Is this normal that my persistent 45 year old Ex is chasing after me after a month of silence?
Q. Dear all. Your thoughts please! In brief, My bf and i have had a rather hard work relationship. We were together for 16 months. Things got worse,and he kept ignoring me for up to 3 wks at a time. In the end he said it was ok. I was like,ok. Th...
A. 30 October 2012: I think that you are making the right decision, as long as seeing him after work is not too much for you and you give into him. Be strong and stand by your decision of not seeing him again, because its the right one.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Husband is away. I'm feeling horny. Should I give in and be unfaithful while my husband is away?
Q. Am a girl of 26 married with two kids. My husband traveled out of the country a year and 5 months now I don't know when he will be coming back. The problem is that am feeling lonely and horny, many guys do comes around to have sex with me, wh...
A. 30 October 2012: My Advice would be to refrain from cheating, being unfaithful is never a good idea in any way shape or form. I understand that you are sexualy frustrated, but a moment of unfaithfulness no matter how good it was could mark the end of the marriage if ... (read in full...)
Is this normal that my persistent 45 year old Ex is chasing after me after a month of silence?
Q. Dear all. Your thoughts please! In brief, My bf and i have had a rather hard work relationship. We were together for 16 months. Things got worse,and he kept ignoring me for up to 3 wks at a time. In the end he said it was ok. I was like,ok. Th...
A. 30 October 2012: Personally i would be inclined to move on and find someone else. He played games with you, ignored you for a month, hung up on you. Probally he was seeing someone else and he got ditched, now he is trying to claw you back. Whats to say if you ... (read in full...)
How can I encourage a girl to love me again? Because she hates me now
Q. there was a girl she loved me but i broke her heart. She told me her secrets and i told only my best friend. He told her. i love her so much and she hates me now i tried to talk to her but she dont want to talk to me now i said sorry to her and...
A. 28 October 2012: I think there is nothing you can do here apart from move on. She loved you, and trusted you with her secrets and you betrayed her by telling someone else. Once the trust has gone in a relationship its very hard to get it back, what she say's is ... (read in full...)
Just want to be friends. Should I be afraid to text him? Because I don't want to seem desperate.
Q. So about two months ago, my crush's girlfriend broke up with him. Until then I didn't really know him, but we're in the same major and he likes to hug people so he'd always give me a hug. After a while I got his number and we talked and flirt...
A. 28 October 2012: I think it was sensible and mature of him to say in the beginning that he had just got out of a long relationship and wasen't ready for anything serious. I think you have got to give him some breathing space, some time for him to get himself back ... (read in full...)
She created a fake profile to talk with him after telling me she'd deleted him...
Q. true issues. please help she made a fake profile on Facebook to talk to a guy behind my back, what should i do? Long story short, we had some trust issues because of this guy, she said she would block and delete him, she did that, then recently...
A. 28 October 2012: No her behaviour is not normal and you have every right to be angry and upset by this. She has totally gone behind your back creating a fake profile to talk to this guy, so she is talking to him over the computer, are things going to materialise ... (read in full...)
How does he always seem to turn up?
Q. theres this boy who is always just turning up when I arrive in the cafeteria and I dont even have a really regular set routine. So how is it when I choose to go early there he is? When I choose to sit outside he just happens to walk up the path ...
A. 26 October 2012: Think its just coincidence to be honest, you say that he is not creepy, that he is really nice. So just go with it, be friends with him and talk to him whenever you see him there.... (read in full...)
He's 64 and I'm not interested. How do I discourage him without ruining the car share system that benefits us all?
Q. I am part of a car share group where one drives and the other three are passengers. We rotate who drives. It works OK. In fact it's very convenient. But two days out of every fortnight there are either one or two of the others not present. Thes occ...
A. 26 October 2012: Without ruining the car share system that benefits all of you, i think the only thing you can do is keep doing as your doing and just keep your eyes on the road and try not to pay any attention to him atal, i know easier said than done when he is ... (read in full...)
I'm a guy who wants a relationship and just treat her right. So how do I make this happen?
