Boyfriends dads wedding is making me feel resentful and bitter.
Q. So, this is a little bit of a long story, and I am very much aware I may be judged as selfish and attention seeking. I just needed to get this out of my system as I feel like it’s going to drive me mad, and friends tend to be more biased in a ...
A. 3 February 2022: EDIT
I do hate you cant go in and edit a post after you hit post.. so sorry.
I wrote:
"He needs to be responsible for you."
What It should have been this:
"He needs to be responsible for HIMSELF." Financially and otherwise. Peo... (read in full...)
How do I get her to talk about sex?
Q. I have known this very beautiful and fun woman in my neighborhood for about ten years. We have been friends and have enjoyed doing many things together. I am 20 and she is 35. About a year ago she was divorced and her ex is not in the picture. She ...
A. 2 February 2022: Maybe she has realized how inappropriate it is for her to have sex with someone who is BARELY an adult.
Or she doesn't want to get too emotionally attached to a young adult so sex is off the table.
She has already (in not so many words) shut... (read in full...)
How can I forgive my mother and be at peace?
Q. Hello, I hope you're all doing well. I am a 20 year old woman who lives in a chaotic family. My mom was abused emotionally and physically by my dad for years, so did I (from my mother and father). Both are still together, however, they are cheating ...
A. 2 February 2022: If you live with them, save up and MOVE out ASAP.
If you at some point can find a job further away, then take it and move away and CUT all contact.
You ask how you can forgive her, and find peace.
Forgive her for your OWN sake. ACCEPT th... (read in full...)
I need help with an overbearing mother in law
Q. Hi everyone, need some help with an overbearing mother in law. I had a baby around 6 months ago and from the very moment she has been round our place every other day. Since hitting the 4 months mark I started taking my LO to baby classes and being ...
A. 2 February 2022: You don't have a MIL issue, you have a husband issue.
He is a mommy's boy?
Sit your husband down, set your boundaries CLEARLY.
Calling or being invited BEFORE showing up is normal and totally OK to expect.
Then if they can do that mayb... (read in full...)
Boyfriends dads wedding is making me feel resentful and bitter.
Q. So, this is a little bit of a long story, and I am very much aware I may be judged as selfish and attention seeking. I just needed to get this out of my system as I feel like it’s going to drive me mad, and friends tend to be more biased in a ...
A. 1 February 2022: Ah OP,
Se sense a lot of jealousy and perhaps a bit of insecurity from you. When I say insecurity, I mean in your relationship, not you "per se".
The jealousy is petty, OP. Who gets married when isn't a competition.
You say you love your... (read in full...)
Should I find out who made these accusations?
Q. after working for a number of years at a car business. I decided to resign and move onto other things. people were sad to see me go, where others were pleased I was going. someone from work has said, who I don’t know that I’m slagging off their ...
A. 1 February 2022: I have to agree with Kenny,
Not much point in doing this. If anyone OF importance contacts you, just tell the truth that you never did that. Also, If you didn't do it, the "accuser" can't prove it.
I'm curious, who told you that "rumor"?
... (read in full...)
Should I let my teenaged daughter date?
Q. I understand that girls will always be more mature than boys. Naturally, girls physically mature faster as they go through puberty earlier than their male counterparts. This brings me to my daughter who is a sophomore in high school. She is smart...
A. 1 February 2022: Girls are not REALLY more mature than boys, they are just "expected" to know better and "behave" better than boys.
Telling a teen that they CAN'T date - is not going to stop them. Telling a teen that they CAN'T kiss someone or have sex is NOT goin... (read in full...)
Dont stay in troubled relationships
Q. Hello, I was engaged, we were together until maybe 3 weeks ago. We were together about 5 years in total. It started out beautifully. He was charismatic, very sweet and loving. The last two years were terrible. Alot of emotional abu...
A. 1 February 2022: I'm glad you realized YOUR worth before you got seriously hurt.
Remember THIS is NOT your fault that he did this. OK?
His behavior was/is never OK.
