How does sex feel the first time?
Q. Yes, I am a virgin and proud. Dont want to have sex but can someone tell me how it feels the first time and how to masturbate myself scared i might hurt myself and stuff around the house i could use to make even more pleasure....
A. 25 October 2010: If the clitoris doesnt do anything for you then just keep experimenting and you will find something that you enjoy doing every girl is different so you need to take the time out to explore your own body.... (read in full...)
Should I get pregnant knowing my fiance doesn't want another child?
Q. My fiance and I have 3 boys (5,2,1 week), i just gave birth to a baby on 10/14. I desperately want to try for a girl and he doesn't want anymore children. 2 are his and 1 is from a previous relationship. He now wants to use condoms and get me on ...
A. 21 October 2010: No dont do this you cant trap him in to having a child its really unfair of you even to think about something like this he is your husband and you shouldnt treat someone like this.
All you can do is sit down with him and open your heart and tell... (read in full...)
He's flirting more since he's had a g/f?
Q. There is a guy who I have in a couple of my classes that asked me out but I had said no. We still talk so theres no problem there. Recently though Ive seen him with another girl (hand around her waist, etc), and since then he's been more touchy with ...
A. 21 October 2010: These simple things he is doing could just mean that he is comfortable around you it doesnt nessisarily mean that he is flirting with you. If he does try anything on though just explain to him that you dont want anything to happen and he has a ... (read in full...)
How does sex feel the first time?
Q. Yes, I am a virgin and proud. Dont want to have sex but can someone tell me how it feels the first time and how to masturbate myself scared i might hurt myself and stuff around the house i could use to make even more pleasure....
A. 21 October 2010: Women get most pleasure out of stimulating the clitoris so just work from there it will naturally come to you. As for the first time having sex am not going to lie it can be quite uncomfortable and a little sore and you may bleed but after a few ... (read in full...)
After a couple of bad relationships I'm afraid of being used
Q. Hiya everyone! Well, I don't know where to begin. And I'd just like to really talk to someone about it I guess. I'm 19. I have Asperger's Syndrome. Fortunately, I was diagnosed when I was 7, and by now, no one even realizes I even had it. My love ...
A. 21 October 2010: No wonder you feel like this you poor man the first girl just totally used you and the second one lied to you and completely disrespected your feelings.
You need to take some time out and focus on making yourself happy and more confiden... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with the conflict with my husband
Q. My husband and I have been fighting a lot lately, I feel like it is over. He wont even look at me, I cook dinner as normal and he wont sit down with my son and I. He leaves as soon as i get home and doesnt talk to me all day or night. I will not ...
A. 21 October 2010: Well you need to ask yourself do you love him? And are you willing to make this marriage work?
If you dont then simply ask him to leave that you cant live this way any longer and its not fair on your soon having to witness his two parents not talk... (read in full...)
How can I avoid dwelling on "what ifs"?
Q. Hey, I'd appreciate your comments/insight into the emotions I've been feeling lately about my new bf of 2 months, and some advice on how to make myself less worried, please. Everything is going great, I think he's lovely, and he's told me he'...
A. 21 October 2010: It sounds like you are feeling insecure because of what your last boyfriend done to you which is totally understandable but not all men are like that sweetie. Its a hard thing to be cheated on and it does mess up your head but just try and not let ... (read in full...)
Am I being unfair or selfish by feeling like my needs and wants are being brushed off?
Q. So I have been married almost 2 years. Second marriage. My first marriage I was with the man for 11 years and married 8. The sex was less than great. In the end we went almost a year without having sex. I hated having to beg for it and it was like ...
A. 21 October 2010: Ok maybe meet down the middle somewere with your husband and compromise as everyday can get very tiring for some people.
Maybe invest in a vibrator for yourself and maybe suggest every second day to your husband... (read in full...)
The guy who had broken my heart is back...!
