Is he pulling away, does he like me? What do I do?
Q. Ok, the days are a little mixed, cuz this was written a while ago to my cousin, lol. I've known this guy for a year and 5 months, well, a year ago he stopped hanging out with his group of friends so I haven't heard from him, well one sat he showe...
A. 12 October 2010: Well i hope for your sake he does show up. I understand he has a lot of problems at the minute alcolism is quite hard to beat but he sounds like he is on the right track and i wish you both all the best in the future. ... (read in full...)
Is this feeling normal? Do any other girls get this?
Q. im not really worried about what im going to share but i just want some answers lol :) im only 13 and im going to be honest about it, so already any readers will be thinking shes just a kid it dosent matter but i feel im mature enough for a ...
A. 12 October 2010: You are just going through puberty and you will experience things like this, its just your bodys natural reactions its completely normal. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried if I hadnt discovered these messages he would have gone ahead and had 2 girlfriends!
Q. Ive been with my bf for 8months now and ive totally fallen in love with him. However, he has an ex girlfriend who he broke up with coz he cheated on her (not with me). She moved to a different city for the most part of this year and now she's back ...
A. 12 October 2010: Am sorry darling but he cant be showing all that love and care for you to well, because if he was he wouldnt have done this on you. Its clear he is not over his ex and wants her back you to him are second best you need to get rid of him he is no ... (read in full...)
How do you tongue kiss?
Q. im from northern ireland and over here we kiss anybody with tongues and the thing is i dont know how! all my friends already know how to! so my question is what do you do with your tongue? i would ask my friends but im a little embarressed, any ...
A. 12 October 2010: Believe me hunny it will come natural to you, dont get me wrong your first few kisses may be a little sloppy but its one of these things in life that come natural to you and you cant really explain it. Just open your mouth and when your lips touch ... (read in full...)
Where do we go from here?
Q. Hey everyone! Having some trouble...I'll try to make it brief! Liked this guy for a few month, weve been seeing eachother, and weve really hit it off, i can honestly say ive never felt like this before, i even ended up losing my V to him! Anyway,...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok well it sounds like his ex is definetaly still not over him and is acting out of jelousy. You need to be honest with this guy and ask him does he see himself getting back with his ex as you dont want to end up falling for him and getting hurt, if ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to get worried about the drugs
Q. The guy i'm seeing is getting pretty silly with his drink and drug taking. I'm not gonna lie, i do take drugs myself from time to time, but he's getting ridiculous, that whenever i see him, he seems to be on it, or crave it. Last time i saw him h...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok well it sounds like he is on the road to a drug or alcohol addiction or both. You need to try and get him on his own when he hasnt taken anything and have a talk with him, tell him you are really worried that he is getting hooked and you dont ... (read in full...)
If I could just get him to talk to me we could get the relationship back on track
Q. OK, so me and my ex have been on/off for 4 years.. I love him dearly and when we together he does too. The reason why we are such an on/off couple is because of arguments. When we fight I prefer to talk about it where he prefers to have days to calm ...
A. 12 October 2010: ok well first of you need to cut contact with him for a while, i know you dont want to do this but it is clear he needs some space right now, and darling if am honest with you the more you contact him the more angrier he is going to get at you as he ... (read in full...)
Kissing but not dating -- should I go with the flow?
Q. Well, hello Uhmm, so this guy and me dated awhile ago, only for about a month or so. We broke up because he started talking to his ex girlfriend again and I knew he loved her still, I just couldn't handle competing with her... So, we decided ...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok well its normal for you to feel this way even though you arent dating. and am afraid to say this but if you keep on letting this happen it is going to hurt you more and more because you are going to end up falling deep for this guy so you need to ... (read in full...)
Could I have maybe wierded her out?
Q. it appears that my best friend(girl) is someone who i have fallen for. i have written a couple somgs for her on facebook and told her, but that was just when it was a crush. last thursday, she slept over at my house and gave me quite a few chances ...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok calm down and dont panic, it sounds like she may like you two and possibly because you didnt pick up on these hints that she doesnt think you like her that way and now she is being a little distant so that her own feelings dont get hurt. Am sure ... (read in full...)
