My husband admitted his affair, said it's over but why is he still contacting his mistress?
Q. My husband just admitted to a long term affair. His mistress put a post on Facebook telling everyone about the affair because they had a spat. So my husband decided hearing it from him would be best. I am devastated by this. And I'm struggling to ...
A. 20 July 2020: The trust barrier has been broken, once this barrier has been broken its very hard to carry on in a happy relationship/marriage.
He assured you it was over, claiming he has blocked her everywhere. Then behind your back he is creating secret e... (read in full...)
I know I need to end things and kick my boyfriend out but I don't do it
Q. Hi all, I'm just looking for some relationship advice. I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years. We're both 32. Here is just some background info - 2 and a half years ago, my wonderful grandparents moved into a bungalow as ...
A. 20 July 2020: I'm really sorry to hear what you have been going through, its not a very nice situation to be in at all.
I would not really call this a relationship you are in, your both in separate rooms, not had sex in ages, and he is just there for a free r... (read in full...)
My wife lost weight is dressing sexy and I'm worried she might stray
Q. During the covid epidemic, my wife started working out hard and has lost the last bit of weight she wanted to. She looks fantastic now, my issue is she has ordered some very short dresses and skirts and now that most of the stores have reopened, she ...
A. 20 July 2020: Yes, be happy for her and congratulate her on all the hard work she has endured to get where she is. She actually feels good about her self, so surely this is a good thing.
Stop thinking she is going to stray, you will drive yourself around t... (read in full...)
I feel I ruined a friendship due to my behaviour
Q. I met a guy online dating over a year ago he said he wasnt ready for a relationship. He had been single for a couple of month and realised he was just trying to fill a gap left by his ex.He was only on the site for a month but deleted his account ...
A. 20 July 2020: So you met this guy over a year ago, agreed to stay friends and would check in with each other now and then. If nothing has ever happened during all that time, the chances are nothing ever will.
I think that what happened when you drunk messaged... (read in full...)
What is this man up to?
Q. I'd be interested on others views and opinions on this, please. A man living in a neighbourhood for two decades starts to look at a single, female neighbour who has lived there for the same time. They do not know each other but are of a similar ...
A. 20 July 2020: Sounds to me that not an awful lot is going at all, apart from a few glances and smiles here and there.
Where are you observing all this, do you just happen to be out when he is suddenly going by?. Or are you watching all this from behind t... (read in full...)
Would it be a good idea to give this relationship another chance, or am I just the rebound girl?
Q. I dated a guy for 1 year. During that time, we never had sex because I was unsure about his intentions, even though he told me that he loved me, so I do realize that some of this is my problem! Towards the end of our year, he began showing interest ...
A. 19 July 2020: A year seems a long time to give intimacy a wide berth because you were unsure of his intentions.
No matter who's fault it was you were together for a year and nothing materialised during this time, so the chances are nothing is going to be an... (read in full...)
How do I stop talking so much?
Q. I talk to much. It is a habit I always had. Any advice on how to break this habit?...
A. 17 July 2020: Calm yourself down a little bit and concentrate on your breathing, when you find you are going to burst in to talk take a deep breath in and be mindful.
Its good to talk, but equally as important to not talk sometimes and listen to what other's ... (read in full...)
I think we might break up. How do I cancel on boyfriend's birthday
Q. Hi all, I need advice! How should I cancel on my boyfriend. His birthday is on Friday. He is divorced and moved back in with his parents he has a son with his ex. She text him last week saying she wanted to get back with him! Since then he’s...
A. 16 July 2020: Not sure how long the pair of you have been dating, but it sounds to me like this relationship is done.
If your having to think of lame excuses like you have flat tyre or someone in your family is hurt (which he has already used) then whats th... (read in full...)
He's shy should I wait for him to ask me out? Or ask him?
Q. Hi guys. This may come across quite silly and people will probably laugh at a 32 year old asking these sort of questions. I have been single for almost 2 years now after a really bad situation with my ex. I gave myself time to heal and haven't...
A. 16 July 2020: There was a time when it was unheard of a woman approaching a man to ask him for a date.
Today things have changed somewhat, and i think it does not look to out of place for a woman to ask a guy she likes if he fancies doing something sometime... (read in full...)
He's 8 years younger than me and his grandmother told me to tell him to go away
Q. hello my name is Ashley and I really need your help. I am 29 years old with 2 kids and single mom. I met a guy two weeks ago and he is 21. I met him when I went to drop off my kids so his grama can watch them for me and she is the manager to the ...
A. 15 July 2020: Normally I would go along with 8 years is not really a huge age gap when it come's to dating. But in this case judging by what you have said he seems a million miles away from you as far as maturity is concerned.
Honeypie is right, he does not... (read in full...)