Q. He's back. -Que dramatic music!- Can I ask a simple question to those of you out there who had their heart broken before? Let's say that you met a guy/girl who you fell head over heels for. You hung out with him/her ALOT and you've kissed quite a f...
A. 21 October 2010: No i dont think i would see him again, for the simple fact would be my feelings would just come rushing back stronger than ever and then if he disappeared again i would be left shattered and it would be to late then to develop a relationship with ... (read in full...)
I was hoping attraction to my 2nd cousin would fade, but it hasn't
Q. I am very deeply, sexually attracted to my second cousin. I'm confused whether he returns my feelings - I'm 18 and he's 26. It's not a phase. I've had a very visceral reaction to him since I was very young, about 11 years old. Even though I've hoped ...
A. 21 October 2010: Ok well he is your 2nd cousin so this may cause a lot of trouble within your family, however its not illegal and you are 18 so your old enough to make up your own mind.
however the way you have described things it sounds like he cares a lot abou... (read in full...)
Breaking up with boyfriend was a mistake I want him back!
Q. I broke up with my bf of 3 days short of 5 months. I regret it now! I have tried talking to him but he doesn't think it'll work out (I broke up with him bc my dad didn't like him). I have a to get that out of the way, but my main concern is he won't ...
A. 21 October 2010: Just be clear with him that you really regret breaking up with him and for hurting him by doing this but tell him you really want him back and you will work hard in the relationship.... (read in full...)
Does his stare mean anything?
Q. Hello. I just want to ask a question about something that happened to me today. Today, my crush and i catched eachother's eye. i smiled at him, looked down, looked back up and carried on smiling while he just looked at me. what does this mean? a...
A. 20 October 2010: Ok well im not sure a look can mean many things really. If you have both told each other you like each other then why dont you make the first move and ask him out.... (read in full...)
Why won't my husband have sex with me anymore?
Q. my husband and i have been married for 9 yrs next month. during the past 5 months we have been arguing alot and for the past 9 months we havent had sex. we have 3 kids /the youngest is 3 months old/ and i dont want to mess any of it up but i dont ...
A. 20 October 2010: am afraid that the only person that can help you here is your husband, first of stay clear from your husbands friend and maybe get a babysitter and put some romance back in to your relationship spend some time just the both of you light some candles ... (read in full...)
Are all men crazy, or just this one?
Q. my boyfriend and i use to fight all the time . now that we are in seperate housing i dont want him any more and he still finds ways to get in good with me .. what should i do we been together for 3 years and been seperated for 2 months and i dont ...
A. 20 October 2010: Well if you dont feel the same way about him and you have a new boyfriend then why are you asking your ex to spend the night with you?
In my opinion its probably best you are single for a while if you are wanting your ex to stay with you over nig... (read in full...)
Why did she tell me she doesn't have the time?
Q. I'm a 26yrs university student. i met this lady who is also a student and we became friend and she really likes me. i then told her we should start serious relationship, then she told me I'm a nice,kind guy who every lady will like to be with, but ...
A. 20 October 2010: It sounds like she has made her mind up here and she has no time for a relationship so am afraid there is not a lot you can do here, dont keep asking her she now knows how you feel so just leave her be because if you keep at her you will end up ... (read in full...)
Is my aunt coming onto me?
Q. My aunty is always leaning infront of me. It's like to show me her boobs. I want to sex with her. Is she likes me? Her husband is abroad for 2 years. How can i express that i am interest in her? She has also some problems with her husband. While ...
A. 20 October 2010: This is really wrong and you shouldnt want to have sex with your aunt, this is incest and you could both end up in serious trouble with the law, not only that but you will be tearing up your whole family and you will end up hurting a lot of people. ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him even at the risk of ending up alone?
Q. i have a very serious question that i need some closure on. please don't think i'm silly for asking it. first you need the back story. i grew up going to church every time the doors were open. it was nice especially for children because...
