How do I handle this? He only comes around when he wants sex!
Q. I am a heavy set woman that is very attractive and has had no problems finding ppl. But this one guy that I have been with only calls or comes around when he wants sex. How can I know if hes ashamed of me? Ive asked him over and over is he ashamed ...
A. 1 October 2012: Like the advice the other aunts have given you, the best option would be to stop seeing this guy, he is obviously just using you for sex and does not want any thing else. There are plenty of good guys out there that would treat you right, and give ... (read in full...)
Flirt at work
Q. okay so there is this guy I work with and I am starting to like him never liked him at first but he has pretty much swept me off my feet in a sence.I never had a crush on him at first but he was so sweet to me and got me thinking a lil.He would go ...
A. 28 September 2012: You have got to be very careful when starting anything of a romantic nature with someone that you work with. While things may be all rosy and nice in the beginning, if things took a downturn then you have still got to come to work everyday and see ... (read in full...)
How do I stop jealousy from getting the best of me?
Q. I am constantly on the social networking side of the internet. I check facebook often, email for work and personal connection, etc. So now that I'm in an LDR I see that my very handsome boyfriend has added a few girls to his friends list that go to ...
A. 28 September 2012: i think you have got to relax and trust him. So he has added a few girls from his college as friends on his facebook, this does not mean there is anything going on. I think you are causing yourself unessessary upset. A healthy relationship is about ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that we talk on the phone so much?
Q. Is it normal that my boyfriend and I talk on the phone constantly when we're not together, busy, or working? It gets to the point his mom comes on the phone in the middle of our conversation and says "Okay it's time to get off the phone you two!" ...
A. 28 September 2012: i think its normal to want to be with each other all the time, and when your not together to want to hear each other's voices and talk for ages. Sounds like the two of you have got something really special going on here. enjoy these special times.
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She gave me her number but then didn't reply to my text. Why?
Q. I have been talking to this girl at work. I asked for her number and she gave it to me. I sent her a text message today and never got a reply. What does that mean? How do i react to her at work, since she didn't reply my text message?...
A. 27 September 2012: You only sent the text message today, give it time, im sure she will reply to you. She could be busy, something could have cropped up, or she could just be trying to leave it abit as to make her self not look to keen. Who knows, if she has not text ... (read in full...)
Struggling to forget the threesome she had in the past....
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months now and we are still and I hope will always be together. I actually am wanting to marry her some day. In the beginning through general conversion we found out something about each other such ...
A. 27 September 2012: Personally i think that the past is best left in the past. If you want this relationship to progress you have got to let go of things that happened long before you met. We have all got a past in some form or another no matter who we are. If you keep ... (read in full...)
What if she doesn't call? Should I still attempt to talk to her if she does not call, or leave her alone?
Q. Hi, sorry this is so long. I met this girl. We started talking recently, since we started talking she offered to buy me lunch once and gave me her e-mail address. She is extremely nice to me and she always smiles at me. Recently she mentioned sh...
A. 19 September 2012: I woulden't go bombarding her with calls and texts otherwise you will risk scaring her off. Leave it a while then give her a call, or a text just saying hope your ok, and that you hope things are going well. Sounds like she has got alot on her plate ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'll cheat if I go to Kent
Q. My boyfriend doesnt like the idea of me going to Kent because he thinks im going to cheat on him and not tell him because of my past relationships. i tell him everyday that i wont do anything to hurt him and i wont but he thinks im a whole ...
A. 19 September 2012: You don't say why you are going to kent, is this a long term thing? Anyway i believe that relationships should be built on trust. A relationship without trust is like building a house without laying the foundations, sooner or later its going to fall ... (read in full...)
I like this sweet guy but I'm too nervous to even say hi sometimes. Ideas on what I should do?
Q. i really like this kid i work with he's so sweet and really cute.i feel like he's exclty what i need, we always talk but not about anything like that. We also go to the same college so i always see him but sometimes i get nervous so i dont say hi to ...
A. 13 September 2012: your not doing anything wrong, its perfectly normal to be nervous around someone that you really like. You say that you always talk, next time you get into conversation with him ask him if he fancies doing something one time, something fun maybe.
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Anyone know any good fake sun tan lotions?
Q. Well since summertime's over, there will be no more laying out in the sun, and I don't want to damage my skin more by laying in a tanning bed. But I really can't stand my skin being this pale. I've tried jergen's sunless tanning lotion but it just ...
A. 11 October 2011: for quite some time now i have used Johnsons Holiday skin, it builds a gradual tan and has a moisturiser in it as well.... (read in full...)
G/f's ex has invited her for a movie, and I don't trust this guy at all
Q. My girlfriend's old friend / ex boyfriend invited her to the movies with him, alone. Her and I have been dating for 18 months and I've never really felt like this before. I feel, not that she would cheat on me or anything, but the ex will do ...
