Don't want to hurt my brother but I want to get my sister in law into bed
Q. i need help for years i`ve had a sexual attraction to my sister in law and hurting my brother is the last thing i want to do but this sexual attraction is really strong i really want to get her in bed what should i do?...
A. 15 January 2011: In a few words, steer clear. If you love and respect your Brother don't even think about going with your sister in law, doing so will tear your family apart and the likelhood is that your brother would never speak to you again. This is an ... (read in full...)
Am I a bit weird for not particularly liking kids?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but i would be interested to hear what people think. Ever since i was about 13 (i'm now 23) i realised i wasn't the maternal type. People would show off their kids and these women would go all ga ga over them and...
A. 13 January 2011: No i don't think you are weird for not liking kids, at the end of the day everyone is different, so you are not the maternal type, its no big deal. There is a girl at our work with no maternal feelings, and when some of the other girls who have been ... (read in full...)
Does he fancy me?
Q. Hey, I hope that you can help me out with this :) I'm just wondering if this guy fancies me or not :L I don't usually talk to him, and we only really started talking just before Christmas :P but in that time he has added me on fb and msn and I wa...
A. 13 January 2011: He could very well fancy you, sure sounds like he does. But as lol.jk says he could just be trying to prove that he can dance.
why don't you let him know you like him, maybe use some light flirting techniques, like direct eye contact and see if h... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 2 weeks and now I feel we're growing apart!
Q. OK so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 weeks now and i feel we are moving apart and also when i asks him how doo i look he says fine ? i always compliment him but he never does to me he gives me hugs and kissed me on the check for a dare ...
A. 13 January 2011: I always think that the best parts of relationships are normally the first couple of months, the honeymoon period as we call it, where everything is new, fun, exciting, happy and joyous. I think its way way to early on for you to be asking questions ... (read in full...)
Should I Start My Family?? Or Wait??
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 18 (bday in May). My boyfriend of a year and a half is 24. Iam a dental assistant and he is a personal banker at Wells Fargo. Since my boyfriend is older he already wants a child of his own and start his family. I know I want kid...
A. 13 January 2011: Just don't rush into it, think about all the options, the pro's and cons. If you don't feel you are ready yet then wait, don't have a baby just because your boyfriend is ready, have one when you are both ready. You are still both young, sit back and ... (read in full...)
I have a long term boyfriend but I'm attracted to someone else
Q. I have a long term bf whom I love a lot. But I am attracted to a guy who I know from the gym. It is not something I'd act on, but what does this mean? ...
A. 12 January 2011: If you sincerely love you boyfriend then don't act on this, just put it down to a crush. Crushes tend to be fairly short lived, so just let it die down of its own accord. Of course we all see members of the opposite sex outside of relationships, at ... (read in full...)
Should I let this threesome happen?
Q. yea is it okay if my gf and i have a threesome i am not keen on the idea because its going to be a stranger plus its another guy should i let this happen?she told me it was going to be better i dont know what to do!...
A. 12 January 2011: Alot of couples do this, and are quite happy to do it, but its not everyones cup of tea. If you are unsure then persuing this could have a devastating impact on your relationship, and its sounds like you are very unsure. Is she not happy in bedroom ... (read in full...)
Is going out with other guys (one on one when in a relationship) ok?
Q. Me and my Gf have been going out for about a year, she's really nice and i'm sure i wanna be with her forever... But there are just some guys that still talk to her, and ask her out one on one. should i feel uncomfortable with that? Because i get ...
A. 12 January 2011: I can se where you are coming from here, most guy's would be uncomfortable with their girl being asked on a one to one with other guy's. Are you actually there when these guy's ask her out, or does she tell you this after the event?. When you are ... (read in full...)
How do I let go of things from my past relationship?
Q. Ok so I have a bit of a problem when it comes to letting things go, I suppose. Six months ago, my [now ex]boyfriend broke up with me, and about a month ago I felt like I had finally gotten over him. But I can't help but have thoughts that bug me now ...
A. 12 January 2011: Just put all this down to experience, a learning curve if you like. I know it is hard at the moment because your mind keeps retracting back to past scenarios. I can tell you that things will get easier for you, time is the healer of all things. Try ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for a police officer investigating my case, could he feel the same?
Q. I currently have a partner who i have been with for 8 year's, he has never been the perfect partner as he's been in trouble load's, Cheated On Me ect but i have alway's forgiven him. Recently I had to report a crime . . . . My mobile Phone was ...
A. 11 January 2011: From what you have said it sound like he does like you, he is certainly making all the right noises anyway. You are currently in a relationship where you are clearly not happy, so finish with him and become single, then persue this police officer. ... (read in full...)