Q. hi everyone, i've been speaking to thisgirl on facebook/tumblr etc. for a few months now and we met up once with her friends. then we organised to meet but the day before she stopped talking to me and we didn't end up going out. then she starte...
A. 26 October 2012: Sounds like she is going through a bit of a rough patch at the moment, she has obviously been hurt or let down in a previous relationship and is finding hard to put her trust back into someone.
I think that the worse thing that you can do is bomb... (read in full...)
It's beyond me. What kind of help does my wife need about her fetish? She seems to want to get sick. I'm at a loss. Does she need help?
Q. I'm 31, my wife's 28, and recently she's developed a new fetish. She's become hooked on getting a stomach-ache having read webforums and sites about 'stomachache fetishes', and eats a lot of rich food in order to get it. She keeps going on a...
A. 25 October 2012: I have heard of alot of odd and strange fetishes in my time, but i have got to say that i have never heard of anyone wanting to get a stomache ache for a fetish. I would be concerned that doing things to get a stomache on purpose could be harmful to ... (read in full...)
Would a guy choose a physical attraction over an emotional attachment?
Q. I am interested in hearing male and female opinions on my question. If a guy liked two girls, which one would win out in the end, the one he has a physical connection to or the one he has an emotional connection to? Both women are attractive and h...
A. 24 October 2012: in my opinion i would go with the girl i have got an emotional attachment too every time. The physical attachment is all well and good but that attraction does not last forever, where as the emotional attachment is more long term.... (read in full...)
Help! I told her how I felt about her too soon... now she won't talk to me.
Q. I told a girl I really liked too early about my feelings and now she is ignoring me. Before I asked her, I was pretty sure that she liked me too, but when I told her that I loved her she said she didn't know whether she liked me. I understand why ...
A. 24 October 2012: i think that you took her by suprise by the i love you thing and you have scared her off a little. I think that you should leave it for a while, maybe a couple of weeks and let the dust settle. If you bombard her with texts and calls now she most ... (read in full...)
What are these sexual urges?
Q. Hi friends, I always have sexual urged every time I am alone, so to this extent, I lost my virginity to a prostitute and since then I haven't had sex again, but I only masturbate myself. What could have been the problem?? I would not mind girls ...
A. 24 October 2012: getting sexual urges when you are alone and masturbating is perfectly normal, probally would not be normal if you diden't.... (read in full...)
We cant have a relationship but I cant stop thinking about kissing him! What should I do?
Q. Hi there, i am really good friends with a guy that i realise i am starting to feel things for. I feel jealous at the thought of him dating other people, i can't take my eyes off him and i can't help but be extremely attracted to him. I've tr...
A. 24 October 2012: If you can't have a relationship with him, either now or in the future then i think that doing things like kissing is just going to torment you further for you and him. I think from what you have said the best option here would be to go your ... (read in full...)
How can I put him off texting me all the time without sounding nasty?
Q. Hi there, I had a best friend and we were really close. But then after two years I decided to end the friendship because things had become very toxic. I could not trust him, he was nasty to me, he was always putting me down, etc. Anyway, a few mo...
A. 24 October 2012: I really do think that the only thing that you can do in this situation is to be brutally honest with him. Tell him how it is, that you don't want him to contact you anymore, please stop all the texts. I know you say that you are affraid of his ... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt him. I want to keep him as a friend. So how do I let him down nicely?
Q. There's a really sweet guy in my algebra class and he's asked me out. I like him, but don't. He's a really good guy and is more friend than anything else. I told him I don't want to ruin our friendship but he wants to try. I'm confused and...
A. 19 October 2012: I think the only way you can be here is totally honest with him about how you feel. don't lead him on, letting him think there is a chance at a later date. Sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind, be honest with him now. He maybe upset, but further ... (read in full...)
He's a good guy but soooo boring!
Q. I ve met this really nice guy, who I date now for 6 months. He is everything any woman can wish for: handsome, has a good job, good natured, we managed not to have a single fight, gentleman. But, I can't believe I m actually saying it, he i...
