Why am I so confused?
Q. Okay, so I started talking to this guy Travis last year around february. He was in one of my classes and was really into me. We hung out on the weekends almost every night going to parties and stuff. We also studied together for class a lot. ...
A. 1 October 2010: just approach it as gently as you can, ask him what does he see you as if he would ever see himself in a relationship with you or are you just a bit of fun to him. ... (read in full...)
Why does he say he loves me but is willing to drop me like I'm nothing?
Q. I love him but he hurts me, Every day. What should I do? He hurts me mentally,physically,emotional. He says he loves me, but he is willing to choose the someone else who is just a "friend" over us. He is so willing to drop me like nothing. Why? ...
A. 1 October 2010: Well they obviously arent good friends if they arent going to talk to you over this, if they cared about you then they would be there for you at this difficult time and be glad that you got out of an abusive relationship, they arent worth it, just ... (read in full...)
Does he really want to get back together this time?
Q. Well me and my boyfriend split about three weeks a go. He told me he didn't want to be with me at first and it was a definate no, then we met a couple of days later and i asked him again and he didn't he didn't think so, but he didn't know whether ...
A. 1 October 2010: yes good for you, running after men will only lead to heartache, its in his hands now so dont contact him, let him contact you if he is ready. But dont sleep with him again if he is not ready to commit stay strong.... (read in full...)
What do you think about my relationship?
Q. I'm 22 years old and have been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years, and my dream and wish is for us to move into our own home together, i have a job and some money behind me and he doesnt have a job or any savings, i feel so upset and i feel he ...
A. 1 October 2010: Well good luck and it will be hard for a while to get over him, but through time you will feel so much better and you will then be ready to meet someone new and get what you deserve, good luck and all the best in the future.... (read in full...)
Why can't I lower my standards in datiing?
Q. hi its been over i month me and my ex girlfriend have been broken up, neither of us really wanted to break up but it just ended up happening and i love her to death but we both did some stupid things that we cant forgive eachother for in that month, ...
A. 29 September 2010: Oh dear this girl is all over the place, it seems she has low self asteem and is not ready for a healthy relationship, as for being scared of you this is her just trying to push the blame on you and you shouldnt let her, you need to let her go ... (read in full...)
Convincing my boyfriend of 3.5 years to marry me?
Q. i have been in a relation with a guy since 3 n a half yrs.he used to be my lecturer in college.he is a very good guy and cares a lot about me.both of us are from different places and from different castes {in my country some families are quite ...
A. 29 September 2010: Well you just answered your own question, you said you would need to marry this man before setteling down and having children with him as its what your family believe in and you wouldnt go against there beliefs, well its the same for this man, he is ... (read in full...)
I'm freaking out on my b/f for things my ex was hung up on
Q. I freaked out the other night on my boyfriend. He and I are usually very affectionate and when we go to bed (if we're not having sex) we'll hold each other for a while before going to sleep... but the other night he didn't touch me at all. I tried ...
A. 29 September 2010: This sounds like really needy behaviour you have, obviously from the way your ex treated you, maybe go to a counselling session, someone proffessional what you can talk to, they can bring up your self asteem and anxiety issues and offer ways to help ... (read in full...)
What should I do with this ex who said we can't be friends? He keeps looking at me.
Q. I had a great relationship with a guy i met through friends. He dumped me after 9 months due to our 'differences' although he still loved me and meant all the nice things he had said. I handled the break up quite well and despite feeling sad at the ...
A. 29 September 2010: It is very hard for ex's to be friends so i guess i see this guys point of view, it sounds like he doesnt want to be friends in case all of those feelings come back to hurt him again, obiously he feels that even though he loves you that you just ... (read in full...)
My teacher acts like he likes me but doesn't directly say it! What should I do?
Q. I have an issue. I went to religious school and found my self with a teacher I hadn't seen in a few years. He's very nice and knows me. He started flirting with me. I liked him before and was sad when he didn't come back to teach. So now he's back ...
A. 29 September 2010: You should stay away, teacher and student relationship is really wrong and if anything happens this will only lead to him losing his job, losing his trust and respect in the community and have a lot of people hating him. It will ruin his life, that ... (read in full...)
I have discovered my boyfriend has been contacting girls for webcam sex! What should I do?
Q. Today I searched on google my boyfriend's mail and the results that appeared all where from comments he posted on porn blogs for girls to contact him (for webcam sex and I don't know for what more). One of them had the date of four days ago and we ...
