She is going away. What to do?
Q. My Fiance has just supprised me that She is supposed to join a College for 3 yrs in the US from January 2008.My greatest worry is, I might lose her since she will be away for that long. She might come back married to someone else. Please, what can I ...
A. 6 October 2007: If you both feel strongly about each other then there is no reason why this long distance relationship can not work. I very much doubt she will come back married to someone else, not if she feels strongly about your relationship. I would not marry ... (read in full...)
I have a crush, but don't know what to do.
Q. i am 16,i really like a guy at school but i am not sure how to aprroach him,because i don't know if he likes me.i know i should talk to him but if he rejects me,the whole school will know about it!...
A. 6 October 2007: Instead of going up to him and asking him out, why don't you make a friend out of him, and maybe do some light flirting to subtly get it across that you like him. Try to catch his eye and hold eye contact with him for a while. Find excuses to gently ... (read in full...)
I've found my soulmate and I love him! But, he's married! What should I do?
Q. I am dating a married man. We were instantly attracted to one another, but with him being married, we opted to be friends. We have been close friends for the past 2 years, we have the same interests, we can talk about anything, we respect one ...
A. 5 October 2007: At the end of the day he is married, and the chances of him leaving his wife for you are slim. Invariable married guys never leave their wives, so ultimately you become his mistress or bit on the side, only seeing him when he can sneak away, then he ... (read in full...)
My bf wants a threesome, should I do it?
Q. my bf says he wants a threesome !! is this something i should do or not ? ...
A. 4 October 2007: If you are not entirely comfortable with this then don't do it. If you go ahead and do it, the likellhood is it will cause serious problems in your relationship. If you think you would not be comfortable watching your partner have sex with another ... (read in full...)
I have pain in my hip and stomache. Any idea what it could be?
Q. hey for the past 3 days ive had really bad pains by my right hip and stomach and they wont go does anyone have any ideas what it could be ...
A. 4 October 2007: Yeh i agree with the other posts, book an appointment with your local GP as soon as possible.
X... (read in full...)
I have fantasies about my husband... with other women. Why is this a turn on?
Q. Ever since i met my husband i have fantasies about him being with other women. I know im his wife and not at all afraid of him leaving me for his other partners. I just want him to get all his fantasies answered. It really turns me on. I am shy ...
A. 4 October 2007: Like Uncle Phil says you could place an add in a contact mag and seek woman this way. Or seach on the internet for swingers events.
But be absolutely sure that this is what you want before you persue this avenue.
All the best x... (read in full...)
How do you win back someone you've dumped?
Q. Just a quick question, has anyone reading this ever dumped anyone and realised they have made a mistake? And how did you win the person back? ...
A. 4 October 2007: As the saying goes, you appreciate how much you like/love someone untill they have gone. All you can do is arrange to meet him and explain that you made a terrible mistake and that you should never have ended the relationship.
Hope it goes wel... (read in full...)
Married 11 years (tomorrow), but I think I'm in love with my best friends brother!
Q. I have been married for 11 years tomorrow and i think I am in love with my best friends brother! I love my husband but I am not inlove with him. I would never want to hurt him but have been seeing this guy on the side. Please help me...
A. 4 October 2007: Don't throw away 11 years of marriage over what could be a five minute lust thing you are having for your best friends brother. It would be an awful shame and a costly mistake were you to get with this guy then find out he was not what you thought ... (read in full...)
I'm having difficulty finding a boyfriend... where should I look?
Q. I know this will sound like a really stupid question, but I'm really having difficulty finding a boyfriend. I've been single for over a year, and haven't even met any potential boyfriends in that time! I get really lonely as all my friends have guy...
A. 2 October 2007: Try to steer clear of alcohol fuelled places like pubs & clubs. Invariably people who have had alot to drink are not themselves and are after one thing. The most likely places would be in the workplace, at college or an evening class, at the gym is ... (read in full...)
He's moved on and now I can't get over him! Help!
Q. i honestly dont know how to get over him. Hello everyone! i have a big problem, i went out with this boy bla bla bla and he told me hed never hurt me ans this other shit. Like a fool i believed him, well he found someone else just after being broken ...
A. 1 October 2007: I know its hard, what with him being your first love, you feel like the pain is never going to go away. Well with the benefit of hindsight i can tell you that things will get better. Time heals all wounds, you have got to pick yourself up dust ... (read in full...)
How can you find out what your partner really thinks about you WITHOUT asking?
Q. how do you Know what your partner really thinks about you,without asking them. how do you know if he thinks your to clingy, to full etc ? plz reply?...
A. 1 October 2007: I guess the only way you are going to know without actually asking him his how he acts around you, his bodylanguage ect. Is he pleased to see you and greet you with warmth and a smile when you have not seen him. Does he make the effort in the ... (read in full...)
