Why does he say he loves me but is willing to drop me like I'm nothing?
Q. I love him but he hurts me, Every day. What should I do? He hurts me mentally,physically,emotional. He says he loves me, but he is willing to choose the someone else who is just a "friend" over us. He is so willing to drop me like nothing. Why? ...
A. 1 October 2010: Well they obviously arent good friends if they arent going to talk to you over this, if they cared about you then they would be there for you at this difficult time and be glad that you got out of an abusive relationship, they arent worth it, just ... (read in full...)
I'm messing around with a 29 year old and he doesn't know that I"m only 17
Q. basically a few months back i met this guy we kissed, then after i found out he was 29 years old and i was only 16 years old. i stopped texting him because i knew it was wrong. but now.... I need your help again!! I was out downtown with ...
A. 28 September 2010: Only one way to find out darling, tell him that you would like to spend some time with him and get to know him but that you dont want to have sex with him again for a while until you get to know him more, like going on nights out to the movies or ... (read in full...)
Her mixed signals are confusing me! What should I do?
Q. Girlfriend said she wanted to break up then changed her mind. For roughly two weeks we were talking daily and taking it slow. She even said things were good between us. Then she wanted to visit me last weekend and didn't show up last minute. ...
A. 27 September 2010: Sounds like jelousy and she sounds like she is really playing with your head. I think you should cut your ties.... (read in full...)
Her alcoholism and depression are making me sad and confused. What's her deal?
Q. Me and my ex broke up four months after her dad died. She told me she had severe depression. She also told me she's an alcoholic and used to be a cutter and that the day we split she really felt the old urges to cut herself again. Naturally this ...
A. 27 September 2010: Think of a time when she may be home alone and call to her house and tell her you need to talk to her privately that its really important, dont take no for an answer.... (read in full...)
How can my dad leave and show he doesn't care about me?
Q. A few months ago a bad thing happened on my dads side of the family. My older cousin killed himself. My parents are divorced and my dads family lives in flordia, so my dad started going down there for months and months at a time, i couldnt believe ...
A. 26 September 2010: Aw darling am sure your dad cares about you alot, it must have been hard on him to leave you. Maybe he is just lonely living on his own and needed his family around him. Dont ever think that he doesnt care about you, at least you still get to talk ... (read in full...)
Would it work... a lesbian getting with a gay guy?
Q. Hi World! I am an lady with a hidden lifestyle, am a lesbian. I am going 40 and never been married, this makes my conservative christian family so not get me. Our traditions do not get or accept this kind of lifestyle. I would really want t...
A. 26 September 2010: I totally disagree with this, its like living a lie, i can totally understand that your community is against gay/lesbians but you are that person and you need to try and be honest am sure your family and friends might be against it for a while and ... (read in full...)
How honest do women like guys to be?
Q. How honest should you be with someone that was once your sould mate?.... even if it means hurting her?...
A. 26 September 2010: Completely honest. You shouldnt have done anything that would hurt her anyway, so you need to live with the consequences and be honest. ... (read in full...)
Are they right??? Should we look for someone else?
Q. I am a guy of 23 years of age in a relationship with a girl of 23 as well but she is 3 days older than me. We both have been pressurized by friends, relatives and people generally that the relationship can't work, they say it will be better if I ...
A. 26 September 2010: Why do they say this? That is just so ridiculous, if you'se are happy and in love then prove them all wrong by staying with each other, age doesnt make a difference when it comes to love, you'se prove everyone wrong.... (read in full...)
Something keeps stopping me from having sex, why do I keep saying no?
Q. well im 16 and i am a virgin! peaple always say ohh you dont seem like your a virgin? what the hell does that mean really. Anyway i have done everything apart from sex because when it nearly happens something always stops me and i dont know what t...
A. 26 September 2010: Your only 16 and it sounds like you just arent ready to lose your virginity, you will feel it when the time is right so please dont rush yourself. Enjoy spending time with the guy you really like and if he likes you he will respect you when you say ... (read in full...)
Gay teacher in love with a student.
Q. I'm a 27 year old male teacher. I work in a Catholic school. I have been looking for love for quite some time. The problem is that I always end up with the wrong person. The people I choose are either straight, deep into the closet, or simply way ...
A. 26 September 2010: Ok this is wrong simply because he is your student teachers should not have any closeness with there students and i really think you should'nt do this.
He is only 17 and he isnt even an adult yet he is still simply a teenager. if you really want... (read in full...)