A. 29 September 2010: Well first off you should never pardoned him for naked pictures in the first place, because this has put it in his head that he can do whatever he likes and you will forgive him, dont be a walk over, as for the webcam sex, has it happened within the ... (read in full...)
Why am I so confused?
Q. Okay, so I started talking to this guy Travis last year around february. He was in one of my classes and was really into me. We hung out on the weekends almost every night going to parties and stuff. We also studied together for class a lot. ...
A. 29 September 2010: You have your advice right there in your question, the only way to resolve this is to sit him down and ask him were you stand, and this needs to be done when he is sober, there is no other way. good luck... (read in full...)
Would it be selfish of me to have another child without being in a relationship?
Q. i am a single mother and i have a gorgeous 3 year old son. For the past year i have been wanting another baby but i don't want to be in a relationship. I'm happy being on my own. Would it be selfish of me to have another child?...
A. 29 September 2010: Tough call to say the least, i guess we all just hope that we come from a stable home with two loving parents but in saying that single moms can be just as strong, if you decide to have another child, just make sure that the dad is involved in his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to be choosing his child with his ex over our child!
Q. My boyfriend has two kids, one by me and one by his ex. his ex decided to move to another state now he wants to drop our home and jobs that supports our child to hang out with his other son can you help?...
A. 29 September 2010: Well i guess that this is fair enough, as both of his children deserve to have there father around them, but if you really dont want to move to this other state then you have to tell him, but make sure you are not wanting to move for the right ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance for us? Or is it over?
Q. I've been dating this guy since June, and over the last month we have gotten very very couply. We started in a space of course where we both could date others, though he never did that, and I did, which he know. So over the last month, he's been ...
A. 29 September 2010: Sit down and talk to him, tell him how you feel tell him its time that the both of you commited to each other at this stage, if he doesnt want to do that then cut your ties with him, as you will end up getting hurt... (read in full...)
Will he ever commit to me?
Q. scared he may never commit? Me and my fella been seeing each other coming up to 9 months. Before he got with me he had been broken up with his ex of 8 years for 7 months. We broke up a month after dating because he told me that he thought he wa...
A. 29 September 2010: I dont think he is leading you on at all, yes he moved in with his ex early, but look how that turned out, this is obviously going to make him take things slower and make sure that its really the right thing to do. As for the children, are they your ... (read in full...)
He said I love you... without being prompted!!!
Q. Hi, I have been together with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We love each other and have talked regularly about marriage. However he remains in contact with his ex-girlfriend (who lives in another country). He was with her for 6 years and ...
A. 29 September 2010: Ok so his parents didnt approve and thats why they broke up so yeah i guess they still have a connection, but with him reminding her off the good old times its not something to say to cheer someone up thats just going to make her think of what could ... (read in full...)
I've done everything I can to make him happy!
Q. Hi me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 and half years and we have 2 kids together. i recently found out he cheated on me with his ex not too long ago, he tells me he was drunk and it didnt mean anything but he slept there also so i dont ...
A. 28 September 2010: Well first off young lady two wrongs certainly dont make a right, and at the moment you are just as bad as him. But as for he is concerned well he should have told you straight away that he had cheated, its up to you now what you want to do, if you ... (read in full...)
He left me for my cousin!
Q. I have been dating this guy for quite a while. But we recently broke up because he left me for my cousin! turns out he heard rumors of me and he believed them so as a "revenge" he dated my cousin. he swears he loves me and will never do that again. ...
A. 28 September 2010: Dont just give him your virginity, your first time is meant to be speacial and will be a moment you remember for ever. do you trust this guy? do you love him? these are all things you need to know before you consider this and also are you ready?... (read in full...)
How did she manage to get over me so quickly???
Q. My girlfriend for the last year dumped me on Saturday, and we had a good relationship, and i really loved her. But she left me because she "didn't have any time for me" I was ok with this, until she got a new boyfriend today. How did she get over ...
A. 28 September 2010: Thats the spirit go out with your friends and enjoy yourself... (read in full...)
Advice on love handles?
Q. This isnt a love question but im just curious. I'm 16 years old, weight isnt an issue for me, my figure is normal, but i have this fat belly that really bothers me, like when i wear clothes without a jumper to hide it basicaly! I would like some ...
