His family won't come to the wedding on the date we've planned
Q. my husband and i have been planning a wedding he refused to tell his parents from the beginning because he was afraid of their response since his mother doesn't like me much. we asked his aunt to tell his dad about the plans and his dad has said the ...
A. 12 March 2011: I think you would be better just telling them that you have both set a date for the wedding and leave it at that. If you leave it until 6 weeks before hand they might be hurt that you never told them sooner and they might act stubborn and decide not ... (read in full...)
How do I get over the resentment for my husband?
Q. How do I let go The resentment that I have for my husband? He had an affair some time ago and he now told me and I can't let it go. I love him and hate him at the same time. We argue almost once a week now over this. He feels that i should just let ...
A. 12 October 2010: You need to tell him, you need to be honest with him and tell him everything you are feeling and that you arent coping, i think marriage councilling is the best thing here it will get everything out in the open and if he loves you he will go with ... (read in full...)
Stay at home mom who feels down and lonely...
Q. I have been married for 5 years, i got married at a really young age - 18, now i am 23. i love my husband and i really trust him but i have seen stuff that i can't stop thinking about, i have talked to him over and over about it but it seems i cant ...
A. 9 October 2010: no of course you dont want to much from him, everyone needs support in a relationship especially when there are young children involved, you need to sit down and tell him this, ask him if he is unhappy be honest with each other how you both feel and ... (read in full...)
Why do I doubt my marriage?
Q. I started dating a man I knew of, but didn't really know in January we were engaged by mid febuary and married by mid march. Yes I know very quickly!! Everything was wonderful and really still is other than I continually have a doubt of some sort ...
A. 6 October 2010: Ok so this sounds like this man is doing nothing wrong it sounds like the insecurities lie within yourself. Could something have happened you in the past to make you feel like this? Have you ever had a partner cheat on you? You need to get your ... (read in full...)
Are there bad side effects of having a coil fitted?
Q. My girlfriend was discussing with me about getting a coil put in, she didnt originally want one because she said it made one of her friends gain a lot of weight. She has since talked with her doctor who said that was impossible. Shes made anothe...
A. 6 October 2010: No the coil cannot make you gain weight, this is impossible, so your girlfriends friend must have gained weight through some other cause, there is only one major side effect from the coil and that it to do with her period it can make them last ... (read in full...)
Did he like me? Or just like staring at me?
Q. Im a 21 year old girl,i met a guy (he is 26) at my work place ( its a very small company with 15+ employees , he is the owner of the company),our cabin is very small one ... from the dayone i joined the company, i found this guy starring at me. He ...
A. 6 October 2010: Well if you dont want to get hurt then maybe try and forget about this man and go out with friends to cheer yourself up and go out and meet new men :-)... (read in full...)
A girl confused choosing between two guys
Q. This might be a long post, but please bear with me. I have been with my boyfriend for the 5 years. A year after we started going out I moved in with him and his parents since I was living in a little basement, and my boyfriend thought that was not ...
A. 6 October 2010: I think you should go and see a doctor, there has to be something wrong when you dont have the will or the life in you to do something simple like make a cup of tea, go to your doctor and explain to him how you are feeling he will be able to help ... (read in full...)
Can he still be put away for his past?
Q. Okay so I am "seeing" a man who just turned 29 and I am about to be 19, I am legal now but I have a problem. My aunt and a few other relatives have a problem with me seeing him and theyre against it. I had sex with him when i was almost 16 and he ...
A. 6 October 2010: Yes am afraid that it is, all you can do is hope that your family dont tell the law and if they do the both of you could always deny it. You are an adult now and are entitled to your own life, if he never forced himself on you and you were willing ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a mooch!!!
Q. my girlfriend and I were in a long distance relationship and she moved in with me about 4 months ago, she has no job dose not go to school and I have to pay for evrything includeing my pot that she smokes, iv bugged her scince day one to get a job ...
A. 6 October 2010: You need to tell her that she has to start paying her way because you are not going to do it anymore, simply tell her that if she wants to live there then she has to pay half of the rent half of the bills and buy her own food. I know it sounds harsh ... (read in full...)
