My girlfriend never replies to my messages on time and it really bugs me!
Q. there is something that bothers me so much about my girlfriend and is that she does not reply my messages on time, if i text her she takes even hours to text me back and if i send her a fb message she reads it and then until next day replies. at the ...
A. 16 January 2013: Some people are big on texting and messaging, replying the second one come's through. Not everyone is the same with responding to messages, i don't think its anything to do with you, its maybe just the way she is. I feel if you broach the subject ... (read in full...)
Would guys be put off because, at my age, I still rent, live with friends and don't earn a high salary?
Q. Please can i have some advice/feedback from the guys on this. I need to know if these things would put you off a girl, or if you actually do not care about these things and it wouldn't even be a factor in anything. i am 32 single, female a...
A. 12 January 2013: Not at all, you have got alot to offer, you have a good job, your pretty, and you look younger than your age. From and guy's point of view, and i probally speak for most guy's, i would not be put off by this atal. You live with your friends and your ... (read in full...)
My Bf will be so hurt. I cheated over Christmas with a work colleague. What should I do now?
Q. Need some advice,I understand if you judge me, I hate myself for it..... Me and my boyfriend of 2 years went through a miserable period over Christmas, felt really down about it. I had my works Christmas party where I found myself really drunk, ...
A. 12 January 2013: Some people can do things like this and just sweep it under the carpet like nothing ever happened, while others it niggles away at them, constantly on their mind, keeping them awake at night. It all depends really if you can keep dating your ... (read in full...)
Was he trying to get closer to me? What’s going on with him?
Q. I have been having a casual sexual relationship with a guy for a while now. He said he wasn’t looking for a relationship and neither was I. We have been enjoying really great sex but the last time we met up he really confused me. Straight after...
A. 12 January 2013: he is certainly displaying all the signs of liking you alot, he sounds like an ok guy as well. Maybe he wasen't looking for anything serious in the beginning, but from what you say he has become quite attached to you, thats a good thing. Just go ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband that I cheated on my ex with a co-worker? Or leave the past in the past?
Q. Been happily married for a few months after I'd been with my ex for a few years. Do you think I should tell my husband I cheated on my ex and had a six-month affair with a co-worker? Now I don't have any contacts with either my ex nor my former a...
A. 11 January 2013: I don't really see the point in bringing up stuff that you did in the past, you are now happily married and i feel if you do it might cause unessessary complications. However if your fine with not telling him then just keep it to yourself, but if ... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 7 months and no sex!
Q. I am dating the guy for seven months now.. and we didn't have any sex! he didn't tell me I love you.. he is 23 years old and I am 40.. I feel his love but he didn't want to admit it! should I continue?...
A. 10 January 2013: Seven months into a relationship and no sexual activity is quite along time, espessially as he is only 23. He either has no interest in sex atal with no sex drive, or he is obtaining sex somewhere else. I find it hard to believe you have been with a ... (read in full...)
How do I cope? He's going on and I feel like I've been kicked in the stomach
Q. Soooo me and this guy were seeing eachother for 4 months. The relationship was so rocky it wasn't funny! Every (bleeping) week he would find some excuse of why he couldn't be with me. Then when i tried to leave he would come back and say "baby i ...
A. 10 January 2013: I agree with Anonymous 123, you should have walked the first time he said he diden't want to be with you. whats done is done now, all you can do is learn from this mistake and move on. The positive that comes out of relationships that don't work is ... (read in full...)
I am left feeling guilty because I don't want to give my b/f a blow job
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years. I have had a bad experience with blowjobs in my past and i know my boyfriend really wants one but i can't let go and give him one. I'm not ready. But he's become withdrawn and he tells his friends ...
A. 10 January 2013: If you have had a bad experience and don't feel comfortable with giving him oral sex then simply don't it. Never feel pressured to do something that you are not comfortable with, and you have nothing to feel guilty about. You had a bad experience, i ... (read in full...)
Do I continue to date this amazing guy knowing that when I'm with him all I do is think of the ex or do I stop dating until I'm fully over my ex?
