After our 3some and 4some I am wondering if I should continue the relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months and recently had a foursome (MMFF) and a few weeks after that had threesome with the girl we had a foursome with. My boyfriend wanted to do it because he has never had a threesome or foursome ...
A. 1 October 2010: i think you should cut your ties hunny and go find a man that deserves you.... (read in full...)
Does he really want to get back together this time?
Q. Well me and my boyfriend split about three weeks a go. He told me he didn't want to be with me at first and it was a definate no, then we met a couple of days later and i asked him again and he didn't he didn't think so, but he didn't know whether ...
A. 1 October 2010: yes good for you, running after men will only lead to heartache, its in his hands now so dont contact him, let him contact you if he is ready. But dont sleep with him again if he is not ready to commit stay strong.... (read in full...)
When do friends become something else?
Q. my bf said he has no male friends he only has a female friend he see every day cause they work in the same place and if we are in a discussion and she come into the his line of site he then wont let me finish telling him my news he will focus all ...
A. 28 September 2010: Weel firstly at least he is being honest to you about his day and who he spends it with, usually if a guy is cheating on you then he would never talk about this other girl, but its clear he is. But it does sound like he talks about her a little bit ... (read in full...)
Getting married in 6 weeks but can't get over my insecurity and self-esteem issues!
Q. Hi all. Im 23, getting married in 6wks (wow!) and i cant get over my self esteem/insecurity problems! My fiance is wonderful, always telling me he thinks im beautiful and the most gorgeous woman in the world etc etc, but most times i laugh or tell ...
A. 28 September 2010: No offence taking but if you keep going the way you are and puttin yourself down he will start to believe it aswell. Trust me on this you need to be happy within yourself before you commit to a wedding, but all the best with the marriage i hope it ... (read in full...)
Does he really want to get back together this time?
Q. Well me and my boyfriend split about three weeks a go. He told me he didn't want to be with me at first and it was a definate no, then we met a couple of days later and i asked him again and he didn't he didn't think so, but he didn't know whether ...
A. 28 September 2010: There really is only one way to find the answer to this and its to ask him clean out will he get back with you, if he says no then you no your answer be sure to tell him that its the last time you will ask him keep to your word and he will start ... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with him if I don't want to have sex?
Q. Should I continue to sleep with my boyfriend if he has asked for sex which I don't want to give?...
A. 27 September 2010: Simple answer no, never sleep with someone if you dont want to.... (read in full...)
After our 3some and 4some I am wondering if I should continue the relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months and recently had a foursome (MMFF) and a few weeks after that had threesome with the girl we had a foursome with. My boyfriend wanted to do it because he has never had a threesome or foursome ...
A. 27 September 2010: This was a really bad path to go down, having 3somes and 4somes in relationships are not good for the simple fact is its very hard to recover from them, jelousy sets in and its hard to get the image out of your head, as for the ecstasy i dont agree ... (read in full...)
Is it too early for those three special words?
Q. So I've dated and had my share of hookups. I've only ever loved one person and he was my boyfriend for about 8 months. I started hooking up with this guy about 2 months ago. He says he likes me a lot and I believe him. I'm starting to love him. He ...
A. 27 September 2010: If you are not dating then no dont you will scare him away, you should never start sleeping with someone when you arent dating them because a guy wants a girlfriend that makes him wait. Ask him to be your boyfriend tell him you really like him, but ... (read in full...)
Does he really want to get back together this time?
Q. Well me and my boyfriend split about three weeks a go. He told me he didn't want to be with me at first and it was a definate no, then we met a couple of days later and i asked him again and he didn't he didn't think so, but he didn't know whether ...
A. 27 September 2010: Sounds to me like he is leading you on, ask him straight out if there is a chance of you being together and if the answer is no, stop texting him and dont answer his phone calls, and start going out with friends and meeting new people. ... (read in full...)
When do friends become something else?
Q. my bf said he has no male friends he only has a female friend he see every day cause they work in the same place and if we are in a discussion and she come into the his line of site he then wont let me finish telling him my news he will focus all ...
A. 27 September 2010: Are you in a relationship with this man?... (read in full...)
Why would he do this? I love him so much...
Q. me and my ex was together 2 years, we always had a good loving relationship. Im 19 and hes 22. However last year our elationship fell apart when i fell pregnant. He comes most of the time to see our son and over the past 2 months we have been ...