Dating a straight guy who regrets it
Q. So I’ve been sort of seeing this guy and his straight well bi but in denial And everytime we get in the deep at the end he says it’s wrong and it shouldn’t happen. His single but had loads of girlfriends. We have great chemistry and both just wa...
A. 15 July 2020: I don't think that this guy knows where he is at the moment. You start off by calling his straight, then bi but in denial.
He is obviously confused and is dipping his toe in the water seeing how he feels by being with a guy. He has had lots of ... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from my boyfriend in over a month I'm worried
Q. Hi my boyfriend when out of the country last March due to his dad being in COVID-19 we agree to email each other while he is away the recent email I received from him is May 26 which he told he will let me know first when he is coming back and then ...
A. 14 July 2020: Has he got a mobile phone that you could text or call?.
Do you know any of his friends or family that you could also call or text to see if they have heard from him?.
Did he give you an address of where he was staying when he went out of the ... (read in full...)
I’ve split up with my ex of 5 years but think I still love him
Q. I’m in a really tough situation. I’ve split up with my ex of 5 years but think I still love him. When we were together he suffered a really traumatic death in his family which has affected him badly. His whole personality and behaviour has changed, ...
A. 14 July 2020: I think that if you still harbour feelings for your ex, in a way that you think that you still love him, then I don't think that you should be dating this new guy at this stage.
You say that you would not get back with him unless he went to get t... (read in full...)
I love him but can't let him hold me back
Q. Well I’m not too sure how to start but here goes nothing.... I’ve been with my partner for coming on a year now, we’re both the same ages (24). We are exactly the same person in some ways, it’s great we’re like best friends but some days we do ...
A. 14 July 2020: You have chosen a career path, and this is a good thing. I think this is something that you should pursue and see through, as I feel if you diden't its something that you will regret later on in life.
It makes sense to be staying at your parents ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to spend every minute of every day together?
Q. Hello. I hope all is well. I’ve been dating this guy I met at school for five months and this is my first real relationship. I just have a question since I don’t have much relationship / dating / experience. Is it normal to spend every minute of ...
A. 13 July 2020: The answer to your question is I think its important to maybe have some space in a relationship and not be in each others pockets 24/7.
Having said that there are some couples that this works for being with each other all the time and are very muc... (read in full...)
We had a disagreement and now he's not texting me
Q. Hi I have a very new thing going on for 2 weeks to early to call it a relationship we had a little disagreement over something silly just over a week ago now he’s gone very strange on me not texting me hardly only if I have text him which has only ...
A. 13 July 2020: You have only known this guy for 2 weeks so you both really know nothing about each other at all.
Don'y know what your disagreement was about, but i assume that in the fortnight you have know him you can only have met up at least once or twice.
... (read in full...)
I am bigger than my partner and being on top is uncomfortable for me. Any suggestions?
Q. So I am physically the bigger bodied one in the relationship, I weigh a lot more than he does, and when it comes to having sex, me being on top is out of the question for me, I have got on top in the past but I am just completely uncomfortable, for ...
A. 12 July 2020: Apart from structural frame work that you can hang on to, there are not to many options here, apart from sticking to missionary.
With the riding on top position, i'm sure you can position yourself so all your weight is not totally on your par... (read in full...)
My fiance is very secretive and it makes me wonder if I am making a mistake
Q. Hello, and thanks! So I'm engaged but not sure if I'm making the right decision. My fiancee is very secretive. I find things out mostly by social media because I'm friends with his friends and they post and it comes up on my newsfeed. Th...
A. 10 July 2020: Probably one of the most important contributing factors that bind a relationship together is trust, and i'm sorry to say that this is something that this relationship in lacking.
He has got no respect or regard that he is engaged to be married,... (read in full...)
The man I am dating told me he still loves his ex
Q. Hi I’ve just started a new relationship I really like him I split with my partner a year ago he split with his 4 months ago we were in bed last night and he told me he still loves his ex so obviously now I am confused as to what to do I know I ...
A. 10 July 2020: What a time to tell someone they are still in love with their ex, when they are in bed with someone they have just started dating.
So many people come out of lenthy relationships and start getting into the dating scene way to soon. Its so importan... (read in full...)
I thought it was a golden rule, so why do so many people break it?
Q. I’ve always heard that one of the golden rules of first dates is to never talk about exes. But often on first dates (or during online dating app pre-date talking), I'm asked about past relationships like how long did it last? why did it end? etc. ...
A. 8 July 2020: I think its just the getting to know you phase, and someone is just trying to gage whether you are a good candidate to get into a relationship with.
With questions such as how long you been single, how long was you in a relationship for etc thes... (read in full...)
We are broken up but I still love him. Should I delete his number?
Q. I have split with my boyfriend and I still love him. He says he wants me to stop contacting him. But I think he's just angry at me and deep down he loves me. Should I delete his number as I won't be able to contact him ever again if I do...