A. 20 October 2010: Well it sounds like he likes you aswell and he shouldnt let his grandmother come in the middle of you at the end of the day he is a grown man who can make his own decisions in the world.
You just need to be honest with yourself and honest w... (read in full...)
Does he want to get me pregnant or is he just traditional?
Q. my partner and i of nearly 2 years were talking about my friend who was pregnant and got dumped by her boyfriend. he then said he would have freaked out like my friends bf and done the same thing and goes, i hope youre not pregnant. then i asked ...
A. 20 October 2010: Well it sounds like he is a little bit confused, he said first of that he would do the same as this girls man did then he said different which was probably to let you no that he wouldnt leave you, am not sure.
It doesnt sound like he wants a ... (read in full...)
Is it worth sending an apology letter to an ex?
Q. About 3 weeks ago, my g/f suddenly broke up with me. It was done badly - on both sides, and I posted a question about it here. We've stayed NC since our last call, but I'm starting to feel guilty about pushing her into the breakup, as I wa...
A. 20 October 2010: Well if am honest with you that letter doesnt look like you are begging to her to take you back it just sounds like a very nice apology and shows her how much you care, but it is entirely up to you if you send it or not.... (read in full...)
Trouble discussing problems with my boyfriend, but then how do I fix my sex life?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now (we've lived together since december). The problem is our already dwindling sex life. I was quite shy due to problems in previous relationhips when I entered this one, and took a while to get ...
A. 20 October 2010: Ok am afraid there is no other way to solve this than to tell him. Dont confront him as such maybe the next time you both have sex you start things off and tell him exactly what you want him to do to you, if he doesnt do this then you need to sit ... (read in full...)
Will he ever put me first?
Q. Hello. I'm pretty lost right now. From the beginning: I was with this guy for about 3.5 years and he is the first person I've actually loved. We would fight a lot, but we're both stubborn and headstrong, and I love that about him. Recently I had a ...
A. 20 October 2010: Well his career is his main focus at the minute but i say good for him at least he is making something of his life. So its up to you if you want to keep on fighting, he obviously cares about you if he is willing to make things work after your little ... (read in full...)
13 and have questions about masturbating
Q. I am 13 and I occasionally masturbate. I just want to know, is it normal that I don't ejaculate when I reach orgasm, but it still feels really good? I don't know if I've hit puberty yet, my voice hasn't cracked. I mean, when I say I don't ejaculate, ...
A. 20 October 2010: Ok no this is completely normal for this to happen, small amounts of ejaculation may just be due to your age, its never a huge amount anyway so dont be worrying.
Also as for carrying on this is almost impossible most of the time. Once a man reac... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for us to have sex?
Q. I'm in a LDR and it's wonderful. We are extremely happy. I'm going down there in 3 days to visit him. I'm really excited! We've come to realize we want to have sex when i get down there. I'm not sure if it's right. I know i really want to, but a bit ...
A. 20 October 2010: Its not wrong no, unless you dont feel ready and you arent comfortable doing it, only you know how you feel, so if you are not ready then tell him that.... (read in full...)
Need suggestions on how to control my aggressive behavior??
Q. Hi, I have been married 3 years. It seems tho that e can't get over past mistakes. I love my husband but he tends to keep secrets n when I find out I go ballistic. I can't Handle hurt n the fact that I have never met his son or that he never sp...
A. 20 October 2010: Contact your doctor and tell him your situation and maybe he might be able to direct you in the right direction to get help.... (read in full...)
How do I get out of and over an emotionally abusive relationship?
Q. Hi ALL, I need some help and advice please. I have just come out of an abusive relastionship as in he was messing me around, using me for sex, being unreliable, claiming we were just freinds, stringing me along, and generally being a nasty brute. ...
A. 19 October 2010: You need to just give yourself time to heal. He has completely shattered you as a person so now you have to rebuild yourself.
Cut all contact, and if he contacts you tell him you want nothing to do with him and keep it at this because he will onl... (read in full...)