Take this as a lesson. A costly lesson.
Keep the No Contact - make sure all your soc... (read in full...)
What are the perks of moving in together?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 11 months and has invited me to move in with her. I am thinking of it. We are both 26. Perhaps those who have moved in together can give some advice. What are the Perks of Moving in Together? Do most of you ...
A. 1 February 2022: Absolutely listen to Kenny and FA!
It would be a VERY good idea to sit down and talk about expectations.
Such as,
Who pays what?
Rent, food, utilities, extras, etc.
What chores need to be done, and who will do them?
Who cooks?
W... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mom what I seen?
Q. I am 24. My mom is 44 she and divorced. has been happier and dressing more attractively lately. one day when I was looking after her garden I came in to get a drink and I saw her lying nude with some guy. It looked like she was having sex. I reture...
A. 1 February 2022: She is a single woman, and you are a grown man, so she can do what she wants in HER house.
If you do feel you need to mention it, just say, I'm sorry if I interrupted you X-day when I went inside for a drink. IF she wants to discuss it she will... (read in full...)
What do they feel?
Q. what do cheating wives think when they are about to feel strangers cock fo the first time...
A. 30 January 2022: I have never cheated so I can't give you "direct advice" from experience.
Also, how would that kind of answer help you?... (read in full...)
Can the friendship still survive or is it definitely over?
Q. after eight years at a company I worked for, being sworn at and being on poor wages. I resigned from, as the assistant boss was disrespectful to me and has no compassion for other people. a female collegue who I’ve known for many years, decided to ...
A. 29 January 2022: Like you said, Facebook can be toxic.
It seems like the chick who sent you the picture of the bearded lipstick "person"? Probably were thinking they were OH so funny or she wanted to create some drama. Either way, your best BET is to unfriend... (read in full...)
I am very nervous about getting naked in front of my boyfriend
Q. I am a 34 year old female looking to take things to the next level with my current boyfriend. I have been divorced for 18 months and was with my ex for almost ten years. Even though I was married, I am rather inexperienced. I have only ever h...
A. 29 January 2022: I'd say just go slow. If you sare till a little vary of his "true intent" then just hold off on the sex a bit. There is no rush to get naked with each other.
Get to know him better. When YOU feel ready then talk to him before you get in bed. Let... (read in full...)
The more I know about his life, the more I want to walk away
Q. I’m in a relationship with a man with kids. I don’t have any and not thinking of wanting anytime soon. I haven’t met his kids and I don’t want to push him on meeting them. The more I get to know the situation with his life, the more I feel like ...
A. 29 January 2022: OP,
That should give you some sense of closure. That HE said he didn't DO anything wrong just helping out the ex.
They haven't been together for 8 YEARS and he still is at her beck and call. One thing if the help was about or for his daughter... (read in full...)
No sex in 27 years. Will I be able to have it?
Q. I havent had sex for 27 years due to my husband being unable. Now that I ama widow what if I want sex with another man? will it be possible?...
A. 29 January 2022: Sure, just go slow. Take your time getting to know him and his likes dislikes and your own.
... (read in full...)
How Should I Respond to My Boyfriend's Sister After a Bad Conversation?
Q. Context: I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. It's been tough with his family. I got along with one of his sisters and at one point considered her a friend. The other sister, I've never gotten along with but kept things cordial. His family ...
A. 29 January 2022: "She also said that because of events that happened in the past, she's giving me the "option" to step back from the role in her wedding."
"Do I reach out to her to make amends even though she was horrible to me?"
Just tell her you will respect... (read in full...)
My husband says I am at fault for not trusting him but is he the one who is really at fault?
Q. Sort of beside myself. My husband of 9 years says I have anxiety and it is my fault that I do not trust him, because I have anxiety. But I think the fault is his. I recently found a number on his phone under Fed Ex and it was a young woman...NO...
A. 29 January 2022: A 13 year old girl is not a "young woman" she is a CHILD.
" I made him erase the number but it popped up again on his phone a month later, and he then said the same thing. He has no idea how that happened."