Q. I recently started dating a wonderful guy, things have been going really well but for some reason I cannot get my ex out of my head. My ex and I had a great relationship but it ended suddenly with no real reason apart from he was moving 70 miles ...
A. 10 January 2013: If you had have said that you split up with your ex last week then i would most certainly have said don't date this new guy untill you are fully over your ex. But your ex moved away last March, you have not heard from him since, he does not reply to ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel guilty when he is the one who can't be trusted?
Q. I broke up on trust issues.he is pleading to not go.I know I am doing it for good and If i stay I will fall again in the circles of accusations and justifications.Being a LDR it just not helps. My question is why I am the one who feel guilty? ...
A. 10 January 2013: Not sure what the in's and outs of what happened here, what i do know is that a relationship will have a hard time staying together if the trust has gone, trust is one of the most important ingredients that hold a relationship together. You feel ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is going on online dating sites. Do I have a right to be upset about this?
Q. I am having had a bad time again with my boyfriend. We have been back together after we broke up because of his online dating sites. Over the course of a year, we had argument after argument over his lies and refusal to accept that I had the right ...
A. 9 January 2013: The most important ingredient that binds a relationship together is trust, a relationship without trust is sure to fail sooner or later, and this relationship is seriously lacking in this department. Yes you have every right to feel upset. Even if ... (read in full...)
He's disparaging about others.Am I being too insensitive here or would anyone feel hurt?
Q. Hi there, everyone So i just wanted to hear objective thoughts on something that hurt me. I don't know if i'm being sensitive about it or what. Here's the story. I recently told my friend that i'm into him because my feelings were bigger ...
A. 9 January 2013: No you are certainly not being incensitive, you feel hurt by what he said, and that was precisely the intent too. Anyone would be feel belittled if you liked someone and all they did was talk about people that have come on to them. I think that you ... (read in full...)
I fell for her, and only talked to her to try and get her number. Then I find out she has a boyfriend, so should I try and be friends with her?
Q. We don't know each other well or at all. We have had small talks but that's just it. I fell for her looks. I have asked if I could contact her but she said she has a boyfriend. We won't be seeing each other anymore and I don't know if I should try ...
A. 9 January 2013: if you feel like cancelling your face book friend request then cancel it, its been a while hasen't it, i probablly would if it were me.
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I fell for her, and only talked to her to try and get her number. Then I find out she has a boyfriend, so should I try and be friends with her?
Q. We don't know each other well or at all. We have had small talks but that's just it. I fell for her looks. I have asked if I could contact her but she said she has a boyfriend. We won't be seeing each other anymore and I don't know if I should try ...
A. 8 January 2013: She was open and honest about the fact that she had a boyfriend, a good thing in this day and age. If you see her out and about somewhere just be polite, say hello, how are you, but thats it, don't attempt to take it any further than that.
Good ... (read in full...)
Do you think he likes me?
Q. *I see him where he works often and he'll walk around and talk to me for an hour sometimes 2. *He'll tease me about things. *He walks me to my car, in which we talk for another 10 minutes outside. *Texts me at least every other day seeing...
A. 8 January 2013: yes it sounds like he likes you, he is certainly dislaying all the signs of it. Just relax, take it nice and slow and enjoy the fun of getting to know each other, these are the most joyous times.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Why is she so curious about who is calling my phone?
Q. what does it mean when my GF is always wanting to know who is call my phone before i can even pull out of my pocket to see for myself? ...
A. 5 January 2013: she is insecure and she is displaying an element of distrust to try to find out if it is another girl calling you.... (read in full...)
Why is he hot and cold? He just disappears with no word/ Should I stay or move on?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for five months now and I have met his family and his son and he has met my kids and we have spent holidays with him and his family Yet every time it's going good he just ups and disappears he stops talking to me for a...
A. 5 January 2013: Yes its quite odd behaviour, i would want to know where he goes and what he does in this space of time. When you say he disappears with no call or text, is he unobtainable if you try to call him, via text, phone, and facebook?. If he is then there ... (read in full...)
