We're in our 80s and my wife is becoming aggressive
Q. i am in my 80's and have been married for over 60 my wife is getting very aggresive and whilst I try io get out of her way { probably for 4 hours} this doesnt do anything for the situation. These arguements with my wife shouting and banging around ...
A. 23 January 2022: I have to agree with YCNBS,
She might not be in control of that anger. It's not uncommon that people with dementia have outbursts of anger. Some just forget where they are, and who people are, others are angry and scared.
I found this link ... (read in full...)
My stingy friend blew off my birthday
Q. My friend is so stingy. And kind of selfish. She’s never offered to pay for anything and always finds excuses to get out of having to but never refuses and even takes advantage when others are generous with her. She also always comes up with ex...
A. 22 January 2022: OP
You bring up SO many situations and scenarios of her being a SHITTY SHITTY friend yet YOU (yes, YOU) keep inviting her!
You invited her to another friend's gathering with a nice food spread and she pigged out. What did you do? Just watch h... (read in full...)
My boss is making my work place miserable
Q. Hello all, I have a situation where I don’t know what to do. My boss hates me why I don’t know. My boss has favorites I work for an apartment complex and there are several properties that this company owns. I am the manager and I have a leas...
A. 22 January 2022: Take copious notes.
Make sure you document EVERYTHING - Send an e-mail requesting the boss to sign (whatever needs to be signed) don't just ASK her in person. SO you have a papertrail. Make sure you DATE everything.
Bring it up with your boss t... (read in full...)
Friend screwed me over now I don't want to see him
Q. I was just screwed over by my former coworker/friend He is a former coworker from my 2nd job that I helped get into my 1st job. When he got hired, he got a sign on bonus. And I get a referral bonus. He asked me to split my referral bonus with ...
A. 22 January 2022: Be glad he is avoiding you, then YOU don't have to do so.
Just take this as a lesson :) Some people are arseholes. This guy certainly is.
Shake it off. No point in wasting any more thoughts and emotions on this loser.
You did a nice thing ... (read in full...)
My husband has quit four good paying jobs this year and I am tired of it
Q. I am pissed my husband has had 4 good paying jobs with in the last year. He always ends up quitting because he is upset about something. He always finds drama at his jobs and he always finds something to complain about. He never takes my advice ...
A. 21 January 2022: Let's start with your last sentence:
"Yes.... I know I made a big mistake."
So FIX that mistake. Take your tea-set and go stay with your family or ask HIM to go home to HIS until you two can get into some couples counseling OR go for a divorce.
... (read in full...)
Do other men like to see their wives flash their breasts?
Q. When weareout on vacation my wife likes to leave her blouse half open without a bra or halter on. It gets me aroused and I see many men sneak a peak any other men like their wife to flash?...
A. 21 January 2022: Does it matter if other men like it?
If your wife (and you) enjoy these kinds of little games, then you two do you.... (read in full...)
Does yoga make sex better?
Q. wellness blogs recommend yoga for a better sex life, as well as personal accounts of the practice improving sexual experience. How can yoga make for a better sex life and better sex? What yoga moves can help with sex? ...
A. 21 January 2022: Can it make the sex better?
Yes and no.
Regular exercise keeps your body more "limber" and especially Yoga can help your pelvic muscles (think Kegels) be in a better condition (so to speak) and the blood flow to all of your body is improved... (read in full...)
Friend screwed me over now I don't want to see him
Q. I was just screwed over by my former coworker/friend He is a former coworker from my 2nd job that I helped get into my 1st job. When he got hired, he got a sign on bonus. And I get a referral bonus. He asked me to split my referral bonus with ...
A. 21 January 2022: Oh, he is a petty Pete!
So you HELPED him get this job and he didn't put your name down for it?!
Yeah, that would be the LAST time I give that dude any help whatsoever.
Hopefully, he won't stay long OR you find a better job elsewhere.
... (read in full...)
How do I fight what I feel when I set up boundaries towards others?
