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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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I love her but she slept with so many men
Q. I was dating someone a couple years ago that I cared very deeply for. We were having a great time together. During the time we were together she was sexually assaulted by someone she knew. She didn't go to the police or tell anyone for months. ...
A. 14 April 2010: Oh wow. This is a tough one. People who have been abused sexually often go around the block afterwards, I must tell you that. Just so you are aware that what she did was a result of what happened to her, and her not getting counceling. I am glad for ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me and now wants to be friends. Is this a good idea or not?
Q. So I just got into this relationship and have been with the guy a month. He was telling me a week ago how he was so glad he was my boyfriend and making all these fun plans for us in the summer. Then the next week he was telling me he was confused ...
A. 14 April 2010: Are there many feelings involved? If neither of you care all too much for each other romantically it can work fine. But, he might be interested in having you as a friends with benefits, so watch out. ... (read in full...)
My Dad treats me like a child
Q. my dad is too controlling. i'm 19 years old and i'm at uni and i've moved 30 miles away from home. i live in a flat with 4 other girls and i look after myself and take responsibility for all that i do. my problem is that whenever i ...
A. 14 April 2010: Your father is acting like a father, nothing else. Possessive yes, but still just a father. To him you will always be his little girl. Humor him for a while? Tell him you dont have time for hour long phone calls though, when he calls just excuse ... (read in full...)
He's changed so much
Q. Why is my boyfriend doing this? my bf was really sweet.it took him 2months to kiss me. i asked he said hes got respect and didn't want to scare me off. whenever we made Iove it was beautiful, passionate and really tender. he was everything i could ...
A. 14 April 2010: How long have you been dating, and do you remember when you first started noticing his changes? It could be that this is who he truly is, but at the beginning he was holding back. Thats how it is with many people, you dont get to see their true ... (read in full...)
The sex is very bad. I have to keep reassuring him about his penis, he has some annoying habits in bed and he keeps forgetting where my clitoris is! I'm tired of faking it!
Q. When I have sex with my boyfriend he does some really annoying things. He likes to listen to the radio and sing in my ear while he's on top of me. I hate that. I told him that I didn't like that and he got his feelings hurt. So every now and ...
A. 14 April 2010: Stop faking it immedeately. You can even tell him that you have been faking it just so he realizes that he's not as amazing as he thinks he is. Let him cry his eyes out. I undersand some of where you are coming from, I often feel that I am the man ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend in jail accused of rape!
Q. My on again off again boyfriend of three years has been in jail now for a month he keeps calling, having his family call, and write me i dont think i want to be with him anymore because he is accused of rape and kidnap but he has yet to tell why ...
A. 14 April 2010: After three years together dont you think you deserve to know the truth? I think you do. If he wont give it to you, then the question isnt whether he is in fact guilty or not, but that he is hiding this huge thing from you. How can you just not tell ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend in jail accused of rape!
Q. My on again off again boyfriend of three years has been in jail now for a month he keeps calling, having his family call, and write me i dont think i want to be with him anymore because he is accused of rape and kidnap but he has yet to tell why ...
A. 14 April 2010: Is there no way you can talk to him about what happened in confidentiality? Maybe he can write you a letter explaining why he is in jail? Why does he want money from you, and can you afford sending him money? This all sounds very fishy and you are ... (read in full...)
I want to leave him, but he might be dying
Q. Sorry this is so long, but I think details should be known. Hi guys. I'm going through some really hard times here. My boyfriend used to make me incredibly happy. He'd try his best to please me and everything for the first couple of weeks we got ...
A. 14 April 2010: I think you should leave him, but offer your friendship to him to get through this difficult times of his. You know you can't be with him just because he might die. Everyone might die. He might also live for several years, and all along you'd grow ... (read in full...)
His roommate doesn't want me there
Q. The situation is fairly complicated. I work as much as I can (which is tough since I work at a place that is on a call in/needed basis) and I'm a full time student. As of right now I've been living between my house and my boyfriend's apartment. I ...
A. 14 April 2010: There is an easy way to find out. The poster lives in the states, and each state has different laws. But there are pages online that list up the laws for tenants and landlords in each state. I suggest then that this couple read their contract first ... (read in full...)
His phone. Her pics.
Q. While I was vistiting my boyfriend at college i decided to check his phone while he slept. I know it was wrong but i couldn't help myself. He had all his messages erased but i found in his pictures 2 pictures of a girl naked. when i confronted him ...
A. 14 April 2010: So you looked at his phone out of revenge?
I personally dont like the sound how this relationship, he doesnt respect your privacy or trust you, he lies, and you dont trust him as a result. I think it was more okay for you to snoop now that I hear... (read in full...)
Is it fair to say that if she won't do it for me, I won't do it for her?
Q. my girlfriend had a lot of sex before she got with me. She was well known for giving blow jobs. We have been together a year and she won't give me one. When I asked her to do it she refused. She said that when she was younger she did it ...
A. 14 April 2010: Male anon, several women on this page have complained about just that and we all give the same advice to women on this matter as we give to men.... (read in full...)
His roommate doesn't want me there
Q. The situation is fairly complicated. I work as much as I can (which is tough since I work at a place that is on a call in/needed basis) and I'm a full time student. As of right now I've been living between my house and my boyfriend's apartment. I ...
A. 14 April 2010: Hi again hijacked. I took it that the electricity bill was not included in the monthly payment. Well if it was at any rate it would be fixed. But as it normally is the electricity bill comes separately, and I feel that she has to pay her one third ... (read in full...)
I gave him a hickey -- now his mom doesn't want him to see me.
Q. Hi I have a problem I gave my bf a hicky on his neck and his parents found out and now his mom thinks I'm a prostitute and he not aloud to come over any more because his mom thinks I'm a prostitute but I love him and now he can't come over how can I ...
