If a girl at work or serving at a shop that I frequent tells me "I am so bored", would you think that is a signal of interest?
Q. If a girl at work or serving at a shop that I frequent tells me "I am so bored", would you think that is a signal of interest? I have had one or two telling me they are bored, and we should get together, to take away the boredom. I realise the la...
A. 21 August 2013: i hear alot of girls at my work saying they are bored, so i would say it does not mean an awful lot. However if they are saying to you we should get together to take away the boredom then you can take this as a sign of interest. Bit like saying do ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my classmate! Should I ask her out on a date then confess my feelings? Or text her my feelings right after exams?
Q. I need help... I think I've fallen in love with my classmate after a texting her a month ago. At first, everything started fine and normal, I always treated her as a classmate and friend. But my feelings builds up when we texting each other more ...
A. 17 August 2013: It sounds like you really like her, I can relate to the feelings you are having. I think the worst thing you can do is to rush things and risk scaring her off. A couple of months ago I met a girl in a class that I do, one day after we got chatting. ... (read in full...)
I'm freaked out by my boyfriend telling me he loves me after one week together. Should I take a break from him?
Q. ok I have recently acquired a new boyfriend, he's really sweet and nerdy like me but we have only been going out a week and have only actually met up about five times. and then today he told me he loved me! I didn't respond I just said "see you ...
A. 15 August 2013: I think that saying i love you after just one week is somewhat early, and a little keen to be honest. It sounds like you are not ready for a relationship right now so i feel your best option is just to be brutally honest and tell him how you feel. ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you're really over someone and not just trying to replace them with someone else?
Q. Hey there, my boyfriend broke up with me one month ago, leaving me here to spend the whole summer alone or - even worse - with my parents. Now, here's the situation: this October I'm gonna start university, and - as many friends of mine told me ...
A. 15 August 2013: Depending on how long the pair of you were together and how serious the relationship was, maybe a month, maybe two to be completely free of your previous relationship. Of course no two situations are the same and everyone heals or gets over things ... (read in full...)
Why am I so jealous all of a sudden?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am loved a lot by the man I am with. He would never cheat or hit me. We love each other to death and have been together for a long time now. Knowing that he won't cheat I always get so scared and jealous when he is around other gir...
A. 15 August 2013: He has been with you all this time, you both love each other very much, and you say he is not the cheating type. It sounds like he is a really nice guy and he only has eyes for you. You have got to accept that no matter who we are we all have a ... (read in full...)
The girl I like fancies someone else?
Q. There is a girl I really like at work we are friendly and slightly flirty but she's completely besotted with this other guy. I hate it because this guy sits right in front I have to see her going up to him talking to him with him for ages and ...
A. 15 August 2013: Just think things could have been alot worse, she could have started things up with you, then dumped you for this other guy. Having romantic conections with people in the workplace is never a good idea. Yes its all fun the beginning sneaking around, ... (read in full...)
Where can I find girls interested in a serious relationship? I mean places other than online or bars.
Q. hi dear aunts, I recently broke up with my LDR because I couldn't stand the distance anymore. I'm sorry. I'm not just cut out for it. I have been having a hard time getting dates lately. I'm not into the bar/club scene anymore, I don't want t...
A. 15 August 2013: Bars and clubs are not the best places to meet people anyway. Internet dating will probally get mixed opinions, personally i think its more people not replying to your messages and playing games, as you have experienced. I think you are best to go ... (read in full...)
If a guy misses you, does that mean he has feelings for you?
Q. Hello everyone. I just have a question. I hope to hear from some men as well. When a man tells you he will miss you (he is going away on a trip for a week)..... is this a good sign that he has feelings for you/has an emotional connection ...
A. 14 August 2013: Its hard to tell from what he said, and the tone he said it in. I sometime's say to some girl's when im leaving Love you lots, but this does not mean i love them, to me its just a term of endearment. He could very well have feelings for you, but ... (read in full...)