I'm messing around with a 29 year old and he doesn't know that I"m only 17
Q. basically a few months back i met this guy we kissed, then after i found out he was 29 years old and i was only 16 years old. i stopped texting him because i knew it was wrong. but now.... I need your help again!! I was out downtown with ...
A. 26 September 2010: You need to be honest with him, text him back and tell him you are being distant as you are only 17 and you dont no how he feels about the age gap, if he doesnt mind then neither should you. Just be honest with him and if you like him go for it, you ... (read in full...)
The first few months were awesome but lately she seems to be treating me differently.
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out for about five months now. The first few months were awesome but lately she seems to be treating me different. She gets agitated by the stupid little things i do or say..the ones that used to make her laugh. ...
A. 26 September 2010: Just come straight out with her, sit her down and ask her is everything ok because you feel that she is distant and she doesnt seem as happy as she was. Let her know how you feel. Goodluck.... (read in full...)
How can I get our friendship back on track after I told him I didn't really like his sex?
Q. I told someone that i didnt enjoy his sex now hes ignoring me but he's really sweet and i miss him we were friends before anything..how can i get our friendship back on track? ...please help! :(...
A. 26 September 2010: Maybe just give him some time a couple of weeks to clear his head then maybe give him a text.... (read in full...)
Broke up with boyfriend of 6 years because he wouldn't propose!
Q. First of all, this really sucks. I have been with my boyfriend for six years and we have been through a lot. I'm currently in graduate school and he moved to be with me. The only problem is he hasn't proposed. It's not like he's one of those guy...
A. 26 September 2010: its not just a simple question and you are really taking this to far. he is obviously waiting for the right time for him, you really shouldnt be so hard on him, you probably just ruined a perfectly good and happy relationship over a proposal that if ... (read in full...)
Her alcoholism and depression are making me sad and confused. What's her deal?
Q. Me and my ex broke up four months after her dad died. She told me she had severe depression. She also told me she's an alcoholic and used to be a cutter and that the day we split she really felt the old urges to cut herself again. Naturally this ...
A. 26 September 2010: She needs help badly, she needs to go and see a doctor and ask for help. Before she ends up killing herself. Tell her how worried you are and how much you miss her and hate seeing her destroy her life like this. She needs to go and get help tell her ... (read in full...)
I'm confused, does he like me or not?
Q. Does he like me? I have been on three dates with the same man. We always have loads of fun and good chats. I then do not hear from him for a few months even if i try to text him he doesn't reply. He gets back in touch a couple of months later and ...
A. 26 September 2010: I think you should give up, if he liked you he would make an effort it sounds like he is just using you, go and find someone who wants to be with you and will treat you right, good luck ... (read in full...)
Girls, what would make you fall in love with a guy?
Q. i am a romancer. my three favorite things to do are paint, cook, and sing (write, play music. unfortunately i am sensitive too. I am 18 and i treat my girls amazing. I met a girl over the summer and i knew right when i started talking to her t...
A. 26 September 2010: You cant make someone love you no matter what you do, as long as you keep telling her you love her am sure that she knows, surprising her with chocolates and flowers or even teddies, most girls like this, am glad to hear that you are treating her ... (read in full...)
Why would he ask if I thought what we did was bad? Of course it was!
Q. To cut a long story short, a few months ago i did a very stupid and selfish thing and ended up sleeping with a friend who has a girlfriend. Recently this friend and me were talking about what happened and he asked me if he thought what we did was ...
A. 26 September 2010: He probably wants to repeat it again and that is why he is asking you, dont fall for it as you already no its wrong and he doesnt deserve to be with his girlfriend if he is going to act like this. Tell him straight out that it will never happen ... (read in full...)
Why is he saying these hateful and hurtful things about me?
Q. Hey all, well this is my problem. My now ex, who I was with for 9 months, suddenly dumped me out of the blue, gave me no reason (not a real reason anyway - something like Im not ready to be committed) - then 2 weeks later has a new girlfriend, is ...
A. 26 September 2010: You poor girl, this guy just sounds horrible and really immature. This is bullying and really i no its not that easy but you have to try and not think about him, this will eventually die down, he is trying to hurt you and its really unfair. He will ... (read in full...)
How can I get our friendship back on track after I told him I didn't really like his sex?
Q. I told someone that i didnt enjoy his sex now hes ignoring me but he's really sweet and i miss him we were friends before anything..how can i get our friendship back on track? ...please help! :(...
A. 26 September 2010: Ouch that's a hard thing for someone to hear, you really should never tell any guy that, you have really damaged his ego and he is probably really hurt at the minute. This is really difficult text him and tell him that you are really sorry and that ... (read in full...)