New to dating, what should I do about my cheating boyfriend?
Q. I woke up the other morning to my boyfriend of 7 months alarm on his phone which is normal. I reached over to turn it off. I don't know how commom it is but sometimes when things are kindda fishy I get really bothered. And it just so happened that I ...
A. 11 January 2011: From what he wrote in that text to this other girl it is blatantly obvious that his intentions were along the lines of cheating, and if he could have he would have had you both on the go. You found the text, and now he is doing all he can to ... (read in full...)
Am I simply wasting my time with him?
Q. hi ok ive been having this online relationship with a guy 4 a while now hes nice and sweet and we talk about alot of things. Ok now here is the strange part he is 24 and still a virgin he has never had a relationship before he says that he is ...
A. 10 January 2011: The problem with dating someone online like you are doing is you never truly know who you are talking to, and he could be spinning you all sorts of lines. There are alot of people out there who use the internet, and various sites purely to meet ... (read in full...)
What is the point of looking at porn?
Q. My boyfriend once told me i was sad and pathetic for looking at porn on my mobile phone. I have now since found out he does the same, when i reminded him how sad and pathetic this was he told me he doesnt masturbate over it. What is the point ...
A. 10 January 2011: Thats the point, most people who view porn will nearly always deny the fact that they do when asked, like your boyfriend did. The porn industry is absolutely massive, and is available to almost everyone, espessially with the invention of the ... (read in full...)
I need to stop thinking about him and move on
Q. this sounds so silly but i cant stop thinking about a guy I had a one nite stand with on new years eve. I met him out in my town however he didnt live here. He was drop-dead gorgeous and we went back to mine and it was amazing. I have just come out ...
A. 10 January 2011: I think that you should just go for it and let the chips fall where they may. Don't worry about looking desperate, you really want to see him again, so make that call. If he is not interested then at least you can move on knowing that you tried. On ... (read in full...)
Why are men players?
Q. Why are men Players??? Why do they have a daytime girl and a nite time girl?? ...
A. 10 January 2011: I think its wrong to tar everyone with the same brush, of course there are some players out there, cheats, two timers, thats just life. There are as many nice guys out there as there are player's, its just a matter of finding them. If you keep ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with... my step dad!
Q. hi im 18 years old and im in love with my stepdad and want to be with him but hes married to my mum and i cant resist telling him every day that i love him and i dont know what to do. Help!...
A. 9 January 2011: The first words that spring to mind here is absolutely don't go there. The consequences of you doing so would be fatal and break up your family. I think you are just infatuated, and infatuations tend to die out. I would just let this burn out of its ... (read in full...)
How to get over these feelings of jealousy towards my ex?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend of 18 months last tuesday. Overall i have taken it fairly well and not been very upset about the whole thing. However, im having some trouble with dealing with the fact she's already got another guy put love hearts ...
A. 9 January 2011: I always say that time is the healer of all things, and this will get easier for you, most certainly. You only broke up with her last Tuesday, and she is with someone already, sounds like a re-bound to me, and in my experience re-bounds don't tend ... (read in full...)
Help I've fallen for an 45 year old man!!!
Q. I go secondary school and there's this teacher I like. He doent really teach anything he's a sub, but the thing is I think I've fallen in love with him. This is a big problem on its own but the other thing is he's a bit old and when i say old i mean ...
A. 9 January 2011: This is just an infatuation you are having, and infatuations tend to be quite short lived, you are certainly not in love with him. Don't ever think about persuing this, just put it down to a crush and leave it at that. In time what you are feeling ... (read in full...)
Went on a date yesterday but can't get my ex out of my head!
Q. i went on a date yesterday with a lad i like, he was being really sweet and comforting with me, like putting his arm around me, hugging me, stuff like that but i still feel something for my ex and its annoyng as i want to forget about him, i just ...
A. 9 January 2011: We invarible have past loves or people we have shared a close bond with in the back of our minds. I can say that as time goes by the feelings that you are encountering will lessen and get easier, time is a great healer. Sometimes it can help to get ... (read in full...)
Is he bored of our relationship?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 8 months, but recently I feel like he can't really be bothered to see me any more. I always feel second best, and it's always me starting the conversation or making plans. Whenever he (rarely) ...
A. 9 January 2011: I agree with Aunt Honesty, you both need to find a good time and talk about this, stress how neglected you feel, how your putting 100% into this relationship but feel he is not putting alot in. I don't think he is cheating, and he is probably not ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to hold a grudge for that long?