A. 28 September 2010: Hi the best way to tone up your stomach is by doing sit ups every day. if you dont no were to start with sit ups i suggest going to argos and buying
Argos Value Range Abdotrim Tummy Exerciser. 924/9161
its a great wee gadget and you can feel... (read in full...)
My heart is smashed into a million little pieces...
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago, my heart has literally been smashed into a million tiny pieces and it hurts so much. It hurts this much mainly because it was a sudden breakup and that I wasn't expecting it. What's even worse is ...
A. 28 September 2010: Its hard to tell if she was lying to you, nobody can tell you that but her, and if she was lying then you deserve better and the pain will dye down eventually and you will soon find yourself out and enjoying yourself again and when you feel happy ... (read in full...)
I really want to speak to my ex... it ended badly
Q. My ex broke up with me for her ex after she went to see him in hospital after he got beaten up. I had done nothing wrong to deserve this. The last time we spoke was when I told her that I had been threatened by him (he sent me emails telling m...
A. 28 September 2010: Aw how horrible for you? Thats just awful. I have to be honest with you am afraid but its obvious she wants to be with her ex, so i think you need to just not try and contact her, we all go through life and get heart broken at least once, it doesnt ... (read in full...)
His ex is coming between us... help!
Q. Hi :) I'd REALLY appreciate any advice anyone could give me. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and I am very happy. We have a great relationship and it's very healthy and happy in every way :) There is a problem though.. hi...
A. 28 September 2010: She obviously hasnt gotten over your boyfriend as is jelous of you, yeah my advice would have been to ignore her but this obviously hasnt worked, as for the photos on facebook try to ignore them as not alot you can do, well if your boyfriend is on ... (read in full...)
My husband has a problem with sexting...
Q. My husband has a problem with sexting... This is the 3rd time I've found out. It's heart breaking. Some argue it's not cheating, but to me it is. And after 3 times I see it's not gonna stop, and it will lead to something else if it hasn't ...
A. 28 September 2010: Yes this is cheating it may not be physical but it still hurts just as much. My heart goes out to you this is such a horrible situation to be in especially when there are three children to look after, but you need to get out of this somehow you cant ... (read in full...)
Why can't he just treat me like the woman I am???
Q. I am 40 years old but my cousin, who is 42, treats me like a child. He never discusses any serious issues with me, about the family or anything else. I am often surprised when my mother tells me interesting things that he has told her. A few years ...
A. 28 September 2010: To me he sounds quite immature, not you. Next time he calls you a child ignore him completely, no point trying to talk to this man if he is going to treat you like this and make you feel small. Ignore him. He aint worth it, dont let him show you ... (read in full...)
I feel so torn...
Q. I feel so torn, I know I should walk away from this guy but I really like him. We have known each other for about 4 years and for the past 2 years we have been getting really close, and over the past 6 months things have turned sexual. I have just ...
A. 28 September 2010: Hate to break it to you darling, but he doesnt care about your feelings he is getting sex so he doesnt care, you gave it to him without being in a relationship so now he aint going to respect you and he aint ever going to care about you, so you say ... (read in full...)
Should I send him the gifts after his cold response?
Q. This guy I like is in Afghanistan and he's coming home for Xmas. I asked him if I could send him a box with things before he comes home. By his reply that it was a cold one, I decided not to, but I told him I would anyway. Read the conversation: ...
A. 28 September 2010: Simple do not send him a package and do not let any guy talk to you like that, its plain cruel. Write and say i am not going to send a package and i am not going to contact you again as you are being very distant towards me and i can do so much ... (read in full...)
He has to choose... the parents, or me!!!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years, and we really love each other, but his parents have suddenly decided i'm not welcome at their house anymore and they really hate me. I thought all along that they didn't like me cos they think i'm ...
A. 28 September 2010: Well it is very wrong of them to ask him to chose between his girfriend and them its really unfair on him. Im glad he wont chose and i hope your not asking him to choose you as he needs his parents. Have you done anything on his parents that have ... (read in full...)
What do you think about my relationship?
Q. I'm 22 years old and have been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years, and my dream and wish is for us to move into our own home together, i have a job and some money behind me and he doesnt have a job or any savings, i feel so upset and i feel he ...
A. 28 September 2010: I guess this is what every girl wants isnt it, there own home, a good guy a child, basically there own family. Hunni the both of you are in complete different stages of your life you have your head screwed on you no what you want and he doesnt. ... (read in full...)