Q. How do I fight the unpleasantness I feel when I need to: set boundaries, stand up for myself, say no... I've ALWAYS had this problem. I grew up with a single mother, who was a strong, smart and a funny woman. She was kind and loving and proud...
A. 20 January 2022: Learning to set boundaries takes time and well, commitment.
My advice? Start out with something easy to say no to. Just because you WANT to say no. It's OK to say no! And it's OK to say yes. Being kind, being helpful, supporting family, friends ... (read in full...)
Friend screwed me over now I don't want to see him
Q. I was just screwed over by my former coworker/friend He is a former coworker from my 2nd job that I helped get into my 1st job. When he got hired, he got a sign on bonus. And I get a referral bonus. He asked me to split my referral bonus with ...
A. 20 January 2022: I will echo Kenny,
"He say's he is splitting it with new co-workers, but is he really?. Is he just saying this to make you feel bad in the hope that you will give in and split your money?."
Yeah, I think he is bullshitting about that, but ... (read in full...)
All his conversations revolve around money
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together about 6 months. He's obsessed with money. He believes he will be very rich and says it's in his DNA lol. However it disturbs me because that's all he thinks about. Most conversations revolve around money. ...
A. 20 January 2022: If he was raised poor then money is definitely NOT in his "DNA", and like FA pointed out so cleverly, money has nothing to do with DNA, and working part-time will HARDLY make him wealthy in any line of business.
Maybe he is all talk? He knows YO... (read in full...)
My mother has always had toxic relationships with men
Q. My mom has always had toxic relationships. First my dad, she had me and my 3 sisters, he did drugs and sexually abused me as a child. When she left him about a year went by and Then she got with my other sisters dad. Which was very toxic as well, ...
A. 20 January 2022: I understand why you stick around and help out with your sister, you went through something as a child NO child should ever have to deal with. You want to protect your little sister.
And I also TOTALLY understand your frustration with your mom... (read in full...)
Who is to blame for initiating the wife swap?
Q. when a husband asks his wife if she would agree to a wife swap she then says no,then he asks again and she says she will think about it, and then decides she would do so knowing her yes would mean an almost certain swap would then happen. where ...
A. 19 January 2022: Oh, do tell FA!
Or link to the post (from another site but the same poster, correct?)... (read in full...)
I gave up my virginity long ago and have had guilt about it ever since
Q. I lost my virginity a long time ago to someone I had only met that day. I have always blamed myself and been quite embarrassed about it but in no way felt victimised or assaulted. But recently it has been bothering me because I consented to a point ...
A. 19 January 2022: I have to agree with FA,
That was not a fun first time. For several reasons.
You two didn't really know each other, so there was no emotional bond. Which was probably also why he could "discard" you so fast after.
OP, many many people ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took me for granted we broke up. Now hes hurt and family wants me to help
Q. My ex boyfriend stole from me some money and did not pay back ..He only apologized ...so since I had had enough of him taking me for granted ; I ended the relationship and told him that I will not continue with this relationship if he doesn’t pay ...
A. 18 January 2022: Just tell them you wish him a speedy recovery and that you are no longer dating him. I think you did the right thing here.
If they keep contacting you, then you BLOCK their numbers.
You don't need to rush to his side because he got into an a... (read in full...)
Who is to blame for initiating the wife swap?
Q. when a husband asks his wife if she would agree to a wife swap she then says no,then he asks again and she says she will think about it, and then decides she would do so knowing her yes would mean an almost certain swap would then happen. where ...
A. 18 January 2022: I still think the husband is "to blame" if it actually happens.
HE is the one wanting to invite other people into the marriage bed.
HE is also the one who DID NOT respect the wife's NO the first time but kept asking.
Yes, the wife said ye... (read in full...)
I am confused about how my friend is acting towards his estranged wife
Q. A male friend of mine is going through a divorce. His wife refuses to leave the home so they are living in separate rooms in the same home. What blows my mind is he said sometimes she makes him dinner or breakfast and even though he talks terrible ...
