I've met a guy I like, but he is friends with my ex baby daddy.
Q. I’m trying to decide if a guy is interested in me. He is a divorced single Dad. The issue is he is friends with my ex baby daddy. We saw each other out with our kids. His daughter is friends with my oldest daughter. So I asked if she could come over ...
A. 31 May 2020: I think its all still in the early stages of the getting to know each other phase so would not read to much in to anything yet.
I may very well be that he does like you, you both do seem to get along ok and enjoy each other company.
I would... (read in full...)
What can I do about my life and wife?
Q. Over 43 yrs of faithful marriage she requires separate bedrooms handles all financial transactions accumulate over 100,000 dollars in credit card debts that I know of and no sex for 3 years now .... what to do No names please ...
A. 29 May 2020: Its a shame it ha taken 43 years for things to come to this.
Letting her handle all of the financial transactions was the first big mistake. The credit card bills were obviously coming in and she has been brushing them under the carpet and carr... (read in full...)
I have an enormous crush on my doctor. What do I do now?
Q. So here's my situation. I met my new GP a few months ago and she's been amazing. She's a great doctor. She gives me prescriptions for my current health issue. She sends me to specialists when I need them. She's always available for appointments. She ...
A. 26 May 2020: Its really not uncommon to develop infatuations with people in high powered professional positions, such as doctors, teachers, etc.
This is a crush that you are having, and crushes don't tend to last forever. She sounds like she is very good at ... (read in full...)
My wife and I fight about laundry! I mean REALLY fight about it!
Q. My wife doesn't like to do laundry. She says she doesn't like the noise (we have a small house so doing a load of laundry permeates) and apparently doesn't like any other aspect of it either. She will let her laundry pile up until she has nothing ...
A. 26 May 2020: I think a marriage should be equal, normally in a marriage you have his and her jobs and are performed on a regular basis, sometimes even alternating jobs.
It might be the mans job to take the trash out every thursday morning, and mow the lawn... (read in full...)
Blocked, I'm angry at how all the blame is on me, should I send a letter and a gift?
Q. I was seeing a girl and she has a boyfriend, who she got just a few weeks after we met. Turns out she wanted to see both of us. But recently finally, the boyfriend found out her secret. She was out with me, and he got security to bget into her room ...
A. 25 May 2020: I think you should forget about this woman and move on.
You started seeing her, and she met someone else a few weeks after you met. Well if that is not enough to make you want to walk away i don't know what is.
The other guy got security to ... (read in full...)
My married boyfriend is moving to Panama for 6 months and is leaving me behind. He wants me to wait for him. Should I?
Q. I know I won't get any sympathy here but I am looking for some advice. Mistresses have nowhere to go. My married lover (he is more like a boyfriend now) is going to Panama with his wife in September to spend 6 months out of the year there, ever...
A. 23 May 2020: This is all part and parcel of being a mistress. I assume that you knew he was married when you first met him, if you did you must have know what you would have been getting in to.
He can spin you all sorts of lines, and i'm sure that you have hea... (read in full...)
Does this man like me or need space?
Q. This boy told me he likes me n he started holding me n kissing me. He stays the night n hold me. In morning he left early n didn't hear from him in a couple days. He came up to me n I said u didn't say nothing just left. He said I need to get on my ...
A. 23 May 2020: OP are you sure you have got the age brackets of 36-40 correct.
From the limited information you have provided for this post its hard to say if he likes you or not.
It sounds like the relationship is in its early stages, and sounds like he i... (read in full...)
Why did he ghost me after acting so insecure ?
Q. For the past 4 weeks I have been going on dates with a guy I met in a grocery store in March. At first i was a little skeptical because he’s a tad bit older but not by much. On our first date we met up at Dairy Queen. We talked for three hours , ...
A. 22 May 2020: You have only been dating this guy for 4 weeks and already he is being insecure and asking you lots of questions.
We don't really know much about his background, or his relationship past, it could very well be he has been cheated on previous... (read in full...)
Girlfriend refuses to discuss our relationship.
