I finally left! Why doesn't it feel better?
Q. i recently left the father of my two children i had enough of all the misstreatment. he verbaly humiliated me, ocacionally pushed me around. he is very weird somedays he treats me really good but other days he doesnt stop telling me he hates me ...
A. 13 November 2012: That's brilliant, glad to hear a good outcome and I am happy that you have your life back, hope you have a happy future.... (read in full...)
What song would you dedicate to a loved one?? any ideas?
Q. Hi, I'm not sure if this is the right place for this....if you could dedicate a song or two (or even 3 lol) to someone..what would it be and why? For example "Luther Vandross - Dance with my Father" ...always reminds me of my dad. And " Lio...
A. 18 October 2010: If you are wanting to dedicate a song to someone then you need to do this on your own and not with the help of others, you can look on the internet at lyrics and see which ones would describe your relationship best.... (read in full...)
Why can't I let go of my ex?
Q. Nearly 10 months after I split from my ex-boyfriend and I am still struggling to come to terms with it. It was a mutual decision (kind of!) to split as we were drifting apart, but I was really hoping that we would resolve things. We got on so w...
A. 18 October 2010: As you know ten months is a long time and if he hasnt contacted you by now then its sounds like he may have moved on.
You need to stop waiting around for him as i know you might not think you are doing this but sub conciously you are and you need... (read in full...)
I finally left! Why doesn't it feel better?
Q. i recently left the father of my two children i had enough of all the misstreatment. he verbaly humiliated me, ocacionally pushed me around. he is very weird somedays he treats me really good but other days he doesnt stop telling me he hates me ...
A. 18 October 2010: Go and visit your doctor and he will get you some medical help with some group or councellor. He has torn your self confidence apart and ripped you shred by shred you need to get away from this man and cut all contact with him, change your number ... (read in full...)
I want to dedicate a song to a loved one! What song would you choose?
Q. Hi, I'm not sure if this is the right place for this....if you could dedicate a song or two (or even 3 lol) to someone..what would it be and why? For example "Luther Vandross - Dance with my Father" ...always reminds me of my dad....
A. 18 October 2010: If you are wanting to dedicate a song to someone then you need to do this on your own and not with the help of others, you can look on the internet at lyrics and see which ones would describe your relationship best.... (read in full...)
How can I cope with this break up?
Q. hello every1 , this question might be not usual , but let me first tell u whats the situation . my ldr gf of 2 yrs jst broke up with me for no reason , she disapeared for 4 days and then got bk tellin me she doesnt need a bf anymore . she needs to ...
A. 18 October 2010: Ok it's always hard to get over someone believe me there is no correct way or no miracle it just takes time.
Try not and compare other girls to her, its to soon for you to look at other girls so just for now concentrate on yourself and dont go ... (read in full...)
Is going forward with a wedding, while keeping a big secret from one's fiancee a bad idea?
Q. Cheated on my fiancee a bit over a year ago. Have been together for 5 years. We got engaged over the summer and are getting married next month. She doesn't know that I had a short affair while we were dating (4 years into the relationship). I think ...
A. 18 October 2010: Well i'll be honest with you it will have a huge impact on your marriage with you having this on your mind it will more than likely end up as a disaster as you will always hold this guilt and wont be able to have a happy life together, you need to ... (read in full...)
Does everyone here think I am about to make a huge mistake if I go out on a date with him?
Q. Hi everyone. I got some good advise over here in the past so thought I'd try again. So, a few months ago I was involved in a very awkward situation with two childhood friends both in love with me (rather, one in love, the other one confused as it ...
A. 18 October 2010: Ok this is a very tricky situation as am sure you already know. As for A it sounds like he did really like you but guilt took over him and he started pushing you away as he wanted to hide his feelings so that it wasnt to hurt his friend. However B ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's lady friend doesn't want me around!