I've had my heartbroken and have decided not to fall in love for a while. How do I avoid falling in love?
Q. okay?? i juss had my heart broken..and im going to tell you that i do not want to fall in love agian for a while! until im older..my ex still talks to me, nd i start to like him..then this other guy is talking to me..and i forget about my ex,and ...
A. 1 October 2007: Just have a break from relationships for a while. I went through a bit of a rough patch a while back and im kind of having a break from dating myself. To be honest im kind of enjoying the single life, and when im ready i will start dating again. So ... (read in full...)
I really love my mates gf but they are so happy together!!!
Q. Help!14, my mate is going out with the girl i fancy, but they are really happy together. He deserves her but i love her! What do i do?...
A. 1 October 2007: Have respect that your mate is going out with her and leave it that, unless of course you are not that bothered about losing your friendship. I think on this one you are going to have to keep your feelings to your self & move on. Sooner or later you ... (read in full...)
We are 14 and in love. I need some xmas present ideas please..
Q. Me and my boyfriend are 14 and we love eachother (yeah, you'll probably think I am full of it, but it's real) Well. I know he is getting me a ring for Christmas that is worth about $300, and so I really don't have anything to get him. I just really ...
A. 1 October 2007: Hey its not about how much you spend, its the thought that counts. Maybe try a bottle of his favourite aftershave. Does he have any sports or hobbies, then maybe get him something associated with this. Other than that, tops, hats, jumpers, music ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to talk about marriage after only 7 months together?
Q. Dear Cupid i'v been in a relationship for 7 months now. for this 7 months we feel as if we have known each other for years. my bf is a very soft hearted and caring person. for me to get mad at him is somthing he really don't like and now we st...
A. 1 October 2007: I think the seven months you have been together is a little so soon to be getting married. But talking about and planning it for the future is good.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
Shall I make a move?
Q. i am in a long term relationship and it is in trouble. i have a passion for another person and from what i notice this other person seems to feel the same way about me. this person becomes animated when i am around but is notoriously sullen when i ...
A. 30 September 2007: It would appear that you and this other guy are crushing on each other enormously and share a huge passion for one another. Currently you both have partners at present so the correct thing to do would for you both to terminate you present ... (read in full...)
I like him and don't know whether to stay away from him or get to know him a bit more...
Q. right, im going to a party on saturday, well its at my house, a suprise for my mums friends daughters 16th. only it might kind of end up as a joint because another one of my mums friends has a son that turns 16 the day before. i really really like ...
A. 30 September 2007: Hey why would you want to stay away from him, you have know him all your life. I think you should get to know him abit more, make a friend out of him and take it from there. Maybe throw in some mild flirtatious gestures to subtly say you like him. ... (read in full...)
People tell me that I am beautiful, smart, have a shining personality, but guys never want to date me because of my weight? Why don't guys date big girls?
Q. I am 20 years old. I have had one serious relationship and a few boyfriends. I think it has been because I am overweight. I never thought it mattered. I love myself and i have more confidence than most people. People tell me that I am beautiful, ...
A. 30 September 2007: Them not wanting to date probably has not got anything to do with your weight atal, you would more than likely get the same reaction if you were stick think. I don't think its true that guys don't date larger girls, infact i think more guys prefer a ... (read in full...)
I'm getting married next week, do I tell my fiance I have slept with his best friend?
Q. me and my fiance are getting married next week but i have slept with his best friend, what do i do, ruin there friendship and my wedding or stay quiet...
A. 30 September 2007: relationships and marriages are built on trust, if you have not got the trust its like building a house without digging the foundations, it will eventually fall. If you don't tell him you are entering a marriage sitting on a really hurful lie which ... (read in full...)
My bf is so immature and sulks if we disagree, then won't budge, even refuse to go out...
Q. my fiance is so immuture and sulks if we disagree,i make the first move and he continues to behave like a spoilt brat and refuses to budge even declines to take me out,should i just go out with the girls since he doesnt want to know? why should i be ...
A. 30 September 2007: I think that your boyfriend is acting very immature by acting like this, thats what 5 year olds normally do. In relationships you are not going to agree on everyting, thats just part of being in a relationship. But to go into an ongoing sulk ... (read in full...)
Am I pressuring him by talking about our future?
Q. my boyfreind is to young to get married but does that automaticly mean he doesnt? we always talk about it. but im the one who brings it up. am i pressuring him by talking about our future? he agrees its going to be great but is he just saying that ...
A. 30 September 2007: I don't think he is just saying it just to make you happy. Just because he is to young to get married at the moment does not mean he dosen't want to get married at some point in his lifetime. Enjoy your relationship and live for the moment, be happy ... (read in full...)