Q. My girlfriend got drunk one day after an argument. She met up with a friend and they took a guy back to her place. Her friend left but the guy stayed. The next day she said nothing happened and told me they were both naked in the bed. She also told ...
A. 21 May 2020: That's probably the most truthful thing she has said in this whole thing in saying you both can't get through this, i would take that on board and move on.
She has not spoken to or been in contact with this friend. Given her track record how do y... (read in full...)
Girlfriend refuses to discuss our relationship.
Q. My girlfriend got drunk one day after an argument. She met up with a friend and they took a guy back to her place. Her friend left but the guy stayed. The next day she said nothing happened and told me they were both naked in the bed. She also told ...
A. 21 May 2020: The most important aspect of a relationship, the thing that binds a relationship together over all else is trust, if there is no trust then a relationship is doomed to fail.
She was naked in bed with another guy after a drunken night which sh... (read in full...)
I worry I am just this woman's plaything.
Q. Been seeing someone for about four months for only one day a week, she don't have any more time for me, it's really good that one day a week, I told her I looked her up on Facebook, she got really mad an said not to do that again and block me, am I ...
A. 20 May 2020: I think its important to listen to your inner voice sometimes, your intuition.
It seems to me there are quite a few alarm bells here, enough to make me walk away and seek someone new.
Your seeing her once a week, and by the looks of it the ... (read in full...)
This guy I've met shares a house, and sometimes meals, with his ex wife.
Q. I have met someone He is divorced and has 3 grown children the youngest is 20 and still in college. The ex wife and he share a house he lives in the basement and she lives on the first floor. They sometimes share meals and when daughter comes home ...
A. 14 May 2020: Where do you fit in to this scenario? Actually i would go so far as to say that you don't fit in a all.
I'm not sure sure if anyone would fit into this scenario to be honest, and i'm surprised that he thinks you should.
How can you have a relat... (read in full...)
I'm dating my best friend but I'm not attracted to him
Q. DEAR CUPID, I have never had the best of luck with picking men , I have dated the narcissist,the insecure and the controlling. My best friend of 12 yrs told me about six months that he had developed feelings for me, at first I felt like he ruined ...
A. 12 May 2020: Unfortunately we can't choose who we have feelings for. If the feelings for him are not there you are going to have to be brutally honest with him and tell him how you are feeling.
There is a reason he has been your best friend for 12 years an... (read in full...)
I don't know if my husband is insecure or its something deeper?
Q. Hi everyone. I am married and my husband was lovely and attentive, but now we are married he wants me to change the way I dress, not wear makeup and not see friends. He gives me money for shopping, but I do not have my name on the bank account ...
A. 12 May 2020: What you are going through is not the makings of a long lasting happy marriage.
Yes he is insecure, on top of that he is being possessive, controlling,insecure, and trying to dominate everything you do.
Just because you are married does not... (read in full...)
He only wanted friendship before now it appears he wants more but his ex is pregnant
Q. My heart is really hurt and I don't know what to do. Maybe I know what to do but I don't like having to do it. Any suggestions? My qualifier (call him Ted) and I are both AA members to the same group and I have known him several years. When we f...
A. 12 May 2020: To be honest with you i would be inclined to give this one a wide berth and refrain from starting anything up romantically with this guy.
He was never interested in you when he was off unsuccessfully dating other women. Now after another failed r... (read in full...)
I like dressing up and acting as a woman but my wife is pushing me to have sex with a man
Q. My wife encourages me to dress as Joanne every day. She tells me that she told all of her co workers about me, about how my eyebrows are plucked into thin, highly arched lines, how my ears are pierced, how I keep my fingernails long and shaped ...
A. 10 May 2020: Sounds like your wife is getting a lot of pleasure out of belittling you at every chance she gets.
I'm sure at this point in your life this is something that you enjoy doing and would rather be kept behind closed doors. But i think its wrong of... (read in full...)