Is he pulling away, does he like me? What do I do?
Q. Ok, the days are a little mixed, cuz this was written a while ago to my cousin, lol. I've known this guy for a year and 5 months, well, a year ago he stopped hanging out with his group of friends so I haven't heard from him, well one sat he showe...
A. 12 October 2010: Ok well it definetaly sounds like this guy really likes you so dont worry about that because am quite positive that he does. but with him coming out of a 5 year relationship his head is probably all over the place and i just hope for your sake he is ... (read in full...)
Confused about what career to chose!
Q. I feel like confused because I don't know what career will suit me. I love looking at fashion magazines, when I was young I wanted to be a model but since I'm 5 1/2 in height and they want girls that are 5'9; I am a little down but I still love ...
A. 12 October 2010: Of course it is ok to feel like this we all go through our life wondering what career will suit us or if we have made the right choices in life but we all learn from our experience, why not visit a local career guidance centre where they can point ... (read in full...)
Goosebumps while having sex?
Q. I have a ?.... I wuz with my bf this weekend and we r in not to good terms ik he luvs me as I do him.. but I would like to know is it a bad thing when a guy gets goose bumps while makn luv.. cuz my bf got them???........
A. 12 October 2010: no its not a bad thing at al at al, in fact its a good thing and you should be happy because it obviously meant that he was enjoying it.... (read in full...)
Should I ask my boyfriend about his family?
Q. im 13, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 months. he is at my house all the time ive never been in his. but i dont care im afraid to meet his parents to be h=honest but he is quite close with mines. we never really talk much about his ...
A. 12 October 2010: Two years isnt a big gap if you are both enjoying each others company so dont worry about the age gap, just ask him about his family casually and be up front and then take the next step of meeting them yea you will be nervous we all are its only ... (read in full...)
Why does a guy behave like that & not speak a word&does he really like me?
Q. so this guy in campus has been making eye contact and smiles but that's just it.he never tried to speak to me.and whenever we looked at each other like for few secs he continues to look until I look away. after that I noticed his friends stare at...
A. 12 October 2010: Yeah sure you just need to pluck up the courage to start a conversation with him.... (read in full...)
We're getting close but he's got a girlfriend! What should I do?
Q. hi m 16yre old gal.i have been chatting this boy for 2 years.we have got many chances to see each other..but due to some problems everytime we havent met each other, until i met him lastnight(09-10-10).i wasn't suppose to get close to him..but ...
A. 12 October 2010: You need to stop all contact he is a player and you are going to get badly hurt if you keep going down this path, text him and tell him you are not going to be second best and whatever he says is not going to change your mind and ask him not to ... (read in full...)
How do I get over the resentment for my husband?
Q. How do I let go The resentment that I have for my husband? He had an affair some time ago and he now told me and I can't let it go. I love him and hate him at the same time. We argue almost once a week now over this. He feels that i should just let ...
A. 12 October 2010: You need to tell him, you need to be honest with him and tell him everything you are feeling and that you arent coping, i think marriage councilling is the best thing here it will get everything out in the open and if he loves you he will go with ... (read in full...)
FWB--he's gorgeous but why so insecure about his looks?
Q. Well i'm just really wanting to clarify what this guy is maybe thinking, I am casually meeting up with this guy for mutually agreed sex. We are the same age. He first messaged me on a dating site i was attracted so i started chatting, and he asked ...
A. 11 October 2010: Ok well its obvious this guy is completely lacking in self confidence and belief and he is crying out for attention, he puts himself down as he feels that he is a bad person, now as for your arrangement to be honest with you this is not going to ... (read in full...)
I drunkenly cheated on my fiance and now she doesn't know if she'll ever trust me again!
Q. My fiancée and I have been together for two years (living together for 1.5 years); we were supposed to get married March of 2011. I love her more than my own life and would stop at nothing to make damn sure that she's happy. But last month, I to...