Am I cheating if its just in my thoughts?
Q. I just don't know whether it is right or wrong to be in the situation which I am in right now. I am in a very fulfilling relationship with an amazing person. He loves me so much and ofcourse I love him back so much. And I am looking forward to ...
A. 9 August 2013: No you are not cheating on him, not in anyway atal. We all have thoughts, but thats it, its just in your thoughts, you are not taking action with other people so just keep it to yourself. Unless we go out with blinkers on its very hard not to notice ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is making a big issue about the amount of time I spend at the gym
Q. My question is fairly straight forward. Is my gym time too much and can it hinder the relationship I am in? I have been in a relationship for one year with a great girlfriend. We do lots of things together on a weekly basis and really enjoy eac...
A. 8 August 2013: I am a regular gym user myself, I go straight from work and am in there for about 3 hours a night. I love training, passionate about it in fact. Yes in previous relationships girls have commented on my gym use and have suggested that I cut down, ... (read in full...)
Should I contact this girl or continue no contact?
Q. I need advice on whether or not I should contact this girl who I really like but who I closed off all contact after admitting she doesn't want to go further with me after our first date. I met her over a month ago on a dating site and I quickly es...
A. 7 August 2013: I would not go chasing her, there is nothing that you can salvage from this. The chances of her having a change of heart are somewhat slim. I know its hard, i know you feel rejected and you feel like you want to go after her to try to win her back, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants more pictures of my friends topless in return for theme park tickets
Q. My boyfriend last summer had a bet that if I could get a friend to flash me he would pay for a ticket to the theme park close to us. Well I pulled it off I got a friend to text me a picture of her topless and success I win! Well he took it a bit...
A. 6 August 2013: There is nothing wrong with you atal, your normal. However for many people alarm bells would be ringing with regards to how your boyfriend is behaving. He is being very disrespectful to you wanting you to send pics of your pals topless, quite ... (read in full...)
I do not understand why he has to play me like this.
Q. Hi all, I am in an annoying situation. I met a guy in March. I am 27 and he is 28. When I first met him, he seemed nice and harmless. I chatted with him on fb but he responded very slowly. I was fed up one day and stopped talking to him About one...
A. 4 August 2013: i think that after the first time he let you down alarm bells would have been ringing for most people. He let you down to the point where you diden't even fancy eating. You picked yourself up, dusted yourself down and got yourself back together ... (read in full...)
What he said broke my heart
Q. Hi My bf currently stays with his mother as he needs to take care of some family business. I went to meet him a week back and we had a small fight as i wanted to spend more time with him and he wants to hang around with his friends. I wa...
A. 21 July 2013: he is a real jerk and what he said to you in out of order. You have to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and be strong. Delete him from everything you have and move on from this idiot.
Goodluck... (read in full...)
Committed relationship, but things have run their course ...
Q. Hi everyone, would really appreciate any advice you have to offer! Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 and a half years, everything was amazing at first, but now i feel like things have taken its natural course! I feel like weve bee...
A. 21 July 2013: I think that if you feel that that relationship has run its course, you don't have the same feelings for him as you did five years ago, then its best to be upfront and honest and get it out in the open. Being with someone just for convienience is ... (read in full...)
I treat her like a princess, things seemed to be going well, so why does she say I'm pushing her away?
Q. Firstly, thanks for the advice. I am not sure what to think so i guess it's always good to get an outside opinion. I have been on a few dates with a girl whom i met at a party a few weeks ago. I am 24 and she is 20. I have a good job and have had...
A. 21 July 2013: It sounds to me as if she has got some indepth issues going on that she obviously dosen't want to talk about. There is no way that you have messed up, to be honest you could not have treated her any nicer than you did. You treated her like a ... (read in full...)
I can't tell what's up with him?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I've been seeing a guy for a number of weeks now, been on a few dates and I really enjoy his company. He's the first guy I've ever really been with without considering looks, I adore his personality and that he can have a la...