A. 27 September 2010: He is still sleeping with you because you are letting him the truth hurts but you need to hear it darling. If sex is there any man will take it, he is telling you he loves you so that he can continue sleeping with you without any attachements, as ... (read in full...)
Need help with my life with girls, badly
Q. Hi guys, ok here is the thing, i have a big china wall infront of me when it comes to starting conversation with a girl. We are talking a wall up to the sky, i feel like my brain is just empty , nothing there i cant come up with a single word when...
A. 27 September 2010: Hi well firstly can i say just because you are a virgin at 20 doesnt make there something wrong with you, in fact alot of girls would really respect this. I no it must be difficult for you as you have this anxiety but only you can make your ... (read in full...)
I want a large family, and I want to start when I'm 19. Is this a good idea?
Q. Before you answer this question, could you PLEASE understand that, I know I may be talking about being young to do all these things, but I believe that if I'm ready for it, I shouldn't sit and wait around. I should do it. My parents don't know this ...
A. 27 September 2010: Well if it what both you and your boyfriend want and you'se are both ready then i dont see the problem.... (read in full...)
I have no idea what happened that night?
Q. okay so my question what the hell happened this night? so i am 16 and it was a saturday night and me and my freinds decided to go out into town (clubbing) becasue i had a free house so then we could come home when we wont too. When we were in t...
A. 27 September 2010: Could it have been possible that one of them carried you up the stairs? you were only 15 so it was highly dangerous at this age to be gettin so drunk that you cannot remember what happened and also putting yourself in danger by bringing these two ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied to my face& up to now he is still hiding it from me
Q. Just this summer, I saw that my boyfriend had one of this girl's number on his recent texts, meaning he was recently texting with her. Oh and he knows that I hate this girl so much. So I asked him about it and he told me that "probably someone was ...
A. 27 September 2010: Well its not wrong of him to text a girl its his life and you should trust him, as long as the textes werent suggestive, yet you have every right to be angry with him for lying to you, possibly these two could be friends and it could have been ... (read in full...)
How could I have hpv this long and not know?
Q. I been with my boyfriend for 14 years. He is the olny one i been with. On May 2010 my DR call me to tell me that I have hpv. I know he gave it to me. my question is could I had hpv for 14 years and not know it....
A. 27 September 2010: Yes it is possible to have had this virus for 14 years and not no, there are no aparent signs that would have made you realise something was wrong so dont be worrying that he has cheated as am sure he probably more than likely hasnt.... (read in full...)
How to discuss my sexual fantasies with my partner?
Q. i have been with my husband for 8 years and married for 4 years.We have a great relationship and sex is good but only lately I have been having outrageous sexual fantasies like the desire to be heard while having sex, making out at odd places etc.I ...
A. 27 September 2010: Dont be shy, you married this man so dont be shy with him, tell him how much you crave the excitment but am afraid that if he is not comfortable then you have to decide over your husband or your fantisies. Please dont result to cheating.... (read in full...)
Is this a lost cause??
Q. For the past several months, I have had an ongoing "thing" going with a fellow colleague. We are both Senior Managers, both married, and yet whenever we meet, there is a clear spark. The way he looks at me is unsettling, and I find myself also ...
A. 27 September 2010: No this spells trouble and its not fair on your husband or his wife, if your husband is being neglectful then that is your problem dont try and come in between another marriage that could be a perfectly happy home. If your husband is treating you ... (read in full...)
Husband texting girls saying iinappropriate things
Q. Hi , im 33y .I'm married for 8 y now. i have 2 kids. i got married from a nice person who loved me since Highschool . After we get married i really loved him alot . but recentlly he changed alot . he starts to go out with his friends girls and boys ...
A. 27 September 2010: You need to stand up for yourself and scare him, tell him if you find out once more that he has texted another girl innapropriately then you are leaving him and if he still doesnt stop then am afraid the only way to make him stop is if you leave ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling really bad that we touched each other just for fun.
Q. we are not a couple but we touched each other that night in a scool club's camp(we'r both 21). it all started when she got close to me as she liked me or something so i thought id respond(cause i like her). so she took me to bed says that she wanted ...
A. 27 September 2010: what you need is for her to stop playing with your head and emotions. You need to tell this women that you like her and if she likes you as well then date each other and see where it goes, but if she doesnt respond the feelings then avoid her and ... (read in full...)
I know I need more than good looks to get me through
Q. I m 26 years old girl with many issues.I have amazing boyfriend,good,tolerant,calm,very rich,I get almoust everything what I want, but I never feel satisfied.I ve been surfing the net in search for help to my overcontrolling and agressive ...
