Shock horror: ex boyfriend reappears, disappears.
Q. I have a question which, unfortunately, has quite a long backstory--thanks in advance for reading! I have just recently returned to the UK after being in the US for a year (I am an American citizen and moved home to be with my parents). A bit...
A. 1 November 2010: Yes i no were you are coming from the temptation will always be there for you to email him so if you want to move on and have a fresh start then block his email for your own sake.... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to her, or should I let her go?
Q. I had a great long-distance friend, someone I always hoped I'd be more than friends with though that never worked out. We knew each other over 2 years. I've always been private but with her.....I just felt a comfort I've NEVER felt with anyone...
A. 30 October 2010: Well then tell her that if you can deal with just being friends with her and it wont hurt you more then tell her you miss her as a friend.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend said it'd be okay if I received oral sex from another woman!
Q. OK, I've been in a relationship for the past seven months with out any infidelity towards my girl friend. I'll admit that I am the jealous type when someone hits on my girl and she loves that about me. Ever since yesterday, I ask her about giving ...
A. 28 October 2010: You need to ask her what she meant by this ask her does she want an open relationship and has she let other guys go down on her? Just because she wont give you a blow job doesnt mean that she doesnt love you some girls arent comfortable doing it and ... (read in full...)
Bad burning pain in vaginal area after sex. What can it be?
Q. hey everyone, so heres my question. everytime me and my bf have sex i get really bad pains around the entrance of my vagina in a ring shape. It stings really bad and is like a burning pain. it gets so bad that we have to stop having sex becau...
A. 28 October 2010: It sounds like you could have stititus. This can be caused by a kidney infection or else scented shower gels or soap you need to take a urine sample to your doctors and they will be able to clear it up if it is this then they will put you on ... (read in full...)
We both like each other but are too shy to talk!
Q. Hi guys, I think this is a tricky question to answer but this guy is interested in me, i know this because he has told me and i have also told him how i feel. I don't know him that well as i met him at college at the start of Sept, the problem is ...
A. 28 October 2010: The place to start with your confidence is making yourself feel good, get a new hair cut or a new outfit something to make you feel good maybe join a few clubs and meet new people. find the courage within yourself to ask him on a date the cinema ... (read in full...)
He is abusive and accuses me of cheating constantly. How do I stay away??
Q. Me and my husband been together for almost 2 years we have a baby of 1 year . I love him alot and always have respected him. Since I was pregnant he has always accused me of cheating on him even when I was carrying his son. I have never gave him ...
A. 28 October 2010: Ill tell you what you need to do and that is leave him now if you wont do it for your own sake then do it for your childs sake its not fair a baby in this atmosphere and if you love your child you will leave straight away and cut all contact with ... (read in full...)
My breasts are swollen and swore, what's wrong with me?
Q. My breast are swollen and sore for the last week or so . But now there are still big and swollen but not sore . I took a test last night and it came back as no. Just wondering what's going on with me?? My last peroid was over on oct 7 and we had...
A. 28 October 2010: Ok well it could be to soon for a pregnancy test to be positive so therefore i wouldnt rule pregnancy out straight away. It could also just be your hormones playing up but i would definetaly give it a few weeks and do another pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
The only guy I trust is my friend. How can I trust my boyfriend?
Q. Im 15 and ive been dating my bf for 3 months and i have serious trust issues. Every guy ive dated has cheated on me more than once or left me for another girl then came back when he got tired of her. I dont trust my bf and i feel bad about it. I ...
A. 28 October 2010: Well you said there that you trust your friend because he has never hurt you or broke your trust which makes sence but what has your boyfriend done to break your trust? You always says something happens when you are begging to trust him? What are ... (read in full...)
We are back together but instead of things getting better, they are worse!
Q. I dont know whats going on in my relationship or how my boyfriend thinks. When we first started dating he sent me text messages that say have a nice day or something like that. but he never showed anyone that he was with me, he wont hold my hand or ...