Erasing the number doesn't make the... (read in full...)
What do they feel?
Q. what do cheating wives think when they are about to feel strangers cock fo the first time...
A. 29 January 2022: Who knows?
I don't generally believe there is a LOT of "thinking" going on when people (of either sex) are cheating.
They are probably feeling a bit of a rush because they know what they are doing is "wrong" and "forbidden" but they don't CARE ... (read in full...)
What do these girls want?
Q. Do girls actually want you to touch or flirt with them in the stores? Are there any signs girls give to show they have interest? I seem to run into girls who seem to get very close to me, even bend down in front of me or bump into me at stores but...
A. 29 January 2022: No, they don't want you to touch them. They want to FEEL safe while flirting.
They want you to notice, maybe say hi and have a conversation. Not to be groped by a total stranger they find cute.
Flirting doesn't always mean they are interested. ... (read in full...)
Would a tall woman go out with a shorter guy?
Q. Im 5’4’ and like a woman who is about 6'4" she has an athletic frame from sports and works out regularly. I can honestly say I like her figure and personality.im thinking about asking her out. Any advice for asking out a taller woman? Would a ...
A. 29 January 2022: Some would, some would not.
She might, she might not. Only way to know is to ask her out. If she declines it can be for MANY other reasons than your height.
Just accept a yes or a no gracefully and respectfully.
... (read in full...)
Do I tell my mom that I am dating her friend?
Q. I’m a 31-year-old guy, single, normal dating history. A few months ago, a friend of my mom’s called me and asked if I’d like to get together for coffee. I had met her at my mom’s house a couple of weeks prior and we had a nice talk. I thought ...
A. 29 January 2022: You and your GF are in your 30's and 50's so OLD enough to make a choice of whom to date.
Tell your mom. Be matter of fact about it. She really doesn't get a say in whom you date. She might not like it, OK You could be dating a stranger to your ... (read in full...)
Have I been too forgiving?
Q. I’ve given my sister the benefit of the doubt after she tried to kiss my boyfriend on New Year’s Eve because she was drunk but have I been too soft on her? All of my friends seem to think so. Me and my boyfriend had a party at ours with a load...
A. 28 January 2022: Nah, I didn't miss the point Anon :)
I just wanted to point out that people in Europe start drinking earlier as the "norm". Not like American teens don't do the same.
And it was more to WiseOwlE's post
"She's only 19! She shouldn't have b... (read in full...)
Married 8 years and don't like having sex
Q. I have been married for 8 years now, but i don't like having sex.... I have pretended through out the marriage, used some lubricants and got on with it so to say. My husband has speculated that maybe i am gay because i never seem to be interest...
A. 28 January 2022: It was unkind to "pretend to like it". You should have been honest with your partner before marriage.
It could be that you are mostly asexual. So just not interested in sex at all.
It doesn't sound like a good idea to HAVE to get a bit drunk ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel embarrassed that I enjoyed anal sex?
Q. I tried anal sex with my husband for the first time the other morning and actually quite enjoyed it. But every time I think of it I cringe inside and I don’t know why. I just feel really embarrassed. My husband has only mentioned it once and that ...
A. 28 January 2022: "Maybe it’s because there’s a whole taboo amongst women about anal?"
I think there is a bigger taboo amongst men than women.
But I digress.
Why do you feel embarrassed? Hard to guess, OP Perhaps because it is taboo, perhaps because generall... (read in full...)
How to cope with losing a man I never had
Q. Hi there, Looking for some advice / help and opinions on how to cope with a man who has deeply hurt me. I can’t seem to get him out of my mind but crazy as it sounds we were not together. I am afraid this is a long story as I wanted to explai...
A. 28 January 2022: OP,
We can't read his mind any more than you can. And you have met the guy so possibly have a better read on the person and situation.
Maybe he is playing games?
Maybe the ex IS controlling and reading all his texts?
Maybe he just ... (read in full...)
Have I been too forgiving?