A. 22 September 2011: to be honest with you there are very few if any guys that would be happy with their girl going to the movies with an ex. And the movies when the lights go out is the perfect place for flirtive suggestive gestures. I would put my foot down here and ... (read in full...)
Why do I always ask myself why a guy is attracted to me?
Q. why when i meet a really hot guy who is attracted to me i always question myself on "why is he talking to me, how have a attracted such a good looking guy!?". It annoys me, because i'm not insecure or unnatractive. But it's me questioning as though ...
A. 18 March 2011: You need to work on building your confidence more. When a really hot guy, who is attracted to you, is talking to you because he see's a girl who is attractive and good looking. Stop questioning whether or not you are good enough because you are.
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After 5 years, my boyfriend says he loves me but isn't in love with me?
Q. Have been going out with my bf for 5 years and while he says he loves me he is not "in love with me!!!" I consider this to be an insult after all this time and praps I should just end it! I think I deserve better! Please advise as I do love him to ...
A. 4 February 2011: One of the girls at my work came in one day and said the same thing, that her partner loves her, but isen't in love with her, and i remember everyone's advice to her was to leave him, and how insulting his comment was.
I know its hard, but i thin... (read in full...)
Should I go with the original life goes on plan?
Q. So I had been seeing this guy since September, so for about four months, we go to the same college and last semester we even had some classes together. We only hung out outside of class once or twice a week because college schedules are hectic, and ...
A. 4 February 2011: I think its a little odd that he sat behind you in club meeting and diden't say anything, you would at the least just aknowledge someone, even if it just a simple hello. Then he ignors you at the pool. Maybe he is on a 14 day cleanse like you are ... (read in full...)
I want to marry her, but she chooses to date the guy who treats her like garbage!
Q. Dear Cupid, I was dating this girl long distance for two years, we fell completely in love. My family lived in the city she lived in and me a different one. We had picked out an engagment ring and planned to get married with her moving to me. At...
A. 4 February 2011: I think that you should try to forget about her and move on. You were as kind and caring to her as you possible could be, and you did all you could, then to repay you she goes back to the guy that treated her like rubbish. I know its hard for you, ... (read in full...)
We've always cheated on our partners with each other, should we end contact?
Q. ive been having sex with my exboyfriend off and on for the last 8 yrs(dated in hs) we always seem to reconnect. we've always cheated on our partners with each other. should we end contact? he has a gf now and a one yr old...but he claims he doesnt ...
A. 3 February 2011: If the pair of you have been getting it on for the past eight years, even behind your unsuspecting partners backs, why did you split up to begin with. Since you have split up its obvious that neither of you have been 100% commited to other partners, ... (read in full...)
My best friend took me in, and helped me escape an abusive relationship. Now I'm having feelings for her. Do I tell her?
Q. I have a friend I've known for a little over 4 months now. She insisted I move in with her, so I could get away from my abusive soon to be ex husband. She has slowly become my best friend as I learn to trust more and more. I trust her pretty much ...
A. 3 February 2011: It was a very nice thing of your friend to take you in like that to help you escape from your abusive relationship, she sounds like a really good friend. However i would refrain from telling her how you feel, i think if you do it could make things ... (read in full...)
I liked him less when he admitted having dated someone my mother's age
Q. This guy that I'm dating has dated a much older woman in the past. I don't usually bring up past relationships for this very reason but it somehow came out and never did I think he would have dated 25 years older than him.(he's 25). I tried ...
A. 2 February 2011: At the end of the day you would be hard pushed to date anyone that does not come with some sort of past, infact unless someone has been living under a rock for the last 10 years i would say its unavoidable. So his last partner was 25 years his ... (read in full...)
He comments that I smell great. Does he want to date me?
Q. There is this guy at my gym who will on occasion tease me about my workouts. He will make comments about the machines I am on and the weight I am lifting. Then one day I am getting a protein shake and he walks up to me and say's god you smell ...
A. 30 January 2011: From a guy's point of view i love a woman who wears Guerlain Samsara, when i smell a woman wearing that it drives me wild.
The aftershave i have had the most compliments out of them all is Million Gold, by Paco Robbanne, i have actually had stra... (read in full...)
She just broke up with her boyfriend, should I go for it?
Q. ok so me and this girl have been friends 4 a year now and i started 2 get feelings 4 her bout 5 months ago so i broke up wit my gf who i had been wit 4 almost 3 years but there was still a promblem she still had a bf and they were just past 3 years. ...
A. 30 January 2011: It does sound like you both have got a connection there, however i would give her time and respect that her relationship has just come to an end. If you make a move now she will be on the rebound, so give her time to get over it. Let her make the ... (read in full...)
Can we still be friends after what he said?