A. 16 January 2022: Legally, if either of them leaves the house the other can claim a bigger stake in the property and or use it as "ammo" (abandonment) - so they both stay.
Plus perhaps either (or both) can't afford the expenses of two households for now.
Seems l... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for calling baby daddy when his son cries for him?
Q. Hi all. I have a child for a married man. His wife, then fiance broke up with him a couple months before they got married. During that break up period we had sex Before they started dating, we used to have casual sex. And he treated me like I was ...
A. 16 January 2022: Yes, you are wrong.
A two-year-old doesn't NEED to talk to "daddy" late at night or in the middle of the night or early morning. What you are doing is emotional blackmail, petty and manipulative. What exactly is the "baby-daddy" supposed to do fo... (read in full...)
13 year relationship, feel like a punk that her past started to bother me - age 30
Q. First off I feel weird/bad for even making this post. Our relationship is actually really good, but we had a rough year due to stuff that was out of our hands, but is finally ending february 1st. We are both 30, have been together since w...
A. 16 January 2022: Talk to a counselor. Get your head around to accepting that SHe is who is and has the past that she does. She can't change the past, neither can you.
There is some retroactive jealousy going on with you. And I think the only way you will be able ... (read in full...)
My SO upset that I look at my ex on social mediaa
Q. Would you consider it a big issue if you’re significant other looked at their ex’s social media profile? My significant other is upset with me as he went through my phone and saw I searched an ex’s name on social media. I’m not in contact with them. ...
A. 16 January 2022: I think many people feel that "pang of curiosity" about an ex, and it doesn't necessarily mean that these people will then cheat with said sex.
I will agree with FA that quite often people who are NOT happy in their relationship start to look up ... (read in full...)
The woman I had an affair with is having a hard time with our official relationship. How do I ease her fears?
Q. Hi. I am not used to seeking advice, especially on a public site but I am at a complete loss and I will try anything to get a handle on this. Please feel free to weigh in here. First a brief background. My girlfriend and I met by having an affair...
A. 14 January 2022: Most relationships that started out as affairs rarely work out. FOR A REASON.
Both parties know they can not trust each other any further than they can toss them.
Your GF has VERY some valid points. You cheated WITH her so you are capable of c... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to be friends with her ex
Q. So I have been dating this girl for a little over two months. A few months prior to us starting to date she ended a 5 year relationship with another guy. She said it ended amicably and that they had taken breaks before but this was different. She ...
A. 14 January 2022: I have to agree with Kenny.
She isn't over him. While she claims that she isn't romantically interested in him, she wants to keep him around in her life. He is her backup. She knows HE wants her if things with you don't work out. They have 5 Y... (read in full...)
Should I continue talking to the football manager, or leave it?
Q. Hi there Hope everyone is okay and your keeping yourself all safe from covid, the story begins and it’s not often about football. I love football, I’m a fan of the game and used to play when I was younger, and wasn’t that good but I still enjo...
A. 14 January 2022: I agree with Ciar,
If you back off a bit and he DOES contact you, he obviously wants to chat. If he DOESN'T he is either busy or just not that keen on chatting. Both are OK.
It's easy to feel like you are getting to know someone online, ... (read in full...)
I thought she was my friend but she betrayed me
Q. when I was at primary school, was left out of things and the parents would take their children away from me to play, because they were worried that I would hurt them or do something for much worse, growing up this really hurt me and people not unde...
A. 13 January 2022: Yikes!
I'm sorry OP you have had to deal with this kind of discrimination as a kid and I'm glad to hear you are overcoming a lot of it and kept on doing good.
Having a learning difficulty doesn't make you a bad person, or stupid, unkind o... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend using me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 years. First 2 years were very good. We got along most times a few disagreements, mostly over money. The last 2 years have been not good. He gets agitated, and annoyed easily with me. He asks for ...