Q. I’ve given my sister the benefit of the doubt after she tried to kiss my boyfriend on New Year’s Eve because she was drunk but have I been too soft on her? All of my friends seem to think so. Me and my boyfriend had a party at ours with a load...
A. 27 January 2022: To the American Uncles and Aunties
The OP is from the UK - drinking is legal at 18. And in most European countries teens start around 16-17 and then start going to pubs/clubs and bars (and parties) around 18.
It's "normal" in most European cu... (read in full...)
How to cope with losing a man I never had
Q. Hi there, Looking for some advice / help and opinions on how to cope with a man who has deeply hurt me. I can’t seem to get him out of my mind but crazy as it sounds we were not together. I am afraid this is a long story as I wanted to explai...
A. 27 January 2022: I fully agree with YCANBS,
BEST thing you can do for yourself, is to BLOCK, DELETE and let it go.
You are fooling yourself by calling this a friendship. It wasn't. YOU wanted more, he CLAIMED he wanted more, until he didn't. He LOVES the idea o... (read in full...)
The more I know about his life, the more I want to walk away
Q. I’m in a relationship with a man with kids. I don’t have any and not thinking of wanting anytime soon. I haven’t met his kids and I don’t want to push him on meeting them. The more I get to know the situation with his life, the more I feel like ...
A. 27 January 2022: You know, OP
If you continue to date this guy, he will still prioritize his daughter above you. Which is fair.
BUT he will also prioritize the ex above you. You will come last. Every time.
You ask, if you should try harder?
No, OP - You... (read in full...)
Why is she lying to me?
Q. Hey, so I'd like to ask what to do as I was told awhile ago my partner was taking people home after work, not work colleagues shes taking men back to there home after her shift and she works in a pub. The pubs closing time is 12am midnight but shes ...
A. 27 January 2022: Is she driving home people that are too drunk to drive themselves or is she going HOME with men to "knock boots"?
It could be both, it could be either.
You know she is doing it, as you have proof.
So asking WHY she is lying is pointless.
... (read in full...)
Is there anything my husband and I can do to help our sons?
Q. I have two sons. John who is 39 years old and Rob who is 37 years old. I always thought that my sons were close. Rob is gay and has been officially together for 12 years (dating for five years, married for 7 years). But they have been friend...
A. 27 January 2022: We all have our limits.
I think you and your husband should stay out of it. Rob has set some rather firm boundaries and CHOSEN to go no contact with his brother. IF he at some point CHOOSES to talk to him again, then THAT is his choice.
John no... (read in full...)
I feel lost and spend all my time working
Q. I feel so lost. After my working week, there is nothing to do. I spend weekend working in my 2nd job and cleaning and preparing for next week. This cycle continues week in and week out. I did go away last weekend with friends but why have I just ...
A. 25 January 2022: This happens when people don't set goals, feel they don't have a purpose in life, are not fulfilled, and have little responsibility.
You are floundering.
What are your goals? For the next year, next 5?
Are they realistic?
How do you... (read in full...)
Is my partner a sex addict
Q. I think my partner is a sex addict. I cant be sure but having read online articles I am finding alot of matching information that match his habits. I'll give you a run down. My partner likes to masturbate at least ten times a week. His sex dr...
A. 25 January 2022: 3 things about your post strike me.
1. He has an unhealthy relationship with porn. 100%.
2. You two are not sexually compatible.
3. He sees you more as a prop than a partner (when it comes to sex) YOU seem to be there to fulfill whateve... (read in full...)
Have I been too forgiving?
Q. I’ve given my sister the benefit of the doubt after she tried to kiss my boyfriend on New Year’s Eve because she was drunk but have I been too soft on her? All of my friends seem to think so. Me and my boyfriend had a party at ours with a load...
A. 25 January 2022: I think you handled it with grace and decency.
Your sister is 19. She was drunk. Though at 19, she SHOULD know better.
I do think I would tell her she OWES your BF an apology for hitting on him. Drunk or not.
Your BF did the right thing t... (read in full...)