A. 17 July 2013: I think its good of you to put aside the looks thing and your dating him for who he is, despite your friends telling you that you are out of his league.
However i think that based on what you have said, this gut is a complete jerk and is mess... (read in full...)
How can I tell my boyfriend I love him without being rejected?
Q. How can I tell my boyfriend I love him without getting rejected?...
A. 3 February 2013: Depends how long you have been with him really, and how you both get along. You know when you actually love someone, and you also know when the love is reciprocated too. If you have been going out for a while, by a while i mean over six months maybe ... (read in full...)
Do I need a friend like this? How do I drop her?
Q. Friendship dilema. Hi. I have been friends with a couple of girls for 20 years. They are mostly fun to be with - but one is a bit more cheeky, gobby and rowdy than the other. When we are out she always think she knows it all, tries to show yo...
A. 30 January 2013: You said when we are out she try's to show you up or put you down, simple, don't go out in social settings with her anymore. just arrange to go out with your other friend and don't include the other one. In life friends come and go, you have ... (read in full...)
Why did my B/f have three naked pictures of the same girl on his phone?
Q. I have been with my partner nearly two years now, he has never been the type to admire any other girls ever.. he got a new phone and when he had it I said would you like some pictures of me to get off to when I'm not around he refused and said he ...
A. 29 January 2013: i think the question is were these pictures of someone he know's or someone he downloaded from the internet?. If its the first there is cause for concern and he has gone over the trust barrier. Trust is one of the most important ingredients that ... (read in full...)
Online date turned out to be much bigger than I expected. How do I let her know I am not physically attracted without hurting her?
Q. Hi so recently i set up a profile on a dating site. I was contacted by a girl that looked really cute. We talked for a bit exchanged phone numbers, and texted a bunch, she was really cool and we had some common interests. We met up recently and i ...
A. 25 January 2013: I would just be truthful and honest and don't lead her on in any sort of way. Just say you don't really envisage anything of a romantic nature materialising between the pair of you, do it sooner rather than later as the longer you leave it the ... (read in full...)
A virgin dating a player. I'm scared about having sex with him!
Q. Hey everyone, I'm dating a well known business man of my city,and even before I knew him I'd read about how he's a player and is not really looking for a relationship,I never ever thought for the life of me I'd date him some day!so when I got into...
A. 24 January 2013: Personally i think that your friends are right when they say they are worried that you are going to get hurt. He is renowned for being a player, and player's are not looking for relationships, as you quite rightly read about him. He is looking for ... (read in full...)
My bf always talks about his married female boss
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years always talks about his boss (female, 3 yrs older ho him) even in bed. I feel this totally irritating, told him lot of times not to talk to her when he is in bed with me, he says ok, but always switches the topic back t...
A. 24 January 2013: If i was in this situation the alarm bells would bw ringing here and would be contemplating getting out. He is treating you very badly, he know youdon't want to hear about his femail boss but still he keeps on with it. And if thats not enough he ... (read in full...)
I can't commit to someone else because I'm in love with a married man
Q. I have been in contact with a married man with two older children since 2009 . We chatted for about 6 months before i let him in my life. We got serious and within 3 weeks his wife found out . He called if off. I was gutted , he would avoid me at ...
A. 24 January 2013: Im going to be brutally honest with you and say that your best bet is to cut him loose and get on with your life. Nothing is ever going to happen, invarible married men never leave their wives, so ultimately you are left dangling with nothing but ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lost her virginity at 16 and it makes me extremely jealous of her
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend for months now, she is my first proper girlfriend and the first person I have sex with, I am 22 and she is 20 , she lost her virginity at 16 and it makes me extremely jealous of her , I cant stop picturing her ...
A. 24 January 2013: You will be hard pushed to find a girl that has not had some sort of past in one way or another, unless of course they have been living under a rock for a majority of their life. So she lost her viginity when she was 16, this was four years ago, she ... (read in full...)