A. 13 January 2022: Yes, I think he was using you and taking you for granted.
It's not NORMAL that a GF (or BF) gives their partner an allowance. You are NOT married. You are NOT financially responsible for him. YOU do not OWE him a penny! You are not his mommy. I... (read in full...)
Deep down I don't fancy him. Should I give him a chance anyway?
Q. I’m torn as to whether or not I should go out with a guy who I don’t really fancy but I know holds a torch for me. He has always been really nice to me as a friend, though to be honest I have always kept him at arm’s length because of how much I ...
A. 13 January 2022: Nope leave him be, or rather keep him as a platonic friend only. Sure he wants more, but you realllllly don't. Not with him.
Just because he was kind and remembered your birthday doesn't mean he would be a good fit. The fact that you aren't i... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to her or just let it go?
Q. a couple of years ago, I was on a social media site. I messaged a female who caught my eye and we instantly clicked. both daft as each other and we had things on common. we both like football, reading and going to the pictures. when we met each oth...
A. 11 January 2022: If she has a BF/partner now, then o, don't contact her.
If she is single, do you really want to waste more time on her? It didn't work out FOR A REASON. Has anything really changed?
I think she is a bit of a "fantasy" girl for you. Someone you... (read in full...)
Should my sister in law contribute to my dental repair bill?
Q. In a tragic accident, my sister in law kicked a soccerball in my face and broke several teeth, total $4,000 in dental and medical to date, with additional damage unassessed (insane amount of pain, general oral health down, gum line receding because ...
A. 11 January 2022: I agree with CMMP,
You were a willing participant, it was accidental so I am not sure how she is responsible for the costs.
It sucks, but that is reality.... (read in full...)
A former colleague's sister contacted me to say I'd overstepped
Q. Hi aunts a female colleague who used to work at the company I work at, recently left to go back to university. while I was sad to see her go, I wished her good luck and we remained in contact for a few months. then out the blue, I get a message fr...
A. 10 January 2022: Are you sure it's from the sister?
Not sure what is going in with this former colleague and her sister but DO print out whatever convo has existed and SAVE any conversations before they delete them and "fudge" some fake stuff and cause you trou... (read in full...)
My friend is dating a 28 year old
Q. A few years ago, my best friend got divorced from her husband and the father of her two young kids. I fully supported her throughout the separation and divorce, and was happy to be there for her during her time of need. She was blindsided by her ...
A. 8 January 2022: You say you don't want her to feel judged, so why are you judging?
You don't know him. You have no idea of his intentions and capabilities as a partner.
You can venture a guess, and you might be right (you might be wrong).
It is not your ... (read in full...)
Is it possible my boyfriend's history of abuse could fuel his sexual tastes?
Q. My boyfriend always has to or wants to stick at least his fingers if not a vibrator in my anus to be able to get off. Why? I know a lil of his past history and he could have been abused in some way. Would something like that cause people problems...
A. 7 January 2022: I have to agree, for me (at least) it comes down to DO YOU enjoy this or not?
If you enjoy it, OK
If you don't, then you need to have a talk about it. It sounds more like a "porn notion" (as in, something he has seen or porn and presumes ALL... (read in full...)
Have I already blown it with her?
Q. I'm really struggling with this girl I like. We've been on a few dates but because of how her last couple of boyfriends were with her she's got this impression that I'm the same and am gonna treat her like s*** basically. She's not said outright ...
A. 7 January 2022: Also, OP
This isn't YOUR fault. YOU didn't blow it with her.
SHE just shouldn't be dating until she works on what she went through and how to recognize red flags and lousy dudes.
I just wanted you to know that.
... (read in full...)
Things went downhill after I complimented her on her 'hour glass' figure
Q. I recently moved here from Scotland. I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a party a few weeks ago. It was a public event at an art gallery. She was a high-school teacher in her early 30s. We had been talking for a good half-hour and ...
A. 7 January 2022: Amen to Ciar.
YOU DO NOT comment on someone's body, mate! That is not a compliment. That will undoubtedly come across as an assessment of a piece of meat! And 30 minutes into a conversation you think you need to "compliment" her on her BODY sha... (read in full...)