A. 18 October 2012: He does sound like a really nice genuine guy, but maybe at this stage in your life he is not what you are looking for. the negatives far supersede the positives here and thats not good for any relationship. Maybe you should consider letting him go ... (read in full...)
Seems she likes me. I like her too, but I don't want a Gf, not yet. Plus I suck at talking to girls. Any tips on what to do please?
Q. Okay, so the girl I like has heard that I like her from someone else, though I have pretty much confirmed it since, and everyone is telling me to ask her out, however, though I do like her, I do not want a girlfriend - yet. She doesn't talk to ...
A. 18 October 2012: I think its very mature of you to say your not ready for a girlfriend yet. There is absolutely nothing wrong with just being friends with her as long as you don't lead her on and make her think there is a chance of a relationship. Keep her as a ... (read in full...)
Based on her response after our first date does it look like she's uninterested?
Q. I recently went out with a girl for the first time. I had a great time on the date and thought she did as well. I waited a couple days to contact her after the date to let her know I had a great time and that she was good company to be with. ...
A. 17 October 2012: i think she is interested, it was only the first date, she said it was a nice evening, and thank you. After the first date maybe you don't want to come across to keen so something subtle such as what she wrote is fine. I think if she was not ... (read in full...)
All my friends are now in relationships. What's the answer for me? I'm consumed with jealously and weekends are the worst for me now.
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. Please can I have some advice as do what I should and how I can meet someone and stop feeling like this. Basically keep it short. I'm 32, female and single and I can't seem to meet anyone. I'm attractive, I have an ok...
A. 14 October 2012: i do sympathise with you, it can't be easy for you, all your friends having tied the knot or in serious relationships. I can't believe that you say you don't talk to them and they all go out without you, that must be really upsetting for you. Have ... (read in full...)
A guy randomly called me beautiful! Does he like me?
Q. I went to the store today and a guy who works at the store just randomly came up to me and told me I am so beautiful. We chatted a little and then I left. I was surprised because guys barely hit on me and I have never had a boyfriend, been asked ou...
A. 13 October 2012: i would say that he likes you, although i do think its somewhat strange for someone who works at the store to approach a random girl and tell her she's beautiful, i admire his confidence, maybe its plenty of practice.... (read in full...)
Why has this guy cooled off? He said he loved me and still wants to see me.
Q. I'm at a loss. I've been seeing this guy since end of July. He said he loved me after 5 weeks. I was surprised but said it back. For the last month. He hasn't seen me much. Whereas before it was once a week, or once every 4 days. He is busy wit...
A. 12 October 2012: You have only been seeing him for a couple of months, i do feel that declaring love after five weeks is quite soon. I say this because how well do you really know someone after just five weeks seeing them only once a week.
So he is busy with work... (read in full...)
It upsets me when my Bf will not reply to my texts. Why does this wind me up?
Q. How can I feel better when my boyfriend doesn't reply to my text messages? I know, I know, there's stuff that's way more important. Last night we had a long text conversation (which was lovely), then a couple of hours later I sent him a messa...
A. 12 October 2012: your right not all text messages require a reply, and yes your right he probably read it smiled and got on with his night.
I think one of the worst things you can do is keep phone watching, picking up your phone every 10 seconds to see if a repl... (read in full...)
Does this girl fancy me now that she's single?
Q. I have been friends with this girls for nearly 10 years and she's starting to act differently. She recently broke up with her boyfriend after he cheated on her. Ever since that happened she seems to be getting closer to me. She is always asking me ...
A. 11 October 2012: She could very well fancy you, but i would keep it as a friends thing for a while. Sounds like she has not long been split up from her boyfriend, and the last thing you want is to be her rebound. Hang out, be a friend to her, have fun and see what ... (read in full...)
I really like this girl but hardly ever see her. Should I continue when I feel this disappointed?
Q. I have started seeing this girl and its been going on for about a month. When we're together its really nice but thats the problem. She never wants to see me. shes always too busy going to parties which i never get invited to. We arranged to meet...
A. 11 October 2012: The relationship that you are in is quite new, its only been a month. Sounds like she has got added pressure form her mates which is why she cancelled Saturday. Maybe she feels like she's stuck between a rock and a hard place, she's in demand with ... (read in full...)