How do you KNOW if it's love?
Q. How do you know if its love? I have never been in love, I've had plenty of crushes, but that's not the same thing is it! Yet I have to admit to myself that I cannot get a certain man off my mind. Whenever we meet, he is always teasing me and I...
A. 6 October 2010: Well love is when you get that tingly feeling in your stomach and when you cant stop thinking about someone 24 7 and you would do anything for that person, love is when you know somebody is side out and the first thing you think about in the morning ... (read in full...)
I have to change my life... help!
Q. hi ive been having an affair for 14 years with a married woman, she has got two children and her husband is a good man who treats her good, but I'm still having this affair and i love her deeply, she says she loves me but she still flirts a lot and ...
A. 5 October 2010: Am afraid you really need to change your life, what am going to tell you am sure you already know, she is not yours she is someone else's women and she probably will never leave her husband, you are going to end up in a depression if you dont get ... (read in full...)
14 year age gap but lied to my parents there was only 6 years apart.
Q. I'm a 19 year old who has recently started work full time and have met someone who I really like but only problem he is 33. He knows that I haven't had sex yet and he respects that and he truely does care for me. The only problem is my family ...
A. 5 October 2010: I think you should just be honest darling, its the best possible way. Explain to your family that you arent going to do anything irresponsible and that this guy cares for you and is'nt going to take advantage, show them that you are mature enough to ... (read in full...)
Did he like me? Or just like staring at me?
Q. Im a 21 year old girl,i met a guy (he is 26) at my work place ( its a very small company with 15+ employees , he is the owner of the company),our cabin is very small one ... from the dayone i joined the company, i found this guy starring at me. He ...
A. 5 October 2010: Well first off dont always listen to your friends because sometimes they can pick things up wrong. If you really feel that there is a connection there then make the first move and ask him out, the worst he can say is no and at least you dont work ... (read in full...)
Would I just be annoying her if I continued to pursue her?
Q. I am starting to find that I have no luck at all. There's a girl I have a thing for and as it would happen she had a thing for me (yes this sounds like luck but wait for it) however the day we hung out and she liked me was also the same day I found ...
A. 5 October 2010: Well it was her friend that told you this and ive learned in life never to take things second hand. Ok so you have been rejected alot so you are scared of it happening again i understand that, but look at it this way if you dont try then you will ... (read in full...)
Stay at home mom who feels down and lonely...
Q. I have been married for 5 years, i got married at a really young age - 18, now i am 23. i love my husband and i really trust him but i have seen stuff that i can't stop thinking about, i have talked to him over and over about it but it seems i cant ...
A. 5 October 2010: Ok im not in your situation so i can only imagine how you are feeling and am sure its not very nice. Have you thought about visiting your doctor as it sounds like you might have depression and your doctor is there to help. If you and your partner ... (read in full...)
He wants me to go and see him... should I?
Q. Hi I had argument with my boyfriend and stopped talking to him for couple of days. I went to a party at that time and a guy was very interested on me. I gave my number then told my friend who told him this story. After days she told him and he was ...
A. 5 October 2010: Only you can make the right decision for yourself, maybe he thought you cheated on him and he was getting his own back, which is still wrong but maybe you should go and meet him and see what he has to say for himself.... (read in full...)
He just cut me off...
Q. I was going out with a guy a year, he was my best friend and we were so in love. In the Summer we had a few fights, he moved away and starting acting different (saying he cant take me out for meals etc and started to making things "his way" and I ...
A. 5 October 2010: People can be good at covering up who they really are, and i guess unless he tells you what is going on you will never truely know why he done this to you, and the only way forward now is to forget about him and try and move on, i no this is hard, ... (read in full...)
Do I continue talking to him or what...?
Q. My boyfriend and I been together for almost 3 years but suddenly we broke up. we were fighting a lot and he told me that we couldn't be together and the best thing for us is to be friends. I didn't want to accept it but i had to. its been about 2 ...
A. 5 October 2010: You need to ask him why he can call you and what he is scared of....you need to sit down and talk to him and get him to open up to you about how he is feeling its the only way that the both of you will sort this out, he needs to be honest with you ... (read in full...)