Should I ask him if he still wants to bother
Q. Hi! So I have been speaking to this guy for a few weeks now - met on tinder but have talked on the phone and everything. He’s after a relationship as he said he’s had enough of one night stands or whatever (this isn’t the point of the question ...
A. 10 May 2020: I would be inclined to just leave it if i was you, i would not go chasing him asking him whats going on.
This is the thing with internet dating unfortunately, a lot of people make all the right noises and appear really friendly and interest... (read in full...)
Is normal for my boyfriend to bath and shower with his six year old son
Q. Is normal for my boyfriend to bath and shower with his six year old son. He also, sleeps naked and allows his son to see him naked is this normal. Or red flags to where I should be concerned and running away from this man. I don’t have children. ...
A. 10 May 2020: From the limited information that you have provided in your post i would say there is no cause for concern.
The boy is only 6, virtually still a baby. Maybe if the boy was 15 or 16 maybe a cause for concern. And its his son, not someone from dow... (read in full...)
What are examples of someone being a co-pilot in a relationship?
Q. I have been torturing myself wondering why I was not good enough for my ex-boyfriend. He made a comment to me that will forever haunt me. He said I was never his "co-pilot" and that "I will never be what he wants me to be". I don't understand what ...
A. 10 May 2020: I know its hard, but this relationship is now over, and by the sounds of it your better off with out him.
To be perfectly honest i would not dwell to much and try to analyse what he has said in the final parts of your relationship, its really i... (read in full...)
No one takes me on real dates
Q. Dating is not what I thought it would be and I'm ready to give up! My first boyfriend I was 13 and it was fine till he dumped me. We were in 7th grade and most teachers by then didn't make us have assigned seats so we sat next to each other. W...
A. 10 May 2020: I know it feels frustrating, feels like guys are only after one thing, don't treat you right, all they want to do is grope.
At the end of the day you are only 20 years old with your whole life ahead of you. What you have described is what all... (read in full...)
How can I help him? He says his penis is dead
Q. My name is friendly I have a question about my friend he is 40 going to be 41 in November we been friends for a year and we haven't had sex for awhile he said to about his cock is dead. What can I do to help him From your friend...
A. 9 May 2020: I think the only thing that you can do for him is get him to seek medical advice.... (read in full...)
I feel devastated at his betrayal. Do I move on?
Q. Hi. just wanna ask some advices. so i have this LDR bf for a year and 4 months now.bwe met in person January 2020. things went well and planned future together. as we continue being in a LDR, its not easy to keep the relationship strong and healthy. ...
A. 9 May 2020: Long distance relationships are never easy at the best of times. A LDR coupled with a lack of trust is never going to work.
There are just to many complications here for this to work. One of the biggest contributing factors that bind a relation... (read in full...)
I feel I would be better off staying single and just getting a bed buddy.
Q. I am a single mom. I have been divorced twice. I attract toxic people. Or people who need fixed. I am trying to get back into the dating scene. I feel like I truly know myself now. I am sensitive and an over thinker. I am wondering if I should just ...
A. 9 May 2020: I would not contemplate getting back into the dating scene until you are 100% sure of what you want, and more importantly feel you are ready in yourself.
Some people go from one relationship to the other, and the same things keep happenin... (read in full...)
It feels like a slap in the face to provide everything for this relationship and not even get the respect of an adult conversation.
Q. Hello! I have been in a relationship for over two years. My SO hasn’t worked most of our relationship. I have an apartment that he pretty much stays at unless he goes home after a fight. I am constantly stressed about bills and responsibilities ...
A. 7 May 2020: I have to agree with the other posts, i can't understand why you are with this guy.
There is absolutely nothing positive about this guy, or your relationship, its all really rather unhealthy and toxic.
Im sorry i know its hard to hear, but my ... (read in full...)
How can my ex be so cold about the ending of our relationship?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend coming up three years, but we split up three weeks ago. A few days ago he said it's not when he will miss me because he missed me already. He wouldn't outreach tell me the relationship was over but despite asking him to ...
A. 7 May 2020: I know it hard, but that's obviously how he deals with things. Like you say at least you got closure and you can now move on with the rest of your life.