Why can't I hold down a relationship?
Q. Why can't I hold down a relationship? I'm 22 and I've never had a relationship that has lasted more than 2 months. I'm not seriously unhappy being single but I'm starting to worry that now all my friends have had at least one serious relation...
A. 11 October 2012: There is nothing wrong with you atal, you just simply have not found the right guy thats all. So you have tried relationships, they have not worked out, so has half the population too. Don't make it a desperate rush to meet someone, i assure you ... (read in full...)
Fallen for the wrong type of woman
Q. I am old. Almost 35 and separated 6 months ago with a kid, in what was a loveless relation since years and maybe never. Anyway it did not work because I chosed for me a wrong kind of partner. A woman which was very self centered and not so much fam...
A. 11 October 2012: First of all 35 is not old, not in my book anyway. If she is not the type of woman that you want then why are you with her. You say that you have fallen in love with her very hard, like never before, then you say she's not the type of woman you ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing in finishing this relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid Here it goes, me of my bf (soon to be ex) were on and off for past 2 years. He never calls and when I do he always says he is bored to talk to me, picks up a fight and wont call or return my calls for a week. Sometimes even without ...
A. 10 October 2012: you did the right thing. He is nothing but a coward and you are better of without him. There are so many more better guys out there than this, don't let this jerk put you off. Good ridance i say!!!
Good luck... (read in full...)
He's chatting to other girls online behind my back, is this cheating?
Q. i dont know how to word this effectively, my boyfriend and i have been together over a year and i thought we were happy, i know he has cheated in the past and im no saint myself but i thought that was all in the past, hand on my heart i can say ive ...
A. 10 October 2012: Well personally in a relationship i would not be happy with my partner going on to chat sites and chatting with other guys, can't imagine many people would be happy to be honest. I think the question is if he is happy with you and things are going ... (read in full...)
Should I date this guy with no job and who didn't go to college? I like him!
Q. Hey guys,I've been friends with this dude since early this year.(March to be precise).Well, we exchanged numbers and really hit it off.Lately we've been spending lots of time together and i really like him and he feels the same way too.Thing is he ...
A. 10 October 2012: Is he actively looking for work, or does he just sit at home during the day not doing an awful lot. If its the first then at least he is getting off his behind and trying his best to better himself and find work. If he is not trying atal then i can ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to send him one last text asking what happenend?
Q. I started dating a guy about a month ago. It seemed like he was very into me. He told me he was excited to have me in his life. He would text me good morning every day and send me texts throughout the day and at night he would text me good night. ...
A. 9 October 2012: its stange that he has just gone cold like that, there could be many reasons why. I would send him one last text, or even call. If you get no response i would not persue it any further. As Caring Guy says if you send one you will be tempted to send ... (read in full...)
Is he embarassed when he sees me because he knows that I really really like him?
Q. the guy I like is my neighbour in the student hostel i am not sure if he knows for sure I like him (I liked his Facebook pic but he did the same, I visited in his room once him but he visited me often, I wrote him on Facebook he didn't) but this ...
A. 3 October 2012: from what you have said its hard to say if he knows that you like him. As for him dating another girl, thats something that you are going to have to accetain by talking to him. I think you should break the ice with him, maybe ask him if he fancies ... (read in full...)
He's my ex and now he's married. So is he just looking for a booty call with me? Based on his actions?
Q. My ex dumped me a few years back. We were together a long time. It got really bad at the end. He ended up getting a restraining order against me because i would follow him, (not proud of that). Anyway, we bumped into each other last year. It was n...
A. 3 October 2012: i think that you should leave him alone, you have had alot of heartache in the past with him, and i feel if you start contact with him again its only going to lead to more heartache further down the line.
Why does his wife wheck his phone? in a trus... (read in full...)
When he walked by me and smiled I was in shock and didn't do anything. Do I ruin my chances?
Q. A guy I like who i didnt think even knew i existed, walked past me and smiled really nicely i was so shocked i didnt really do anything except gawk...now he won't even look at me and when i try to smile at him now he looks away as if on purpose :( ...