He puts the qualification before me now!
Q. My boyfriend is training for a new career [4yr qualification] and it means he is very busy. I accept this and am being very understanding. But the problem is that he's never there when I need him cos he puts the qualification before me now. I don't ...
A. 26 September 2010: He needs to put this before you at the minute cause am sure its something he really wants his and therefore he is concentrating on his career. Im sure this is difficult for you at the minute, explain to him that you want to support him but maybe ... (read in full...)
I'm confused and dying inside, please help me save my marriage!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 17 years (we've been best friends for 26) and have 2 teen children. For the most part, we are very close. He seems to have issues though about hiding things from me and lying about them. We used to fight almost ...
A. 26 September 2010: Hi, first off the part were you'se argue over sex, you should never do something you are not comfortable with and your husband should respect this. Just firmly tell him no when your not comfortable. As for the messaging to another women, i can ... (read in full...)
Her mixed signals are confusing me! What should I do?
Q. Girlfriend said she wanted to break up then changed her mind. For roughly two weeks we were talking daily and taking it slow. She even said things were good between us. Then she wanted to visit me last weekend and didn't show up last minute. ...
A. 26 September 2010: Just give her some time and dont blame yourself. She may just need some time to sort her head out. There is not a lot more you can do about it, things will get better in time.... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a 13 year old girl who lives 2 hours away.
Q. Ok i got a problem. Im 15 and ive been talking to this girl. She is only 13. We both have feeling for each other. i just dont know if that age difference at this time is right. She also lives 2 hours away so it would be a kinda long distance ...
A. 26 September 2010: Well two years age gap is'nt huge, if you'se like each other then give it a go and see what happens, am sure you can meet up at the weekends and stuff. Goodluck.... (read in full...)
Broke up with boyfriend of 6 years because he wouldn't propose!
Q. First of all, this really sucks. I have been with my boyfriend for six years and we have been through a lot. I'm currently in graduate school and he moved to be with me. The only problem is he hasn't proposed. It's not like he's one of those guy...
A. 26 September 2010: He obviously is'nt ready to propose to you, whats the huge deal anyway its only a certificate it doesnt show how much you'se love each other, why do you need to be married so badly why cant you just enjoy each others company and eventually you will ... (read in full...)
Why does he say he loves me but is willing to drop me like I'm nothing?
Q. I love him but he hurts me, Every day. What should I do? He hurts me mentally,physically,emotional. He says he loves me, but he is willing to choose the someone else who is just a "friend" over us. He is so willing to drop me like nothing. Why? ...
A. 26 September 2010: Yes dont be scared to leave him, you need to do this for yourself, he doesnt deserve you and you dont deserve to be treated this way, please take everyones advice and walk away from him.... (read in full...)
I think she's the one for me ...
Q. My girlfriend and I recently broke up and it has been tough. The hardest part is knowing that I think she's the one for me. I know that she loves me too, is there anything I can do to convince her that she and I belong together?...
A. 26 September 2010: Well its obvious she doesnt want to be with you, so stop chasing her, go out and meet someone new, she will soon become a distant memory.... (read in full...)
My best friend is flirting with the guy that I like!
Q. I'm going to apologize ahead of time for the long story :/ Ok, so i like this guy alot, and he likes me too, but everyone says he is such a player because he is a big "flirt" according to some people but he really isnt, and he is actually looking...
A. 25 September 2010: She is not a friend if she is going to do that to you, forget her she is not worth it, as for this guy tell him the next time you see him that you need to talk to him alone, tell him how you feel and tell him you dont understand why he isnt the same ... (read in full...)
I like my work colleague and she's in a bad relationship... what next?
Q. I have become friends with a female colleague. We get along well, have a lot of 'chemistry' and have become very close. I would like us to be more than friends, but she has a boyfriend. He doesn't treat her very well (obviously my opinion is ...
A. 25 September 2010: This is a tricky situation that could leave a lot of people hurt, has she ever shown signs to you that she is unhappy in her relationship? if not then i think it may be best if you swallow your feelings and remain nothing but a friend to her, ... (read in full...)
Girfriend thinks I'm cheating and threw my stuff out!
Q. My girlfriend of 1 year thinks i am cheating on her when i know that i'm not how do i prove it. I went to work 1 day she said she found a pair of my socks downstairs under a table in a locked room which i have no key to and it has an alarm on the ...