A. 27 September 2010: Looks arent everything, men need to be attracted to your mind not just your body. You need professional help that is the only way forward here and you need to have absolutely no contact with your man while you go through this. Search for a anger ... (read in full...)
I don't know if he is interested or even it it WAS flirting!
Q. I'm feel as though I'm going crazy as I just can't get my martial arts instructor out of my mind. I've known him for nearly 3 years and we've always got on, but recently we've been talking more and he's getting me involved in the teaching side ...
A. 27 September 2010: No it doesnt sound like flirting to me at all, he was just giving you a compliment plain and simple.... (read in full...)
Should I be patient with my boyfriend?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months. He is really sweet and absolutely wonderful to me. But he keeps telling me he's confused about his life. He was married for 15 years and it ended last year. She was well off financially so he never worried ...
A. 27 September 2010: Oh this is a really hard situation, i guess it is a good thing that he is being open and honest with you about his feelings, but he hasnt really taken your feelings in to concideration, he obviously still holds some feelings for his ex and this is ... (read in full...)
It always happens when your making other plans....
Q. I've been single for about 3 years now, mainly because I've been flat out busy and not really looking at all, I'm comfortable with that. Anyways I've been planning to go overseas on a holiday for a month which I leave for in a few weeks. Two months ...
A. 27 September 2010: Its only a month its not that long really, tell her how you feel before you go and ask her will she wait for you. Good Luck.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is acting weird, did he do something he shouldn't have?
Q. so my boyfriend wen out this friday to a college party at his school he commutes....and i leave about 4 blocks from his school he invited me but i decided not to go cuz i just wouldnt feel comftorable there....anyways the next day he gets home ...
A. 27 September 2010: Confront him, you need to be open and honest with him, if its easier to text than phone him then do that, just ask him straight out what is wrong because you feel he has been very distant with you at the weekend and ask him what is wrong? its all ... (read in full...)
Lacking stamina in bed?
Q. How long should a girl be able to go for before she gets tired during sex? This is nothing to do with coming, but more like physical exhaustion. I can go on top, but I can only go for a few minutes before I'm exhausted. My boyfriend can go for ten ...
A. 27 September 2010: There is no normal amount of time for a girl or a mans stamina, but if you want to last longer gettin fit will help alot, maybe go out jogging and going to the gym you will soon be fitter in no time.... (read in full...)
I don't want to trap him, I just really want a baby!
Q. Hi, I'm 29, really keen to have children. I have a new bf of a few weeks. I really like him and things are going great. I'm so broody, though, I'm thinking of trying to get pregnant without telling him. If he wants a baby, great, if he doesn't, ...
A. 27 September 2010: Yes it would be very immoral and very very selfish, you have been dating a few weeks??? Come on see sence here your old enough to know that this isnt the right way to behave. A few weeks is not long enough to know each other to be thinkin of having ... (read in full...)
I want to leave for all the wrong reasons
Q. Hi there. I am a 47 year old gay man in a gay relationship for the past 17 years. Ever since I was young I knew I was gay and built my life around being gay. However in recent years I found myself being attracted to the opposite sex and to follow ...
A. 27 September 2010: Am sorry but am hear to be honest with you so thats what i am going to do, you say you dont want to hurt your partner? yet you are cheating on him and decieving him and lying to him this is all wrong, let him go, let him have a chance to meet ... (read in full...)
Complicated relations with girl.
Q. This is gonna be a long question...I fell in love with my best friend's girlfriend and I mean...completely. Never felt about someone that way. She's beautiful and has a deep personality, which I think doesn't fit with my friend at all. Don't get me ...
A. 27 September 2010: Sounds like she is the sort of girl that gets plenty of attention from men and she is just playing around with your head, honestly what do you see happening? this is not a good situation to get involved with, move on and dont get involved with her, ... (read in full...)
I feel like such a loser!
Q. I feel like the biggest loser in the world. I'm 18, have recently started univeristy and I feel completely alone. Everyone around me in my old town seemed to be in a relationship, and here at University everyone seems so confident when talking ...
A. 27 September 2010: No its not strange to feel like this, you have begun uni and your life is starting to change so i guess you feel like you have been left behind and you are expecting so much more from yourself, well 18 isnt that old and you should never rush in to ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why he would cheat on his new girlfriend with me
Q. Hi I was in a relationship for 6 years with the father of my 2 year old girl. We split up last July through his choice. He believed he didn't love me because he kept looking for something else in other women, he kissed two girls during the last ...