Q. Alright, this girl i knew a 3 years ago is trying to get in contact with me. She use to be my bestfriend till one day i found out she had sex with my boyfriend at the time when the 3 of us were hanging out at another friends house. Even though i ...
A. 9 January 2011: Everyone is different and copes with situations like this in different ways. What she did was out of order, and she betrayed your trust in a big way. Alot of water goes under the bridge during three years and people can change. You know in your ... (read in full...)
What is this respect thing about?
Q. I have been dating a guy for a while now. We sat down to have a talk because things are not going so hot. I have always been supportive and warm towards him. During the conversation he said that I would have to earn his respect and he did not trust ...
A. 9 January 2011: You should not have to earn his respect, i think he is being shallow and selfish by saying this. You have not done anything to betray his trust, so there for he has got no reason not to trust you. Im not suprised you found this insulting and felt ... (read in full...)
That first kiss...
Q. Me and my boyfriend want to kiss but are both shy and he thinks he's gonna mess up..... how do I convince him otherwise? ...
A. 6 January 2011: Everyone is nervous when the first kiss is on the cards, thats natural. There is no manual with a list of instructions on how to give the perfect first kiss. Like everything in life, with practise and repetition it can only get better. Be relaxed, ... (read in full...)
He wants to do it all the time... I don't!
Q. I do not know what to do... my boyfiend wants sex all the time but I do not and I do not want to do it all the time. Please can people give me some help?...
A. 6 January 2011: Its just sometimes happens like that when one partner wants sex more than the other one. All you can do really is find a good moment, when you are both relaxed and just stress to him how you are feeling, If he is a really nice guy he will respect ... (read in full...)
Our "casual" relationship!
Q. So, I fancied the hell outta one of my collegues , eventually we made out, and texted for days, we have since been sleeping together but are not in a 'relationship' as he said hes 'not a relationship person'. I agreed to this and when asked he says ...
A. 6 January 2011: You have got to be very careful when seeing or dating people that you work with, because its all rosy and sweet when things are going good, but if/when things diden't go well then it can then become very arkward when you still have to see them every ... (read in full...)
He's a nice guy, but there's no chemistry. Am I allowed to be picky at my age?
Q. I am 50 years old and I met a very nice man online dating. We went on two dates and he's done everything right. He is nice, has a good career and great kids. But there is no spark. It's so frustrating. He's asked me to go on a day trip this ...
A. 3 January 2011: i think that just because you are 50 dosen't mean that you have to settle for just anyone, and being picky is just part of the dating game, no matter how old you are. Ok so you have been on two dates so far, why don't you go on a few more with him, ... (read in full...)
How to comfort a friend when you don't have the words?
Q. A good friend of mine is going through a hard time and I want to comfort him and make him feel better, however when ever someone tells me their problem I never know what to say to them. I sort of blank out, and stay silent because I have no idea ...
A. 3 January 2011: just being there for him for comfort and support in his time of need speaks volumes. Your listening to him, being his support, and a shoulder to cry on by far supersedes words, and im sure when he feels better he will never forget what a good friend ... (read in full...)
Why am I alone?
Q. I am 19 years old i have a 1 year old daughter and have been single for a while ..im pretty but i feel like guys dont want me anymore :( so it makes me think of my ex he was abusive and im not getting back with him bt crosses through my mind is it ...
A. 3 January 2011: i know it does not seem like it now, but i can assure you that things will get better, time is the healer of all things. To say that the guy's don't want you anymore is not true, i bet they do. Pick yourself up, dust yourself down and get out there, ... (read in full...)
The ugly duckling
Q. this is kind of stuiped but my bestfriend is ugly and kids call her the ugly duckling but really i think she pretty but other kids dont see it. how do i make her more pretty like i just want them to see what see. And people ask me why is it that im ...
A. 3 January 2011: We all see different things in people, for instance some guy that you think is totally hot, someome else might say he is ugly, beauty is in eye of the beholder. Don't stop being friends with this girl because of what other's think, i reckon they are ... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake by forgiving my boyfriend?
Q. Dear Cupid I found out few days back that my bf tried to cheat on me, i confronted him and he said he was sorry but assured nothing really happened, (the girl backed off). He promised that he would never do this again and i love him so much, he...
A. 2 January 2011: The question here is, if this other girl had not have backed off would he have still gone through with it, and im betting he sure would have. When he says he will never do this again, do you in your heart of heart believe that this is true?. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Need help! What does this mean?
Q. hey guys i need to know what this means: " seriously though I think her looks saved her or else I think ud only get two camels at the market for her" what is this person trying to say????...