Why is he telling people that we aren’t together anymore if he said he wants to make it work?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and my ex were together for 5 years and have two wonderful children. Recently we were going through some financial problems that required me to move back home with my parents for the time being, i have moved back with our kids an...
A. 5 October 2010: Ok well he's telling people this because at the minute he does feel like he is single, am guessing when he said he is wanting to be friends with you first that he wants to take things slowly, either he has cheated on you or else he is tired of you ... (read in full...)
I'm a bit of a novice where sex is concerned... help!
Q. I'm a 15 year old girl and have a girlfriend of the same age, I'm soon to be 16 and I think she will want to have sex. Now I don't mind it, it's just, she has had past experience, and I haven't, so I wont really know what I'm doing and I would have ...
A. 5 October 2010: Why would you need to be the leader? Just go with the flow, start out kissing and hugging and just do what comes natural and feels comfortable, and always remember to use protection.... (read in full...)
Hellllp!!!!How much porn is too much?
Q. Recently I've found my boyfriends porn stash on his hard drive. We've been together a year and I know he has always watched porn but it has never bothered me before. I watch it myself and use toys, plus we are both very adventurous in bed! Howe...
A. 5 October 2010: Well if am honest with you most guys are in to porn, especially before there 30's anyway its quite normal. It doesnt mean he thinks ur any less sexier or attractive its just something men do, dont worry they know as well as we do that it is totally ... (read in full...)
1st time sex and bleeding?
Q. is it normal for girls to bleed there first time havin sex? should i be worried if its ben happenin longer than an hour?...
A. 5 October 2010: No you should'nt be worrying this is normal for the first time and maybe the first few times, but you are very young to be having sex just remember to always always use condoms.... (read in full...)
Which Path to Take?
Q. I have been married 18 years. I have 2 great children ages 13 and 16. I have been an abused spouse. Verbaly, emotionally and physically. We really never got along. My wife left me for another man 10 years ago. We reconciled after a year ...
A. 5 October 2010: No you shouldnt get back with your wife for the sake of your children because believe me it will just mess there heads up being in a family home were there mother is abusing there father and there parents arent getting on it would be far better for ... (read in full...)
Does she just want to be friends or is she hinting that her and this dude have an open relationship?
Q. I got this girl's phone number while she was working at a clothing store. Well, we were joking back and forth texting and after a few messages she told me that she has a boyfriend. I made a joke about him beating me up if I tried to get her ...
A. 5 October 2010: Personally there is nothing here to say that this is anything other than her being friendly, was she flirting or suggesting anything? or was it just plain simple innocent laughter between the texts, i guess the only way you will know is by asking ... (read in full...)
Is my spouse hiding something???
Q. Your spouse says they need their privacy and has a password on their computer account that they won't give you. Does this mean they are hiding something or is it harmless?...
A. 5 October 2010: Well if it is worrying you that much then maybe you should ask him what it is that is so private that he has to have a password on it, tell him it is making you feel like he has something to hide, and if he still doesnt get rid of the password or ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend act so differently in front of his friends?
Q. ok my boyfriend always seems to act different when hes with his friends. it really annoys me but i dont have the guts to say anything becuz i think he might get mad. should i keep quiet or speak up? ...
A. 5 October 2010: Well at this age this behaviour is quite normal, all teenager guys act differently with there friends as they are scared that the wont fit in otherwise so they act all macho. I wouldnt worry about this it is comletely normal and through time he will ... (read in full...)
He's sending majorly mixed signals about his desires for a relationship and sex. Is he lying or being legitimate?
Q. Hello Aunties and Uncles. I need some help. I appreciate all advice given! This is a book! I apologize in advance! lol I met a man online months ago. Our relationship began as just casual pen pals and we soon became online friends. A coupl...
A. 4 October 2010: My honest opinion is it sounds like he is wanting to have sex with you and thats it. Ok when you mentioned that he tried it on back at his place on your second meeting well i would just put that down to a guy trying his luck, and good on you for ... (read in full...)