A. 28 October 2010: You need to sit down with your boyfriend and have a heart to heart tell him you are feeling unhappy at the moment because you dont feel like his heart is in the relationship anymore tell him to be honest with you as you dont want to be in the ... (read in full...)
Strange odor and I'm embarrassed to see the doctor!
Q. umm i have a weird sort of odor on my clit and around it? ive used generic yeast infection treatments, but nothing seems to work. its a sort of weird kind of fishy smell....and no matter how much i was its stil there..i refrain from letin my partn...
A. 28 October 2010: Ok use a PH balance shower gel and wear cotton underwear and dont wear tight clothing this is quite normal and fluid is normal as well and so is a smell but if it is strong it could be your shower gel so change it. If the discharge is a green or ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is only able to have sex once a day. Is it normal?
Q. My boyfriend and I are only able to have sex once a day. Then if it has been too many days in a row then he can't do it at all. Sometimes we can go a week without doing anything and he can still only go once, or have to wait a few hours to be able ...
A. 28 October 2010: Well all men are different, majority of men after they come they need a rest they cant just get it up again but it usually only takes a little while maybe even an hour but shouldnt take all day yet all guys are different as you say and maybe he just ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him how I feel?
Q. How do i tell him how i feel?? i live with my boyfriend...im 8 months pregnant... the thing is that every time im sad i cant tell him why im sad...we have been through a lot of things together....he change when we started living together. he put...
A. 28 October 2010: You obviously have a barrier up from telling him how you feel as you are scared that he will go off on one and go back to treating you badly but am sorry hun but your relationship is not going to work if there is no communication so you just need to ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but I love him!
Q. dear cupid, i am in love with a guy who is in a relationship and i don't know what to do. we can call him J. we went to high school together and spent the second half of our last year together all the time. we kept in touch during our first y...
A. 28 October 2010: Ok well hun am afraid to tell you that if he has a girlfriend then he is a no go, dont go near him until he is single. I think you need to be honest with him and tell him that you really like him but that if he is going to stay with his girlfriend ... (read in full...)
I may not see my LDR guy for 2 years
Q. i'm in a long distance relationship with d man of my dreams.i might not be seeing him till about 2years from now.i don't want d way we feel for each other 2 change before then.how can I make this work?...
A. 28 October 2010: Two years is a very long time as you know and people change through time so this is going to be very hard, just make sure that you both make plenty of contact with each other and hopefully it will keep the relationship going is there no way that in ... (read in full...)
Is he just being sweet with me to get a leg over?
Q. Hello everyone, Ive met this really nice guy over plenty of fish we speak on the phone everyday have done for around maybe 2 months or coming up 2 it but weve never met but seem to get on he goes on about moving in and stuff and already ...
A. 28 October 2010: Well i personnally think that you are both moving to fast its great that you guys can get on well over the net and can talk on the phone but you need to spend time together as a couple first to make sure that you both get on with each other before ... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to her, or should I let her go?
Q. I had a great long-distance friend, someone I always hoped I'd be more than friends with though that never worked out. We knew each other over 2 years. I've always been private but with her.....I just felt a comfort I've NEVER felt with anyone...
A. 28 October 2010: No i dont think that you should she told you she would contact you so leave it at that as if you contact her she may get angry with you and tell you she asked you to wait until she contacted you.
If am honest with you it sounds like this women go... (read in full...)
Any ideas why he cut off communication?
Q. Earlier this year I met this guy and we became friends. There was nothing between us as we were more aquiantances than friends. We exchnaged the odd message now and then but thats pretty much it. Fast forward a few months and we found ourselves ...
A. 28 October 2010: Hmm yes this is a tricky one, maybe he couldnt cope with the distance and therefore stopped things before he could fall for you anymore or maybe its possible he met someone else and slowly cut you from his life and never told you to stop from ... (read in full...)
How can I repay my mom for her kindness?