A. 2 January 2011: Not sure what she is trying to say to be honest, she was obviously saying with the beginning part that you are attractive, but the camel part lost me, maybe she just had the hump lol. Seriously don't hang on to what people say, she quite clearly has ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he respond? Is he flirting?
Q. this man that i see everyday flirts with me and touches me in friendly gesture. he said we needed to talk soon about me liking him. he watches me and sometimes walk back and fourth to his office when he knows im in the hallway and he make sure he ...
A. 2 January 2011: I think that he enjoys abit of harmless flirting, bit of banta. I think that by you texting him saying he was sexy and gorgeous, then texting him agian after that you have gone over the boundries of simple flirting, and its made him think.
T... (read in full...)
Was finding the pictures fate?
Q. Hi, I'm 14 and I went out with a boy for a couple of months early last year, we broke up and he got with sum1 else, they aren't together now. But I was clearing my bedroom out and found loads of pics of us together and its made me realize I still ...
A. 2 January 2011: i think that finding these pictures has just stirred up some old emotions and feelings, feelings of good times. Had you not founds these pics would you have been thinking about him.
The next person that he got together with after you he is not toge... (read in full...)
What exactly is he playing at?
Q. He told me that he would not be able to marry me but could always be my boyfriend. When I said that he was not the right man for me, he then got worried and didn't want me to leave. But I still left and he said he was thinking about what I said as ...
A. 2 January 2011: sounds like you called his bluff there, he was trying to be bold and lay down the law with you by saying he diden't want to marry you, but could always be your boyfriend. By saying what you did to him you have given him something to think about, it ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friends little sister
Q. Okay so here's the deal.. I'm a 16 year old guy who happened to fall for a 13 year old girl. 1st Question: Is this very wrong and pediphiliac behaviour? I can honestly say that I'm not your quintessential teenage guy: I don't crave sex in relat...
A. 2 January 2011: when these sort of questions normally arise, i invarible going along the lines of age is only a number, that its how you both feel about each other is what counts. However thats when i am talking about people over the age of consent. In actual fact ... (read in full...)
Why do I have the worst luck with women?
Q. Why do I have the worst luck when it comes to women? It never fails. All of the women I meet and take an interest in turn out to already have boyfriends. I meet these women in a variety of settings so location really isn't an issue. Whether I ...
A. 2 January 2011: there is no sadistic higher power that takes joy in torturing you with loneliness, ultimately we are the creators of our own reality. I think that you are putting all the energies you have into the lack of, in not having a relationship, into being ... (read in full...)
He treats me so well but he's seeing someone else
Q. I have dated a man for the past five years. I caught him having an affair after the first year. I thought we worked through this and had an even stronger relationship. Then I found out he never stopped seeing the other woman. He says he loves me ...
A. 2 January 2011: ok so you caught him having an affair the first time around, you forgave him, which was good on your part as alot of woman would not have and just walked away. So he has betrayed your trust once again by never stopping seeing her. Personally i don't ... (read in full...)
Does his body language imply friendship or something more?
Q. Hey, I really like a guy and wanted to ask your opinion on body language. When I was upset he embraced me really tight and keep hugging me really close and was playing with my hair and stroking it. So what does he body language imply is it fri...
A. 2 January 2011: To be honest it could be either, i do think that what he did are just typical actions that we take when someone is upset. If one of my close female friends was really upset i would do exactly the same thing. Maybe he does fancy you,try to look for ... (read in full...)
I don't get many girlfriends because I'm ginger!
Q. HI i am a ginger 15 teen year old. I dont get many girlfriends because im ginger!!!!! unfortunately.i geta lot of slaging at school but im used to it now! my last girlfriend only went out with me because i was class at sport. all my friends tell me ...
A. 1 January 2011: I don't think it is the fact that you are ginger that you don't get many girlfriends, but more the lack of confidence. The opposite sex will be more attracted to someone who believes in themselves and are confident. You need to work more on building ... (read in full...)
What is a soul mate?
Q. Is there such as a soulamate?...
A. 1 January 2011: A soulmate is someone that you find in life that you want to grow old with, and spend the rest of your life together.Someone who you love with all your heart, and would do anything for. A soulmate is the person you have been searching for your hole ... (read in full...)
What does it mean if a man says a woman is a bit ripe?
Q. What does it mean if a man says you are a bit ripe?I overheard this man I just met, on the phone talking about me and he told the person my age and then said "she a bit ripe,still"I think he mustve meant shes a bit old,but I only just turned 23!and ...
A. 1 January 2011: To be honest of have never reffered to a member of the opposite sex as being abit ripe, and have not heard it before either. I don't think it would be aimed at your age as you are only 23, but feel it may be more torward someone being abit of ... (read in full...)
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