Q. Bf of 5 yrs has platonic(beyond doubt)unattractive lady friend nad I have befriended her at my insistance!I have eaten out with her,got her blind dates,girly goss together n the 3 of us have been out.However when my BF visits her from time to time ...
A. 18 October 2010: Well it sounds like your boyfriend and this women has a very strong friendship and he obviously doesnt want to upset her. Maybe she just wants to talk to him without you being there, has she ever flirted with him or has he told you she has acted any ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want a relationship now but maybe in the future she will?
Q. So I've liked this girl for a few months. My friends told me she liked before the summer so I told her i liked her..but she said she didn't feel the same way. We became best friends and got on with things. Then summer started and my friend had a ...
A. 18 October 2010: Well that was quite immature of her and spiteful to put a picture up on facebook. I suggest all you can do now, is cut al contact with her, delete her from facebook and delete her number and ask her never to contact you again, you deserve better.... (read in full...)
My son's father seems to want me back...
Q. My son's father and i have been apart for about 4 years.. he left without notice when our son was a baby.. we have talked about getting back together many times but neither of us worked toward that common goal.. a day before our son's birthday he ...
A. 18 October 2010: Well you are on the right track and you sound very level headed so that is good. I really hope that he can settle down this time and give you what you deserve. Good luck and all the best for the future.... (read in full...)
I once cheated on my boyfriend, and now the other guy wants me!
Q. i don't know if its a good idea to do this...never the less... I once cheated on my bf when we were going through a really bad phase...without sounding like i am trying to justify what i did...i was really unhappy...he was making life difficult f...
A. 18 October 2010: If your boyfriend is not supporting you then i think maybe its time to let go of the relationship.... (read in full...)
So... is it true???
Q. We have been brpoken up for four months now... any chance that we could get back together? Does it happen that people who were in a very long relationship get bored and need to break off and get back with the person they do and is it truth that on...
A. 17 October 2010: Ok you dont really give much a way in this post for someone to be able to help you.
First off i take it he broke up with you? But you dont give info on why you both broke up and if you are both still on good terms.
It is true that sometimes w... (read in full...)
My son's father seems to want me back...
Q. My son's father and i have been apart for about 4 years.. he left without notice when our son was a baby.. we have talked about getting back together many times but neither of us worked toward that common goal.. a day before our son's birthday he ...
A. 17 October 2010: You need to set some rules for him, tell him this is his last chance and that you mean it, if he walks out of the family home again then tell him you are never having anything to do with him ever again as he cant keep upsetting you both like this, ... (read in full...)
Should I take a gamble...?
Q. For the past six months or so I have been getting to know this guy who started out as someone I was more or less just attracted to. I recently just got back into the dating world and don't feel things for people quickly or get attracted strongly to ...
A. 17 October 2010: It sounds like he doesnt know how to deal with your feelings for him and if he has no experience he probably doesnt no the first thing about relationships and what to do.
I think you should just tell him everything you are holding in at the end ... (read in full...)
Dating for 2 years and living together - No sex.
Q. Reading on other questions which are similar, people come with the religious responses. Trust me, I understand where she is coming from. The religious responses aren't going to help me. So here's the situation. I've been dating the same girl fo...
A. 17 October 2010: 1. There is no real way to make her have sex as am sure you know if she stands by her no sex before marriage then am guessing you just need to deal with it however hard it is. And am sure it is really frustrating especially as you are at college and ... (read in full...)
Nasty rumours!
Q. I need urgent advice! Me and my ex broke up 3 months ago. and im still hurting and worse of all i been hearing rumors that im not sure if him or his friend are saying that i sleep around and that i lost my virginity with him and i dont know what ...
A. 17 October 2010: Ok you need to stand up for yourself shoulders back and head straight go up to him even if it is in front of his friends and ask him even if they are listening why he is going around telling people that you have slept around look him straight in the ... (read in full...)
Uni... or boyfriend?
