When I'm finally over the break up, he comes back and breaks my heart again, how can I stop feeling this hurt?
Q. i got dumped today. I was only seein him for 3 months but he finished it 2day sayin i wasnt the one for him. Ive been out with him before a few years back and he dumped me for someone else, so I shouol of know better and steered clear when he came ...
A. 15 August 2008: As the old saying goes Love Is Blind. That statement is so true, When we really like someone invarible we can't see any faults in them, the only one's that can see it are people outside, like family and friends. If i had listened to my family & ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend now, but I'm getting love thoughts about this friend who once asked me out.
Q. I have this friend, he's 15 last year he asked me out...i had to say 'no' dad would flip out if he knew i had said 'yes'. Months later i met a guy, who is now my boyf. I have talked about my boyf since i joined DearCupid.....Now im getting love ...
A. 15 August 2008: If you are getting love thoughts about someone else then maybe you should be with them instead of the person you are going out with. You are only young, at this age it is not unusual to change boyfriends regularly. If you really feel stongly about ... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me a suggestion on a good place to meet guys?
Q. I feel kind of silly asking this, but could anyone give me a suggestion on a good place to meet guys? I don't go to school anymore, and I don't work in an environment in which I'd meet anyone that I'd want to date. Guys in bars and clubs seem t...
A. 15 August 2008: I know alot of people meet in bars and clubs, but personally i would steer clear of these type of places. Invariable people who have been drinking are never themselves. I think a good place to start would be to start a course or an evening class in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied to me big time. Should I break up with him?
Q. so basically my boyfriend lied to me. big time. for starters, i don't want to be with someone that does drugs or drinks. so he told me that he's never going to drink or smoke weed ever again. so i trusted him and believe him. but then his friend ...
A. 14 August 2008: To be honest he should not have lied to you about not smoking weed and not drinking anymore. realtionships are built on trust, if you have not got the trust than there is no chance a realtionship can work. But on the other hand i feel that you ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble getting closer to my girlfriend and communicating with her properly.
Q. My girlfriend of 2 months is great! she's funny, stylish, and is full of energy. Makes me wonder why the hell she would even WANT to date me. The problem I'm having is: it is near impossible for me to talk to her or get close to her. I just wont let ...
A. 14 August 2008: You have got this really great girlfriend, funny, stylish, i guess what most of us guys look for in a girlfriend. You are risking losing her over a fear of getting closer to her and this would be silly. You have ultimately got to stop worrying what ... (read in full...)
Nipples, or cleavage?
Q. Do men prefer seeing hard nipples through a shirt or ample cleavage?...I have both...
A. 14 August 2008: One or the other i would say is good, but as you have both, well that's just even better!!!. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with Beyoncé...
Q. i can't stop loving beyonce, what the hell should i do?...
A. 14 August 2008: I would not worry, its perfecly natural to have these feelings. Just enjoy the feelings you are getting because they will not last forever. Over time these feeling's will subside, i used to get these feelings for Kimberly Davies (aka) analeise ... (read in full...)
I left my girlfriend. When I kissed a girl 2 days later I felt really bad about doing it.
Q. i recentley left my girlfriend and two days later i kissed another girl passionatley, i feel bad about this, but im wondering should i be feeling as bad as i am about this ?...
A. 13 August 2008: Well i don't think that you should feel bad, its not like you went behind anyone's back and cheated on them or anything. Ultimately when you kissed this girl 2 days after you left your girlfriend you were a single man entitled to do what you want. ... (read in full...)
I found out my wife is smoking weed behind my back before she goes to work. I don't know how to handle this.
Q. My wife has been hiding the fact that she has been smoking weed daily.This is before she goes to work. Behind my back.Now we do smoke daily when the day is over and on weekends.But she has been buying behind my back and using before she goes ...
A. 13 August 2008: I think that you need to confront her about this matter and find out why she feel's the need to smoke weed behind your back. Find a good time to broach the subject, a time when you are both calm and be relaxed in your approach. Im sure she will have ... (read in full...)
What can I do to last longer when I have sex?
Q. i cum so early when i'm having sex or masterbating.please tell me what i can do to keep me erected for a lond period of time....
A. 13 August 2008: For starter's you are under age to be having sex anyway, but i figure you are going to do it regardless af what anyone says anyway.
I would recommend thinking of something completely non-sexual and focus on this. Maybe try to visualise a game of f... (read in full...)
Should I worry? Or am I just being too critical?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 9 months. But the other day I found out that she has slept with another man after we were together. It was about a month into our relationship. And it was when I was out of town and some guy she had had ...
A. 13 August 2008: I certainly don't think that you are being critical, she cheated on you after you were together. Some people just get over being cheated on, sweep it under the carpet like it never happened. Others never quite get over it, its always on their mind, ... (read in full...)