I find guys attractive, only one girl caught my eye. Am I straight?
Q. it seems like all my life i have been attracted to guys and i still am. but about 3 weeks ago school started and this girl named --- caught my eye. i still consider my self as straight because i finad guys attractive and only one girl. so my ...
A. 30 September 2007: Yes don't worry i think you are straight, i think this is a phaze we all go through at some point in our lives, its perfectly normal. So you find her attractive, there is nothing wrong with that atal. Just because you find a member of the opposite ... (read in full...)
My partner wants to go to university, but I'm afraid of the distance this implies; feel miserable verytime it's brought up.
Q. my partner wants to goto university, and i hate the thought of them leaving me. I know a relationship couldn't work between us with a 50mile distance if they go. I don't know what to do or say. 'Cos its their life and they can do what they want, but ...
A. 29 September 2007: Of course you are sad because she is going to a different place and you are not going to see them as much. Why don't you try to look at it in a more positive way, she is going somewhere to try and better her life and get a decent education, to one ... (read in full...)
23 years age gap. I don't care about me, but of my boyfriend's reputation. Please advise.
Q. I'm having a relationship with an older man, there is a 23 year age gap but we are both very comfortable with each other and we're very happy together. My problem is that im worried that people may think bad of us, not many people know of our rela...
A. 29 September 2007: Age gaps invariable only ever become a problem if one of the people in question have got issues with it. You have said that you are both very comfortable with each other, and are both very happy together. If thats the case then there is no reason ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my Music Producer. Is it worth pursuing him?
Q. I am a small-time musician and I have a seriously intense crush on my producer, who is in a (very) long distance relationship. He's 31 and I'm 19. Are there too many reasons not to pursue him, or should I just go for it? He sends obvious vibes ...
A. 29 September 2007: At the moment i would not persue him, i would keep going the way you are going. Maybe he does fancy you, but if you make a move on him and you read the signs wrong it could make things arkward for you both as he is your producer. Also he is in a ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me, and I was going to propose! How do I get through this?
Q. me and my girlfriend have just broke up because she has had sex last wendnesday with a random bloke in the toilets of a night club and i was going to propose to her how do i get over this with as little pain as possible?....
A. 29 September 2007: Look at it this way, its good that you found out this about her before you proposed, rather than after. Im sorry she did this to you, but at the end of the day you know that this is not the sort of girl that you would want to marry, you can do so ... (read in full...)
I think he likes me but I don't like to make the first move? Help please!
Q. Hiya everyone cannn u help me out please? I've known this lad for a few week now and he's really really nice. He talks to me looadds over the net but in school it's really awkward!! I really like him and i can't tell if the feeling is mutual, h...
A. 28 September 2007: It does sound like this guy really likes you, he is certainly giving you all the classic signs of fancying you, what with the smiles, saying you are gorgeous ect. I think in this day and age it does not look out of place for a girl to ask a boy out. ... (read in full...)
What shall I do, I don't love him anymore?
Q. hi i been going out with this boy 4 5 months now but i have relised that i dont love him any more.when i kiss him i dont feel anythink.plus he been tryin to snog me but i dont let him what shall i do?help plz ...
A. 28 September 2007: If your feelings are not there for him anymore there is not an awful lot you can do about it. The best thing you could do now would be to finish the relationship with him and tell him its over. Tell him sooner rather than later, the longer you leave ... (read in full...)
Shall I plan a romantic night to mend our rocky relationship?
Q. if our relationship is a little rocky do you think letting my mom watch my son and planning a romantic night is a bad idea ?? ...
A. 28 September 2007: If planning a romantic night is going to help get your rocky relationship back on track then surely it can only be a good thing. If you Mum will watch your son for you then go ahead and plan it, i think its a good idea. Good luck x... (read in full...)
Will it put off guys to find out I am going to wait till marriage?
Q. I am a devoted Christian and I am not going to have sex until I am married and I want to wait. I know I am only young but I was wondering if it would put guy's off me, because I wouldn't have sex with them. When I am older would it affect my ...
A. 28 September 2007: If a guy does not respect the fact that you want to wait till you are married before you have sex, then he is not worth being with in the first place. A guy that truly loves you will respect what you want and wait for you till you are ready.
H... (read in full...)
I was pushed into dating her and want to break up! How can I do that - I'm shy!
Q. Well I have been dating this girl who i think is cool for a few days now but i like her friends but i like her to but not like that i was kind of pushed into answering and i dont really know how to break up with her as im shy....
A. 28 September 2007: If you really feel like you don't like this girl anymore then you have got to tell her sooner rather than later. The longer you leave it the harder it will get, so do the right thing and finish it with her. If you keep it going you are effectivly ... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin after oral? Am I a lesbian?
