I have a crush on him but don't want it to go any further if we are just going to be friends!
Q. I recently got back in touch with an old friend. We live 2 hrs. apart but he's supposed to me moving closer within the next year. I've only seen him twice in the past two years, but have connected on facebook. At first I thought he was just being ...
A. 16 October 2010: Well am afraid you just have to be honest with him and tell him how you feel, so that you know one way or another, its better finding out now how he feels than when you are head over heels for him as you will just only get hurt more.
I know tha... (read in full...)
How do I forget and move on?
Q. My girlfriend dumped me three months back and i find it really tough getting over this relationship. tell me what should I be doing to help myself get over her? ...
A. 16 October 2010: Ok well the first wrong thing that most people do is start looking for a replacement which just makes things worse so just give yourself time on your own.
Cut all contact from her as in delete her phone numbers email social networking ect. Thi... (read in full...)
Ex is going out with a girl who looks like me and has my same name?
Q. i'm just wondering is it a little weird that my ex boyfriend is going out with a girl with the same first name as me and also kinda looks like me ...
A. 16 October 2010: No this isnt strange at all, obviously we cant help if someone shares the same name as us and many guys have a certain type of girl they go for. Try not to let it bother you go out and get a new boyfriend of your own if you feel ready and live your ... (read in full...)
Husband embarrasses me in public!
Q. Dear cupid, my husband and I have been having some trust issues, though not the kind you'd normally think of. With us, it's that if he embarrasses me in public, and I ask him nicely to stop, he won't. He just keeps doing what he's doing, saying "oh, ...
A. 16 October 2010: Well am afraid you cant really change your husband some people are just loud, am sure you knew what he was like before you married him and trying to change him now is going to be hard you will have a job on your hands.
Sit down with him and expl... (read in full...)
Mom's abusive boyfriend
Q. Hi, this isn't a relationship question but i would really like some advice. I live at home with my mum and her boyfriend, my dad left when i was 5. Her boyfriend moved in shortly after he left. Ever since he moved in it has been hell, he is very ...
A. 16 October 2010: Ok this is a tricky one. Dont blame your mother as she is under his spell and everytime he hits her he probably has her brainwashed that it is her own fault however he should never have lifted his hand to you and got away with it. You are 23 now so ... (read in full...)
Doesn't want a relationship, doesn't want to commit, but wants you around all the time?
Q. What do you call someone who doesn't want a relationship, and doesn't want to commit, but wants to be with you ALL THE TIME? If you're in this situation where you're stuck with this person, and you love her dearly, what do you do? She doesn't want a ...
A. 16 October 2010: Well am afraid that if she doesnt want a relationship with you then you have just got to accept that and move on.
For whatever reason she doesnt want to commit to you therefore you have to decide wether you want to keep her in your life as a fri... (read in full...)
I'm dating the wrong gender?
Q. Just recentally got into a amzing relation with lets just say fluffy. He is amzing guy and cool to be around and we always have a blast but i still cant help to think im with the wrong gender....what to do ...........what to do........
A. 16 October 2010: Ok well just dont put any added pressure on to yourself, am sure you know that you are hitting puberty and this does all sort of things to our hormones, affecting our thoughts and feelings along with it.
Just dont panick and go with the flow, if... (read in full...)
My girl lost her virginity two weeks ago and its the third time and she still bleeds
Q. Hello All Me and my girlfriend had sex for the first time 3 weeks ago. We didn't use protection and my girlfriend bled pretty heavily. The second time we had sex (about a week after that) she had some bleeding but it was very little. Today we...
A. 16 October 2010: No this can be normal so i wouldnt worry about it, all girls are different and it can take a few months for the light bleeding to die down.
However am a little concerned as to why you both never used protection, if you have had sex before you coul... (read in full...)
How do I move on so we can start over????
Q. my ex- boyfriend and i have been through alot in the 2 years we've been together on and off. i have really bad trust issues, and i think its a big part of us not working out. i've had a lot of people hurt me, and disappoint me, and turn out to d...