Cheating husband and now I'm insure whether to stay or go
Q. I have been married for 9 years now. My husband works a state away and so stays with a friend when he's working late. I found out last nite that he is staying with just a woman and not a man and a woman as he has claimed for 3 years now. I found ...
A. 4 October 2010: Well there is a few things to concider here, firstly he told you he has sex with her and then he back tacked the next day and said he didnt, is this not ringing bells in your head wondering why he would say that? if it was me i would be wondering ... (read in full...)
His family won't come to the wedding on the date we've planned
Q. my husband and i have been planning a wedding he refused to tell his parents from the beginning because he was afraid of their response since his mother doesn't like me much. we asked his aunt to tell his dad about the plans and his dad has said the ...
A. 4 October 2010: Good for you in being the bigger person here and not being stubborn like his mother, good luck with the big day... (read in full...)
How do I date in a small town with no guys?
Q. I Have been single for some time and I am ready to move on. I really dont know how to do this, I live in a really small town ( aka no guys). I go to college all day long then work so I really never met anyone new. I have done the online stuff. I ...
A. 4 October 2010: Well personally i have never used online dating, but plentyoffish.com is one i have heard a lot of people mention so maybe that is worth a chance.... (read in full...)
I'm too old for such games. I either want to hit him or kiss him. I don't know what to do
Q. I dated a man one year and a half ago. At the time I had not dated since my divorce which was ten years at the time. I asked him for coffee and I didn't think it would go anywhere but it lasted six months. We had a lot of fun together and had a ...
A. 4 October 2010: This is difficult, his problems are probably due to many things like stress, confidence issues and being over weight. He probably feels very embarresed about it and now he is probably shutting down and that is why he is playing these games, its ... (read in full...)
How do I get over the resentment for my husband?
Q. How do I let go The resentment that I have for my husband? He had an affair some time ago and he now told me and I can't let it go. I love him and hate him at the same time. We argue almost once a week now over this. He feels that i should just let ...
A. 4 October 2010: Its completely natural that you feel this way every married women would, he has hurt you in every possible way and now he thinks that you should just forget about it as if nothing happened and that hurts aswell.
You have to options:
You can... (read in full...)
How to get My Ex back after such a Tragic Break Up
Q. Well I have had this Relationship and it didn't last long. A little over a Month actually. But please don't judge me from that. The woman I dated was everything and more. I loved hearing her voice in the morning. She always was happy to talk to ...
A. 4 October 2010: Im going to be brutally honest because i cant lie. But if she is telling you she doesnt want to be with you at the minute then you cant keep chasing her, as it will only push her further away, i think the best advice for now is to give her some ... (read in full...)
How do I date in a small town with no guys?
Q. I Have been single for some time and I am ready to move on. I really dont know how to do this, I live in a really small town ( aka no guys). I go to college all day long then work so I really never met anyone new. I have done the online stuff. I ...
A. 4 October 2010: Are there no guys your age in your college that you could get to know and talk to? I come from a small town as well so i know your dilemma in the end up i moved in to a bigger place an hour away once i left school. If there are really no guys in ... (read in full...)
New to sex, what are good positions?
Q. Hello, My girlfriend and I have decided to have sex. I know she wants me to initiate it, but I am a virgin and don't know what positions will give her the most pleasure. She has had sex once before, and I want her to enjoy it more this time. Any r...
A. 4 October 2010: Well everybody is different and everybody likes different things so just take it slowely and see how it goes the only way for you to know what she likes is to try lots of different positions and ask her which one she prefers then you will know in ... (read in full...)
I'm a female in love with a gay guy
Q. Ok, so I really need to get this off of my chest because it's been on my mind constantly for the last couple of days. I'm 20 years old. I have this teacher assistant in my english class which I really believe is gay because the way he talks and plus ...
A. 4 October 2010: Ok well some straight guys can be quite feminine so maybe he is not gay, or else you might be right and he just likes you as a person, either way though its wrong to try anything on as he is your teacher and he could lose his job and reputation if ... (read in full...)