Would it be safe for us to have sex without a condom?
Q. my boyfriend and i are both 17 nd have only started having sex the last year or so. he's in the army and i want to finish my year 12 HSC first before i move away with him. he is totally cool with that. but he keeps asking me everytime we go to have ...
A. 13 August 2008: I think that you will be taking a risk by not using a condom, apart from the risk of getting pregnant there are also STD's (sexually transmitted diseases) to bear in mind too. Just be on the safe side make him wear a condom.
All the best x... (read in full...)
He's mean to me for a joke, but it's hurtful. Please help.
Q. I just wondered if you could help me. My boyfriend is mean to me, for a joke, but it's hurtfull. I haven't talked to him about this because i dont want to upset him. Please help. Many thanks x...
A. 10 August 2008: I don't think that there is anything jokeful about being mean to someone. If it gets to much for you, or he keep's this up then i would be inclined to ditch him and find someone who gives you the love a respect that you so rightly deserve.
All t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stole money from my parents' house. I'm not sure what to do.
Q. I have found out my b/f has stole a lot of money from my parents house and lied to me about it. My parents know and wont let him in the house ever and are debating to call the police! I love him but I cant trust him....not sure what to do. Can ...
A. 7 August 2008: I think that your parents are right to not want him in the house ever again, and would not blame them if they did get the police involved. Personally i think that you should split up with him, you can do so much better than someone who pinches money ... (read in full...)
He's rubbish in bed. I'm not great either. Can anyone help?
Q. ok,i know sex isnt everything, but ive been dating a guy for 6months now, and we felt ready last night to take it that step further, the only problem is, he is rubbish in bed, but im awful aswel ha ha. obviously we were both comfortable to admi...
A. 7 August 2008: I think it is something that people perfect over time, i guess it a case of trial and error. Ok so he is not great in bed, give it time, adopt some new positions and make it fun. Its all about being comfortable with each other, being relaxed.
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Married but still in love with my ex!
Q. I am married and have been for 3 years. I'm in love with my husband, and he is in love with me. But I'm also still in love with my ex-boyfriend of 5 years ago. I didn't realize my feelings until I started talking to him again. I don't know what to ...
A. 5 August 2008: What you do is foget about this ex of yours and concentrate on your marriage of 3 years and your 4 boys. If you start something with this ex you ultimately risk losing your family, and its just worth taking that chance.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
How do you get over having your heart broken by someone who you know you will always love no matter what?
Q. How do you get over having your heart broken by someone who you know you will always love no matter what? She said she doesn't think she is in love with me any more. I have loved her for almost 6 years. I know I always will. To be blunt. it's sh*t...
A. 5 August 2008: I know its hard when you really love someone and the feelings are not reciprocated, its something a majority of us have all had a some point in our lives. I know it does not feel like it now but things will get easier for you, time really is the ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that someone could hack into my email...and then call my gf??
Q. Is it possible or likely that someone could hack my email and call my girlfriend? ...
A. 5 August 2008: I think the only way that someone could do this would be to obtain your password. If you have got a password with digits and letters that only you know i think thay would be hard pushed to hack into your email.
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How can I make my beautiful young sexy wife agree to have sex with my friends?
Q. I have been married since 3 years and have a 2 yr. old son. There is something going on inside me, which turns me on. My wife is very beautiful, young, sexy, but she is a homely girl. I want to see my wife having sex with 2-3 guys at a time in front ...
A. 4 August 2008: I think that maybe you should just respect your wife decision and leave it at that. This is a fantasy, and i think some things are ultimately best left as fantasy. I feel if you made this dream a reality it could cause complications in your ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my boss and it's driving me crazy
Q. hi everybody, my question would seem very familiar to all of you, im in fact in love with my boss, and this is driving me crazy, i tried to approach him by sending him anonymous letters, he replied of course by curiousity...the story went more com...
A. 4 August 2008: I think that if all this is causing you heartache then maybe the best option would be to leave, or maybe get a transfer to another department. When we are in love with someone we can't have we develop a kind of infatuation, we take every look, every ... (read in full...)
Out of nowhere... a liking for anal sex. Is it normal?
Q. How do you all of a sudden start liking anal sex? out of now where My husband and i both have helped each other do this and we like it. is this a normal step in a marriage after 5 years? and, i have to stay sometimes its ok and sometimes I'm not ...
A. 4 August 2008: I guess anal sex is not everyones cup of tea, but there are are alot of couple's out there who practice this. I would say there is nothing wrong with it and is a normal step in a marriage. You have been married for 5 years, so its natural to ... (read in full...)
Will I ever trust again? How do you get on with your life when you are this broken inside? Are there good men who don't cheat and hurt the people they love?