Relationship break ups are never easy, not for anyone. Don't be in a mad rush to get straight... (read in full...)
Can a swinger give up that scene and be monogamous?
Q. Can a swinger give up that scene and be monogamous? I’ve started seeing someone who I really like. However they’ve been into swinging and I just don’t know if that’s something that people just give up. I prefer a monogamous relationship. ...
A. 7 May 2020: Its hard to say whether or not he would give up the swinging scene. If they have been involved in this kind of life for many years then maybe that's a way of life for them and converting to a monogamous relationship might be a rather tall order.
... (read in full...)
Is it ok to talk to two people at once on online dating?
Q. Hi all, I have had a rough few years and have abstained from the dating scene during this period in part because of a breakup that took me a long time to get over. My life currently doesn't allow me to meet new people often so I decided to try...
A. 4 May 2020: You are online dating, you are trying to find a potential partner. To find a potential partner, particularly in online dating it means you will looking at a lot of different profiles, exchanging numbers and chatting and getting to know lots of ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep reminding me that he’s single, is he only looking for something casual?
Q. In every conversation I have w/this guy he throws it into the conversation that he's a single man. Or everytime we meet up he reminds me of his relationship status. And he always ask me “when’s the next time you’re coming over?” Or “when will i see ...
A. 4 May 2020: I think if he did not like you he would not be asking when is he next going to see you, and also keep emphasizing the fact that he a single guy all the time.
I think he likes you, but is lacking in the confidence department and is scared to ask y... (read in full...)
Is it time for me to finally move on?
Q. A few years ago I fell for a friend. We spent a lot of time together and all of his words and actions signalled he had romantic interest. I did not know where I stood with him so I asked him and he started panicking and said “he might have been ...
A. 1 May 2020: Your correct, he is not right for you, keep telling yourself that, and by your own admission you don't want to fall into that trap again.
I know its hard, but you really do need to put this behind you and move on with your life. Yes we can all ... (read in full...)
I recognise the man on the dating site, and he is MARRIED!
Q. Dear Cupid. I'm on a dating site and have had a man message me saying "Hey how are you going :)" and "Your super cute, love to know more about yourself!? Feel free to ask me anything" Anyway, I Looked this guy up on facebook because I recogni...
A. 30 April 2020: If i was you i would just leave it and move onto the next profile.
This guy only got married in 2016 and is already on dating sites, what a rat.
No i would refrain from meddling, guy's like this always get found out in the end, what goes around... (read in full...)
Married co worker is objectifying me and I just want to be friends.
Q. Why does EVERY man I try to befriend end up objectifying me? They'll be totally respectful to our other mutual female friends but I get treated different. Like this guy I THOUGHT was nice at work: the worst thing he did was be "silly"and he did that ...
A. 29 April 2020: At the end of the day work is work and you are just there to perform a job.
As long as your friendly, and do your job to the best of your abilities, just take comments and jokes from other colleagues with a pinch of salt and get on with your wor... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if the guy I met was just being friendly or if there was more.
Q. A week before the lockdown happened I went for a walk with a walking group. There was a guy there who I have known for a few years. He seemed a bit shy when we said hello on arrival. During the walk he asked if I was seeing anyone. I'm not sure why ...
A. 28 April 2020: You don't really know a lot about this guy other than he seems like a nice person from your walking group.
I idea of a walking group is to generally meet new people and socialise while taking in the beautiful surroundings and staying healthy ... (read in full...)
I never told my husband that I had an abortion. I am afraid he'll divorce me if he finds out
Q. I did not tell my husband that I was pregnant and I had an abortion behind his back. I am now very scared to tell him. I think he will divorce me and I am very worried. Does anybody has advice on how I can save my marriage. It was partly a health ...
A. 27 April 2020: In a relationship trust is one of the largest contributing factors that bind a relationship together, if there is no trust a relationship is doomed to fail.
If you had of been open an honest in the beginning things would have been a whole lot easi... (read in full...)