Q. Me and a guy friend were talking online and the conversation some how turned to our past. (We used to be sort of friends with benefits) he's with another girl now so we agreed to stay friends even though i found it very hard. The FWB thing ended ...
A. 30 January 2011: I think that you still having interactions with him is causing you unessessary heartache, probably heartache that you could do without. He has moved on and is in a relationship with someone else, and i feel that you should do the same. I know its ... (read in full...)
I had a miscarriage and am afraid to tell my boyfriend
Q. I was 3 months pregnant and started having really bad tummy pains... My boyfriend, who i live with, said its just something to do with the pregnancy and told me not to worry about it, whilst he was doing his paper round i decided to talk to his mum ...
A. 30 January 2011: I think you have got to tell him soon, its better that you tell him now, than him finding out over the natural course of time. Don't be affraid, just find a good moment and explain what happened, if he is a good decent guy he will be there for you ... (read in full...)
He comments that I smell great. Does he want to date me?
Q. There is this guy at my gym who will on occasion tease me about my workouts. He will make comments about the machines I am on and the weight I am lifting. Then one day I am getting a protein shake and he walks up to me and say's god you smell ...
A. 30 January 2011: It sounds like he is interested to me, he is making all the right noises. The gym is a great social venue to interact with people and who are into the same things you are. Next time he flirts with you, flirt with him back with lingering glances and ... (read in full...)
What do I buy my boyfriend for valentines day
Q. haia guy's! This may not be a serious question but...i've been going out with my bf for about a month know and i have no idea what to get him for valentines day! Please help, any advice would be apriciated! Thankyoou! :D x...
A. 27 January 2011: Im not sure how much you want to spend, but you can't go wrong with a bottle of aftershave, Million Gold is quite popular, as is cool water, or Joop to name just a few. Or something cheaper you could go for maybe boxer shorts or socks with hearts on ... (read in full...)
All my friends are losing their virginity will I be left out
Q. Dear Cupid I'm 16 years old and I'm still a virgin, all of my friends are loosing their virginity and soon I feel like I'm going to be the only one left, I think that I'm ready for sex but I'm scared at the same time and very self conscious about my...
A. 27 January 2011: Just don't be in a rush to lose your virginity, keeping it as long as you can is a good thing. It dosen't matter that your pals are loosing their virginity, thats up to them. Waiting for the right person is the right thing to do, and as you get ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to date other races?
Q. Hey peeps, Is it wrong for me to date other races?? I'm black and my friends always talkin about sticking to our own culture but I find white and chinese boys SERIOUSLY attractive :s. I also want to know if dating other cultures last long ...
A. 25 January 2011: The other aunts are right, you can date who ever you want when you want- go for it, and good luck... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to be obsessed with women's bodies.
Q. Hi I have just returned from a day out with my boyfriend of 18 months followed by yet another row. My boyfriend seems to be obsessed with women's bodies. I am slim and considered pretty and he always compliments me and what I wear. I used to have ...
A. 25 January 2011: When you are out and about, in town, maybe a bar, a resturant its hard not to notice people around you, espessially attractive fit people. Noticing members of the opposite sex while you are out is unavoidable, unless you sent him out in a pair of ... (read in full...)
Is he just flattered or is my marriage really in trouble?
Q. Ive been with my husband for around 5 yrs now and I can tell he's unhappy. Seems depressed alot and then all of a sudden about a week ago he started talking to a girl on a web-site and now he jumps up out of bed and cant wait to email her....this ...
A. 25 January 2011: It sounds like your marriage is in trouble. Ultimately he in the begginning stages of starting a new relationship with someone else, and right under your nose. You have asked him to stop, which of course anyone would have done, and he has blatatly ... (read in full...)
What should I do next?
Q. OK so I'm 28 and I've met this guy who I work with, we've been at a few functions and have always kinda flirted see the thing is he's 39 so am not sure if that's too much of an age gap. He's a lovely guy and he told me that he has been thinking...
A. 17 January 2011: I don't think that the age gap here is to large, its only 11 years, people make relationships work with larger gaps than this.
Im not sure what sort of place you work in, or indeed what the policies are on co-workers dating. The thing is with dati... (read in full...)
If I do all he wants even if I'm not in the mood will this make things any better?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going through a load of issues and i dont know what to do anymore. im nervous around him as i dont totally feel 100% safe anymore which sounds horrid i know. He wrestled my phone off me, has chucked me and my stuff ...
A. 17 January 2011: The basis of a good relationship is built around trust, a relationship with no trust is like building a house without digging the foundations, sooner or later it will collapse. Due to some of his violent tendencies you have also got fear there as ... (read in full...)
How do I stop him from talking about sex so much?
Q. my boyfriend loves me but he want to have sex before marriage but i dont want sex before marriage .i love him too but because of this i am afraid of him .he get excited whenever he talk or see me .he loses his control and has keen desire for ...