A. 4 July 2020: How long was the pair of you together? What was the reasons for your relationship split?.
Without knowing anything about your situation here, it sounds like the relationship is over and he wants to move on. What happened for him to be angry at... (read in full...)
How do I handle this? A co-worker likes me but I am dating his friend
Q. Dear aunts and uncle, Last October I got promoted to a senior IT tech at my company and with the promotion i was assigned to a whole new team. Within a week of me being there one of my new coworkers ,lets call him Michael, started flirting with me ...
A. 2 July 2020: i always go along with its never a good idea to date and have relationships with co-workers. All is good when things are going well. But when/if things don't work out it can become very awkward having to still see them every day. Not only awkward ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 a virgin, he's 43 married and wants to have sex with me
Q. Hi, Im 17 and Ive recently come into contact with a 43 year old man who wants to have sex with me. He's married and Im a virgin. I want to have sex with him but Im worried it's illegal and I'm worried about what people might say if I tell them I l...
A. 2 July 2020: That's two downsides, yes he is married, and yes he is much older, 26 years older infact.
I think if you go through with this you will regret it later on and come to wish you haden't
The fact is you want to have sex with him because you beli... (read in full...)
Why would my sister ignore my emails but put on quite the show when my brother is privy to the email?
Q. Thank you in advance to all who take the time to answer here. I have one brother and one sister. I am in the middle in age. I find that if I send an email to my sister giving all my news and asking about her news lately she has been ignor...
A. 28 June 2020: Without knowing the past history of the last 50-60 years its difficult to say why your sister would ignore your emails, this is siblings for you i guess.
Maybe she is jealous of your relationship with your brother, which given the age bracket ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets annoyed with my questions
Q. My boyfriend gets annoyed with my questions. He says I ask a lot of questions but I think it's a way to keep up with a conversation. He says there's Different ways to communicate without asking. We are in a long distance relationship this really ...
A. 26 June 2020: How Long have you been in a LDR with your boyfriend?. How often do you meet up and spend time together.
I assume that being in a LDR you guy's don't see each other very often. So you would think that he would be happy to hear from you, and have... (read in full...)
How do I handle my uncomfortableness with having sex?
Q. Dear cupids, I've recently met someone whom I've made a great connection with. We met about a month ago and have had a great time getting to know each other. Last night was the first time we had sex. Why do I feel awkward about things? I've be...
A. 26 June 2020: Its good that you have found someone who understands how you are feeling and is also willing to wait until you are ready. Sounds like you have found a good one there.
That"s the thing about past relationships, we can learn from them, with the bene... (read in full...)
We had some good dates and now he messaged me and said he's not ready for a relationship
Q. I went on a few dates with a guy and they seemed to go really well. He’s very shy and has had a difficult life from the snippets he’s told me. He’s experienced a lot of loss and due to a rift between his parents, he doesn’t see much of either of ...
A. 23 June 2020: you don't really know much about this guy other than that he has had a difficult life and has trouble letting people in.
It sounds like he does like you, you both seem to get along and share chemistry.
Maybe he got cold feet, maybe he has got... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of a crush on a Co-worker ?
Q. I am crushing on this guy I met at work. He is an agreeable and friendly sort. But asking him out or expressing my feelings to him is out of question since he is a senior colleague. I don't want to make things awkward at workplace or put my job on ...
A. 22 June 2020: I think its good that you realise that he is a senior colleague, and that expressing your feelings for him would be a bad idea.
If your finding it difficult bumping in to him every day at work now, imagine how difficult you would be finding ... (read in full...)
I want to start living as a woman. How do I tell my wife?
Q. My wife started dressing me as a woman when we first started dating, we have since married and my dressing up as Joanne continues. About a year and a half ago, my wife brought up wanting to see me with a man while I am dressed as Joanne, I ...
A. 20 June 2020: I recall this post a few months back. diden't your wife want to record you being intimate with men, and the majority of the posts here all agreed that this was a bad idea.
I think with you dressing up as a woman, and now that your wife has seen... (read in full...)
Is it ok for my girlfriends male colleague to stay over at her house?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship where my girlfriend lives in England and I'm in Wales. I haven't seen her since the end of March due to lockdown and even though things are now easing slightly regarding lockdown, the rules/guidance a...
A. 20 June 2020: I can see why you are uncomfortable with this, who woulden't be, also coupled with the fact that he is 22 years younger than her.
Surely she must have female friends that she knows who she could share time with. Instead she has chosen a young gu... (read in full...)
I want to move on from a relationship that left me broken.
Q. This relationship has left me broken and I really don't know how to move forward. I was with him on and off for the past year and it was the best time of my life. We have so much in common, got along beautifully and never fought. He has a young son ...