A. 14 April 2010: This is your boyfriends responsibility to clear up. Ask him what you can do, but all in all it is up to him what will happen. He has to stand up for you and tell his parents you are not a prostitute. What an aweful accusation to make btw. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend uses me for money
Q. [Moderator note: Age posted is incorrect] im 16 me and my bf have been pretty much been together for 2 years. we've had sex, quite alot and i fear that he will soon get tired of our relationship. we broke up earlier this year and he told me over ...
A. 13 April 2010: He is using you for the money. Don't be fooled and get out.... (read in full...)
Does who you lose your virginity to really matter?
Q. Well,now I have another dilema.I want to get over my teacher and feel that another guy would help.He's 18 and can drive iv known him for 5 years and he proposed that we have some 'fun',I'm up for it or at least would be if my sister hadn't given him ...
A. 13 April 2010: I had sex for the first time at 17 too, and with a friend of mine. We weren't in love and there were no feelings. At least prior to the sex, after it I experienced myself becoming clingy and wanting more. I didn't even realize what was happening to ... (read in full...)
Should I leave the man I don't think I can ever trust again?
Q. Husband and I are both 36. Been together 13 years, married 4.5 years. November 2008 I planned to take my husband on a long weekend trip. He was having a rough time of things and I felt that he deserved a treat. The morning we were to leave, I went t...
A. 13 April 2010: Take your time and think about things. But I think your heart and mind have already spoken. I think I would feel the same way as you, and when you listen to your heart you know what is right. It is scary to go separate ways after all this time ... (read in full...)
His phone. Her pics.
Q. While I was vistiting my boyfriend at college i decided to check his phone while he slept. I know it was wrong but i couldn't help myself. He had all his messages erased but i found in his pictures 2 pictures of a girl naked. when i confronted him ...
A. 13 April 2010: Please stop snooping around like that, it is a horrible habit and your boyfriend might very well dump you because of it. So you should also worry if he will give YOU the benefit of the doubt and forgive you as well. As for his pictures, who kn... (read in full...)
Is it fair to say that if she won't do it for me, I won't do it for her?
Q. my girlfriend had a lot of sex before she got with me. She was well known for giving blow jobs. We have been together a year and she won't give me one. When I asked her to do it she refused. She said that when she was younger she did it ...
A. 13 April 2010: Alright one thing first. She is not obliged to give you blowjobs based on how many she has given in the past. Period. And it is also perfectly reasonable that she never liked blowjobs, but did them in the past to get popular. Bad move and stupid of ... (read in full...)
His roommate doesn't want me there
Q. The situation is fairly complicated. I work as much as I can (which is tough since I work at a place that is on a call in/needed basis) and I'm a full time student. As of right now I've been living between my house and my boyfriend's apartment. I ...
A. 13 April 2010: The roommate has really no business with how many he shares the place with, to reply to the anon poster. He signed up for his room, not for the other persons room, so the other person can have as many people there as he pleases. If he is at all ... (read in full...)
Am I finally getting a growth spurt?
Q. I am 16 I got my period when I was pretty young (11), and recently I have gained curves. I am very small in the chest but not my 32B bras fit me perfectly where before there was a little too much room. I weigh 105 pounds and I don't know where these ...
A. 13 April 2010: Ye sit's normal, and you are only in the middle of your teenages so things are not done developing yet. Some people can even have growing spurts in their early 20-ties. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my bus driver that I like him?
Q. Okay so my problem is that I really like this guy who just so happens to be my bus driver. Theres not much of an age difference just four years. He goes pretty red when he talks to me but im sure he has no clue whatsoever that i like him. Should I ...
A. 13 April 2010: Maybe you can try and figure out more about him? Ask him questions like what are his hobbies or something? You said you talk to him so try and start up a conversation, and then after a little while, when you know more about his likes and dislikes, ... (read in full...)
Does who you lose your virginity to really matter?
Q. Well,now I have another dilema.I want to get over my teacher and feel that another guy would help.He's 18 and can drive iv known him for 5 years and he proposed that we have some 'fun',I'm up for it or at least would be if my sister hadn't given him ...
A. 13 April 2010: Are you saying your sister has been with every guy in town? Listen, as you grow older you definitely will find a man for you that is not off limits. ... (read in full...)
She can't leave him because of money, but want's to marry me?
Q. iv'e been seeing this girl now for nearly two years and its fantastic, but there one slight problem she lives with another man. We are and were good friends and there was always a chemistry between us and on a night out it all came flooding out, how ...
A. 13 April 2010: Does this other fella of hers know about the two of you? Are they married? Listen, you went into a relationship you shouldn't have gone into in the first place. Two years into it and she still hasn't left this other man. She is cheating on him (asu... (read in full...)
Paranoid about pregnancy! how soon can I take the test?
Q. i had unprotective sex friday and had forgoten to take my pill 3 days previous( yeah its stupid) and i no the risks of pregnency, even tho i did take it the day i had sex But anyway i think im being paroniod about this, but since saturday my ni...
A. 13 April 2010: Taking the pill the day you have unprotected sex doesnt help much. How long you have to wait to take a pregnancy test varies from test to test, but from what I know its best to wait two weeks. Go to the pharmacy and read the backside of the tests ... (read in full...)
I prefer his mate! Should I leave to be with him?
Q. ok im 19 and have been going out with my boyfrend MD for 3 years. We were perfect for the first year and a half but he moved away for 6 months and things have never got back to normal, its like were just stayin 2gether for the sake of it.. Weve been ...
A. 13 April 2010: The post was a bit confusing with all the names, but I think the most important information that came across is that you dont really want your current boyfriend any more. And that is fine, sometimes things dont work out. Break up with him. Then ... (read in full...)
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