Embarrassed by my new boyfriend...
Q. I've been dating a guy for two weeks now, he's smart, cute, funny, sensitive and romantic, but there are two disadvantages: he's still in high school, but graduates this year and he's only three months younger than me, but he's still 18 (so he ...
A. 28 September 2010: He's right you shouldnt care what other people have to think, if they are your friends and family they should be happy for you, i mean did it ever occur to you that this guy might not have the money to buy shoes? did you stop to concider his ... (read in full...)
How did she manage to get over me so quickly???
Q. My girlfriend for the last year dumped me on Saturday, and we had a good relationship, and i really loved her. But she left me because she "didn't have any time for me" I was ok with this, until she got a new boyfriend today. How did she get over ...
A. 28 September 2010: Oh sweetie i feel so sorry for you, maybe she just fell out of love with you, it happens in life and we just cant help it, you take your time and get over her there is no rush and before you know it you'll be out looking at other girls.... (read in full...)
Dry ejaculation...
Q. Hey Help!!, Last night I had an erection and I held it in with my PC muscle. I know it was kind of stupid to do this. So in essence I had a dry ejaculation. I've never really tried it before but I had a sharp pain in my lower stomach. Now the...
A. 28 September 2010: This is called retrograde ejaculation, what happend more than likely was that the semen went in to your stomach during the process, this may have caused the pain in your stomach but dont worry the semen would have passed through your system as it ... (read in full...)
Horny for my brother in law!
Q. Hi I am a 31 year old married guy. Successful carreer, beautiful loving wife and gorgeous 2 kids - whatever I do circles around them. I have known my wife since we were 15 - we were each other's first love and no one ever got between us. However, I ...
A. 28 September 2010: Don't even think about having an affair with this man, first of all you may be completely wrong about his feelings for you he may just be an affectionet guy and treats all men like this (there are plenty of guys who hug platonicly). Secondly if you ... (read in full...)
Should I move into my girlfriend's parents' house?
Q. I'm 22 and still live at home (and dont pay rent). My parents broke up a year ago, and i live with my dad. My dad started seeing another women about 10 months ago, and he hasnt introduced us yet. Sometimes she'll stay overnight, but my dad will ...
A. 28 September 2010: This is a tricky situation to say the least. Ok so you are 22 now so we are the same age and in my opinion i think both ideas are wrong, i think the best thing to do here is go out and find an apartment to rent or even a room if money is tight, tell ... (read in full...)
Relationship confusion ... Is it normal for me to question our relationship after 2 years?
Q. There are so many "views" and comments out there that makes me more confused; "you'll know when you meet the right guy", "love is all you need", "there is more to a relationship than love", "soulmate", etc. I am in a 2 year relationship. We...
A. 28 September 2010: Well if i am completely honest, which i always am i would say slogans like 'he is the one' and 'you will know when you have found him' is all highly over rated. You talk about love in the movies, it gives every girl these images of how love should ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get over this?
Q. Hey My partner and I have been together for almost three years now, but after our first year together he cheated. He broke it off wth me long after he did this but didnt actually tell me had done it untill a friend of his told me. We got back toge...
A. 28 September 2010: oh dear you really should'nt have got back together with this man and brought an innocent child in to all of this before sitting down and getting everything out in the open, but nobody can change that now. You need to tell your man how you are ... (read in full...)
I'm willing to change to get him back
Q. My ex boyfriend and I broke up a little over a month ago. We had been dating a little over a year. The reason we broke up is I would start arguments with him and I admit I was a little too pushy. When we were together, we did have a lot of fun and ...
A. 28 September 2010: I personally think that if you were being to pushy and argumentative then obviously something was'nt quite right in your relationship that was of your expectations, take time out away from you ex partner to work out for yourself what these issues ... (read in full...)
I'm messing around with a 29 year old and he doesn't know that I"m only 17
Q. basically a few months back i met this guy we kissed, then after i found out he was 29 years old and i was only 16 years old. i stopped texting him because i knew it was wrong. but now.... I need your help again!! I was out downtown with ...
A. 28 September 2010: Only one way to find out darling, tell him that you would like to spend some time with him and get to know him but that you dont want to have sex with him again for a while until you get to know him more, like going on nights out to the movies or ... (read in full...)
When do friends become something else?