A. 11 October 2010: Ok well good for you for being honest with her and telling her you cheated at least you had the courage to do that. Ok so you say you were that drunk you didnt no what you were doing? well then i suggest that you stop drinking as much in actually ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has terminal cancer, I want a baby but he doesnt. Should I leave him?
Q. My boyfriend has terminal cancer, i want a baby but he doesnt. Should i leave him? We met a year or two ago and we have fallen in love. He has a child by a previous marriage and is content with that but I am becoming desperate. I dont want to ...
A. 11 October 2010: Well darling this really is a tough one, but if he doesnt want a child due to the fact he is dying so will be leaving another child behind without a dad, try and look at it from his point of view, it will only make it harder for him to accept death ... (read in full...)
I have an upper ear piercing anddon't know what I can or cannot do in regards to it?
Q. Hello. This isnt a relationship problem, but I desperatly need help with this problem. I am 13 years old. My mother took me to a tattoo parlor to get my upper ear pierced [ cartilage ] for my birthday. I didnt know if they would put a stud in or a ...
A. 11 October 2010: Ok check to see if you can unscrew the ball on it to losen it am sure your mum will help you with this just ask her, yes you can put a normal earing in to it and yes if you remove it you can put it back in but if you keep it out for a long time, ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my boyfriend about his family?
Q. im 13, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 months. he is at my house all the time ive never been in his. but i dont care im afraid to meet his parents to be h=honest but he is quite close with mines. we never really talk much about his ...
A. 11 October 2010: yes just ask him casually about his family ask him would they ever like to meet you, hey there is nothing to be scared about, we all get nervous meeting our boyfriends parents its onlt natural.... (read in full...)
How do I start a conversation with boyfriend about unplanned pregnancy?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have started to have sex. Yes we use protection, but there is always a chance of pregnancy, and I believe it is the right thing if we talk about what we would do in that situation now then if it might happen. I want to know his ...
A. 11 October 2010: i disagree with person 12345 at the end of the day you need to sit down now and ask him his views on abortion as yes it is your body but am sorry he has a say aswell as it would be his child also that you would be carrying and if he is against ... (read in full...)
Why does a guy behave like that & not speak a word&does he really like me?
Q. so this guy in campus has been making eye contact and smiles but that's just it.he never tried to speak to me.and whenever we looked at each other like for few secs he continues to look until I look away. after that I noticed his friends stare at...
A. 10 October 2010: Hmm its hard to tell maybe he likes you or maybe he is just being nasty and teasing you either way just try not to pay attention to him and see if he speaks to you, or else try and pluck up the courage to speak to him just say hi or something
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All of a sudden he's scared of commitment, should I get out now/
Q. My boyfriend and I started dating about two months ago, the relationship is going pretty fast. We both work interstate for 2 weeks at a time, but we have spent all our time off together. Whilst being at home he told me he wants to meet my family ...
A. 10 October 2010: Ok dont panic, and dont end things, two months is quite a short time so just tell him you really like him and that you can both take things slower if he is comfortable with that and just let things work out naturally dont plan to far ahead of ... (read in full...)
Can a girl simply have weak orgasms?
Q. I've always been kind of disappointed with the results when I masturbate. I watch or think about something to put me in the mood and can get to what I think is an orgasm through manual clitoral stimulation only (because I'm not comfortable fing...
A. 10 October 2010: Well this sounds completely normal when you are masterbating, when you are being sexual with a partner this usually intensifies it so much more. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to finger myself!
Q. I know the general advice out there is to not try and force anything, but for a while now, I've wanted to try fingering myself. The problem is, when I try, it usually feels tight and uncomfortable and usually I give up before I even get a finger in ...
A. 10 October 2010: there is no right and wrong way every girl is different and its up to you to explore your body mainly girls get most pleasure out of the clitoris so start of here first and this should get you in the mood, and just do what ever is comfortable take ... (read in full...)
I am unsure that she loves me even though she says that she does!