He says he has a soft spot for me. But what does that mean for us now? What is a soft spot?
Q. So my guy best friend admitted how he truely felt about me on new years eve. He said that he loved me. Once that was out there it all came pouring out, like everything he loved about me. I love him to pieces but as a friend. Since then none have us...
A. 5 January 2013: Sometimes when you are tipsy, or had a few drinks you are more loosened up and alot of truth comes out. He admitted he likes you, and you said you like him also, so why is more than friends out of the question. Having a soft spot for someone is ... (read in full...)
What do you think this message means?
Q. What do you think this message means ?. It's from a guy that i know. He said "i want us to be close but you never reply much and yes we got on great and i ruined it as i didnt want a relationship and now your with your boyfriend i am just wanting ...
A. 3 January 2013: I would treat it as water under the bridge to be honest, he knows that you are in another relationship now so he should not even be texting you stuff like this to be honest. I think he want's to gage whether he has a chance with you or not. I would ... (read in full...)
I am attractive to men so why don't they ever approach me?
Q. Please don't take this in a wrong way and call me conceited and superficial,I'm putting the problem as it is.. I am 23 year old woman, and by god's grace I have the charm, personality, the beauty.. I can walk into a room and have men look at me, ...
A. 2 January 2013: I think that is could be that you are attractive and men won't approach you through fear of getting a rejection, which no guy wants, espessially in front of his mates. from your post im not sure where your going to meet guys, so im guessing its bars ... (read in full...)
Does my BF have to wear a condom? I'm on the pill, and neither of us has STIs.
Q. So i've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and we've talked about having sex when I stay at his at end of this month. Thing is, he doesnt want to use a condom. He has been checked and has no std's and neither do I. I'm also on the pill. Is it ok ...
A. 2 January 2013: The pill is not 100% effective, i have known a few girls who have been on the pill to have become pregnant. At your young age i would not risk it to be honest and would recomend that he use condoms just to be on the safe side.
Good luck... (read in full...)
My BF has been messaging another girl for 2 months. What should I do?
Q. So I'm on here because I don't quite know what to do. I just found out yesterday on New Year's Day that my boyfriend has been messaging some girl, trying to get into her knickers for the past 2 months. The girl in question sent me the proof. I'm n...
A. 2 January 2013: Ditch him, he is not worth it and you can do so much better than this guy. I know its hard, breaking up is never easy, but breaking up with this guy is 100% the right decision. He does not resprect you, and he is playing you, and he is never going ... (read in full...)
I like this guy I work with but don't know if he feels the same.
Q. Hey all! I share an office room with a colleague of mine. He joined our company in August, he is the son of one of the CEOs of the company. We didn't speak much during the first few weeks but once we started talking, we got along like a house on ...
A. 2 January 2013: It does sound like he likes you, he is flirting with you, asking what your plans are for the weekend, and fishing to see if you are attached or not, so yes its obvious he does like you.
Just be very careful when getting involved with co-w... (read in full...)
If I end things with my boyfriend, would anything happen between my colleague and I? We have slept together before but I'm not sure if he has feelings for me?
Q. Hey guys I'm in an awful mess. Try not to judge me to hard please! I've been living with my bf for about 6 months, we've been together a year before that. 7 or 8 months ago we started to develop problems in our relationship, arguments about ...
A. 20 December 2012: I think that the relationship with you boyfriend has come to an end to be honest, you had a break gave it another go and things went bad again. I think one of the key factors that bind a relationship together is trust, and unfortunately this ... (read in full...)
If he lost interest, why is looking at my Facebook pics?
Q. A guy I have been seeing has stopped contacting me. I don't know what happened but it started after relationship got physical even though that was great so I know it's not a lack of chemistry there. . I'm not looking for a "u gotta hold out longer" ...
A. 20 December 2012: He obviously still likes you, otherwise it would not even be on his mind to go looking at your recent pics. I think he is going on there looking at them to try to find out if you are with someone else or not. Not sure why the lack of communication, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't seem to be bothered about me anymore, what should I do now?
