His family won't come to the wedding on the date we've planned
Q. my husband and i have been planning a wedding he refused to tell his parents from the beginning because he was afraid of their response since his mother doesn't like me much. we asked his aunt to tell his dad about the plans and his dad has said the ...
A. 12 March 2011: I think you would be better just telling them that you have both set a date for the wedding and leave it at that. If you leave it until 6 weeks before hand they might be hurt that you never told them sooner and they might act stubborn and decide not ... (read in full...)
His family won't come to the wedding on the date we've planned
Q. my husband and i have been planning a wedding he refused to tell his parents from the beginning because he was afraid of their response since his mother doesn't like me much. we asked his aunt to tell his dad about the plans and his dad has said the ...
A. 4 October 2010: Good for you in being the bigger person here and not being stubborn like his mother, good luck with the big day... (read in full...)
Taking a chance on losing a great woman for the unknown
Q. I'm on my way to being divorced. I've been separated for well over a year. I started dating a few months ago. I started seeing a well educated professional woman who has fallen hard for me. I like her a lot. My problem is that I don't want a ...
A. 4 October 2010: Your not an idiot, if you arent ready then your not ready, but maybe ask yourself why is that barrier there? Is it because you got hurt at the end of your marriage? Maybe you could overcome your anxieties and let your barrier down, if you like this ... (read in full...)
HOw do you attract and get an older guy?
Q. HOw do you attract and get an older guy? im 18 in a few months and he will be 23 by the time i become 18. he wants to wait till im legal to pursue a friendship and what else might be to follow. i was just wondering if there are any small tips or ...
A. 4 October 2010: Just be yourself, he sounds like a reasonable and sensible guy for waiting until you are 18. So just be yourself and get to know him slowely dont rush in to sex to quick, make him wait a while. Good Luck.... (read in full...)
How do I move a mutual attraction on?
Q. I meet a man at my previous job. He was a senior manager. There was an instant attraction as we met. It has been growing for a year and a half now. It took a while for me to notice the attraction. Once when in a meeting with him he told me h...
A. 4 October 2010: Yes exactly we only live it once, so live it happy instead of in regret :-)... (read in full...)
Wife taking 24 condoms on holiday when she is going with 3 other women.
Q. hi my wife and i have funny kind of marrage (i think we have been married a lot of years) yes i know how many 30. each year she and 3 old (well same age girlfriends go away on holiday for a week. this year they are going on a crusie and i was...
A. 4 October 2010: Well if you are ok with your wife cheating on you then so be it.... (read in full...)
B/f acts like I don't exist!
Q. I need help and advice. Me and my boyfriend have been together six months, but recently he's been too busy for me and its like i dont exist. We normally talk everynight on the phone before we go to sleep, but he hasnt done it once the past 2-3 ...
A. 3 October 2010: Well darling if he is pushing you away there isnt much more you can do, tell him you feel like he doesnt want you anymore and that you want things to go back to the way they were, ask him what his reasons are for being so distant and get him to tell ... (read in full...)
How do we get it back to the way it was when we first met?
Q. This guy justin barelly even friends is without a doubt just what I want in a guy its weird I dont know him well but we talk sometimes we live right down the hall from each other be weve never really hung out. He says he knows what he wants and what ...
A. 3 October 2010: You need to be honest with him hun, just tell him you like him or else if you dont want to maybe ask him if he would like to go on a night out with you to the movies or something, he sounds like a great guy so go for it... (read in full...)
I am not attracted to my skinny boyfriend with his beer gut!
Q. Me and my fiancee just made 2 years we have a 6 month old son, i am 19 and he is 24 and we plan to get married next year. Here is my dilemma im in love with him but not physically attracted to him. I like my guys muscular at least somewhat, he is ...
A. 3 October 2010: The only advise i can give you here is to teach him what you like, you say he can kiss good so tell him how you like it. keep reminding him how u like it, and as for the sex again tell him what u like, teach him to be better. ... (read in full...)
Why did my best guy friend stop talking to me? ...does he like me?