We broke up, I slept with his friend
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me,just up and left.A week later i slept with his friend.We got back together a couple days after that. I told him what happened,and he still can't forgive me and hates me everyday for it. I dont know if we are going to ...
A. 4 October 2010: Well at least you were honest with him thats a good start. Ok so it probably is going to take time for him to get over this. But you need to sit down with him and ask him does he see the both of you working out in the long run. Show him that you are ... (read in full...)
Can you really be torn between two people
Q. I'm caught in a dilema from messing with a married man.we both felled in love. Because of all the drama and opinions of what and how the relationship started it both played a part in both our situations which I believe ended it. He went back to ...
A. 4 October 2010: Well this is a hard situation and it really is your choice here what you want to do as you know already you have to options:
One, you tell him to stay with his wife and you be a single mother, but you will still need to share custody with him over... (read in full...)
Contacting old exes and flings for the past 1.5 years? Should I be upset?
Q. So this may all sound a bit childish and trivial but I'm hoping to get some perspective and make sense of this all. Thanks everyone for reading. My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 4 years and living together for 3 and a half. Hes 10 yea...
A. 4 October 2010: No your not over reacting and you do have a right to be upset, we all associate cheating with being physical but it can be verbal as well some people tend to forget this.
It sounds like when your man turned 30 he just freaked out about settling... (read in full...)
I just feel so alone and don't know how to move forward.
Q. Ok this is complicated and I'm sure will sound silly to a lot of people. I met this guy about 3 years ago when I was still living with my kid's dad. I didn't love my kid's dad and I was planning on breaking up with him so meeting this oth...
A. 4 October 2010: This guy sounds like a phycopath, i feel so sorry for you, you poor girl having to deal with all of this its awful. Ok first of i no its hard believe me but you have to change your phone number and delete his number and severe all ways off him ... (read in full...)
I Need to Learn How to Show Affection, Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months now but we always run into one problem. I am not a very affectionate person, I never have been. Like I'm just not used to being showered with love and affection and giving it in return. And all he ...
A. 4 October 2010: Ok darling maybe start out really slowely at first, maybe by giving him a hug and after doing this a few times maybe a wee peck on the cheek or a little stroke of his face. Just take it little by little, and if you find it impossible then maybe you ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because I never show that I love him?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for over a year now.i just found out that he impregnanted sum girl and i decided to forgive him.two weeks later he dumps me because he claims that i never do anything to show that i love him,and yet i always ask ...
A. 4 October 2010: Darling he shouldnt treat you this way nobody deserves to be cheated on and he has not only cheated on you but he also has a child on the way, its obvious he never used any protection so if i were you i would go and get checked out for sti's. Also ... (read in full...)
I want his attention but I don't want to appear like an idiot
Q. Hey!! So, i am a freshman, and i like a guy from my marching band who is a junior. the thing is, he plays snare, so we dont see each other very much. i dont want to ruin it with him by acting goony just so he looks at me, because that would make me ...
A. 4 October 2010: this is not you being immature sweetie, we all went through that at school, when you like someone you clam up your face goes red you dont no what to say and then you laugh nervously. Dont worry we all have been there. If you really like this guy ... (read in full...)
Taking a chance on losing a great woman for the unknown
Q. I'm on my way to being divorced. I've been separated for well over a year. I started dating a few months ago. I started seeing a well educated professional woman who has fallen hard for me. I like her a lot. My problem is that I don't want a ...
A. 4 October 2010: Your not an idiot, if you arent ready then your not ready, but maybe ask yourself why is that barrier there? Is it because you got hurt at the end of your marriage? Maybe you could overcome your anxieties and let your barrier down, if you like this ... (read in full...)
His family won't come to the wedding on the date we've planned
Q. my husband and i have been planning a wedding he refused to tell his parents from the beginning because he was afraid of their response since his mother doesn't like me much. we asked his aunt to tell his dad about the plans and his dad has said the ...
A. 2 October 2010: Is there much of a distance between the date you have organised and the date that his parents can make it? If there is not maybe you could compromise here for your husbands sake, yes it is unfair the way they are treating your special day, but just ... (read in full...)
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