Me and this guy have been in contact for 5 months but haven't yet met up. We arranged a meet up and he's gone silent. What should I do next?
Q. So I've been talking to this boy for about 5 months by text/phone calls.. we've been asking to meet up and that but it hasn't happened yet.. So yesterday we decided to meet up today and we was not really keen and I texted him this morning asking i...
A. 23 January 2013: i would refrain from texting him again to be honest, the ball's in his court now. If he dosen't come back to you just put it down to experience and move on, plenty more fish in the sea.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is cold and distant, and goes quiet for weeks at a time! How can I let him go?
Q. My boyfriend of two years is distant, cold, doesn't call or text for 3 weeks now because of something I said but I apologised. I think he's always finding faults in me, even the tiniest. I think its rather childish, he always does this, he goes qui...
A. 23 January 2013: I think that this relationship has run its course to be honest. You need to be strong and find the strenth and courage to walk away from this relationship. He is acting like a complete child going cold for weeks on end then coming back to you, then ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps texting me wanting an explanation for why I broke up with him
Q. My ex boyfriend and I broke up October last year, but it was a long drawn out process of being off and on since April. He cheated on me back then and I still loved him but couldn't trust him, realised I needed some space. Eventually when we done ...
A. 23 January 2013: The other three posts are right, you owe him absolutely nothing. He broke the trust boundries by being unfaithful to you now he has got to live with the consequences, which is he has lost you. You have moved on with your life now, your happy and ... (read in full...)
Gf sending dirty texts to another man
Q. Hi, I've been with my gf for nearly 3 years, it's had it's ups and downs but we've got through them, between us we have 4 children, she has 3 girls I have one boy. The two youngest girls dad left when the youngest was born, and hasn't been around ...
A. 23 January 2013: So its obvious that there is something more going on here with your girlfriend and the father of the girls. She has not come clean and told you, you had to find out for yourself which is hard. Trust is one of the most important ingredients that hold ... (read in full...)
Why am I thought of as being a weirdo when other guys say much more sexually charged things but the girl is ok with it?
Q. I'm not currently actively looking to date right now, but I'm still feeling pretty confused and frustrated being unable to "woo" a girl, especially when I try to watch and see what the more "successful" guys are doing to attract women. And honestly, ...
A. 23 January 2013: I think that you are thinking to much about about the whole getting a girl thing and how to act. The guys you are observing acting like this are probally doing what come naturally to them, they are being themselves. I think that when you try to do ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont stop using dating sites but makes me out to be the bad guy! What have I done wrong?
Q. Will someone please understand where I went wrong and what I did what was wrong? I have dumped my girlfriend because yet again she is on dating sites. She is not letting it go and is behaving like I have done her the greatest injustice for leaving ...
A. 22 January 2013: You did the right thing in dumping her, and no you have done nothing wrong atal. She is completely in the wrong and she knows it, and as a result is blaming you in an attempt to make herself feel better. The trust has completely gone in this ... (read in full...)
What are the risks of falling for older men?
Q. What are the risks of falling for older men? I keep falling for older men, some are married and some are single. I have slept with a few of them and had intercourse. I hate being alone and I think older men know how to treat a woman, am I right ...
A. 20 January 2013: There is nothing wrong in dating older men atal, after all age is only a number at the end of the day, however i don't agree with it if they are married. We all aspire to different things in life, all got different likes and tastes, so you prefer a ... (read in full...)
A friend wants to date me but I only like him as a friend. He's become quite annoying!
Q. I know a guy who just got back from boot camp for the marines. We didn't really talk much before he left. He had texted me a couple of times telling me Im beautiful, and that he had liked me but I never had feeling for him, he's just a friend.I ...
A. 19 January 2013: Sometimes we have got to be cruel to be kind, it will a weight off your shoulders if you just told him out right that you are not interested and that you don't see him in that way.