Q. Hi guys, this isn't a relationship question, but i'm sure you will do your best to help me out. Ok, here goes. My mum is the most amazing person I've ever known, we have been best friends ever since Dad (her husband) died in 2001. She has always d...
A. 28 October 2010: Well you are very lucky to have a mother that would do this for you and hun am sure she wouldnt have done it if she couldnt afford it, all you can do now is show her you appreciate it with love and affection, why not go around to hers one day a week ... (read in full...)
Should I give him more space?
Q. He said we could still be friends, and i want to. We still love each other but broke up 2 days ago. NOt necessarily because my my insecurity and trust problems.. assumptions, but it made us unhappy. I still want this and I think he does too, he just ...
A. 28 October 2010: Well if you would prefer to write him a letter then do that, tell him you are seeking therapy as you want to overcome your issues and also yes tell him you hope that you can both be very happy once you have solved your problems and hope that he will ... (read in full...)
He says I try to control him!
Q. I try to control him, I have been hearing this a lot. We are broken up now but I want to work on this for myself even if WE still happen to get together. How do I manage that. I know it may do with trust but I dont know how to solve it. Also he used ...
A. 28 October 2010: Ok well have you had a past relationship were you have been cheated on or had your trust broken? Or have you really bad self asteem issues?
It sounds like he has tried but he cant cope with your controlling issues anymore, it is said that we ... (read in full...)
LDR g/f wants a break but says she still loves me
Q. I met my girlfriend four months ago on a mission trip to Ukraine. It was a very emotional experience visiting orphanages with children with special needs. Apart from that experience I met her and we had a connection right away and built up our ...
A. 28 October 2010: Ok dont go out and visit her because you are right it would just be friends with benefits and you will end up both just losing respect for each other am sorry but it is either one way or another hear, either she is willing to make the relationship ... (read in full...)
Please give me some ideas on how to find a girlfriend!
Q. Hello guys this is undead here for the first time in my lifer am planing to get a girlfriend and gf means not just for flirting or to have sex with her for everything and I want to stay with her for whole she got to be my first best and last gf so I ...
A. 28 October 2010: Me personally i think its better to get to know someone on face value than it is over the internet this is just my opinion however. Am sure you will meet the right girl for you ... (read in full...)
Sexy chatters don't know they are neighbours who don't speak
Q. Is very strange but its truth one of my friend from 2months chatting with a girl he'll ask her everything about sex dirty talk everything and she didn't see his face and never know him even she know he's stranger also ready to have sex with him but ...
A. 28 October 2010: Well its up to him this is his business so either stay out of it and let him make up his own mind or else tell him that it is this girl.... (read in full...)
Did he really mean that he doesn't want to be a boyfriend because he can't be a good one?
Q. So me and my ex broke up 1 month ago. We were together for almost 5 months, which was my longest relationship. Anyway, he always said that if we broke up that he wanted us to stay friends. I usually stay friends so that's not a problem for me. Now ...
A. 28 October 2010: Yeah hun it sounds like he needs to sort out his problems before he can commit to you it does sound like he cares for you but yet he is putting drink and drugs above everything at the moment so i think you need to stay clear from him until he solves ... (read in full...)
Should I give him more space?
Q. He said we could still be friends, and i want to. We still love each other but broke up 2 days ago. NOt necessarily because my my insecurity and trust problems.. assumptions, but it made us unhappy. I still want this and I think he does too, he just ...
A. 28 October 2010: Ask yourself what makes you insecure and have trust issues? Could it be something in your past? Have you ever been cheated on? If you know the problem as to why you have these issues then work from that, if you dont maybe you could go to a therapist ... (read in full...)
Should I give him more space?
Q. He said we could still be friends, and i want to. We still love each other but broke up 2 days ago. NOt necessarily because my my insecurity and trust problems.. assumptions, but it made us unhappy. I still want this and I think he does too, he just ...
A. 27 October 2010: Ok you admit that you have insecurity and trust issues therefore you need to deal with these on your own before you get back in to a relationship and you need to deal with them away from him. They are obviously the stem of why you both broke up and ... (read in full...)