Q. Recently my boyfriend seems to not be bothered anymore? He will call roughly once maybe twice a week but wont text or email. Fair enough but the moment he gets on the phone it feels like he wants to go already. We have had to become a ldr for now ...
A. 19 December 2012: I think that you did the right thing in saying that you should probably end it. He has become despondant, calling only once or twice a week and he has been unsure for nearly two years and i think you deserve more than this.
I think he was alwa... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about not going on holiday because it will give my boyfriend a chance to cheat on me again!
Q. Please can somebody help me make a decision on this one... ';ast year me and my boyfriend broke up for a week or so and i actually did think that things were done between us spo i put a large deposit down on an expensive holiday for me and my child...
A. 17 December 2012: If you are scared of what he might be getting upto while you are on holiday then this relationship is lacking one of the key ingredients that bind a relationship together, TRUST. Any relationship that does not have trust is surely doomed to fall ... (read in full...)
He showed signs that he liked me, but when he found out I felt the same he has gone cold!
Q. He showed signs that he likes me but when he knew I like him too, he just seemed not to care anymore, why? Am I that easy? I'm afraid if he continues doing this, I'm giving up on him, there's a lot of guys out there. But why? He knows he's a hottie. ...
A. 17 December 2012: Its hard to say, he could be a player who was enjoying the thrill of the chase then once he got you wasen't interested because the chase was over. He could be playing games, going cold on you, then expecting you to chase him, calling and texting him ... (read in full...)
What happened in 2 days for her to change her mind?
Q. So i was talking to this girl for about 4 months. We went on plenty of dates and She always hinted that She wanted a relationship. She even hinted about sexual interests to me as well. This friday we went out and had an awesome time. Everything was ...
A. 20 November 2012: Personally i think that the worst thing that you can do here is bombard her with texts and calls and come across as being clingy. After the text that you got Sunday i would now leave it, for at least two weeks and see if she contacts you after this ... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend keep checking my phone?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 7 months now and she keeps going through my phone constantly without asking even though she never finds anything on there as there isn't anything 'dodgy' going on. Can someone please advise me on why she is ...
A. 17 November 2012: One of the key factors that bind a relationship together is trust, if there is no trust in a relationship then its sure to fail at some point, and she clearly does not trust you.
Whats her reasons for going through your phone, have you given her ... (read in full...)
Can you love someone and have feelings for someone else?
Q. I have been in a relationship for three years now and i believe i still love him but im not sure. See he pays half the rent and im a full time student and mom and i been thinking lately that im just using him as a crutch. i really like someone else ...
A. 5 November 2012: I think that you are in this relationship for all the wrong reasons, and i think that in your heart of hearts you know this is true as well. He brings security to the relationship by helping out with things financially providing a sort of comfort ... (read in full...)
Am I being too controlling with him?
Q. Hi, so iv been with my boyfriend now for two years and i am starting to feel very jealous and controlling over him i don't like him going out with his friends recently he said he was going to a gig with a girl friend of his and that i wasnt allowed ...
A. 2 November 2012: Ultimately one of the key factors that bind a relationship together is trust, if there is no trust there then a relationship is doomed to fail.
I know you say that you are becoming jealous and controlling over him, but to be honest he is givi... (read in full...)
Does Amy like me?
Q. i been studying with this girl since september, lets call her amy, we have most classes the same. we talk get along, and spend some breaks together jus chatting. i have become busy and not being able to see her much. i got invited to go out with her ...
A. 1 November 2012: Yes it does sound like she does like you, so make a move and see what happens. Make it light hearted and not to serious. Enjoy these early stages of a relationship, the fun of the chase, getting to know someone, i think these are the most fun ... (read in full...)
My bf of 2 years never has time for me.
Q. Dear Cupid I don't know whether I'm making big deal out of it or not. My bf of 2 years never has time for me. Whenever I call or send message he never responds. If he is busy can't he just send me a simple text so I wont call or wait for his call...
A. 31 October 2012: I know its hard, and its probably not what you want to hear, but i think that that maybe you should think about ending this relationship and moving on. There is no reason why he can't respond to your texts, no-one is that busy that they can't find ... (read in full...)