A. 3 October 2012: i think that you should just take the bull by the horns and go over and talk to him. Just be friendly and nice and this will keep a window open for you to approach him again, on which occasion maybe you could ask him to do something.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Is his eye contact with other women a red flag?
Q. me and my friend were talking about how her new boyfriebd would be some where with her and she would catch him exchanging eye contact with women. she told me thats a red flag. so recently I have watched my long term boyfriends eyes (been to...
A. 3 October 2012: I don't think that this is anything to worry about to be honest. Eye contact is normal, and i fail to see how this is a red flag, and it certainly does not mean that someone is going to cheat. I sometimes exchange eye contact with people male & ... (read in full...)
Is a 6-7 year age gap really that big of a deal in dating?
Q. I've recently started dating this girl. She's really nice, I get along with her really well. But there's a slight age difference. I'm 22 (23 soon), she's recently turned 30. I've only told a few of my friends about her (we've only been on a ...
A. 3 October 2012: At the end of the day age is nothing but a number, as long as it falls within the laws of consent, which in this case it does. I think the feelings a couple share for one another far supersedes the amount of years between them. If you like her, and ... (read in full...)
Is he using me? We never date, just have sex in the woods!
Q. Iv been seeing this guy for 2 months now and we meet up once a week, he seems nice but he never takes me out on a proper date. We only meet up for sex or heavy petting. He doesn't book a room up, we do it in the woods, Im feeling a bit used. He does ...
A. 3 October 2012: It does sound like he is using you for sex, otherwise i think he would book a table at a nice resturant, take you to the movies, or a romantic stroll along the seafront. Sex in the woods everytime you see him is hardly the actions of someone with a ... (read in full...)
In am in love with this girl. How can I win her heart? She has cheated on me so many times
Q. Hi My Name is E,so there is this girl. She's Beautiful and we met right after the day of my birthday and we got together. We was in an on and off relationship. So anyways we got back together and we stayed together but then we broke up. i wanted to...
A. 2 October 2012: I know its hard but you really need to forget this girl and move on. She is just causing you a whole load of heartache and you could do so much better than this. I know it does not seem like it right now, but i can assure you that things will get ... (read in full...)
I texted him how I felt, and he never responded.
Q. A guy that I like and went on a date with texts me good morning and have a nice day often in the morning. And he always seems to do it right as I open my eyes and wake up. Well when he texted me to have a good day this morning, I just told him how I ...
A. 1 October 2012: I don't think that what you said was over the top atal. You just simply said he makes you smile, its not like you said oh and by the way i think im in love with you. Stop worrying, he has probably been busy or something, im sure he will respond and ... (read in full...)
Why is my married ex calling me on the phone?
Q. My ex, who is now married, is flirting with me on the phone. I'm a little baffled because he dumped me after many years of living together and then married very quickly. My question is: is he trying to get me back or does he just realize he's made a ...
A. 1 October 2012: I don't think you should entertain this guy to be honest. I feel that if you do things will progress into an affair and you will end up as his bit on the side, mistress seeing you whenever he can then slip back to the marital bed when he is done. I ... (read in full...)
Is a 13 year gap for dating really such a big deal.
Q. I've recently started casually dating a guy who is 13 years older than me, I'm 24. We're having lots of fun, i enjoy his company and its not serious. I get annoyed when we go out because people stare and comment, with one girl actually saying it ...
A. 1 October 2012: At the end of the day age is nothing but a number, there is nothing wrong with age gaps atal, provided of course it all falls within the laws of consent. If you are happy, he is happy, you both get along well and enjoy each others company then what ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this? He only comes around when he wants sex!
Q. I am a heavy set woman that is very attractive and has had no problems finding ppl. But this one guy that I have been with only calls or comes around when he wants sex. How can I know if hes ashamed of me? Ive asked him over and over is he ashamed ...
A. 1 October 2012: Like the advice the other aunts have given you, the best option would be to stop seeing this guy, he is obviously just using you for sex and does not want any thing else. There are plenty of good guys out there that would treat you right, and give ... (read in full...)
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