Q. I have recently started at university which is about 1 hour 30 mins away from my boyfriend and were both finding it quite hard. He is now starting to question if he can handle a long distance relationship. I love him so much and im torn because i ...
A. 17 October 2010: Ok first of dont give up on uni, because you will be throwing your future away and you may later regret it if things dont work out with your boyfriend. At the end of the day if he felt the same as you did then he would do everything in his power to ... (read in full...)
How can I turn my straight friend bi?
Q. Im bi and I have a friend who is straight but gives me sum gayish hints of bi-curiousness and i want to turn him bi...or just want to have sex/play around with him im a new friend of his ive known him for about a month and a half now and we hang ...
A. 17 October 2010: Simple answer you cant turn anybody bi. So just give up now while you can. If you trust him enough to talk to him then tell him how you feel but am afraid that is all you can do.... (read in full...)
I'm so confused by my feelings, dreams..am I a lesbian?
Q. I'm very attracted to the female figure, especially very skinny/petite girls (this could just be admiration bc I myself struggle with weight, doesn't necessarily have to be sexual.) And there's this girl I work with who I swear I have a crush on. I ...
A. 17 October 2010: You could be gay or else you might just be a little bit confused about this girl. Either way try not to panick about it.
You need to figure out if this woman has any feelings towards you before you act on anything, maybe contact a centre that dea... (read in full...)
I don't do just dumb relationhips, I like it to be serious!
Q. So I have this guy friend (Erik) and we always flirt and He's an awesome guy. He is kinda mean to most girls but not normally me, Sometimes when were together he grabs my hands and stuff but it's only for a couple of seconds, He is SUCH a good ...
A. 17 October 2010: Well maybe he didnt want to respond to your feelings during the summer for the simple fact is he put his friendship with this friend first before making himself happy, if two friends like the same girl it usually causes trouble therefore he probably ... (read in full...)
I would like to know how to get the best out of using lubricant during sex.
Q. Hi. I would like to know how to get the best out of using lubricant during sex. Is it a good idea to add some onto my penis and on the condom before penetration? Will this increase sexual pleasure and help me to cum? Also, I feel very stiff ...
A. 17 October 2010: No i dont agree i dont think that having a 'good orgasm' will relieve stiffness, yes it can relieve stress and anxiety.
As for the lubricant well i dont think this will improve your orgasm this is usuually just good to use if the women is not w... (read in full...)
How can I get him to send money over to for our son?
Q. Hi there I want to ask about husbands natures - does anyone know how to tackle them once you trust them, they dodge you, how to ask for money for my kid and myself while living in Pakistan on vacations and he is living in UK? he is the only son ...
A. 17 October 2010: The only way you can do this is to go through the courts, go to your local court and ask them how do you apply for your husband to pay for your child, he has a responsibility to pay for his child.... (read in full...)
On again off again for five years but I can't let him go
Q. dear cupid my ex and i have been on and off for five years. everytime he is the one that breaks up with me, but we always get back together with in a year or two. Both of us have been with others, him more than me, but i always compare other gu...
A. 17 October 2010: No its not fair on you to be holding on to him, do you want to be with a guy for the rest of your life that cant make a commitment and keep breaking your heart? You need to get rid of him completely unless he is ready to make a commitment.
Ask h... (read in full...)
I am 21 and not married yet but can see lots of problems ahead
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 21-years-old and we've been together for 5 years. We have a precious two-year-old son together...but I don't think I'd still be with him if we didn't have a kid. We've been talking about marriage since we first got tog...
A. 17 October 2010: Ok this is very tricky and am not sure what the best advice would be here if am totally honest.
You need to ask yourself do you truly love this man?? Taking away all of his family could you see yourself happy with him in the future? Because ... (read in full...)
I once cheated on my boyfriend, and now the other guy wants me!
Q. i don't know if its a good idea to do this...never the less... I once cheated on my bf when we were going through a really bad phase...without sounding like i am trying to justify what i did...i was really unhappy...he was making life difficult f...