I don't think I should be his go to person every time he needs something
Q. My story is as old as world. Here it goes: I am in my 40s, moderately comfortable financially , love to travel . One day decided to go to Africa and met a guy. My age, divorced , bringing up his small son. And taking care of couple relative...
A. 27 April 2020: Im not saying that this is a scam, it probably isen't. But what you have mentioned bares striking resemblances to someone that has actually been involved with a scam.
I know its hard, but i think you have got to be cruel to be kind and stop all... (read in full...)
The disparity between our financial situations is causing problems in the relationship
Q. Hello everybody, Thank you for taking the time to read this. I am after some advice on some financial/relationship issues. My boyfriend and I own a house together. We each put in as big deposit as we could afford at the time. His was much bigge...
A. 27 April 2020: I agree with you when you say that a partnership should be equal.
The problem is you are both completely different people entirely. He is very money orientated, quite ego driven and like's showing off nice flashy things and basically lives like... (read in full...)
Lockdown is keeping me away from my mistress. Wife is boring but don't want to lose her while going after mistress
Q. My wife is wonderful. Good at saving money and gets me everything I need. But my mistress is kinky and she will do anything for me. She will wear kinky clothes and let's me do anything to her. She cries when I have to go home. Now it's lockdown an...
A. 27 April 2020: What should you do? I don't think you really need to come on to DC to obtain an answer to that question.
Your poor wife, your wife who is good to you and gives you everything you need.
And this mistress, she cry's everytime you have to go home.... (read in full...)
Happily married yet lusting over a doctor! Help me please!
Q. I have been married for 4 and a half years and have a 3 year old daughter. There are no problems in my marriage and I thought till a few days ago that I was very happy and content with life. My husband adores me and we have a healthy sex life. I...
A. 24 April 2020: This is just a fantasy, a crush, and crushes don't tend to last for ever.
You sound like you you have got a good loving husband who loves you a lot and you both have a three year old daughter together. Don't act on this crush and risk throwing... (read in full...)
My husband had a video chat with another woman on the day I was having surgery!!!
Q. I just had surgery today! It was tough on me! I am sensitive to anesthesia. And was puking and dizzy. I had a hard time. My husband dropped me off at the hospital because of Covid. He came to pick me up later after I recovered from anesthesia....
A. 24 April 2020: From your post it is not clear that he was ever up to no good. You don't specify what sort of site he was on, or who he was talking to.
I think you need to look into this a bit further before you rush to any rash decisions and accuse him of chatt... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to my ex boyfriend's ex?
Q. Hello, I'm hoping I can reach out to you for some advice about a girl called Daisy (fake name for obvious reasons). I am 26, and Daisy is 27. We met becauseof my ex partner. In 2019 I came out of what I thought, was a stable relationship of ...
A. 23 April 2020: To be perfectly honest i would leave the past in the past and get on with your life.
I know you feel like you want to reach out as she has been through a tough time lately, but i would refrain from doing so if it were me.
She was one of his f... (read in full...)
Should I assume he lost interest and deleted my number?
Q. I have been briefly seeing a guy which started as friendship and we have been friends on FB. He last messaged me to ask how I was at the beginning of April. He last acknowledged me by text two weeks ago when I decided to tell him that if I had met ...
A. 23 April 2020: As you said that you both liked a joke together he may have been messing around by saying who is this. He must of known it was you surely as he would have recognised your banter. If you have him on whats app, when someone removes you their profile ... (read in full...)
I should be so happy that we are getting married but I'm not because he cheated on me 2 years ago and 'm worried he's still in contact with the woman
Q. Hi All- I'm in desperate need of relationship advice. I'm currently engaged to someone who I've been with for almost 10 years. We've been engaged for about 5 months. As with any relationship, things between my fiance and I haven't always been suns...
A. 21 April 2020: I suppose its better that you are having these doubts now before you are married, rather than having doubts after your married.
I agree, its not right to go ahead with this wedding if your feeling this way. And its natural to be feeling this way... (read in full...)
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