How do I tell him nicely I don't want to go on this trip??
Q. ok so this guy asked suggested we go out somewhere next week during half term, like as in a date and im really nervous about it. all my friends are pushing me forward saying this is a really good opportunity because we both like each other but i ...
A. 19 October 2010: Ok well if you are really that petrified and you realy dont think that you can go through with it then just casually say to him that you will meet him at the party and you can both make arrangements then to go out.... (read in full...)
Need suggestions on how to control my aggressive behavior??
Q. Hi, I have been married 3 years. It seems tho that e can't get over past mistakes. I love my husband but he tends to keep secrets n when I find out I go ballistic. I can't Handle hurt n the fact that I have never met his son or that he never sp...
A. 19 October 2010: If you are beginning to get aggressive and you cant control it then you need to go to anger management classes to keep it under control you also would benefit from going to marriage councelling with your husband as if he is lying to you and ... (read in full...)
I love her but this relationship is tormenting me, what should I do??
Q. (Taken from a previous forum I posted in) I love her, she's my best friend too and we've already spoken about a future together, etc. but I'm having doubts now. We probably haven't spent more than 2 days away from each other. When there's t...
A. 19 October 2010: Ok first off you are not over reacting. You need to be the man that you are though and stand up for yourself. You need to talk to her you have to or else you are going to end up hating her because of this.
Ok so am not saying break up with her... (read in full...)
We broke up and it's driving me crazy, how do I cope, should I let her be??
Q. hey everyone . okay so my ldr gf and i broke up , and its killing me . i just wonder if u should really give her a space before i try to get her back . but im worried , what is she gets with some1 else during this time ?!! coz i know some guys are ...
A. 19 October 2010: First off you need to say why did she break up with you in the first place? There must be a reason.
Also you should never have stopped her hanging around with male friends this shows some controlling behaviour within itself as she should be able ... (read in full...)
I need to decide which one, my feelings are stronger for one of them??
Q. I really like this guy. The problem is I'm already going out with someone but this guy is single. My bf is the sweetest guy on the planet but I don't really want to go out with him anymore because I don't love him I love this other guy. My bf is ...
A. 19 October 2010: Well hun its your choice if you dont love your boyfriend then i think its best if you finish things now as the longer you leave it the worst it will be for him. Also for you aswell you need to be honest with him without hurting his feelings dont ... (read in full...)
Age Difference Situation please help!!
Q. Hello! So its my 14th birthday today, and this boy I am seriously in love with turned 17 exactly a month ago. I've liked him since I was 11, and I met him at school. He added me on Facebook when I was 11, and ever since we've been speaking every ...
A. 19 October 2010: Ok well hunny it sounds like this guy doesnt want to have a relationship with you. So you need to concentrate on getting over him he is away to college now and he probably doesnt want a relationship with a 14 year old girl, i no this is harsh hun ... (read in full...)
Is it worth sending an apology letter to an ex?
Q. About 3 weeks ago, my g/f suddenly broke up with me. It was done badly - on both sides, and I posted a question about it here. We've stayed NC since our last call, but I'm starting to feel guilty about pushing her into the breakup, as I wa...
A. 19 October 2010: I think that your draft is just perfect. Go for it.... (read in full...)
Is it worth sending an apology letter to an ex?
Q. About 3 weeks ago, my g/f suddenly broke up with me. It was done badly - on both sides, and I posted a question about it here. We've stayed NC since our last call, but I'm starting to feel guilty about pushing her into the breakup, as I wa...
A. 19 October 2010: No i think it would be a nice thing to do to write to her and apologise for the way you acted. There is nothing wrong with this and its not about you its about you wanting to apologise. So write the letter and wish her all the best and happieness at ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? Or just messing with my mind?
Q. There's is this guy, half turkish-half german, I met exactly one year ago. Normally I like someone very quick (1 day) by looking at the guy's behavior, but this one I met was not like that. I started liking him after almost 1 month, I think I fell ...