Q. So..it's been a month. He's acting so different, I feel so useless just waiting for him to go online, but I don't talk to him. I really want to talk but I'm afraid to. He hinted me on about his feelings. it seemed like he was trying to tell m...
A. 3 October 2010: Nobody on here can answer all your questions but him alone am afraid darling.
It sounds like maybe he has just giving up because he thinks you dont care, maybe there was wires crossed somewere and he thought you didnt feel the same for him this... (read in full...)
I avoid the neighbors where I live...and I feel guilty! Any Advice?.
Q. I am in my mid twenties and living at home..it has always been somewhat stressful though..the apartment is too small at times and my parents can get loud. Sometimes things are such a big issue and stupid arguments happen and the walls are thin. So i ...
A. 3 October 2010: Your not a bad person and you shouldnt feel guilty, every family has there issues and yes they are behind closed doors so nobody should really know your business but you, but hey we all get heated and have arguments so try and not let it stress you ... (read in full...)
Married but I had sex with another guy and I don't feel guilt! Any thoughts?
Q. Im not sure if this is a question or me just wanting feedback here goes I've been married for almost 11 years. After our first year, my husband told me he had a fantasy which was having a threesome mfm. he wanted to see me with another guy. I was pi...
A. 3 October 2010: What do i think? Firstly i think you are in the wrong in thinking that this is right. Because your husband didnt agree to this yet you agreed to the 3some so you cant hold that against him you should have never agreed.
If your husband is posessiv... (read in full...)
Question about cheating in a marriage..all answers welcome!
Q. What is the main reason a man would cheat o his wife or girlfriend? Especially married men! :) and What would be the main reason for a woman to cheat on her husband or boyfriend? Especially married woman! :)...
A. 3 October 2010: There is no main reason, everybody is different so everybody cheats for different reasons. Some people just fall out of love, others want the danger risk, and others fall for someone else and they end up giving in. There is a lot of different ... (read in full...)
Do I leave my marriage for someone else I love? I'm frightened but want to.
Q. Ive been seeing a man who keeps trying to drag me out of my relationship of marriage. I am unhappy, undersexed and completely dissatisfied in my marriage. The problem is im in love with the new/old guy, actually an old guy from middle school. i want ...
A. 3 October 2010: Well first off i will try and not be judgemental, but cheating is really not nice i dont like it, think of what it would do to your husband if he found out. Basically i think you have two options here:
One- Stay with your husband and try and work... (read in full...)
How do I take this odd situation, with this girl I like?
Q. How to take this situation? If you've known someone (a girl) that you like for a short time, say 2-3 months. Who you saw a couple times a week through work places, and you texted back and forth everyday. Then you finally tell them you like them. An...
A. 2 October 2010: This girl has made her feelings perfectly clear therefore i would say she is texting you as she probably doesnt want to see you upset and maybe because she thinks of you as a friend, so dont over analyze it she obviously doesnt want to be in a ... (read in full...)
My husband says that I am not his love
Q. my hubby says i am not his love...1 he used to say that he has fallen in love not physicaly but virt:ualy but now he says he does not know who is love but i am not his love.... 2:he remained conected his collegue;..long cals...e...
A. 2 October 2010: It is not your place to help it its him that should be helping you. Darling this is just awful but am afraid im going to be brutal here and be honest with you, because its my job to be, you need to leave this man, you need a divorcee and get away ... (read in full...)
Is he letting go of something potentially wonderful just because he's scared?
Q. So I am going to try to sum up this situation as best as I can in hopes that I can get some helpful advice. I am 21 years old and a senior in college. I met this guy a little over a year ago in class and the first time that we hung out we ...
A. 2 October 2010: If am honest with you, it does sound like this guy does deeply care for you, and to be honest it sounds like he more than likely got hurt after the 5 year relationship, it sounds like he was left really hurt after it and its dainted his trust in ... (read in full...)
I just can't read her and it's becoming a problem on my end
Q. *OP Own Title* Hello Dear Cupid; I've written here before in the past about a girl I've known for a few years who's a close friend of mine who said she was asexual until she "falls in love". Recently, another friend of mine, who's like a slightly ...