A. 17 October 2010: Ok no its not a good idea to be friends with someone that you cheated on your boyfriend with. Im sorry but if you were unhappy you shouldnt have cheated you should have left the relationship and then you were free to do what you like.
But whats do... (read in full...)
Do I really want her, or am I just feeling sorry for her?
Q. Hello, I met this girl in my second week at university. She sat beside me, and I talked to her. She was basically the first girl to ever positively respond to me, and she even facilitated the conversations, which was a wholly new situation for me...
A. 17 October 2010: Yes you did just answer your own question. She is only out of a relationship so dont try and get with her because it will only mess her head up even more. Just be there for her be a friend and just dont cross the line for a while. As you dont want ... (read in full...)
I believe he was my soulmate, and now cant get over him!
Q. I want to know if a guy I dated was my soulmate, and if so how to do I get over him? So my sophomore year of high school I had a class with this guy... and immediately felt a connection. We both wanted to take it slow and not rush into things, ...
A. 17 October 2010: Ok its possible that you have feelings for this guy as you have made a lot of bad decisions and you were happy when you were with him therefore you feel he is your soul mate.
But he is starting to ignore you now again and you deserve to be treat... (read in full...)
Should I give up on tough love?
Q. im so in love with a girl i told her how i feel about her,but she is giving me a hard time the thing is that she tells me that she wanna know if she is trully commiting her self to a right guy,she first wanna feel the same as i do feel about her but ...
A. 17 October 2010: Tell her you care about her feelings as well, but that it would be extrememly difficult for you to be friends with her when you have such strong feeling for her because you dont want to end up heart broken if she decides that she doesnt want you.
... (read in full...)
Comunication Breakdown
Q. i have posted her before and was happy with the mature responses i got so im back for some advice and opinion. my on and off girlfriend have had some huge communication issues. I am a talker and she is not. i am dealing with the fact that she had ...
A. 17 October 2010: Ok well at least you are thinking with a clear head and you realise that the only way this is going to work is if the both of you start communicating, you know this so it sounds like its her that needs to start working on this relationship if she ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to get over the shame and humiliation
Q. Dear anyone I've been married for nearly 30 years and weve had our ups and downs. It turns out my ex to be hubby has been a secret cross dresser all of our married life. he has hidden it so well that i didn't have a clue until he came out and told...
A. 17 October 2010: Ok well i can understand that this must have came as a huge shock to you especially when you think you know the man that you married.
But i think you also need to understand that he is the same person you married only he had this huge secret a... (read in full...)
Hiya Gorgeous, it's the guy who wants to steal you from your boyfriend!
Q. okay well my girlfrind got a random text last night saying, hiya gourgous its spencer, i see the text come up but she said to me that she doesnt know who it is, it was playing with my head, i heard the name spencer a couple of days earler, thats ...
A. 17 October 2010: Ok well dont contact him under any circumstances as this will only cause a lot of trouble for everyone.
Ok so it does sound suspicious that your girlfriend lied to you that she didnt know him when she did. So the only thing you can really do here ... (read in full...)
Why wont he kiss me when we're having sex?
Q. Well, my bf and I have been going out for a month and a half now. And everything, has been going quite well. Though, there is a problem, he wont kiss me when were having sex, or when i give him a blow job. I dont get it, is it me, he use to not be ...
A. 17 October 2010: Ok dont think ahead of yourself here and think he is cheating on you. there could be a simple explanation.
Ok so in my honest opinion it does sound strange that your boyfriend wont kiss you through sex as this is a big intimate part of sex to k... (read in full...)
Why is my husband texting this woman so much?
Q. Why is my husband texting another woman? I looked at his phone and he has texed a lot to lots of people that he works for because he is in charge of training for his company. Most of the people are people that are on his same level in the company ...
A. 17 October 2010: Well its easy to see that your husband is a very social person due to his work. If there is no immediate alert that he is being flirty or secretive then am sure he is just being friendly to this woman.