Lately, I've been distancing myself from my boyfriend..and don't know why?
Q. Hello im wondering if anyone can give me advice on what i am experiencing at the moment. I am nearly 22 and my bf of 6 months is also the same age. He is my 2nd relationship. I broke up with my 1st bf of 2 years about 5 months before i met my ...
A. 27 October 2010: Ok well your head is in the right place just not your heart. Sit yourself down and make a list of the reasons why you feel in love with your boyfriend in the first place and anytime you are in doubt just read the letter you wrote. Maybe sometimes ... (read in full...)
Why does she need a visa?
Q. So this is the story since I've been living in mexico for a long while now, one of my bff's is like having a "long distance ""engagement"" thing" sorta. She's mexican and he is american. So common right? The thing is that she told me what are the ...
A. 27 October 2010: Im quite confused, she wouldnt need a visa if she has been brought up in the states the why would she need a visa and what for? Unless she is an illegal citizen... (read in full...)
LDR g/f wants a break but says she still loves me
Q. I met my girlfriend four months ago on a mission trip to Ukraine. It was a very emotional experience visiting orphanages with children with special needs. Apart from that experience I met her and we had a connection right away and built up our ...
A. 27 October 2010: Ok it sounds like your ex just wants to be a student without having a boyfriend to care about, but if she says she loves you then i dont completely understand why she needs this freedom at the end of the day if she stays with you the only things she ... (read in full...)
I tried to get her interested in me, never planning on following through, and now I've got a problem!
Q. I've got myself into an awkward position. I am married 12 years with two children, very happy and wouldn't change that for the world. I love my wife dearly. However, there was a similarly aged lady at work who I thought was quite attractive, she ...
A. 27 October 2010: You silly silly man, never play with fire as you will always get burnt. Mind you she has a husband as well so she shouldnt be looking. Just tell her that you are sorry for leading her on but that you love your children and your wife and you never ... (read in full...)
Sexy chatters don't know they are neighbours who don't speak
Q. Is very strange but its truth one of my friend from 2months chatting with a girl he'll ask her everything about sex dirty talk everything and she didn't see his face and never know him even she know he's stranger also ready to have sex with him but ...
A. 27 October 2010: And your question is...........?... (read in full...)
What to do in this lose/lose situation?
Q. iam so worried and i really need help. me and my boy fiend are in a long distance relationship (we talk on phone every night since we have met and text each other all day). he loves me and i die on him. my mom and his whole family know about our ...
A. 27 October 2010: Ok you need to tell him that this is his decision and not yours and if he decideds to take the job reassure him that you will stick by him and sure you can keep in touch by writing to each other.... (read in full...)
Did he really mean that he doesn't want to be a boyfriend because he can't be a good one?
Q. So me and my ex broke up 1 month ago. We were together for almost 5 months, which was my longest relationship. Anyway, he always said that if we broke up that he wanted us to stay friends. I usually stay friends so that's not a problem for me. Now ...
A. 27 October 2010: Well if he thought so much off you then he would have stopped letting you down and been a better boyfriend to you it sounds like he is feeling sorry for himself and saying he cant be a good boyfriend is bull as he has a choice like we al do and he ... (read in full...)
Please give me some ideas on how to find a girlfriend!
Q. Hello guys this is undead here for the first time in my lifer am planing to get a girlfriend and gf means not just for flirting or to have sex with her for everything and I want to stay with her for whole she got to be my first best and last gf so I ...
A. 27 October 2010: Just dont rush things as if you are desperate for a girlfriend this is the time when you will least likely get one, you need to act carefree and of course interested in getting to know the girl but play it cool and dont be to over welming.
Just ... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken at being dumped because we got uninvolved with each other's daily lives... I need to hear some different perspectives!