Have I already blown it with her?
Q. I'm really struggling with this girl I like. We've been on a few dates but because of how her last couple of boyfriends were with her she's got this impression that I'm the same and am gonna treat her like s*** basically. She's not said outright ...
A. 7 January 2022: You can't convince her of anything she doesn't want to hear.
I can understand that she has had some bad experiences in the past and probably doesn't TRUST herself to "pick" a decent guy after two losers. BUT taking it out on you is not fair, an... (read in full...)
My husbands stays out all night with his younger single friends
Q. Hello aunts and uncles My husband goes out with his buddies until 5 or 6 am and feels I have a problem by mentioning it. It disturbs me a married man behaving this way. Most of his friends are younger and single. Don't I have the right...
A. 6 January 2022: This would be a total deal-breaker for me, personally.
Was he like this before marriage? And you didn't see it? Or thought it would change once married? Did you two ever discuss socializing separately and together?
I think if this makes you u... (read in full...)
People asking for money on social media
Q. Hello ?? Social media has been a good way to make new friends. I have made a couple of long lasting friendships, however, it's also frustrating when you talk to people and they seem to feel it's okay to ask for money. Most times it's men ...
A. 6 January 2022: They do it because they have seen it work for others. And it's an easy way to make money, just milking desperate and lonely foreigners, all they have to do is write "sweet nothing", have internet access and voila! money in the bank.
It's a simple... (read in full...)
Should I respond to my friend's comment about infidelity?
Q. Hi everyone, I was talking to a female coworker/friend last week. She is married. SHe was telling me about another woman's husband that we both know, who was cheating. My friend said he does his "extracurricular activities, but they all do.." I ...
A. 6 January 2022: I agree with Ciar,
Her marital problems are not yours. This is a coworker. A married coworker. Keep things professional.
You are not her therapist or marriage counselor.
What do I make of her statement? That she might just have been agr... (read in full...)
After 8 years, I'm still not over him
Q. I feel a lot of people may think when reading this that i should be over it by now and i think i should but it is very hard . Around 8 years ago i got talking to someone at college and began to like him , alot of things went on between us , but...
A. 4 January 2022: I have to agree with WiseOwlE
You are obsessing over a guy who isn't worth your time of day. You are obsessing because you don't like the notion of being rejected.
While I don't get the first part, I get that rejection hurts but it's not an ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about my wife's relationship with my stepson
Q. I am worried that my wife's attitude towards her relationship with my stepson is damaging our relationship. I met her when he was 11 years old. We have been married for 10 years, and he is a good, rounded lad at 21 now and in the army. He stayed...
A. 4 January 2022: I think it's normal for a young adult being back "home" to be in and out of the house. My 19-year-old daughter is home on Christmas break from Uni and she is out and about or having friends over every other day. She does TELL me when friends are ... (read in full...)
Ever since our threesome, I'm quite attracted to this man
Q. im 26 years old.female, married 3 years ,no kids and need some advice...about a year ago my husband and i had a threesome with a single friend of ours, after having a few drinks together at a bar...it wasnt my idea for this to happen , but it ...
A. 4 January 2022: You are a cheater.
Eventually, you will be found out, and then what?
Do you think your husband would want to be with you, knowing you are screwing a friend behind his back?
Do you think the friend would want you either? He is liking the... (read in full...)
Is it a game or is she genuinely interested?
Q. a female work colleague who I got on well with, left the company I work for, to go to university. we speak now and then on facebook, and she is good at getting back to me, surprisingly. when I last messaged, I didn’t get a reply, not that I was ...
A. 2 January 2022: It all depends, do you WANT coworkers on your Facebook?
If you aren't sure I'd leave the friend's request alone and not accept JUST yet. You don't HAVE to accept all friend
requests you get.
And yes, some people like to snoop.
Personall... (read in full...)
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