A. 19 October 2010: Ok i think that you are over dramatising this just a little bit, at the end of the day he has done nothing but show you he cares about you as a friend therefore its not him thats messing up your head its yourself because you have feelings for him. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend left me saying I was controlling
Q. my girlfriend and i have been dating for a year now she moved in with me and things were good for awhile then a girlfriend of hers needed a place to stay i let her stay here a few weeks until she started stealing from me any way i kicked her out ...
A. 19 October 2010: Ok you need to sit down and talk to her and ask her what you did that was controlling, she needs to be honest with you if this is going to work, ask her to explain to you everything you done that she felt was controlling so you can work on fixing ... (read in full...)
Why did boyfriend start treating me well after treating me badly?
Q. Me and my bf have had a sour relationship due to his lies and verbal abuse. He constantly threw me out and aftr i go back to my hometown it is then the nxt day he calls me up beging me to come back. Almst like he just wanted a nite to himself and 4 ...
A. 18 October 2010: well only you can make this decision, if you want to make things work with him then go for it but tell him the first sign that he is going back to his old ways you are leaving him and never giving him another chance. But if your heart isnt in the ... (read in full...)
Iv complicated things. Now how do I break-up gently?
Q. I met this guy a few years ago. He was married at the time and we got along well and stayed in touch casually, a coffee every so often but nothing more. He and his wife are now in the process of divorce with her making the move to leave him. He an...
A. 18 October 2010: Just be gentle with him tell him that he needs some space coming out of his marriage and you dont want to complicate things anymore for him tell him you care about him as a friend and you dont want to end up hurting him but that you will be there ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my girlfriend because I wasn't happy and I was paranoid. What happens next?
Q. I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of almost three years on my 21st birthday. I did it for a number of reasons. Even though we love each other immensely, we had a few issues. I broke up with her because I felt like I needed a little bit ...
A. 18 October 2010: Of course it is going to hurt three years is a long time but i advise staying away from her for now and to keep no contact if you are both meant to be then there is plenty of time in the future, right now you need to concentrate on yourself and you ... (read in full...)
Away Backpacking - How or When Can I Break Up?
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend now for several years. Sometimes things are good, but a lot of the time I just want to end the relationship. We argue a lot and then just end up making up again. Much of my love for her has died and I now care ...
A. 18 October 2010: This is a really hard decision as if you are both away for the next four months then timing in not exactly best at the moment.
Could it be possible that you could cut your travels four months early and get a flight back home? If it is possible... (read in full...)
Why did he want my information if he was just going to ignore me?
Q. hi a guy whom I had met last year, recently indicated to me that he was interested in getting to know me better. He finally asked me for my phone number and email address, since we live in separate countries and he said that he would like to keep ...
A. 18 October 2010: Maybe he has had time to think about this situation and realises that its not worth the hassle when you are in a different country or else maybe he is just really busy. Either way leave the ball in his court now you have contacted him so leave it at ... (read in full...)
B/f says he'd be happier if he didn't have feelings for me?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been having problems. He says he loves me but thinks he would be happier is he didn't have feelings for me, yet he doesn't want to risk going without me. we are each other's first loves. What should i do?...
A. 18 October 2010: Well it sounds that maybe you both have ran in to some problems and he doesnt want to love you right now as it would be easier for him to walk away. Although this is quite selfish as he needs to be able to work hard on your relationship and it ... (read in full...)
What song would you dedicate to a loved one?? any ideas?
Q. Hi, I'm not sure if this is the right place for this....if you could dedicate a song or two (or even 3 lol) to someone..what would it be and why? For example "Luther Vandross - Dance with my Father" ...always reminds me of my dad. And " Lio...
A. 18 October 2010: If you are wanting to dedicate a song to someone then you need to do this on your own and not with the help of others, you can look on the internet at lyrics and see which ones would describe your relationship best.... (read in full...)
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