A. 2 October 2010: Well its hard if she is not interested in females as you telling her this may put a strain on your friendship as she may start feeling uncomfortable around you in my eyes you have to options here
One if you think that you can carry on having a... (read in full...)
How do I move a mutual attraction on?
Q. I meet a man at my previous job. He was a senior manager. There was an instant attraction as we met. It has been growing for a year and a half now. It took a while for me to notice the attraction. Once when in a meeting with him he told me h...
A. 2 October 2010: Firstly before you make a move get out of the relationship you are currently in as am sure you dont want to be branded a cheat, if you are unhappy then finish with the man you are with then you are free to make your move.
Once you have done thi... (read in full...)
Do you think I should stay with him, or leave him?
Q. so to start off with my boyfriend is moving over 1000 miles away. im so upset over it and its breaking my relationship apart with him. he wants to stay together but I have trust issues so what's a long distance relationship without trust? right? h...
A. 2 October 2010: To be honest it doesnt sound like he is cheating on you, all guys have an innocent flirt. I could be wrong though, To be honest with you hun you need to sort out your trust issues or this relationship aint going to work. you said that you would deny ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that his girlfriend may get the wrong impression about us!
Q. I have a senior at my school and he's really kind to me. I know he has a girlfriend which I feel really good for them both. He sometimes appear to me that he was lonely. I don't understand why. I have never met his girlfriend before but I h...
A. 2 October 2010: dont avoid him if you are both friends, even though he is in a relationship he is entitled to have friends that are girls and am sure his girlfriend understand that so try not to worry and continue your friendship, just ignore his friends if they ... (read in full...)
Wondering if I should leave my boyfriend but I have nowhere to go if I do?
Q. Hello, I recently posted about some issues with my bf. Now I'm wondering if I should leave him. I have nowhere to go if I do. My family isn't an option and all my friends live too far away. I'm trying to get a job but it isn't going well, so I can't ...
A. 2 October 2010: If you arent happy you need to leave, if you have absolutely no options in this world other than be homeless then go to your local housing authority and tell them you need a place to live you will be amazed at what they can do to help. Goodluck with ... (read in full...)
We get along well at work, I'd like to ask her out, but heard she has a b/f
Q. There's a girl I work with - she's been at the company longer than me, and for the first few months after I started we didn't really speak much. I'm a bit shy, she works on a different department and the company is very strict on chatting during ...
A. 2 October 2010: Well i dont think its a good idea to ask her out just as friends as this will make you feel a lot worse in the end up. If she has a boyfriend then am afraid she is unavailable and you really need to try and avoid her and not get caught up in a ... (read in full...)
How can I get over this guy?
Q. There is a guy I've liked for 2 years. We see eachother every year at least around the same time. He has a girlfriend and is quite unavailable. Every year, I talk myself out of liking him and when I see him again i want to be with him. How do I get ...
A. 2 October 2010: Try your best to avoid this guy, if he has a girlfriend than as you know yourself it will only backfire on you if you try to make a move so just try and avoid him, as the saying goes out of sight out of mind, because everytime you see him the feels ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he doesn't like me anymore...how can I get his attention?
Q. SO im 14, and theres this guy ive known for a few years, he sings and plays guitar, just like me. people are always asking me why i havent kissed anyone and one guy said that i was the hottest girl in school but still havent kissed anyone! But i ...
A. 2 October 2010: Tell him, he obviously liked you so there is something there, pluck up the courage and tell him you really like him and let him take it from there, go on....you can do it!... (read in full...)
Could the plan B pill still be screwing up my period?
Q. I used to be on birth control for about 2 and 1/2 years, but when I graduated from college...my health coverage ended through my parents. I finished my last pack of BC in february. My boyfriend and I hadn't had sex since the beginning to middle ...
A. 2 October 2010: Your not niave at all we all worry about these things, firstly yes there is a possibilty that the plan b pill didnt work, in most cases it does but as am sure you know nothing is 100 percent, and secondly yes it could possibly be the reason why your ... (read in full...)
When do you think he will move back in?
