are ... (read in full...)
Is he really into me or does he just see me once a month for sex?
Q. Is he into me or is it just sex? We have went on trips together and we see each other once a month. We don't spend much time talking on the phone. We usually just call to say hi and ask how each other is doing. We have spent time together with out ...
A. 1 September 2007: Its hard to say, like Escalaya says he could be just shy about talking on the phone.
I think communication is the key here, get together with him and have a proper chat and ask him what is really going on here as you want to know where you stan... (read in full...)
I like a girl thats a few months older than me. But she has a boyfriend. What should I do?
Q. I like a girl named Maddie but she's a few months older than me.She also has a boyfriend.But I have iked her for three years now!She is in my class because we are both in collage-prep and it's sixth and fifth grade.So please tell me what you think I ...
A. 1 September 2007: While she has a boyfriend i would not intefere. Im sure you would not like someone asking her out while she was going out with you.
At the moment you are going to have to fancy her from a distance, and when/if she parts from her current boyf... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and I like a girl in my class. Im shy. How can I let her know I'm interested???
Q. Hi i am 14 years old and there is a girl in my class at school that i have wanted to go out with for 3 years. but im relly quiet and shy. just wanted to know of any ways to let her know im intresded without having to do much talking to her....
A. 1 September 2007: Body language and small flirtatious gestures are probably going to be the best way of getting it across that you like her. Eye contact always works well, try to catch he eye and try to keep it going with her for as long as you can before smiling and ... (read in full...)
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