Should there be a spark at the start of a relationship? Or does it grow with time?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles My questiom is simple Should there be a spark at the start of a relationship? Five months in now and im just not feeling it... She tells me she loves me a lot which makes me think lots there for her.... Should i end this ...
A. 31 October 2012: i personally think that there should be a spark at the beginning of a relationship, that feeling of great chemistry and butterflies and excitement. If your not feeling that after five months chances are your not going to anytime soon, maybe she's ... (read in full...)
What do you appreciate most about DearCupid.org? This is also a big thank you to all the aunts and uncles on here!!
Q. So, as you have probably gathered, this isn't a question. More of a massive thank you to all the fabulous people on here who give great advice day after day on this site!! I have been on this site for a few years now, and have been posting abo...
A. 31 October 2012: really enjoyed reading your lovely words, so glad that things worked out for you and you have met a nice guy, always great to hear a happy ending, long may your happiness and joy continue!!... (read in full...)
What is your feelings on someone getting drunk and making out with another person?
Q. Hey guys and girls, about three weeks ago I started dating this girl named lets say Cindy. We spent a lot of time together just watching movies, having sex, talking, and really liking each other. Cindy even bought me a Star Wars t-shirt when s...
A. 31 October 2012: your right alcohol is never as exceptable excuse to go behind someone's back. I know that you have not been seeing her for very long and ultimately you were never officially a couple, but you were seeing alot of each other doing couple things with ... (read in full...)
What are the signs if a man loves you?
Q. Dear Cupid i need help,i met a guy from Jamaica on a dating site 3 weeks ago.And im starting to fall in love with him and i told him,and he said he feels the same.And he said hes coming to my country in 7 months time.So i want to i dont know if he ...
A. 30 October 2012: You say that you that you met this guy on a dating site three weeks ago, and he is coming to your country in seven months time, so i assume that you have not even met this guy yet. I find it hard to believe that the word love is being used here ... (read in full...)
Is this normal that my persistent 45 year old Ex is chasing after me after a month of silence?
Q. Dear all. Your thoughts please! In brief, My bf and i have had a rather hard work relationship. We were together for 16 months. Things got worse,and he kept ignoring me for up to 3 wks at a time. In the end he said it was ok. I was like,ok. Th...
A. 30 October 2012: I think that you are making the right decision, as long as seeing him after work is not too much for you and you give into him. Be strong and stand by your decision of not seeing him again, because its the right one.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Why is he so interested to see the inside of my home? Does this mean he wants to get serious?
Q. Hello y'all , I have been dating a guy for a few months - close to 3, but I have known him for a while. We were friends before anything happend. Things seem to be going well, we don't text every day, more like every other and I see him once, so...
A. 30 October 2012: Suppose the relationship is coming to its three month mark and he just thought, hey i have never seen her house in all this time and wanted to take a look. I don't think there is anything sinister here, although it is a strange thing to ask. I think ... (read in full...)
Husband is away. I'm feeling horny. Should I give in and be unfaithful while my husband is away?
Q. Am a girl of 26 married with two kids. My husband traveled out of the country a year and 5 months now I don't know when he will be coming back. The problem is that am feeling lonely and horny, many guys do comes around to have sex with me, wh...
A. 30 October 2012: My Advice would be to refrain from cheating, being unfaithful is never a good idea in any way shape or form. I understand that you are sexualy frustrated, but a moment of unfaithfulness no matter how good it was could mark the end of the marriage if ... (read in full...)
Is this normal that my persistent 45 year old Ex is chasing after me after a month of silence?
Q. Dear all. Your thoughts please! In brief, My bf and i have had a rather hard work relationship. We were together for 16 months. Things got worse,and he kept ignoring me for up to 3 wks at a time. In the end he said it was ok. I was like,ok. Th...
A. 30 October 2012: Personally i would be inclined to move on and find someone else. He played games with you, ignored you for a month, hung up on you. Probally he was seeing someone else and he got ditched, now he is trying to claw you back. Whats to say if you ... (read in full...)
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