Q. Ive had a relationship before, and ive been dumped before. This time its worse. Basically, ive been going out with him for a while now, and it might just be me but i get used to things, i get attatched and when they leave i cant cope myself...
A. 27 October 2010: Ok well first of the distance really is not all that big and if the both of you guys loved each other enough then you would both work hard on the relationship and make the most of the one time a week you see each other, there are people out there in ... (read in full...)
Shock horror: ex boyfriend reappears, disappears.
Q. I have a question which, unfortunately, has quite a long backstory--thanks in advance for reading! I have just recently returned to the UK after being in the US for a year (I am an American citizen and moved home to be with my parents). A bit...
A. 27 October 2010: Well its good that he is recovering and has gotten the help that he needs but it still doesnt excuse his behaviour. Never the less maybe he just has a lot on his mind but let him come to you.... (read in full...)
Angry at parents even though they do everything they can for me, want to stop feeling this way, help please
Q. I want to stop feeling angry and my parents and sister, please help advise me how to... My parents are good people. They worked very hard, saved every penny and had a hard life. They've given me a good life as well, roof over my head, an educati...
A. 26 October 2010: You are at the age were you need to stand on your own to feet is it a religious thing that you need to live with your parents until you are married? As it better for someone of your own age to stand on your own to feet but if this is really not an ... (read in full...)
Shock horror: ex boyfriend reappears, disappears.
Q. I have a question which, unfortunately, has quite a long backstory--thanks in advance for reading! I have just recently returned to the UK after being in the US for a year (I am an American citizen and moved home to be with my parents). A bit...
A. 26 October 2010: It sounds like he is just confused and doesnt no what he wants he went to all of the bother to get your email so i find it very strange that he just went back to ignoring you. Dont just wait around for him you deserve better than that i understand ... (read in full...)
Is he faking it??
Q. My boyfriend and i just got together like a couple of months ago and i want to spice things up, not that their not hot now but its all the sam thing. I want to know that he's being pleasured without words. I don't want him to tell me cuz he'll just ...
A. 26 October 2010: Ok girls moan and scream guys dont tend to do this and its fact. It doesnt mean that he is not enjoying it though its just they can control themselves better than females. So dont take it personally most guys are just quiet in bed thats it. We use ... (read in full...)
What a web! What do I do next?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I broke up 3 months ago.(Nasty break-up) He instantly got in a relationship which ended over the weekend because a girl kissed him and he kissed her back. I was in a month-long relationship which ended two weeks ago because the ...
A. 26 October 2010: Erm its a tricky one, it sounds like he doesnt no what he wants and he probably remembered the break up between the both of you and realised he didnt want to go through all of that again, just remember that you both broke up for a reason so it is ... (read in full...)
I see no point in a LDR for 3 years
Q. My boyfriend is going overseas for work for 3 years. Should I initiate a break up? I see no point in a 3 years long distance relationship...
A. 26 October 2010: Well you need to sit down and have a chat with him yes three years is a very long time and it would be very hard on you both but could you not come to an arrangement that you could visit him and he could visit you. If you love him then work hard at ... (read in full...)
I found naughty texts do I confront her?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for a little over 3 months. My friends don't think she is trustworthy. The other day I was going through her phone and I noticed a text from a guy named John. I clicked on it and it said thing like I want you so b...
A. 26 October 2010: No dont keep looking through her phone as this is an invasion of privacy and it is WRONG!!!! You obviously had doubts about her in the first place to check up on her in the first place. Tell her what you found and how much it has hurt you be honest ... (read in full...)
Threesome lead to wife giving something that I had always wanted
Q. Awhile back, my wife and I got drunk and lost our inhibitions and did something we always fantasized about, but should have left as a fantasy. We had a threesome, with a complete stranger. We picked a stranger, because we thought the chances of a...
A. 26 October 2010: Well its sad to say that when you are married and start having threesomes it is going to cause a lot of trouble and in your case it is true again, i dont no why people but there marriage at risk like this but never the less it is done now and there ... (read in full...)
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