A. 16 October 2010: Ok its not as simple as starting over because these things have been said by both of you and they will stick in your memory things like this just cant be forgotten, you both have said hurtful things to each other and you need to concentrate on ... (read in full...)
I worry my girl might be sexually frustrated
Q. hey. i cant get the thought out of my head that my girlfriend is sexually frustrated. i ask her all the time and assure her that it is better for her to tell me and to not worry about my feelings but she says everythings fine. how can you tell if ...
A. 16 October 2010: Girls dont always climax every single time having sex and for some girls climaxing isnt always the best part of it so stop worrying about this.
You dont really mention why you feel she is sexually frustrated and why you are feeling like this so ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I rushed into sex with boyfriend or not?
Q. i had sex with my boyfriend.. kinda went ready but.. when we kiss and touch he turns m,e on too much.. he asked me 5times if i were sure.. i said yes.. it was great it felt right.. but i dont know maybe i rushed it..cos he keeps saying i...
A. 16 October 2010: Well thats good to hear, it sounds like you never rushed or pressured in to it so just enjoy the relationship now :-)... (read in full...)
I'm still holding out hope ...
Q. My ex and I have been broken up for a month now and I still love her deeply and care for her very much. I never wanted the relationship to end and thought about marrying her one day. However she's had a new boyfriend now for about 3 weeks, which she ...
A. 15 October 2010: Believe me a lot of people go through this, yes you see her right now as the one you wanted to settle down with but am afraid that you need to tell yourself this is not going to happen now and that you need to move on with your life, give yourself ... (read in full...)
After we broke up my ex said we were best friends ... now she's disappeared completely! What changed?
Q. I've posted about this girl before, see my recent posts for more details, but something is still bothering me very much. Before we were on a "Break" but as of now we're officially broken up. She had a myriad of reasons why. She said I wasn't there ...
A. 15 October 2010: Its what happens after a relationship we need to distance ourselves from the past and look in to the future, as i said you need to have space between the both of you right now so that you can get over each other and maybe later down the line you can ... (read in full...)
I need help with things in the bedroom!
Q. I need help with things in the bedroom. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 11 months now and we make love nearly every day without fail, we took each others viginity. But now im woried that im not as good as him because whenever im taking ...
A. 13 October 2010: Ok well maybe its just his ego and he wants to be the one doing all the leading. Maybe he just feels happier this way. However if this is getting to you then you need to sit down and talk honestly with him ask him what he likes and ask him to show ... (read in full...)
I am disappointed...should I give our relationship another chance?
Q. My bf just finished his PhD degree and he is working now. Besides work, he is living a lazy and slightly depressed lifestyle which he carried on from PhD. I hate it because I feel my relationship with him has low passion and I don't know what to do ...
A. 13 October 2010: well you need to be truelly honest with yourself, do you love this man and are you wanting to spend the rest of your life with him?
Its not about you being demanding, everyone has different expectations in a relationship and if he is not doing th... (read in full...)
My Swiss beauty...
Q. Recently I was on a business trip to America attending an exhibition. As part of my work I had to walk around and see what the companies were doing at each booth and find out some info. I walked past one booth in particular and there was an ext...
A. 13 October 2010: Ok maybe sometimes you come on a little strong to women and this would scare them away, if you are a guy that falls for a girl really quickly it can come across as needy and clingy, yeah sure you can tell a girl you like her but dont make to much ... (read in full...)
I'm still holding out hope ...
Q. My ex and I have been broken up for a month now and I still love her deeply and care for her very much. I never wanted the relationship to end and thought about marrying her one day. However she's had a new boyfriend now for about 3 weeks, which she ...
A. 13 October 2010: Ok well what you need to do now is move on and forget about her, go out with your friends and maybe pick up a new hobby to pass the time, you will find someone else when you are ready and happy to go out dating again.... (read in full...)
I'm still holding out hope ...
Q. My ex and I have been broken up for a month now and I still love her deeply and care for her very much. I never wanted the relationship to end and thought about marrying her one day. However she's had a new boyfriend now for about 3 weeks, which she ...