Good luck... (read in full...)
So what's my next move? The guy at work I'm very very attracted to? Or my Bf of one year?
Q. hello, i work in a medium sized company, 7months ago a new guy joined our team of 6. He is really good looking, attractive, polite ect ect. we do get on really well and i feel attracted to him, he is very much my type to be honest. The thing is ...
A. 18 January 2013: Its never a good idea to start dating someone that you work with, it may be all exciting and fun in the beginning, but when/if things started to go downhill then things can then become very arkward still having to see each other every day, not just ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my LDR partner whilst visiting him, or on the phone?
Q. I've been thinking about breaking up with my bf for a while now. We've been together for over 2 years, and while there isn't anything specifically wrong, and we get on great, but I just don't feel right about it, and I know I dont want to be with ...
A. 18 January 2013: I think that you should tell him sooner rather than later, and tell him in person, rather than on the phone. You have been with him a long time, he deserves a decent explanation. I think that you should tell him at the beginning of your visit. It ... (read in full...)
My friend and I are both interested in the same girl - what should I do?
Q. Ok, so i got kind of typical question, but i haven't been able to find a good answer, as it is kind of different. Ok, so i like this girl who is a junior, she's cute, but i have a friend who also likes her too. Now my question is: would she be...
A. 18 January 2013: There is no reason why she would not be interested in you atal. Go for it, talk to her, ask her to do something one time. Don't wait for your friend to do it, you could lose out, and don't let your friend introduce you to her, this will make you ... (read in full...)
Can anyone pls explain how someone can be in love and then just lose feelings overnight?
Q. Can anyone pls explain how someone can be in love and then just lose feelings overnight? I joined on line dating. Not to date, not to cheat, but because I was bored because he would rather be out football training, than be home with me. He doesnt ...
A. 18 January 2013: You joined a dating site because you were bored, im not really suprised he fell out of love just like that. If it were me i would be really upset if i found out my partner who i really like joined a dating site because they were bored.
He was goin... (read in full...)
Am I a loser for not drinking or doing drugs? Will I find a girl to date?
Q. How can I be comfortable with the fact that I dont drink or do drugs. Last night, I went out with my friends to a partyhiuse and there was rndless amounts of drinks and drugs there. I never drink, so I am the sober one. I have some friends who do ...
A. 16 January 2013: Good on you for being your own person and not drinking and doing drugs because everyone else is doing it, that takes a strong willed person and you should be proud of your self, you are anything but a loser.
As for hindering you finding a lovi... (read in full...)
Is he interested? Do I text him or wait?
Q. Ok, well on Hogmanay [mod note: New Year's Eve] I met this guy. He seemed very nice and we kissed. The conversation flowed really well but we were both drunk. He asked for my number and for a whole week he text me constantly. He then stopped texting ...
A. 16 January 2013: Just take the bull by the horns and text him, what have you got to lose. I think he will respond, he seems to like you. If he dosen't at least you would have tried and you will know where you stand and can move on.
Good luck... (read in full...)
How to get over someone you have to see everyday?
Q. Okay so I guess at this point I have no choice but to try and get over this man that seemingly captured my heart. My question is, how do you get over someone you have to see every day?...
A. 16 January 2013: Getting over someone is never easy, not for anyone, espessially seeing them every day is even harder. All i can say is i know its hard now but things will get easier, time is the healer of all things. Sooner or later your wounds will heal and you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend never replies to my messages on time and it really bugs me!
Q. there is something that bothers me so much about my girlfriend and is that she does not reply my messages on time, if i text her she takes even hours to text me back and if i send her a fb message she reads it and then until next day replies. at the ...
A. 16 January 2013: Some people are big on texting and messaging, replying the second one come's through. Not everyone is the same with responding to messages, i don't think its anything to do with you, its maybe just the way she is. I feel if you broach the subject ... (read in full...)
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