A. 27 September 2010: I honestly dont think there is a choice, this man is getting his cake and eating it, obviously he enjoys your company, but you are in the wrong for sleeping with him, you are disrespecting yourself and off course his poor girlfriend, for all you ... (read in full...)
Getting married in 6 weeks but can't get over my insecurity and self-esteem issues!
Q. Hi all. Im 23, getting married in 6wks (wow!) and i cant get over my self esteem/insecurity problems! My fiance is wonderful, always telling me he thinks im beautiful and the most gorgeous woman in the world etc etc, but most times i laugh or tell ...
A. 27 September 2010: I think its a bad idea for you'se to get married in six weeks, its meant to be one of the most happiest days in your life yet you arent going to enjoy it with all this anxiety going on in your head. Obviously this has stemed from your past, you ... (read in full...)
Scrotum hair removal?
Q. My boyfriend wants to remove the hair from his scrotum. What is the best way to go about this? He's also worried it will be itchy when it grows back....
A. 27 September 2010: Shaving would be the best part, as the area is to sensitive to wax and also two sensitive for hair removal creams, but he will be very itchy when it grows back and also he would be at risk of ingrown hairs..... (read in full...)
Should I be mad at my best friend?
Q. Heyyyy!! I just want to know should I be mad @ my best friend if she told her mom ( which is whom we both work with ) that I don't have my diploma? I really really trying to get my GED ( for 2 years ) and I've known my best friend since the 10 g...
A. 27 September 2010: Yes i guess you can be a little mad and hurt that your friend broke your trust, but its a hard situation as it was her mother she told and mother and daughter bonds can be very strong maybe she felt she had to be honest with her own mother, so i ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend moved out after 3 years... I love her!
Q. well im back after 4 years.so i have been with my girlfriend now for three years we actually split up a year ago but i guess i felt we worked it out because nothing changed we still slepted in the same bed had sex did everything couples do.so she ...
A. 27 September 2010: You really need to not contact her for a couple of weeks and if she comes around to you dont have sex with her unless she is willing to get back with you as this is going to hurt you even more believe me, as i was in this situation myself. How ever ... (read in full...)
Still Not Over Breakup
Q. So basically I got out of a bad relationship in July. And I'm still not over it. I have hooked up with a couple guys but I haven't felt anything with them really. I get depressed after I hook up because I think of my ex and my relationship with him. ...
A. 27 September 2010: No dont go out searching for a guy, what is the rush? you are still very young and you should be out having fun with your friends and yes discussing boys but you dont need one to make you happy, first of you need to be independant and happy on your ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he's going to leave me for someone else
Q. I've been in a fantastic relationship for a year now. He's absolutely wonderful and treats me so well. But I am quite insecure. He's never done anything to hurt me or make me think he'd leave me. He even called me the love of his life the other ...
A. 27 September 2010: You need to go to councelling, this insecurity has stemmed from somewhere and if it keeps going the way its going you will eventually drive him away and plus its not fair on you as you cant be completely happy when you are this petrified. go and see ... (read in full...)
Wife and I are more like roommates--do we stay together for our kids?
Q. HI, I have been married for 10 years and have 3 kids. My wife and I argue from time to time (I would say it is fairly normal) but thereis no abuse of any kind. I would desribe us as upper middle class and our kids are really great and they m...
A. 27 September 2010: I would suggest that maybe you'se went to marriage councelling, dont just give up on your marriage maybe both of you just need a little help, and a marriage councellor is there for this reason, work on it, but dont use the children as an excuse to ... (read in full...)
Her mixed signals are confusing me! What should I do?
Q. Girlfriend said she wanted to break up then changed her mind. For roughly two weeks we were talking daily and taking it slow. She even said things were good between us. Then she wanted to visit me last weekend and didn't show up last minute. ...
A. 27 September 2010: Sounds like jelousy and she sounds like she is really playing with your head. I think you should cut your ties.... (read in full...)
Her alcoholism and depression are making me sad and confused. What's her deal?
Q. Me and my ex broke up four months after her dad died. She told me she had severe depression. She also told me she's an alcoholic and used to be a cutter and that the day we split she really felt the old urges to cut herself again. Naturally this ...
A. 27 September 2010: Think of a time when she may be home alone and call to her house and tell her you need to talk to her privately that its really important, dont take no for an answer.... (read in full...)