A. 13 October 2010: Well first of why exactly did you both break up?
Ok you need to let her go, its obvious she doesnt want to be with you, and if you keep holding on to hope you are just prolonging the pain for yourself. If she has only been with this guy for thre... (read in full...)
Should I date my roommate/best friend?
Q. Um, I'm not really sure how to put all the information out with the question, but hear goes. I have a roommate that likes me. Here is the problem: 1-neither of us could move out if it didn't work out. 2-I am interested in her, but I don't know if is ...
A. 12 October 2010: Well first off the basic question is are you attracted to girls?
Ok its s tricky situation when you life with someone if it didnt work out so tell her your worries on this. But if you do like her then go for it you have nothing to lose.
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Getting back with my ex, is it a mistake?
Q. I was with my ex boyfriend for 2 years, we split up 5 months ago and i didn't know how i was going to live without him. We ended things really badly and he had been treating me like dirt for as long as i could remember, he didn't even want to see ...
A. 12 October 2010: well it sounds like he didnt treat you very well at the end of your last relationship so why do you think things are going to be different this time around? He obviously didnt trust you when he was accusing you of cheating, and am afraid if he is ... (read in full...)
Does my ex still love me?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 6 months broke up a week ago due to him believing I was ignoring him when I was in fact just giving him the space that he wanted. Things were really awkward during the first few days, we never talked, never looked at each oth...
A. 12 October 2010: Well its possible he may still want you back or maybe he just wants to remain friends am afraid that me or anybody else on this cant answer that question. Its only him that can answer it.
So just ask him straight out, tell him you werent ignoring... (read in full...)
Is there a chance we could be friends again?
Q. Well there is this guy and for the longest time I was hopelessly in love with him. If he needed or wanted anything material or intimate, emotional? Definitely physical... I got it for him. Being in love with someone is nice but in my case it just ...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok well its good that you are over your crush this makes it easier in my eyes. Ok packing up and moving away is just a bit extreme we cant run away from our problems in life we just need to fix them and make them work.
If you want a friendsh... (read in full...)
Will a LDR abroad ever work?
Q. I have someone I like dearly that I met while in Spain.I barely just know a lot about him but when we were together in a group me and him were like together talking and had the best connection out of everyone! We keep in touch from when I call him I ...
A. 12 October 2010: well am not going to lie it would be very very difficult to have a relationship with someone that lives so far away. Have you spoke to him about it and asked him what he thinks you both should do. I cant say weather it will work out or not its up to ... (read in full...)
Is he pulling away, does he like me? What do I do?
Q. Ok, the days are a little mixed, cuz this was written a while ago to my cousin, lol. I've known this guy for a year and 5 months, well, a year ago he stopped hanging out with his group of friends so I haven't heard from him, well one sat he showe...
A. 12 October 2010: Well i hope for your sake he does show up. I understand he has a lot of problems at the minute alcolism is quite hard to beat but he sounds like he is on the right track and i wish you both all the best in the future. ... (read in full...)
Friend is being deployed to Afghanistan -- how to stay in touch?
Q. A friend is being deployed to Afghan for 6 months next year and to be honest i'm terrified. I have no experience with this kind of thing and am completely lost as to what to expect. I know you can write letters etc... but i don't know how long it ...
A. 12 October 2010: I've never went through this so i can only imagine how worried you must be feeling talk to him and tell him how you feel. I'm afraid there is'nt alot he can do mind you but it might help if you talk. Try not to stress and yes am afraid all you can ... (read in full...)
I didn't tell her girlfriend that he had another woman. Did I do the right thing?
Q. Last year I met a man in a bar. He was handsome, sweet, very loving father. We were seeing eachother for almost six months. I met his friends, stayed the night at his house, met his children (who were sweet but being from a divorced family myself, ...
A. 12 October 2010: You didnt no so you should be labeled a home wrecker he is the one that done wrong here not you. I think it was probably best you didnt tell her as this would have just made you feel twenty times worse as she would have really gave you a hard time i ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is too busy, so she dumped me. How do I get her back?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about two years now. I have been attending a millitary-esque college and have only just been allowed to go home to see her(about a 3 hour drive). She is a senior in high school and has two foreighen exchange ...