Q. my bf said he has no male friends he only has a female friend he see every day cause they work in the same place and if we are in a discussion and she come into the his line of site he then wont let me finish telling him my news he will focus all ...
A. 28 September 2010: Weel firstly at least he is being honest to you about his day and who he spends it with, usually if a guy is cheating on you then he would never talk about this other girl, but its clear he is. But it does sound like he talks about her a little bit ... (read in full...)
Getting married in 6 weeks but can't get over my insecurity and self-esteem issues!
Q. Hi all. Im 23, getting married in 6wks (wow!) and i cant get over my self esteem/insecurity problems! My fiance is wonderful, always telling me he thinks im beautiful and the most gorgeous woman in the world etc etc, but most times i laugh or tell ...
A. 28 September 2010: No offence taking but if you keep going the way you are and puttin yourself down he will start to believe it aswell. Trust me on this you need to be happy within yourself before you commit to a wedding, but all the best with the marriage i hope it ... (read in full...)
Does he really want to get back together this time?
Q. Well me and my boyfriend split about three weeks a go. He told me he didn't want to be with me at first and it was a definate no, then we met a couple of days later and i asked him again and he didn't he didn't think so, but he didn't know whether ...
A. 28 September 2010: There really is only one way to find the answer to this and its to ask him clean out will he get back with you, if he says no then you no your answer be sure to tell him that its the last time you will ask him keep to your word and he will start ... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with him if I don't want to have sex?
Q. Should I continue to sleep with my boyfriend if he has asked for sex which I don't want to give?...
A. 27 September 2010: Simple answer no, never sleep with someone if you dont want to.... (read in full...)
Does he really want to get back together this time?
Q. Well me and my boyfriend split about three weeks a go. He told me he didn't want to be with me at first and it was a definate no, then we met a couple of days later and i asked him again and he didn't he didn't think so, but he didn't know whether ...
A. 27 September 2010: Sounds to me like he is leading you on, ask him straight out if there is a chance of you being together and if the answer is no, stop texting him and dont answer his phone calls, and start going out with friends and meeting new people. ... (read in full...)
When do friends become something else?
Q. my bf said he has no male friends he only has a female friend he see every day cause they work in the same place and if we are in a discussion and she come into the his line of site he then wont let me finish telling him my news he will focus all ...
A. 27 September 2010: Are you in a relationship with this man?... (read in full...)
Getting married in 6 weeks but can't get over my insecurity and self-esteem issues!
Q. Hi all. Im 23, getting married in 6wks (wow!) and i cant get over my self esteem/insecurity problems! My fiance is wonderful, always telling me he thinks im beautiful and the most gorgeous woman in the world etc etc, but most times i laugh or tell ...
A. 27 September 2010: I think its a bad idea for you'se to get married in six weeks, its meant to be one of the most happiest days in your life yet you arent going to enjoy it with all this anxiety going on in your head. Obviously this has stemed from your past, you ... (read in full...)
I'm messing around with a 29 year old and he doesn't know that I"m only 17
Q. basically a few months back i met this guy we kissed, then after i found out he was 29 years old and i was only 16 years old. i stopped texting him because i knew it was wrong. but now.... I need your help again!! I was out downtown with ...
A. 26 September 2010: You need to be honest with him, text him back and tell him you are being distant as you are only 17 and you dont no how he feels about the age gap, if he doesnt mind then neither should you. Just be honest with him and if you like him go for it, you ... (read in full...)
Why does he say he loves me but is willing to drop me like I'm nothing?
Q. I love him but he hurts me, Every day. What should I do? He hurts me mentally,physically,emotional. He says he loves me, but he is willing to choose the someone else who is just a "friend" over us. He is so willing to drop me like nothing. Why? ...
A. 26 September 2010: Yes dont be scared to leave him, you need to do this for yourself, he doesnt deserve you and you dont deserve to be treated this way, please take everyones advice and walk away from him.... (read in full...)
Why does he say he loves me but is willing to drop me like I'm nothing?
Q. I love him but he hurts me, Every day. What should I do? He hurts me mentally,physically,emotional. He says he loves me, but he is willing to choose the someone else who is just a "friend" over us. He is so willing to drop me like nothing. Why? ...
A. 24 September 2010: Darling if he is hurting you physically emotionally and mentally then he doesnt love you especially if you arent coming first in his eyes, and physical violence is a no no, get out of this relationship now its a sham and you are onyl going to get ... (read in full...)
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