Q. Okay, so i feel pretty stupid for asking this but here it goes. So i decided to go out with my best friend (girl) because since i got into high skool its been really hard to see her. anyway.. i was going to meet at her house and then wee would goo ...
A. 28 September 2007: Yes you are still a virgin, she was only giving you oral. You only loose your virginity through penetrative sex.
Did this girl force you into this beyond your will?. I only say this because you state that she pulled your pants off, and you told... (read in full...)
Can men tell if you have had sex before or not?
Q. Can men tell if you have had sex before or not?...
A. 28 September 2007: I don't think generally a guy won't be able to tell if a girl has had sex or not, also i don't think they would be overlly bothered either.
x... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my roommate even though I've been straight my whole life! What should I do? Am I gay?
Q. hi.. i have been straight all my life.. but lately, i think i'm attracted to my friend, who is also my roommate. i so wanted to kiss her. but then, i know for a fact that she's not gay. i'm scared that she wouldn't kiss me back.. or worse, that i ...
A. 28 September 2007: Maybe this is just a phase you are going through, if it is then in time it will pass. I would refrain from trying to kiss your room mate, you said yourself she is not gay and trying to kiss her could cause unessesary complications to your ... (read in full...)
I don't like how my boyfriend talks dirty! Should I dump him?
Q. my boyfriend talks dirity all the time hes says to ome oh my penis is hurtting do you want to see it i dont know if i should dump him or not cause i like him but i dont want him to say dirty things....
A. 28 September 2007: If you like him then maybe you should talk to him about it. Tell him you are not entirely comfortable with him talking dirty, and that you want him to stop. Give him the benefit of the doubt and give him the chance to stop it, if he still keeps ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mom I'm not a virgin without freaking her out?
Q. how do u tell your mom who is a massive freaking out person that there 15year old daughter isnt a virgin?...
A. 28 September 2007: Personally i don't think there is any reason why you should tell her. Like you say it would freak her out, so wht she does not know will not hurt her. Keep it to yourself and avoid unwanted heartache.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
How can I tell if a guy likes me or not?
Q. How can I tell if a guy likes me or not? I think one of my friends, J, likes me. One day he told my friend we were going out. Today, he dropped his pen underneath my chair twice and asked me to get it. Also, he asks me, and only me, about homework. ...
A. 28 September 2007: I think this boy J has got a real thing for you, he is trying to get it across by way of flirtatious gestures. If you respond to him when he flirts you are going to be giving him the wrong signals and he is going to think you like him. If you only ... (read in full...)
My friend and I like the same guy, but she never talks w/ him! Should I say hi instead and tell him he's hot?
Q. im 11 years old and i really like this guy kyle i mean like hes really cute and nice but the problem is that my friend likes him to and im trying to be supportive of her but she just wont say hi to him and i really like him and hes 2 of my friends ...
A. 28 September 2007: Hey if you like this boy then why not say hi to him and tell him he is hot, he will probably be really flattered. Just because your mate won't say hi to him is not your fault. If you want to tell him he is hot, go for it, before someone else beats ... (read in full...)
My don't remember cheating, but my gf split w/ me b/c of it! And now there's someone else who likes me! Any advice with both problems?
Q. Hey. I am 18; my girlfriend has just broken up with me. She broke up with me because I kissed another girl. I don’t remember cheating on her (I was really drunk), but apparently I did. I understand that I lost her trust but I feel like I didn't ...
A. 28 September 2007: I don't think that you should go out with a girl to help you get over another girl, ultimately this is going on the rebound. Sit back and give it a month or 2 to get yourself back up straight and decide what you really want, time really is the ... (read in full...)
Recently my guy hasn't been calling or asking me out, but when I asked he was happy about it! What does this mean?
Q. ive been going out with someone for a while - he always was the one calling me and asking me out - but recently that hasnt been happening. i thought maybe he isnt interested anymore. but when i asked him out recently he responded really warmly and ...
A. 28 September 2007: I think it was abit of a tester, as he was the one doing all the calling, and the asking out, maybe he thought its time to take a back seat for a while and let you call him. If he really was not intersted he would not have responded warmly to you ... (read in full...)
He's the best bf I've dated, but I can't get over our 2 year age gap!
Q. Dear Cupid i have a boyfriend who is 2 years younger then me. im not really comfortable with that age gap but he always make sure we don't let that come between us. out of all the guys i'v dated, he tops them all and he always remains me of his...
A. 28 September 2007: A two year age gap is really nothing atal. You say that out of all the guys you have dated he tops them all. So enjoy your relationship together and stop dwelling on something as small as a 2 year age gap.
All the best x... (read in full...)
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