A. 25 September 2010: It sounds like your girlfriend is overly paranoid either that or she is just using that as an excuse to finish with you, either way this is harsh behaviour. If you really love her then you just have to keep telling her that its not true write to her ... (read in full...)
When I get really angry or sad my body hurts!
Q. This isn't exactly a relationship issue, but whenever I get really sad or angry, my inner wrists and chest hurt in a strong aching sort of way (especially if I'm holding it in). And if I continue to get more and more sad or angry, other parts of me ...
A. 25 September 2010: This could possibly just be physical pain from stress, but if it gets worse it is worth a visit to the doctor to get tests done to make sure your blood pressure isnt high. ... (read in full...)
Friendship with crush's brother caused problems for everyone!
Q. okayy... this will sound kind off complicated, but here goes.... I've liked this guy since like 4 years back. I've always look at him from a distance and just observe him when he's around. After some time, I think he notices me observing him beca...
A. 25 September 2010: Yes you acted very wrong here, you should never come in between two brothers, i no you didnt want to break the younger brothers heart but leading him on is twenty times worse. He could have broke up with his girlfriend for many reasons but am sure ... (read in full...)
My friend is mad at me and it's breaking my heart!
Q. I got into a fight with someone special to me over the summer. After a couple of months I finally said sorry to him. Then two days ago we talked about what happened between us. When I asked about how he felt about the fight and me he got so mad! ...
A. 25 September 2010: You need to mention this to an adult you trust maybe even a teacher you know? If he is on self destruct mode he needs help fast. Try and talk to him and tell him that your always there to talk to him, dont mention the fact that you have feelings for ... (read in full...)
She doesn't avoid me but she does seem to avoid my feelings for her, should I still ask her out ???
Q. Ok yesterday afternoon when the girl I really like finished college I met up with her and did what always do have a chat and a laugh. But when I bring up feelings or sumthing similar she becomes evasive of the whole thing like she's not interested ...
A. 25 September 2010: Hi i think its best if you sit down and explain to her how you feel tell her you need to know if the feelings are returned and if anything will ever happen between the two of you. You need to ask her or it will just eat up inside of you. If she ... (read in full...)
He wants actions of affection but doesn't return them!
Q. Hello, Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a 1 1/2. My boyfriend expects me to give him affection example: Give him foot rubs, Scratch his back, Play with his hair And massaging his hands and fingers. Sometimes We rub each others ...
A. 25 September 2010: It means that he is a very selfish man. You need to tell him how you feel, explain to him that you want affection from him as well, that it cant be all one sided, tell him you want to feel loved as well. He probably does love you its just he is ... (read in full...)
The guy I am dating doesn't want to be exclusive with me
Q. I've met a guy on a dating site and have been dating him for a month now. Things are going pretty well and we've been seeing each other several times a week. I've slept at his place a few times, met some of his friends and I really like him (he's ...
A. 25 September 2010: This is completely up to you how you deal with this. He has been honest with you so its your choice if you go along with this or not. If you can handle this situation then fair play to you i know i couldnt. To be honest if i were you i would sit ... (read in full...)
Do you only bleed the first time you have sex?
Q. i lost my virginity to my boyfriend last week, but afterwards i bled. a lot. i figured that it was because my cherry got popped, and that it would be a one time thing. i guess not. i've had sex twice since, but both times i've bled, and i'm not at ...
A. 25 September 2010: It can be normal yes, lots of people can bleed having sex for the first few times, it will soon stop. Try not to worry about this. Its natural.... (read in full...)
My mom never remembers things the way that they actually happened!
Q. I'm really at my wits end with my mum, we argue all the time and she insists on always being right no matter what. I'm almost tempted to record our conversations as proof, because she ALWAYS remembers something as happening in an entirely different ...
A. 25 September 2010: Yes it could be part of the menopause darling, or she may just be getting very forgetful, this can happen to women even in there 50's believe me. I dont really have great advice for you as you can make her go to the doctor for help. But if you sit ... (read in full...)
I am dating a man 37 yrs older than me
Q. i am dating a guy that is 37 yrs older than me. i love him like i never loved anyone else and he loves me the same way or even more. my question is: Is it okay that i am dating a guy 37 yrs older than me? we have plans on moving in together but idk ...
A. 25 September 2010: My advice would be to any people that givee you a hard time to ignore them as they are not worth the time of day, it is your life and if you have found love with a guy that is 37 years older than you, then so what? As long as the both of you are ... (read in full...)
How do I make this girl mad about me?
Q. Hi i am 14 and i need help getting this gal to love me... it is complicated... I know she likes me and she even holds hands with me... and i have heard her talking to her friends about me... she thinks im hot. She does not have a boyfriend. :) t...