A. 12 October 2010: Am afraid if her mind is made up there is not a lot you can do about it. There is no point in ringing her constantly as you will only make her more distant am afraid you just have to accept that her mind is made up and there is no room for you in ... (read in full...)
I feel like I was just his security blanket
Q. Hello I am 34 and I'm married to a 28 year old clingy man. We been together for 7 years married for 1 we have a 2 year old son togehter. Here's the thing he cheated on me before we got married with a 17 year old and got her pregnant after knowing ...
A. 12 October 2010: I know it is easier said than done but you need to move on and get this man out of your life. If you take him back he will only end up doing it again and again to you. You deserve better for you and your child. I know it is hard when you love ... (read in full...)
Why don't I love my boyfriend?? am soo sad
Q. omg so my boyfriend is SOOOO sweet... he says he loves me after 3months..but i like him..but i dont love him.. when he says i love you tons and tons.. i know he does and i can feel it.... i dont say anything back.. i just say ok.. and hu...
A. 12 October 2010: Love takes time. Some people can fall in love much quicker than others but just give yourself time. Its good you are being honest with him though tell him you like him a lot and that you are very happy with him and want things to stay the way they ... (read in full...)
Help me get back the one who is more than life to me!
Q. So the most horrible thing in my entire life just happened. I lost the reason why I live, I lost my girlfriend. We broke up because she caught me using a gay chat site, and on a webcam site. I've done this to her before and absolutely regret it all. ...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok so if i found my boyfriend on webcam to another man then yes off course she is going to think you are bi, this is in her head now and am afraid it is going to be very hard for her to forget this one, she is probably afraid to get back with you ... (read in full...)
She left her husband for me and now I don't want her!
Q. I dont think I love my girlfriend of two years anymore. Here is the situation, 2 years ago I met this girl, but she was already married for 4 years but something happened and we started talking with one another and before you know it we were getting ...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok its a tough situation to be in and i know its very hard for you but you need to be honest with yourself and also to your girlfriend, there is obviously something wrong when you dont love her after two years and you cant stay with her due to guilt ... (read in full...)
Because of my abusive sexual past my boyfriend is afraid of overstepping bounds
Q. Hi, so I'm having some serious issues here. I wont disclose any actual information or names, hence anonymous, but I would really appreciate some advice. I've been dating my boyfriend steadily for almost two years now. We've reached a marker...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok i can understand why he would feel that its a touchy subject and he doesnt want to be talking about it, but you seem to be comfortable enough to talk to him about it so sit him down and tell him how you feel. Explain to him that you have overcome ... (read in full...)
He sent emails to other women and says its because he's afraid I'm going to leave him
Q. My bf of 6 years, Lee, and I are struggling with trust issues due to betrayals by both of us (I slept with 2 other people our first year while he was married and he continues to be set up by friends, text/email females, set up accounts on dating ...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok well we all know the basis to a good relationship is trust and it is clear there isnt much in your relationship at the minute. He says he is emailing these women in case you break up with him? Ok well either he is a very good liar or a very ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I rushed into sex with boyfriend or not?
Q. i had sex with my boyfriend.. kinda went ready but.. when we kiss and touch he turns m,e on too much.. he asked me 5times if i were sure.. i said yes.. it was great it felt right.. but i dont know maybe i rushed it..cos he keeps saying i...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok well only you can tell if you rushed in to it or not, did it feel right? If you never felt upset or anything afterwards then it sounds like you are ready so dont be worrying about it, you ask what happens now? Well if you want to have sex then ... (read in full...)
We have a few issues about her exes but I love her to death!
Q. Hello Everyone! Me and my girlfriend have been together for a little over two years and lately we have been experiencing a few issues over whether we want to have kids or not and we also have decided that we shouldn't be together, but then we got b...
A. 12 October 2010: you are in a relationship with her you dont own her therefore you cant tell her who to talk to and not to, you need to just trust her 100% and if you dont then you cant have a relationship. Its allowed when you are in a relationship to have male ... (read in full...)