Yet if it is causing you concern and you feel... (read in full...)
I do want a boyfriend, but I'm shy. Why is this?
Q. what can I do? Well you see, when ever I get real close to a boy, I wait for him to ask me out. What's wrong with that? The reason why I don't ask him out, first is beacause I don't feel close to him. Is there anything wrong beacause I alway...
A. 17 October 2010: no there is nothing wrong with this, if you dont feel comfortable asking a boy out then nobody is forcing you to do anything, it will feel right when you are ready to ask someone out believe me, and if they ask you out and you dont want to go out ... (read in full...)
I can't stand being single anymore!!!
Q. Hello I am 17 years old and still in high school. I can't stand being single anymore. I really can't. I have never kissed a girl before never been loved by a girl before I can't take it. I see all these other people getting all this love but for ...
A. 17 October 2010: well if you cant take advice anymore why did you come on here? People are going to be honest with you weather you like it or not am afraid.
Ok so we all go through stages were we are fed up with being single, i was 17 when i had my first relation... (read in full...)
Is it a date? Or just friends going out?
Q. ok my ex and i are friends and i asked him to dinner alone and to go clubbing on friday night to me it was a date and he said yes but now i'm thinking those he think it as two frieds or a date i can't ask him because i do wish to strain whatever you ...
A. 16 October 2010: Ok try not to over think this, there isnt much difference between a date and friends meeting up, unless you see this as a start for you and him to get back together. If that is the case then maybe do a little light flirting but dont come on to ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm stuck in the past and can't move ahead
Q. hello all i am sorry its a bit long but please help me out my ex broke up with me 8 months ago and she was my first love, it was a 3 year LDR and we never actually felt the distance as we woud talk all the time and she loved me from all her he...
A. 16 October 2010: Ok it sounds like you are just not happy with your life in general and thats why you think of your ex as you were happy then and you associate being happy with your ex and hence why you just cant move on.
you need to start being happy on your own... (read in full...)
My Ex Fiance died and now I'm in love with his brother.
Q. I dated my ex fiance for a year and a half. I ended our relationship because he cheated on me. I tried to make it work but my trust and love were gone so I decided in the long run it would be better that we went our separate ways. Neither one of us ...
A. 16 October 2010: Ok this is a tricky one. Am sure your ex would want you to be happy no matter what, but this could spell trouble in the long run.
First off you need to find out how this man feels about you, as he may just be keeping in contact with you as he fe... (read in full...)
I can't help but want him more that I want to.
Q. I'm a junior in high school, and I've known my crush for about a year and a half. We're casual friends--we talk some in school and SOMETIMES, RARELY get together on weekends to study, or VERY RARELY to hang out at a birthday party or something. ...
A. 16 October 2010: Ok this has bad news wrote all over it, he has a girlfriend therefore you should never go after a boy that is in a relationship because it will only spell trouble believe me. If he wasnt happy he wouldnt have been with his girlfriend for so long and ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want a relationship now but maybe in the future she will?
Q. So I've liked this girl for a few months. My friends told me she liked before the summer so I told her i liked her..but she said she didn't feel the same way. We became best friends and got on with things. Then summer started and my friend had a ...
A. 16 October 2010: Hi, yes it sounds like this girl doesnt want to get caught up in a long distance relationship, especially going away to college for the first time. This is usually the part of our life were we go out in the world on our own and meet new people and ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on him but don't want it to go any further if we are just going to be friends!
Q. I recently got back in touch with an old friend. We live 2 hrs. apart but he's supposed to me moving closer within the next year. I've only seen him twice in the past two years, but have connected on facebook. At first I thought he was just being ...
A. 16 October 2010: Well am afraid you just have to be honest with him and tell him how you feel, so that you know one way or another, its better finding out now how he feels than when you are head over heels for him as you will just only get hurt more.
I know tha... (read in full...)
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