Q. hi, I was wondering if anyone could help. My boyfriend moved out of my house last december firstly after sayin he was down then sayin i made him unhappy. We got back together and he says will move back when time is right. In mean time all his ...
A. 2 October 2010: Is sounds like this guy's head is all over the place and he is'nt sure of what he wants, maybe he doesnt want to move back in with you in case he starts to feel unhappy again, but if this is the case then if you make him unhappy am not sure why he ... (read in full...)
FWB ex--how do I remove myself from this situation?
Q. A guy friend of mine has been making life pretty tricky for me, especially recently. He has a reputation and i've been told by people in the past that he's a "dog". When we were both single we did sleep together a few times, this was a while ago ...
A. 2 October 2010: Well firstly this isnt a friendship you just said it all he does is treat you like a piece of meat. Its awful to have feelings for someone and for them not only not return them but also use them to there advantage, its horrible to have to go through ... (read in full...)
Husband's emails to co-worker making me very sad
Q. I recently saw an email on my husbands phone it was to a female coworker. My heart dropped. He had sent her 30 emails in one day. Some casual chitchat some playful banter and some sexual enudios. I asked him about it.. he denied it and said he was ...
A. 2 October 2010: Ok well if he is denying it then obviously there is no place here to trust your husband as he should be honest with you, if he is lying about this what else is he lying about i wonder?
You need to sit down with him and tell him you saw the emai... (read in full...)
Is distance really an issue?
Q. I have been on and off for this guy for almost 4 years now, our major problem is that he lives 1200 miles away because he is in the military. I am head over heels in love with this man and want to see if we can make it work now that we both have ...
A. 2 October 2010: well hunny in so many words no you arent wrong but then again neither is he, he has a point you need to spend time together to see if a relationship can work. It is hard to ask someone to wait for a few years, and believe it or not you will find it ... (read in full...)
His family won't come to the wedding on the date we've planned
Q. my husband and i have been planning a wedding he refused to tell his parents from the beginning because he was afraid of their response since his mother doesn't like me much. we asked his aunt to tell his dad about the plans and his dad has said the ...
A. 2 October 2010: Is there much of a distance between the date you have organised and the date that his parents can make it? If there is not maybe you could compromise here for your husbands sake, yes it is unfair the way they are treating your special day, but just ... (read in full...)
I broke up with first love but don't know how to move on
Q. I broke up with my long term boyfriend about 6 months ago because i had completely lost myself in the relationship due to his manipulative ways. I knew he wasn't happy in himself and with these insecurities came bad behaviour which i learnt to ...
A. 2 October 2010: Well darling if you cant trust him then there is no point in a relationship as am sure you know its the glue to a happy relationship, fair play to this guy for going to get help though it must have took a lot of courage, are you an insecure person ... (read in full...)
Should I wish my ex-Gf on her birthday
Q. My GF dumped 3 weeks ago me for reasons Which I am not sure about. She gave reasons of long distance relationship(past 6 months) and different thinking. I tried to sort out the issues but had no luck. we were in relationship for more than 5 years. ...
A. 2 October 2010: Well answer yourself this, will it make you feel worse if she doesnt reply? If it wont then yes carry on and wish her a happy birthday, but dont if it is going to hurt you more.... (read in full...)
Do you think we should keep things the way they are or make it public ?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend is 1 year and 6 months younger then me.I dont seem to have a problem with thay but other people might. We've bee together for 7 months now, it started as a joke but now its getting serious we even said I love you to each other. I ...
A. 2 October 2010: Truthfully i think you should go public, your best friends not and there ok with it so thats good, am sure your family will be ok with it, they accept him as one of your good friends at the minute so am sure they will be happy for you two to be ... (read in full...)
I get paranoid when my boyfriend is away!
Q. Please please help . I've been with my boyfriend for a year and he's the one I want to spend the rest of my life with . He treats me so well , but the thing is he works away and I can't bare it. When he's not hear I feel lonely and when he's out I'm ...
A. 2 October 2010: You ask for the truth so im gunna give it to you sweetie, you are going to lose him am sorry but its true, sometimes people say when it comes to paranoid people it takes them losing someone special to realise that they need to change. Dont let this ... (read in full...)