Q. I'm wondering if I am going to loose my girlfriend. My girlfriend and I dated a few times many years ago while we were in high school. She ended up marrying someone else though and I went into the army and also married someone else. I was mar...
A. 10 October 2010: well first of she should be able to have male friends if she wants and you cant tell her not to hang out with this man you just need to trust her. If you dont trust her then you shouldnt be together in the first place. As for your insecurities about ... (read in full...)
We argued and now she isnt talking to me.
Q. hello, i would apreciate if you guys help me.. my bestfriend and i had some arguments and she stoped talking to me i tried to talk to her to be friends again but i guess she doestnt feel comfortable or something she said she ill talk to me wheneve ...
A. 10 October 2010: You have your answer there sweetie if she is not talking to you she needs some time so just take a step back and let her come to you when she is ready, she just needs some time, so you need to give her this and not contact her, if you see her smile ... (read in full...)
We're getting close but he's got a girlfriend! What should I do?
Q. hi m 16yre old gal.i have been chatting this boy for 2 years.we have got many chances to see each other..but due to some problems everytime we havent met each other, until i met him lastnight(09-10-10).i wasn't suppose to get close to him..but ...
A. 10 October 2010: well first of you need to find out if he likes you aswell, and if he does then suggest that he breaks up with his girlfriend and the both of you can start dating, if he refuses to break up with his girlfriend then he is not interested he is just a ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to talk to him!
Q. Hi! I am so confused about a guy in my marching band. I'm a freshman and he is a senior, but I think he may like me. I've definitely shown him i'm interested by looking at him and trying to hold his gaze; that happens a lot. The thing is, I'm not ...
A. 10 October 2010: Dont be afraid, am sorry to say you are never going to know if you dont ask him, so just try and get talking to him and get to know him better and then after you feel comfortable enough tell him that you like him, just go for it you have nothing to ... (read in full...)
He always stops before he ejaculates
Q. So I'm not sure what to make of my new bf's sexual technique, and I'd love some comments about why he doesn't ejaculate from any female and esp. male readers, please. We've been together 2 months, sleeping together for a couple of weeks. He's ...
A. 10 October 2010: hi well yes it deffo sounds like he is using the pull out method, its obvious he thinks you dont want him to come inside you when he is doing this maybe he doesnt realise that you are on the pill so maybe you can remind him again and tell him he can ... (read in full...)
We are more like friends than lovers
Q. My boyfriend and I have dated for almost 2 years. Well, I feel that we are more like friends than lovers. He won't even kiss me, as in french kiss me. We have kissed before but since months ago he has shown no interest in kissing me passionately. I ...
A. 10 October 2010: Hi well just be honest with him tell him that you miss how things were and you feel like he is not as interested in you anymore as he doesnt kiss you or show you affection, there is plenty of affection you can give each other without having sex, ... (read in full...)
How do you broach the "What is this relationship" question?
Q. Hi, I'd love some advice from girls and guys about how to broach the "what is this relationship" question. I've been with my new guy for 2 months...he contacts me every day, we hang out whenever we can, go on dates, and have been sleeping together ...
A. 10 October 2010: No its been two months and you seem to be on the right track and it sounds fun so i dont think it is to soon to ask him where you stand, maybe just casually drop it in some conversation but dont make a huge deal of it, just maybe ask him some time ... (read in full...)
How can I change our sex only relationship into something more?
Q. A few weeks ago, I got talking to a guy at a bar (foolish place to meet someone I know). One thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together. Since then he has added me on facebook and texted me a few times. We have seen each other on nights ...
A. 10 October 2010: Ok well it is quite a bad start to a relationship, as am afraid to tell you but this guy probably only sees you at the minute as someone he can sleep with no strings attached as this is how it has been, if you want more to happen then you need to ... (read in full...)
I want us to be intimate but she won't get tested and its very important to me that she does
Q. Im scared i wight walk down the same road again. please help. i lost my virginity at 17.8 years, thereafter i engaged in a more riskier than usuall lifestyle. one of my biggest problems was that i would not ejaculate with a condom on, so most time...