I'm so sick of his hot/cold behavior!
Q. Well, theres this guy I've been seeing. We started seeing eachother in like early april. Then at the end of may, i suddenly didnt hear from him, so I was wondering what was going on. So after a week of not hearing from him, I found him on myspace, ...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok well he lied first off and you should have got to the bottom of it before you started dating again and ask him what really happened. It sounds like this guy doesnt know what he wants, or else he is still in love with his ex and he cant move on, ... (read in full...)
How do I make the Lotus position more comfortable for my guy?
Q. Is there any tips you folks have to make the Lotus position more comfortable for me and my man? We're both about the same height and weight (about 5"10 and less than 160 pounds). I would love to have sex with him in this position for an extended ...
A. 12 October 2010: hmm this is a tricky one. Maybe a pillow would help but it would be quite tricky maybe him sittin on a pillow would make him more comfortable. Get him to practice sittin in this position without having sex as this will help him strech out his musles ... (read in full...)
How can I get over all this and start over?
Q. I can't get over everything that happened with my ex. I mean, while we were together we had issues, because of my past he didn't trust me and called me names. He didn't like people knowing of our issues so everyone (in his family and circle of ...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok well first off he had no right to go through your phone and its none of his business who you text or see as you are both over, it sounds like he is deluded and still believes you are his. You need to cut contact its for the best its the only way ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if he is interested in me?
Q. hi i would appreciate alot if i get help. Theres a guy who i have in class i think he is gorgeous i think im staring to like him. How can i know if he kind of like me or something?? i would really like to have a relationship...with him.. we started ...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok well you are on the right path just keep talking to him and getting to know him more, relationships start from friendships so build up a friendship first and dont come on to strong, keep talking for a while and maybe ask him would he like to hang ... (read in full...)
Why would he think he would be the one for me?
Q. hi, i met a guy who im not interested whatsoever, we just talk once in a while. at the begining when i met him, he asked me if i was a virgin. he insisted to know and for some weird reason guys tend to know who is and who isn't (like if its written ...
A. 12 October 2010: Men can sometimes think strange things, and its also an ego booster for a man to be a womens first. He may just be big headed and assume you would want to lose it to him. It sounds like he is not wanting to be in a relationship with you he just ... (read in full...)
Is this feeling normal? Do any other girls get this?
Q. im not really worried about what im going to share but i just want some answers lol :) im only 13 and im going to be honest about it, so already any readers will be thinking shes just a kid it dosent matter but i feel im mature enough for a ...
A. 12 October 2010: You are just going through puberty and you will experience things like this, its just your bodys natural reactions its completely normal. ... (read in full...)
Is he pulling away, does he like me? What do I do?
Q. Ok, the days are a little mixed, cuz this was written a while ago to my cousin, lol. I've known this guy for a year and 5 months, well, a year ago he stopped hanging out with his group of friends so I haven't heard from him, well one sat he showe...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok well it definetaly sounds like this guy really likes you so dont worry about that because am quite positive that he does. but with him coming out of a 5 year relationship his head is probably all over the place and i just hope for your sake he is ... (read in full...)
After we broke up my ex said we were best friends ... now she's disappeared completely! What changed?
Q. I've posted about this girl before, see my recent posts for more details, but something is still bothering me very much. Before we were on a "Break" but as of now we're officially broken up. She had a myriad of reasons why. She said I wasn't there ...
A. 8 October 2010: Ok well i wouldnt take her giving you the cold shoulder as a reason that she doesnt care for you. When you come out of a relationship it is hard just to become friends all off a sudden you need time so she is doing the right thing, she needs to get ... (read in full...)
My Swiss beauty...
Q. Recently I was on a business trip to America attending an exhibition. As part of my work I had to walk around and see what the companies were doing at each booth and find out some info. I walked past one booth in particular and there was an ext...
A. 6 October 2010: Ok well i dont think that you should write to her and tell her how you feel, as if she hasnt replied by now then she might think that you are being quite pushy. If she doesnt reply then i think its best to say that she is not interested. Ok so it ... (read in full...)
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