A. 17 January 2011: At the end of the day he is a red blooded male with sexual desires, jusst like most males. However, you do not want sex before marriage, and if he loves you he will respect this. Be firm, strong, and tell him how you feel, that there will be no sex, ... (read in full...)
Why do parents disapprove of their children masturbating?
Q. Why do parents dislike that their kids masturbate ? Is it a bad thing ?...
A. 17 January 2011: I guess all parents are different, with different opinions, views etc. Masturbating is a normal and natural thing to do which everyone has done at some point in their lives. I think most parents would treat this as part of the growing up stage, ... (read in full...)
Is a 10 year age gap ok?
Q. I'm 26 next month on the 28th of Febuary, and their is a guy I like, he is 10 years older than me, he's 35. Is that age difference okay - someone who is 10 years older than myself? I know people say that age is just a number, and it all depends ...
A. 16 January 2011: I think you should just go for it, 10 years is no big deal, people have made relationships work with a far bigger gap than this. I agree with what you say most people think, and that is at the end of the day age is only a number, that it is how you ... (read in full...)
I wish my fiance would lose 30 lbs and get his hair back so I'd find him more attractive!
Q. I have a bit of a complicated problem. I'm a 24 year old psychologist in-training (who apparently can't heed my own advice). My fiance is a 26 year-old unemployed high school teacher. I've been with my fiance for 4 years and 3 months (like 4 years, ...
A. 16 January 2011: There is an old saying which is " the grass is always greener on the other side ". Some people often venture to the other side where the grass is greener, but when they get there, and have indeed been there for a while, they then realise that the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend manipulates me so I apologize for even his mistakes!
Q. Hi my bf often ignores and manipulates me in such a way that i need to apologize even for his mistakes. When ever i try to talk to him about this, he says i am boring him and try to change the subject. He is emotionally distant too. Does all...
A. 16 January 2011: No all guys do not behave in this way, certainly not the majority anyway. He is taking you for granted and being rude to you as well which is not acceptable. I think you need to take a stand, give him something to think about, such as losing you if ... (read in full...)
How long do I wait to talk to him as "just friends"
Q. This guy and I just ended our relationship and decided to just be friends. How long do I wait to talk to him again as "friends" I miss him. Even though i'm heartbroken about it I still want to talk to him. Or do I just wait till he writes to me? ...
A. 16 January 2011: You don't say the reasons for breaking up, or whether it was more one sided than the other. By the sounds of it you did not want to break up, as you still say that you miss him, and are feeling heart broken.
I know its hard because you are stil... (read in full...)
How do I tell the new love that I'm still good friends with my ex?
Q. I am 14 years old and a freshman in High School. I'm getting close to this guy who goes to another school and I think he's going to ask me out soon. I like him as well and am excited to get to know him better. My problem is that I'm good friends ...
A. 16 January 2011: All you can do is be open and honest and tell him that you are really good freinds with your ex. You will be doing the right thing by telling him, if anything he should be respect you for being open. If he is a decent guy he will be ok with it, but ... (read in full...)
Why can't we be more dirty and sexual?
Q. I can't tell my boyfriend that I'm horny or that I want him because he acts shocked and says I'm so rude or obcessed with sex. Is that normal? He says he has a low sex drive, but is it normal to not even want to discuss anything sexual, like ...
A. 16 January 2011: Ultimately you are holding back from being yourself, frightened to say anything suggestive incase you upset him, and thats not healthy for any relationship. Its normal in a relationship sometimes to have one person who has got a higher sex drive ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel that everything that goes wrong is my fault?
Q. Why do I feel guilty ? I just feel like everything that goes wrong in this world is because of me. I feel guilty and uneasy, what can I do to get rid of these feelings? They're ruining my mood, my social interactions, my life......
A. 15 January 2011: You have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about, and everything that goes wrong in this world is certainly nothing to do with you. I think you need to start loving yourself more, get out and do some things that make your heart sing. Ultimatly what ... (read in full...)
He's married but says he has feelings for me
Q. i have this guy who has been interested in me for years I like him but he is married with kids, he is having problems and said he would give up eveything for me but I dont feel right as other people will get hurt, I would have a relationship with ...
A. 15 January 2011: The likelhood is he is not going to leave his wife for you, you say he has been interested in you for years, so why has he not taken action during this time. I think in time if you keep this going things will progress between the two of you, so ... (read in full...)
Don't want to hurt my brother but I want to get my sister in law into bed
Q. i need help for years i`ve had a sexual attraction to my sister in law and hurting my brother is the last thing i want to do but this sexual attraction is really strong i really want to get her in bed what should i do?...
A. 15 January 2011: In a few words, steer clear. If you love and respect your Brother don't even think about going with your sister in law, doing so will tear your family apart and the likelhood is that your brother would never speak to you again. This is an ... (read in full...)
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