I want to surprise my boyfriend but the surprise might be on me
Q. i want to sprise my boyfriend .. we are going abroad and i got my vagina pierced this afternoon and we are going abroad tommorow night will it beep going through the metal detectors? i want to suprise him i dont want him to find out this way.. ...
A. 26 September 2010: No it wont beep going through the metal detectors i have my belly button percied and its never set them of.... (read in full...)
I don't love or even like my husband and need to get out!
Q. I am tired of all the mental abuse from my husband and nobody will help me,I have asked my dad and he did just take me on a trip this week to Wendover to give me a break but as soon as I got back home same shit.I need to get out of my house bad ...
A. 26 September 2010: You need to help yourself, try and save up a little bit of money and rent a place for yourself and your children, dont be living so unhappy for the rest of your life, look for work and become independant again.... (read in full...)
Okay, what is wrong with me that I can't stop thinking about this guy?
Q. okay what is wrong with me? I just got out of a very bad long relationship. ran into an guy i knew in high school. went out on a 2 dates with him and then i suggested we b friends bcus im not ready for a sexual relationship yet and he wanted t...
A. 26 September 2010: It sounds to me that this guy is only looking for one thing...sex! Just dont contact him and maybe try and meet someone new you will forget about him eventually, you deserve so much better.... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, only I'm 28 and he's 23!
Q. I'm in a predicament, I really like this guy but I'm 28 and his 23! We have so much in common and get on really well together, but I'm scared to confront him, I know he likes me but maybe his holding back for the same reasons. I don't know what to ...
A. 26 September 2010: I say go for it, its only 5 years of a difference and if both of you like each other then there is no reason why age should hold you back, ask him out on a date.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure what to do now that my feelings for him seem to have changed!
Q. For the past couple of weeks, my boyfriend and I have been having disagreements. He thinks I'm being hypocritical, and I think a lot of things he says to me come off as condescending and rude. We've been together for more than a year and a half, and ...
A. 26 September 2010: If your unhappy then its not fair to stay in this relationship, its not fair on either of you. Am sure maybe you could look for a cheaper one bedroom apartment to move in to, because you will only resent each other. Or do you have a friend you could ... (read in full...)
How can my dad leave and show he doesn't care about me?
Q. A few months ago a bad thing happened on my dads side of the family. My older cousin killed himself. My parents are divorced and my dads family lives in flordia, so my dad started going down there for months and months at a time, i couldnt believe ...
A. 26 September 2010: Aw darling am sure your dad cares about you alot, it must have been hard on him to leave you. Maybe he is just lonely living on his own and needed his family around him. Dont ever think that he doesnt care about you, at least you still get to talk ... (read in full...)
Her alcoholism and depression are making me sad and confused. What's her deal?
Q. Me and my ex broke up four months after her dad died. She told me she had severe depression. She also told me she's an alcoholic and used to be a cutter and that the day we split she really felt the old urges to cut herself again. Naturally this ...
A. 26 September 2010: She needs help badly, she needs to go and see a doctor and ask for help. Before she ends up killing herself. Tell her how worried you are and how much you miss her and hate seeing her destroy her life like this. She needs to go and get help tell her ... (read in full...)
Her mixed signals are confusing me! What should I do?
Q. Girlfriend said she wanted to break up then changed her mind. For roughly two weeks we were talking daily and taking it slow. She even said things were good between us. Then she wanted to visit me last weekend and didn't show up last minute. ...
A. 26 September 2010: Just give her some time and dont blame yourself. She may just need some time to sort her head out. There is not a lot more you can do about it, things will get better in time.... (read in full...)
Her mixed signals are confusing me! What should I do?
Q. Girlfriend said she wanted to break up then changed her mind. For roughly two weeks we were talking daily and taking it slow. She even said things were good between us. Then she wanted to visit me last weekend and didn't show up last minute. ...
A. 25 September 2010: Well she's not worth it if she is playing with your emotions, go out and find a women that deserves you, best of luck.... (read in full...)
Her mixed signals are confusing me! What should I do?
Q. Girlfriend said she wanted to break up then changed her mind. For roughly two weeks we were talking daily and taking it slow. She even said things were good between us. Then she wanted to visit me last weekend and didn't show up last minute. ...
A. 24 September 2010: It sounds like your not to pushed about never talking to your girlfriend to me, there is no will in you to fight for her so it's probably best if you ring her before friday and tell her that you want to finish it and move on. Good luck.... (read in full...)
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