A. 25 September 2010: If she doesnt want a boyfriend at the moment then there is nothing you can do to change her mind am afraid. Just keep hanging out with her and enjoy her company, the closer the two of you get the more likely it will be that she will want a ... (read in full...)
Situation with my professor has become quite awkward but I need his classes!
Q. I'm in a really awkward situation. I was very attracted to my professor and he was interested in me but I'm very shy and I guess I didn't respond to his flirting in the right way. He kind of ended it and that was in December. I have to be in 2 of ...
A. 25 September 2010: As your teacher he has a responsibilty to treat all his students as equals. He is totally mis treating you, dont go through the year miserable, you need to talk to this man and tell him how this is making you feel, and tell him if this dont change ... (read in full...)
I kissed another boy at a party and now am afraid my b/f will break up with me
Q. okay i have i boy friend and we have been together for a while and well i forget things really really easy and i was playing truth and dare at this party i had a shot or two and well i ended up just kissing this other boy but my boyfriend is really ...
A. 25 September 2010: It was only a game of truth or dare, it was innocent and if he were to break up with you over a game then he is not worth it. Its up to yourself if you want to tell him or not, but it might be better coming from you, than him finding out from ... (read in full...)
I've never done this before but I want to ask her out
Q. question dear cupid, should i tell this woman i fancy her. i've liked her for a long time now. i would like to ask her out but don't know how to go about it. as i've never done it before. she is 5 years younger than me will that make any difference ...
A. 25 September 2010: It should'nt make a difference about the age. Not many people mind age gaps and so they shouldnt. Just pluck up the courage to ring her and ask her out for dinner, the worst that can happen is she says no and at least then you no you tried. Go for ... (read in full...)
I'm desperate to get my license and can't find a decent instructor!
Q. I honestly think I'm cursed with bad driving instructors....In the past 2.5 years I've been learning to drive ive had 5-4 of which were reccomended by friends and colleagues. My 1st guy was always miserable and used to grunt orders at me. He...
A. 25 September 2010: This sounds like you have had a run of bad luck, but am afraid there is'nt much advice i can give you here as you just need to look for an instructer that is good. You just need to keep searching and you will find one, You dont actually meantion ... (read in full...)
Do I have these feelings because he was my first sexual partner?
Q. me and my boyfriend split 2 months ago and i still really care about him and get upset when i see him with another girl and it still really hurts when he has a go at me why am i feeling like this could it be because he was my first sexual partner ...
A. 25 September 2010: You will have a special bond with this guy as he was your first sexual partner and also probably your first love, i understand how you are feeling. Do you think that maybe you could talk to him and see if use could work on your relationship again? ... (read in full...)
Her mixed signals are confusing me! What should I do?
Q. Girlfriend said she wanted to break up then changed her mind. For roughly two weeks we were talking daily and taking it slow. She even said things were good between us. Then she wanted to visit me last weekend and didn't show up last minute. ...
A. 25 September 2010: Well she's not worth it if she is playing with your emotions, go out and find a women that deserves you, best of luck.... (read in full...)
Her mixed signals are confusing me! What should I do?
Q. Girlfriend said she wanted to break up then changed her mind. For roughly two weeks we were talking daily and taking it slow. She even said things were good between us. Then she wanted to visit me last weekend and didn't show up last minute. ...
A. 24 September 2010: It sounds like your not to pushed about never talking to your girlfriend to me, there is no will in you to fight for her so it's probably best if you ring her before friday and tell her that you want to finish it and move on. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Why does he say he loves me but is willing to drop me like I'm nothing?
Q. I love him but he hurts me, Every day. What should I do? He hurts me mentally,physically,emotional. He says he loves me, but he is willing to choose the someone else who is just a "friend" over us. He is so willing to drop me like nothing. Why? ...
A. 24 September 2010: Darling if he is hurting you physically emotionally and mentally then he doesnt love you especially if you arent coming first in his eyes, and physical violence is a no no, get out of this relationship now its a sham and you are onyl going to get ... (read in full...)
I think she's the one for me ...
Q. My girlfriend and I recently broke up and it has been tough. The hardest part is knowing that I think she's the one for me. I know that she loves me too, is there anything I can do to convince her that she and I belong together?...
A. 24 September 2010: This is hard to answer because you give no background on your relationship or went wrong so its hard to say what went wrong. you need to give more details, if you wish not to then sit your ex down sort out your problems and tell her she is the one ... (read in full...)
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