A. 10 October 2010: Ok well am afraid you cant force your girlfriend to get tested for STI's but she should get tested for her own health, tell he that it is for her own good and that its better for her to know now than 5 years down the line if she has something, if ... (read in full...)
Do I owe this person anything?
Q. Hey!!...I have a tough question. There's this friend I know (just a friend) who I haven't spoken to for more than a month. And she has done a lot to help me over the years, but she is using guilt as a means to get her own way. She seriously thinks ...
A. 10 October 2010: If you dont want to have children then that is your choice and nobody elses so stand your ground and tell them all to stop interfering that you will live the life the way you want it, end of story. they are probably just trying to help you but it ... (read in full...)
Is this the greater truth about why we lie to our partners?
Q. Is this the greater truth about why we lie to our partners? It’s interesting that when people are messing up, and failing their partner in a relationship by betraying them (i.e., cheating) few think about how they are hurting their loved one with...
A. 10 October 2010: Have you a partner that has cheated on you? Or a family member? Sorry i just dont see what you need help with here, all you seem to do is talk about cheating in general. Yes a lot of people lie about it due to the fact that they are cowards and dont ... (read in full...)
Very worried because my LDR girlfriend suddenly disappeared!
Q. guys im really freaking out !! my LDR gf just disapeared!! its been 4 days now , we used to talk like every single day , but now she is not online anymore , i tried to call her but her fone is jst ringin !! no one is pickin it up , i called her ...
A. 10 October 2010: Over 100 times? Maybe you are being a little bit obsessive here and maybe she needs some time. Send her a txt or a email and tell her you are worried about her and you would like to know if she is ok or not, and leave it at that, if she doesnt ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't know if she wants to date me!
Q. Dear Readers, I have been dating the same girl for slightly over a year now. We are a great couple fell in love, moved in together. I am also her first real boyfriend. We also had our problems with communication this summer, more or less it broke...
A. 10 October 2010: Hi well dont worry as if she loves you she will come back to you, if she needs to clear her head then give her some time to do that, believe me if she loves you she will come back, it could also be that there is distance between you both at the ... (read in full...)
How do I start a conversation with boyfriend about unplanned pregnancy?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have started to have sex. Yes we use protection, but there is always a chance of pregnancy, and I believe it is the right thing if we talk about what we would do in that situation now then if it might happen. I want to know his ...
A. 10 October 2010: Ok you need to stop worrying about all this stuff. At the end of the day nobody knows how they are going to react until a situation like this occurs and if you are against abortion then nobody can make you abort a baby, if you dont feel comfortable ... (read in full...)
Did you like someone who was in a relationship? How did it end?
Q. Hey everyone.. Has there been anyone out here who liked someone and that someone was been in committed relationship!if yes please share your story and tell me how it ended? Ps:there is this guy I like let's call him x and his gf Y,so I really lik...
A. 10 October 2010: Ok well i would advise not to go near this guy and stay clear as there wont be a good ending believe me, unless he is willing to break up with his girlfriend for you dont go near him, because if you get with him and he is still with his girlfriend, ... (read in full...)
My g/f wants to get intimate while on web cam, I'm not sure how I feel about that
Q. Dear cupid, so I wrote several times on your website, and I would like to thank everybody for the help that you acquired me. So my story is like this I’m with my gf 3 years…and we have a problem I’m on 4 year of university and I’m on this program ...
A. 10 October 2010: Dont be embarressed, well are you not comfortable doing this? I understand that your girlfriend is shy but shy obviously feels very comfortable with you and plus am sure she is missing the physical side of your relationship so therefore she wants to ... (read in full...)
How do I get over the resentment for my husband?
Q. How do I let go The resentment that I have for my husband? He had an affair some time ago and he now told me and I can't let it go. I love him and hate him at the same time. We argue almost once a week now over this. He feels that i should just let ...
A. 4 October 2010: Its completely natural that you feel this way every married women would, he has hurt you in every possible way and now he thinks that you should just forget about it as if nothing happened and that hurts aswell.
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