My friends ignored me and talk behind my back to everyone!
Q. My friends treat me in a mean way, they even ignored me and go around talking behind my back. They go with another group and talk behind my back, and assume that it's my fault for how they are acting. I really didnt know what's going on and i k...
A. 2 October 2010: Aw this happens at your age between girls, you ave to just ignore them, whenever they do something to upset you just put a big smile on your face and pretend that it doesnt bother you, because they want a reaction so dont give them one, in the end ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend I like her sister instead of her?
Q. Hii, My question is How can I tell my girlfriend that I dont like her anymore I like her younger sister and also How can I say or propose to her sister? to be honest I have never had sex with my Gf :S yeh its true.. :(...
A. 2 October 2010: Please dont hurt your girlfriend by doing this to her, this is just horrible, fair enough dumping her but dont go near her sister as this is just going to cause heart ache, you will tear up a family and believe me, you will be the one that ends up ... (read in full...)
What does "this week is shot for me" mean?
Q. Meaning of the phrase "this week is shot for me!" Does anyone know what is meant when someone says "This week is shot for me!" Is it used often? I have never heard the phrase before and wonder if it is some type of an English idiom. I got...
A. 2 October 2010: yes its pretty much that the week is gone so who ever says it has not time for the week ... (read in full...)
How can I show, that I am thinking of him, and he doesn't misconstrue the gesture?
Q. Hello. One of my male friends is having a hard time at home at the moment. He is looking after his sick mother and it is getting him down. I know being ill can make you curmudgeonly and impatient, but she treats him like he is her slave. There is ...
A. 2 October 2010: this is a good question, well whatever it was that you were going to get him get it and attach a little note with it saying, .......
this is something i wanted to get you to cheer you up as i know you are having a bad time, and i want you to know ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend started crying after 1st time sex and now still won't talk to me about it?
Q. I've been dating an incredible girl for about 2.5 years. She's a year younger than me, so I'm in college and she's in high school. When we first started dating, she was a virgin and I wasn't. We agreed to wait until she was ready and the time was ...
A. 2 October 2010: Ok well it was her first time so she didnt no what to expect right? So there is a number of reasons why she could have started crying here, yes her emotions could have got the better of her and she was glad that she finally lost her virginity, or ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend suggested I was sleeping around!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for about 6 months, were taking things at a fairly relaxed pace and we both have really busy schedules so time together is limited at times but in all honesty I do like doing my own thing and im not a needy or clingy type ...
A. 2 October 2010: Maybe he is just a little bit insecure, it sounds like he is craving your attention and wants to know were he stands with you and he wants to know if he is loved by you, maybe you are that laid back that is makes him a little insecure, dont get me ... (read in full...)
Attack of the promises sigh*
Q. My girlfriend has become more honest, but my question is how come after she's promised to never/stop drink again, I fell for it ni believed her. We have been together for 7 months and been through too much at this point. My questio: how come I f...
A. 2 October 2010: Do you think its possible that this women has an addiction to alcohol? if so then try and support her and make her realise that she needs help and be by her side, if this isnt the case and its just dimply she keeps breaking promises then she ... (read in full...)
What the hell is she thinking? Am I just paranoid?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been through a lot. We've been together for 2.5 years and we're both 20. Back in May we broke up (although she thinks we broke up in April) and we were apart for three weeks. After getting back together things were ...
A. 2 October 2010: This relationship is a disaster. You need to start working on your self confidence and stop going through your girlfriends phone and computer this is really private stuff and its wrong, and to read a girls journal well that just takes the biscuit, ... (read in full...)
Wife taking 24 condoms on holiday when she is going with 3 other women.
Q. hi my wife and i have funny kind of marrage (i think we have been married a lot of years) yes i know how many 30. each year she and 3 old (well same age girlfriends go away on holiday for a week. this year they are going on a crusie and i was...
A. 1 October 2010: Erm unless i have competely mistaken the point here, but why the hell would you be ok with this??? She is your wife and you should both ALWAYS be faithful by the looks of it if she has 24 condoms going on holiday with her then its on her mind to ... (read in full...)
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