I'm worried because I can no longer keep up with my husband sexually
Q. I don’t know why but I feel really insecure because I don’t want sex as much anymore and my husband may end up leaving me because of it. Last week during a boozy get together with my husband and another couple we got talking about our sex lives. I...
A. 25 January 2022: Maybe go see your GYN?
And I DO think that in a 10+ year relationship it's not uncommon that the frequency drops down over time, but 2-3 a month seems pretty low for someone in your age group with a steady partner as the late 20 - to early 30... (read in full...)
Should I sue for discrimination and loss of earnings?
Q. I have been at a sports company, coming up to nine years. enjoy the job I do and sending off football teams across the country. the assistant boss who has a sister, her sister has grassed on me, because I’ve supposedly called her some name and is t...
A. 24 January 2022: Should you create another Facebook account?
Absolutely NOT!
As for suing your job for discrimination? I don't know, I'd probably talk to HR and get some LEGAL advice before trying to SUE anyone. Do you have proof of anything? I mean in order to... (read in full...)
How do I let go of the bad memories of toxic family?
Q. After decades of bad family relationships, I gathered the strength to leave some toxic people behind. I won’t bore you with details, as I am sure that you can imagine what narcissists can do to you if you let them. Especially if they have the ...
A. 24 January 2022: I think it's kind of normal for people to carry that baggage around but it seems like you are rummaging in old negative memories and that CAN become a habit.
I would suggest you talk to a therapist. Get some proper tools to first deal with, th... (read in full...)
Should I ask my wife to cheat?
Q. Is it completely absurd to fantasize about your wife doing something with another man (ex hand job, BJ, just kissing, intercourse)? My wife is extremely attractive, younger than me, and I have no desire to be with anyone else. However, I do ...
A. 24 January 2022: Fantasy is fantasy. It's NOT reality.
I'd wager that 90% of women would NOT want to be "shared" and passed around as party favors for YOUR sexual gratification. Because this is ALL about you.
In your fantasy you are 100% in control. Your wi... (read in full...)
I have allowed everyone to walk all over me
Q. I was too nice and too non confrontational to people in my life. I am recently married. Suddenly I'm coming to a full realization and pressure of allowing my parents, friends and many others disrespect me. Sometimes it's also my husband. I am at...
A. 23 January 2022: Small steps OP
Many girls (in all cultures) have been raised to "be nice" and "be kind" and "don't rock the boat". If it has been ingrained in you since you were little it's not so strange that you ARE this way.
Does it mean you ALWAYS have ... (read in full...)
I cant shake thefeeling that my partner is cheating
Q. I can't shift the feeling that my partner may be cheating. Wee have been together for 3 years now and in a lot of ways he is really good. However he is odd when it comes to his phone or social media. Anytime he goes out of room he takes his phone, I...
A. 23 January 2022: Does it automatically mean he is cheating?
No.
Does it mean he is probably doing things on that phone he doesn't want you to see?
Yes.
Could be porn. Could be he is gambling on some app. Could be he is chatting up old flames or new on... (read in full...)
Can I ask out my tutor?
Q. I have been single for almost 2 years now and in college. Well there's a Russian woman that is my tutor at that I really like and want to ask out. I'm wondering if its ok to ask out my tutor. She is smart, super cute, and I like her Russi...
A. 23 January 2022: So you are at minimum 18-19? Not 16-17?
Correct?
(not that age really matters in this answer).
She is your tutor. She is there to teach you. Not to be your love interest or flirt partner.
If you are BOTH college students, I'd say WAIT u... (read in full...)
We're in our 80s and my wife is becoming aggressive
Q. i am in my 80's and have been married for over 60 my wife is getting very aggresive and whilst I try io get out of her way { probably for 4 hours} this doesnt do anything for the situation. These arguements with my wife shouting and banging around ...
A. 23 January 2022: I have to agree with YCNBS,
She might not be in control of that anger. It's not uncommon that people with dementia have outbursts of anger. Some just forget where they are, and who people are, others are angry and scared.
I found this link ... (read in full...)
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