A. 18 June 2020: No one really knows if they are a perfect little family, that's just pure speculation. No one is going to look grumpy and miserable if they are having their picture taken to then be put on social media.
Whether they are happy or unhappy is reall... (read in full...)
I want to move on from a relationship that left me broken.
Q. This relationship has left me broken and I really don't know how to move forward. I was with him on and off for the past year and it was the best time of my life. We have so much in common, got along beautifully and never fought. He has a young son ...
A. 17 June 2020: I know its hard, when you really like someone and have strong feelings for them its really difficult when it does not work out, or they leave you for someone else.
I don't think we are ever going to know the the situation he was in with his ex, ... (read in full...)
I've been in abusive relationships and worry the problem might have been me!
Q. The last four years of my life have been a world wind. I was in an abusive relationship which he was charged twice for assault and I still never had the power to leave. The last 2 year of the relationship (what I know of) I was cheated on ...
A. 14 June 2020: Its terrible what you have been through in your last two relationships, i feel for you, but you 100% did the right thing by leaving.
There is no way you are the problem so don't ever think that. You was just unlucky enough to meet some not nice... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, havent told hubby nor my sister in law
Q. I recently found out that I’m about 7 weeks pregnant. I haven’t told my husband because I don’t know how he would react. He Lost his job because of this pandemic. My sister in law has also been trying for a baby for many years and I don’t know how ...
A. 14 June 2020: I think you are going to have to tell your husband you are pregnant sooner rather than later.
Marriage is built on trust, and you not telling him that you are 7 week's pregnant is not good. Its better he finds out by you being honest and telling ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lives with his ex and I'm not comfortable with it
Q. Hello, I met my bf on a dating site and he is a pretty good guy. A few things I find a bit concerning though. He lives with his ex. Him and I live in different provinces so we dont see one another much. My bf and his ex are raising a child ...
A. 8 June 2020: Your right when you say that if anything where to happen with you two then he can't be living with his ex.
Yes respect that he is helping being a dad for the 12 year old girl, but he could still do this and not be under the same roof. So why is h... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my older girlfriend?
Q. Hey everyone, I guess I am considering breaking up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years. For the past 6 months I feel we have been drifting apart romantically. Sex went from once every 2 weeks to once every 2 months. I stopped sleeping in the same b...
A. 7 June 2020: It seems that you have both just naturally drifted apart, so probably best you just be open and honest with her and end things.
Normally i say that age is just a number at the end of the day, as long as its above the age of consent of course, ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my neighbor about noise even though we've never met?
Q. Hello, I live in a students residence. I was trying to sleep, but I heard some noises coming from my neighbor's room. We don't know each other, never met. I am not sure if he is having sex with someone, or his bed is just very squeaky someho...
A. 7 June 2020: It's a tricky one really. I think if the noise was loud thumping music going on into the early hours, or an aspiring drummer practicing at night time that went on for a number of weeks is when i would go over and say something.
I assume as you a... (read in full...)
Why is this married coworker trying to come in between 2 single coworkers?
Q. So there is this colleague at work who used to be quite friendly. We both hail from the same city and had a good rapport with one another. We are both single. And we have been quite attracted to one another. I have been plannin to ask him out. But a ...
A. 3 June 2020: Its hard to say if he like's you or not. If you want to know his feelings for you find out when you are off duty and not on work time.
The female co-worker is just doing her duties of being the person you report too. If she see's you chatting... (read in full...)
Is this guy trying to make me pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone This is my first time posting on this, and my friend told me its very helpfull, im not sure how much details to go into but this has really confused me and have asked a few people but not really had a answer lol, So a guy im seeing af...
A. 31 May 2020: He had already ejaculated inside you, so once this has happened rubbing around it, or pushing it in further would not make any difference at all.
I assume that you are on some form of contraception?.
I think that maybe he was just trying to p... (read in full...)
My wife says my vest is embarrassing.
Q. There's a TV show about a motorcycle club called Sons of anarchy. I bought a vest like the ones worn on the show by the actors. I have a motorcycle and I'm such a fan of that TV show. My wife says it would be embarrassing to wear it as people w...
A. 31 May 2020: If you like the vest and want to wear it, it should not matter what anybody else thinks, just what you think.
I don't think people would make fun of you in secret, its a Sons of Anarchy vest, not an all in one clown suit.
Wear it, and ... (read in full...)
I've met a guy I like, but he is friends with my ex baby daddy.
Q. I’m trying to decide if a guy is interested in me. He is a divorced single Dad. The issue is he is friends with my ex baby daddy. We saw each other out with our kids. His daughter is friends with my oldest daughter. So I asked if she could come over ...
A. 31 May 2020: I think its all still in the early stages of the getting to know each other phase so would not read to much in to anything yet.
I may very well be that he does like you, you both do seem to get along ok and enjoy each other company.
I would... (read in full...)
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