Q. My boyfriend left me for another woman after telling me I was the love of his life. I had finally learned to trust him after another man I was engaged to cheated on me numerous times. I thought this last boyfriend was different and he was so good to ...
A. 3 August 2008: I know it does not feel like it now because you have been failed yet again, but things will get better i can assure you. Time really is the healer of all pain, you have got to treat these past relationships as chapters that have happened in you ... (read in full...)
Back with my ex after a year apart, is it wise to get myself tested?
Q. Hi, I just got back in touch with an ex and we are back together. Do you think he should get tested before i sleep with him, as i haven't seen him for a year?...
A. 3 August 2008: It depends on how many people he has slept with in the past year unprotected, it could be a few, on the other hand he may not have been with anyone. Your best bet would be to if anything sexual happens between the pair of you to take precautions, ... (read in full...)
I really like him but is he worth all that?
Q. help! I have a madly big crush on this lad. And in the past hes a big crush on me. A couple of months ago though, he started going out wth someone else, and ignored me for 5 weeks. Then his gf made up a rumour to make me jealous. and he found ou...
A. 3 August 2008: I think that this lad is starting to realise that he made the wrong decision in starting a relationship with this other girl. It sounds like he still has a thing for you as he is flirting with you. But before you start anything with this guy make ... (read in full...)
This guy is pressuring me to take my clothes off....what do I do??
Q. Ive been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks now and he keeps trying to pressure me into taking my clothes off. I keep saying no because Im not comfortable with that yet as its too soon. But I do like him. Anyway, today he said something to me ...
A. 3 August 2008: You don't specify an age bracket for this post so im assuming you are over 16. You should never ever be pushed into something you are not comfortable doing. You are good to stand your ground and say no to him, but he does not seem to be taking that ... (read in full...)
I've recnetly got together with the girl of my dreams, but I'm worried about my inexperience in bed.
Q. I've (very) recently got together with the absolute girl of my dreams. I thought this would make me happy, but the fact is that sex is a problem. She's very experienced, while the last time I was with a girl was well over two years ago. In fact, ...
A. 3 August 2008: I think you should try to be more relaxed about it. The more you mull it over in your mind the more stressed and worried you are going to feel, and this all contibutes to a poor performance. Find a good time when you are both relaxed and explain ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my bf as I fell for my best friend...but he likes someone else...
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend because i fell for my bestfriend. but my bestfriend likes someone else. should i tell my bestfriend how i feel about him?...
A. 3 August 2008: It depends really, if you tell your bestfriend how you feel about him you risk jeopodising your friendship. I would say don't tell him and stay best friends, you say yourself that he likes someone else anyway. Of course thats just what i would do, ... (read in full...)
I've had enough with my abusive boyfriend of six years. What should I do?
Q. I am still with my boyfreind after 6 years..however I still have not met his parents, he has been abusive towards me and I have seen a girl come out of his house twice he says she come to get somthing but I dont beleive that. He doesnt work and I ...
A. 3 August 2008: The other two Aunts above gave you fantastic advice. I know its hard but you really have got to walk away from this relationship as soon as possible. I think that you deserve so much better that this, you are worth so much more. He does not respect ... (read in full...)
I'm scared he might use me again or want to see me for all the wrong reasons!...
Q. ok there's this dude that always trys to hook up with me but we did some stuff in his room once but it was a one time thing i thought that he was into me and he would ask me out well the next day he didnt say anything to me and asked another girl...
A. 3 August 2008: Personally i think that you should steer clear of this guy, i think in the beginning he used you to get what he wants, then he did want to know you. Now he wants to hook up again, probably once again to get what he wants then act like you don't ... (read in full...)
What are the best ways to move on and get over it or just embrace being on your own again?
Q. Hi I have just broken up with my partner. we didnt break up because the we dont love each other anymore or because the relationship was going bad. he is moving to america and he is not sure if he wants me to go with him. its so hard, in the ...
A. 3 August 2008: Im so sorry to hear that your relationship with your partner did not work out. Its never easy when a relationship fails, espessially when you dide't want it to. I know it does not feel like it at this moment but things will get better, time really ... (read in full...)
How much time does a guy need when they say "I need time"?
Q. Hey ya... I am in need of some advice... I broke up with him as he had others on the side and I made contact with him a couple of weeks ago and he said he wants to be friends n need time. He hasn't contacted me so far and his b'day is coming u...
A. 3 August 2008: Im sorry but i don't think that this guy is really that interested in re-establishing contact with you. He says he needs time to get his head sorted from the relationship ending, but the reason it ended was because he had others on the side, so it ... (read in full...)
Will I ever fall in love with him or am I just waiting around for nothing?
Q. I am 16 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now.For the 1st couple of months our relationship was wonderful but somewhere along the line he started putting me down an disrespecting me.But lately things have gotten better.So my ...
A. 3 August 2008: I think if you have not fallen in love with him after two years the likellhood is that you are not going to in the next couple of years either. I think we can get get an idea of how we feel about someone from the feelings we get from within. Do you ... (read in full...)
What's the most pleasureable position where we can face each other?
Q. What is the most pleasurable sexual position for my girlfriend where we can face each other and look into each others eyes (so not doggy style) I’m very overweight and find that when I’m stood up when erect only 4 inches of my penis is easily ...
A. 2 August 2008: With her on top is probably where she would likely get the most pleasure from. From this position she is in complete control, she can move about with you inside her and point your penis in the direction which stimulates her the most. The miserinary ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him just because all his friends are havinbg sex?
Q. okay...my boyfriend is very sweet and all that and we have never gone further then kissing. He once asked me if i did want to have sex with him and i said the time wasn't right. however when we are in the company of friends they are always joking ...
A. 2 August 2008: You should only have sex with him if the time is right for you, not if the time is right for him. When you are in the company of his friends it should not matter what they think, the fact that they talk about their sex lives is inconsequential, and ... (read in full...)
After I offered him oral he did not bother talking much to me...
Q. Dear cupid, i think i have made a mistake. i gave a guy a blowjob and was still at his house for the next two days but for those two days he only said one or two words to me. Please tell me why he diint talk to me and how do i fix this so its not ...
A. 2 August 2008: He is either embarrased by what happened between the pair of you and is shy to talk to you, or he used you just to get a blowjob and now he does not want to know. Why don't you just ask him why he has not spoken to you for the last couple of days, i ... (read in full...)
I'm ready for sex but no girl want to go out with me!
Q. I am a 14 year old boy, and im ready to have sex. I know all about it but i dont know how to get a girl, because no girl want to go out with me. Can you help me? ...
A. 2 August 2008: You are only 14 years old, although you may think you are ready for sex you are most cerainly not. I thought like that when i was 14, it was only when i matured and got older that i reaslise that i was not really mature atal. As for no girl wanting ... (read in full...)
Does he want to french?
Q. When i kiss my boyfriend i can feel his tounge in his mouth with my lip. Is he doing this to let me know he wants to french kiss? Cause i give him the opportuniy by having my mouth open but i dont know how to let him know other than doing that with ...
A. 2 August 2008: Like PsyCookie says it could just be the way he kisses, on the ohter hand he could be doing that to let you know he wants to french kiss. The next time you are doing this just come out with it and ask him.
Kx... (read in full...)
My girl's past experiences make it hard for her to trust me. what can I do?
Q. My gf has a very bad past experience. She caught her x cheat on her and suffered a great pain. Since we started our relationship, that bad experience still stayed around her. She said she will not be able to stand if another guy cheat on her. ...
A. 2 August 2008: All you can do is be there for her, comfort her, assure her that you are a good guy and you would never ever cheat on her. Ok so she has had a bad experience and it has left he emotionally scarred, and of course it is hard to put her trust in ... (read in full...)
I have a newspaper fetish. Should I be open about it?
Q. I have a strange fetish and i want to be open about it. i love newspapers and magazines. i love to buy them and sleep with them and hold them close to my skin. i feel that this is strange because i have never heard of it before. should i tell p...
A. 2 August 2008: I have heard some really strange fetishes in my time, but i think this is possibly the strangest of them all. You don't mention whether you are in a relationship or not so i am going to assume you are single. I would be inclined to keep it to ... (read in full...)
I want to break up with my on-line love as gently as possible.
Q. I don't know what I should do here...please someone help Recently I met this girl online and we hit it off and all that fun stuff, anyway we both kinda fell for each other, however we live a ways away from each other and I have a good feeling it ...
A. 2 August 2008: Just be open and honest with her, honestey is the best policy and she will respect you for not leading her on. Tell her that you have really enjoyed your chats online with her, but at this stage in your life you are not looking for a relationship.
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I want to have sex, my boyfriend only wants, to have blow jobs, how do I tell him, that I want more sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months now and a couple of weeks ago we had sex for the first time. It was my first time ever but not his. But now it seems like all he wants to do is get blowjobs! how do i tell him without being ...
A. 30 July 2008: Hey glad it went well for you and things worked out great.
All the best x... (read in full...)
I want to have sex, my boyfriend only wants, to have blow jobs, how do I tell him, that I want more sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months now and a couple of weeks ago we had sex for the first time. It was my first time ever but not his. But now it seems like all he wants to do is get blowjobs! how do i tell him without being ...
A. 21 July 2008: Just find a good time, preferably when you are both relaxed and express your concerns. Tell him that you feel a little neglected in the bedroom department as you feel he is getting all the pleasure. Give him a chance to change, but if after talking ... (read in full...)
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